Episode 3: How to Break Your Upper Limit and Make Your Next Level Inevitable

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Are you creating the results you want?

In this episode, I share the simple but powerful formula that unlocks your next level of personal and professional success. After getting clear on what you would love and acknowledging everything you've already created, the next step is understanding the identity shift required to bring your next level into reality.

Most people believe the formula is Have → Do → Be. When I have the money, then I'll do the thing, then I'll finally become the woman I want to be.

But that formula keeps women stuck.

In this conversation, you’ll learn how to:

Understand the Real Formula for Creating Your Next Level
You’ll learn why most people try to create success backwards and how shifting one thing changes everything.

Shift Your Identity to Match Your Next Level
You’ll hear what ultimately determines the results you create.

Change Your State to Change Your Results
You’ll discover practical ways to shift your energy, mood, and mindset quickly so you can show up as the woman who creates her next level.

This episode is a reminder that creating your next level is not about waiting until you feel ready or waiting until something outside of you changes.

It starts with who you decide to be.

And when you change who you're being, the actions you take and the results you create begin to change too.

If you’re a founder, leader, entrepreneur, creative, or a woman who makes a difference and you are ready to break through your upper limits and glass ceilings, I’m personally inviting you to a complimentary Next Level 1:1 conversation with me.

With high-touch support, you’ll get clear on what your next level actually is, identify what’s in the way, and create aligned, powerful next steps tailored specifically to you and your next level of personal and professional success. You’ll leave with clarity, courage, and momentum designed around your vision and your capacity.

Schedule our conversation here.

You are here on purpose.
Your assignment is your next level.
And you have full permission and limitless possibility to create an extraordinary life that makes a difference for yourself, for others, and for the world.

Hey gorgeous.

I love you.

I'm so proud of you.

And I believe in your ability to create a next level life you love.

Transcript

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Welcome to her next level with Dana Hunter F. Where founders, leaders, and women who make a difference go to create your next level of personal and professional success. I'm your host, Dana Hunter, f Transformational success coach for exceptional women. And I'm on a mission to remind you of your limitless possibility and to show you how to create your next level so that it feels as good as it looks. Follow the show, my friend. Grab your iced coffee and turn up the volume to create her next level. Let's go. Well, hello, gorgeous and welcome back to her next level with your favorite podcast host, Dana Hunter. I am pumped to get right into episode three, and I wanna tell you in advance that I am sharing the secret formula to create everything that you've ever wanted, including and especially your next level. So we've been warming up the very first episode. You learned about what we're here for, why we're here, why the move. I invited you to start thinking about one specific area in your life that if you could improve it, it would change everything. So hopefully you got your idea. If not, today's a great day to get your area where you wanna create your next level. And last time we asked ourselves again to set an intention for what you would love for that area, and we asked ourselves a few questions. First is. Can we get some acknowledgement for all the successes that we've experienced up until this point? And we went decade by decade, by decade, acknowledging yourself for all the obstacles you've overcome, for all the beautiful things you've created, and for the woman that you have become as a result of the trajectory of your own life. So Za celebrating you. And also we got curious about anything from the past that we're maybe holding onto that could be a block in the manifestation, in the creation, in the design studio of whatever your next level is. So I talked a little bit about an event that had caused me a lot of shame, and then I had carried around for a long time. And then again, not to judge ourselves and we're not going to therapy. We're just getting curious about. Challenges, failures, obstacles that you have experienced that you might be holding onto unnecessarily as a part of your current identity. And we're gonna talk a lot about identity today, so buckle up. The other thing I invited you to do last episode was to answer some hard questions. You said you were willing because we know we can do hard things, but in that area of your life that you decided, okay, I am ready to create my next level. Maybe it's health and wellness, mind, body, spirit. Maybe it's your love and relationships, your partner, your spouse, your lover, your kids, your mother-in-law, whatever it is that would enhance and improve your love in relationships. That could be your area of focus. The third area we focused on was career and creative expression. So the work that you're doing in the world, are you lit up with purpose? Are you making a difference? Are you in alignment with your human design? Are you doing what you're called to do? All of that, and the last area is my personal favorite. It's freedom, it's financial freedom. Do you have plenty of money to do whatever you want with including make a big difference in the world? It's time freedom. Do you get to design your calendar like I designed mine today? Or is your calendar or your boss bossing you around? That's not freedom. And we want more of that. We want more of freedom. And the third thing is personal freedom. Identity freedom. Where wherever you go, you know exactly who and whose you are, and you show up like her in every situation. One of those four areas. I invited you to choose one. I am currently a student of the great Lynn McTaggart. She's written so many books. Just really appreciate her for her work. She is a very astute journalist, and so she started the work with a very scientific research-based, evidence-based mind, and she says, we converted her. Y'all. She, I think her newest, her newest rebrand is Expect Miracles, and so she loves to tie in the dance between science and metaphysics. And she likes to have research and evidence to support what we already know and probably could do without, but that it is possible to create and manifest the things that you would love for your life and that we're all connected in this one gorgeous field. She calls it the spiritual, the psychic internet. And that as a result of setting a clear and specific intention. And here's where I'm looping in Lynn Mc, Lynn McTaggart, I'm taking her intention masterclass. Right now. And she suggests that yes, you can use this to change your whole life. And also let's get really specific about the one area or one thing or one outcome that you'd like to create first. So first things first, which is why I don't encourage my clients to say, oh, I just wanna be happy and healthy and wealthy. Like, of course you want that. And of course you deserve that. And of course you will have that if you do this work. Let's get specific, pick one area of your life that we mentioned, and let's get really deep about what we would love to create there. You asked questions like, what don't I love in that area? You said, where is my struggle? Where am I suffering? Where is it challenging? Where is it hard? And you were willing and brave enough to get clear on what's not working in that area, because oftentimes we can get really clear on what we would love by looking at what we don't love. And that part isn't always the most fun, but it can be the most powerful because you can put yourself in the decision to say, I'm done with that suffering at my own hands in the name of success. We can be done with that. The other thing we asked is how long have you been working with the status quo? That is not working. How long has it been that you've been doing work that you don't love, that you've been earning less than you deserve, that you've been in relationships that do not serve you, that you've been in a body that does not feel good? How long has it been, and the even more powerful question, what is that costing you? What is that costing you? And I think I told this story, maybe I told this story last time, uh, but I'll tell it again because I think it merits repeating. I was in. Full meltdown. A summer of 23, full meltdown mode, curled up on the floor, snot everywhere. Carpet burn, burn on my face'cause I'm shaking so hard in the in the deep sob because I'd just gotten a text message that had my kids in it at their horseback riding lessons. And I wasn't there again because I was caught up in work. I was over-functioning, trying to chase the American dream. I'm putting this in quotation marks'cause it's such baloney. If I make a bunch of money and if I'm successful at work, then I'll finally be fill in the blank, right? You know what? It is successful enough, worthy deserving, and I've forgotten that I'm already all of those things, and I don't need, it's 12 to 16 hour workday and multiple six figures to remind me that I am inherently worthy. And I saw in that text message in a one text message. All the things that it was costing me, and as I'm sobbing it out on the floor, I realized it was costing me everything. It was costing my me my health. I was so anxious. I wasn't feeding myself well. I was exercising, but only to get rid of all of the anxiety. Does anybody relate to that? Your exercise just so you can be less anxious? That's how I was living, and so my body looked great, but inside she did not feel good because I was so stressed out and so anxious all the time. That one situation was also affecting my love and relationships. Can you imagine a marriage doing well when one partner is working all the time and pursuing goals that you don't share and sacrificing time together for time at work? No. You're with me, right? Our marriage wasn't doing well. It was collapsing. And then also I wasn't doing work that lit me all the way up. I was doing work. I was good at, I liked it. I was making plenty of money, but I never went to work and thought, yes, I'm making a difference today. Yes, I'm on purpose. I'm on assignment. I can't wait to go to work. And please forgive me if we work together. I, I loved you. I loved you, and I loved the people there, but the work itself, I did not love. So that company treated me very well and I'm very grateful for that opportunity. But I didn't wanna go because I wasn't supposed to be doing that type of work. I know we've already talked about gay Hendricks in the upper limit, but since that's what I do all day, that was my zone of excellence. It was not my zone of genius. I'm gonna say it again for the girls in the back. I was in a situation that was circling my zone of excellence. I knew if I put my mind to it and I put in the reps and I had the right attitude, I could create excellence at what I was doing. And your zone of genius isn't necessarily your zone of excellence. Your zone of genius is where you break all the way open and fly. You're in alignment, you're on purpose. And I know the difference because I have splenic authority and I'm. Recently, very much back in my body. I can feel it. I can feel it When I'm in a situation or a conversation or a coaching call where I'm on assignment, this is where I am supposed to be. My body just loves it. And my body never felt that way before. It was very much like drag, drag, drag, force pull, make very aggressive just to get myself, to get myself on the game. And also it was costing me my financial freedom because although I had plenty of money, I had no time or intention or dreams behind it. It. Really just underneath this narration of, okay, well we have, we have enough. We'll have enough, we'll have enough, we'll have enough. Not believing that I could be way beyond wealthy, have more than enough and really just thinking, I'm gonna trade my time for money so that we'll have enough. And I realize now in the business of transformation how scarcity mindset base that was, how deeply steeped and scarcity mindset that was. So I'm gonna love on that part of myself. Good job you for trying your best. And also time freedom. As you heard, I didn't have any, I was being bossed around by my own life instead of intentionally designing it for my dreams. And so that one moment on the floor made me realize that my current situation that I thought was a career issue was really an everything issue. It was an everything issue. And generally that's, that's the case. So when I'm in a one-on-one conversation with a woman and we're talking about what it might look like to work together, I ask her the same question I'm asking you, what would you love? We get excited about that, and then I say, well, what's going on right now? And then what is it costing you? How long have you been dancing in that way? That's below your dreams. That's not yet your dreams. It's pausing your dreams. It's making you wait to feel ready for your dreams, and we realize that it's costing us everything. So I listen and I listen, and I listen and I listen, and I kind of lean forward on the screen and I say, so it's costing you everything. And it's a mic drop moment because when we're not living in the middle of our purpose, it is costing us everything. And it might not feel like it. Most of my clients come to me and they've got plenty of money and they have good careers and their relationship's. Okay? And you know, we're in kind of a good to great or great to phenomenal situation, but we realized because we've traded deep belief in ourselves and expansive belief in our dreams for what we think is possible or reasonable or logical. Can you hear my voice? It's like we aren't creating our. Zone of genius and we are still caged in our own upper limits, wondering if this is as good as it gets, and then, and then telling us ourselves the story that it sounds a little bit like this. Please gimme an amen if you know this well. I should just be grateful. Tons of people have it worse than me. I should just be grateful. I got a promotion last year. I should just be grateful. The company, this was when my box just cracked right open. This must be a corporate thing. I did not work very long in corporate America. I worked very much deeply in the K 12 sector and bless both of those sectors. But I was in a company that often they would say, well, you know, just be grateful you have a job. A lot of other people are being laid off, and some people were laid off while I was there. Maybe good lucky for them. I don't know. I think remember in last episode I said everything is happening for you, so please. I know many of us have been laid off recently, and if that's you, no, I'm not laughing at you. I'm laughing on behalf of your dreams because that happened on behalf of your dreams. So, lemme see if I can go back and follow this thought. Oh yeah. So it was in this culture of fear and this culture of, well you should just be grateful to have a job and guess who the majority of the audience was who got to hear that women should just be grateful that you have a job. So we're internalizing this narrative that, oh well we should just be grateful. How dare we ask for more? How dare we dream bigger? How dare we go for it? I was in this conversation with someone. Last week actually, when we were talking about a potential contract that I might take, and I said, Hey, I, you know, I'm gonna need more money, gonna need more money for that. And this person said, Hey, you're at our cap. And I said, break the cap. Ask, ask. And in my heart I said, well, the worst thing they can say is no. And I'm o, I'm okay with a no. My self-worth isn't dependent on a yes or a no, but I will feel disappointed in myself if I do not ask. So I want you to hear me say that again. When I negotiate, which I do now, because that's a thing that next level women do. I ask for more every single time because I took the narrative of I should be grateful and I just set it down for someone else to pick up. Hopefully not a woman. And I refuse to be limited to this idea that, oh, I have plenty. I should just be grateful and not go for more. Do you think that's what Oprah thinks? Do you think Oprah? Oprah's like, well, you know, I don't need to make any more difference in the world. What about Michelle Obama? You think she's just like, oh, I'm good. Even Melania, if that's a, that's who you love. Do you think she's like, I should just be grateful. Absolutely not. So we're gonna be done with that. I haven't even started the script for today. What are we talking about? Oh, this is the other thing, is that. And bless, bless you in corporate America, I love you so much. We, it was, it was time for promotions and raises and I didn't really understand how this worked. I'm sort of just like there for the fun of it and to do good work and to love on people and, but generally the history of the company was, let's say X percent raise and I've got people on my team who are expecting X percent raise because that's the way it's typically done. There's a range. And then in this cycle, some people didn't get anything. They got nothing except for the message that, you know what I'm about to say, right? If you've been there, you should just be grateful. Or if somebody got like a half percent bump, they said, you should be grateful. Some people didn't get anything, and that's what they told me to tell my team. I was like, I'm not telling them that. That's ridiculous. The whole situation is ridiculous that a Fortune 500 hundred company can't invest in their employees enough to give them a raise. Absolutely not. I'm a hard, no, you're never gonna make me buy that or believe that. Lemme take a look at your books and then we can talk, talk about it. Okay. And then the other thing I realized was. Listen, as an entrepreneur, I don't need to wait on someone as a coach, as a business owner, I don't need to wait on anybody anymore to gimme my one or 2% raise. I'm just gonna go create an extra$10,000. Goodbye. Thank you. Not everybody is as as risk friendly as I am, but I've found, and maybe this is you, that as I get deeper into midlife and the more days I have under my belt, the less fucks I have to give and the less I'm willing to let you tell me what I can have or create. Or generate or invest. You don't get to tell me that. We get to tell ourselves that, and that is what this podcast is about, just in case you're confused. Okay? So I feel like I wanted to say one more thing about that, but maybe we're gonna let that lie. We asked ourselves the question, what don't we love? In that instance, I did not love my corporate job. I did not love being told that I should just be grateful to have a job or that my whatever percent raise it should is better than nothing. And also that I should tell my teammates the same thing. I'm a no on that. And so you heard, what I didn't love, the question that I asked you is how long have you been in that situation or something similar. For me, it was lucky'cause I'd only been there a couple years and then I was like, I've, I've had enough of that. And then the other thing is, what is it costing you? And as I hope you heard me say clearly, it's probably costing you everything. Everything that matters, even if you live in a nice home. Even if you have, you know, kids who will still wear matching clothes, even if you drive a nice car, even if you are in a six figure or a beyond business or career, if you are not on purpose, if you are not creating your next level of personal and professional success and excellence, it is costing you in ways that if you and I get on a conversation, we're gonna cl we're gonna uncover and inside your heart, you likely know exactly what I'm talking about. As we move on, I'm gonna take, ask you to take just a little test for me. Promise you're gonna pass. Everybody gets an A, but so you are clear about where you are right now. We're gonna go through each of the four areas and you're gonna give yourself a rating. So one to five, keep it simple. Sally. Five is, I am kicking ass and taking names in this area. I love it. I feel amazing. I can teach a class on it. You could write a book on me. Come invite me to your podcast to talk to you about this. That is a five. One is, I am struggling so hard with this. I can barely even decide what to do first. Got me one to five, three's in the middle. Some things are going going well, some things are not. We could definitely improve. So. Quick on the draw, health and wellness, where are you? This is mind, body, spirit. This is how your body feels, how you feel to wake up in the morning, how you feel to go through your day, how you feel to go to bed at night. The kinds of diseases or diseases or illnesses or whatever that you're negotiating the way that you feel when you're in the gym. Are you in the gym? The way that you feel when you're exercising, the connection that you have between your mind and your body and your spirit. Are you feeding it with goodness? Are you Dr. Watching trash tv? Are you spending time in prayer and meditation, or are you more concerned about what other humans think? One to five, health and wellness. Give yourself a a little rating. Two, love and relationships. If you are in a partnership, five looks like. We are amazing. We are having great sex. We are communicating well. We are open to each other. We are sharing dreams, moving in the right direction. All is well, not just on Facebook. You heard me? I mean, actually I get nervous when people start posting a lot of pictures with their partner on Facebook because sometimes that means they're about to break up. It's so weird. Wa watch. Once you see it, you get look away. Um, and then one is you are fighting all the time, or you're sleeping in different beds, or you're not on the same page. You don't share the same values, you don't support each other. You don't share the same dreams. That's a one. So give yourself a little rating for love and relationships. If you're a parent and you've been estranged from one of your kids, I would say that's a one that's serious. If you're a grandparent and you don't have relationships with your grandkids, I would say that's a little bit on the lower. Again, no judgment because our next level is including positive, healthy relationships and the ones that count, and you know which ones in your life I'm talking about. The third one is career and creative expression. Five. Looks like I have got it going on at work. I've got a business or a career or a calling that lines up exactly with what I am here to do. My gifts, my talents, my purpose, my dreams, my excitement. Yes. You think about gonna work and you're like, do I get to work today? That's how I felt today. I woke up, I had a seven 40 FA 5:00 AM client. I love the mornings and I love clients. I had a coaching conversation with a potential client. I'm about to be featured on it, someone else's podcast. I'm recording my podcast and I'm creating the deck for my keynote. This. Oh, ideal. It's ideal. It sounds like a lot, but I'm also taking most of the rest of the week, rest of the week off. You see where I'm going, right? Your career aligns with your purpose, your assignment. That's a five and it feels good. If not, that's a, you know, a lower number. If you were like me and you were making up money, but you did not have any time to enjoy it, or you were doing work that wasn't aligned with your gifts and skills and talents and dreams, that's lower on the scale of two or one. If you hate your job, that's a one. You don't need to hate your job. There's so much opportunity there, and if you don't believe me, you need to get in a one-on-one conversation with me so we can work it out. Cleared that up. It is available for you. Okay. The other thing about that one is creative expression. So in your career, do you have autonomy to be as creative as you'd like to be? Recently shout out. I recently met the owner of Fringe and Company in New Orleans, and we went to an event hosted by the New Orleans Girls Club. Shout out, love y'all. Love being a part of you. And it was to celebrate Women's Month. And this woman who calls herself, the Chief sequin Officer, walked into that place looking like a million bucks in the most amazing outfit I have ever seen. And turns out she designed and manufactured it herself. As CEO, chief Sequin Officer, officer of French and Company, that level of creativity is what I'm talking about. That woman gets to go and live her creative dreams in a business that makes her hopefully a lot of money. We didn't get into her numbers. You could just feel it from somebody who's in the middle of their own purpose, and she had that all over her. That's what I mean. That looks like a five. Okay. Last is freedom. So financial time, personal freedom. If you've got plenty of time to do what you love. Plenty of money to give, what you'd love to give, to make the kind of difference, to go where you wanna go. It's, we're not making ends meet, we're not doing paycheck to paycheck, we're living in the middle of it. And you know exactly who you are, no matter what the room, that's a five. Anything less gets less on the scale. If you don't have enough money, that's a one. If you don't have enough time, that's a one. If you have no idea who you are or you chameleon eyes or people please yourself, depending on the room, that's lower on the scale. Okay? And again, it's not high or low. Most of us are probably like 2, 3, 4, 2, 3, 4, 2, 3 maybe. Some of us are a five. Lemme know if you're a five. I'm finally at a five in two areas, okay? So notice the numbers that you assigned yourself and quite simply. The area with the lowest number is where you wanna start. Four. The area that maybe is like a three, but if you moved it to a five, it would shift all the other ones up. That could be where you start. You get to decide where you start, but it's good to have a super clear picture about where you're starting right now on this leg of the journey in her next level, so that as you progress, you can say, gosh, I was a two, now I'm a three, or I was a three and now I'm a five and I was a one, and now I'm a four. You get to see and celebrate your own progress. And if you took my suggestion, which I hope you will, and get yourself a Her Next Level partner, where the two of you, instead of watching Trash tv, binge this podcast together and do the work that is inside of the podcast so that together you and your woman can create a gorgeous life for yourself. Share your numbers with her. Get her on the horn. Connect with her. If you haven't paused the podcast right now, message the woman that you admire the most and say, Hey, would you be my her Next Level podcast partner? And then you can tell her what that means later. And then you compare your scores for each of those categories. You might even set an intention. In the next six months, I'm gonna move myself from a two to a four or a three to a five, because this area will change everything. Okay, beautiful. In today's conversation, that was all a recap. In today's conversation, I wanna share with you a few key ideas that will serve you and support you in creating your next level, next level. And I like to say absolutely yes, instead of absolutely not, which is what I say to my kids often. We say, absolutely yes, your dreams. Absolutely. Yes. Unrealistic. Absolutely. Yes. Going for it. Absolutely. Yes. Go ahead and say it with me. Absolutely. Yes, because that's how on fire you're gonna be for your dreams. One of the keynote speakers at the Junior League's Leadership Conference this past Friday said, A fire in your belly. And I said, yes, that is it. We gotta have a fire in our belly for our own dreams. So not, you know, indigestion or heartburn like we got after Indian food this weekend. But I mean that fire in your belly where you're saying, I'm going for it and I promise I'll walk you step by step through the process of what it means to create your next level and go for it and whatever area that is important to you. Okay? So I wanna teach you the formula for success. We're gonna keep it simple. The formula for success. And I also wanna tell you that you already know it and you've been using it your entire life. The formula for success, the formula for creating everything that you've ever created, everything that you have already, and everything that you would love to create as a part of your next level. Are you ready? I would take a deep breath. I would shake it out. Shake your arm, shake your boobs. Shake your hip, shake your hair. Shake your booty. Because we are gonna get into something really important, and it's the formula that most people get backwards. I'm about to teach a conference of like three or 400 junior women, like 11th grade women, this formula, and I'm so excited to put it in their hands because I wish someone had given this to me when I was 16. My whole life, although I'm very happy with it right now, would've saved me a lot of time knowing this formula. So if you don't have a pin, you need one, go ahead and get one down. And you may have already heard this, and if so, this is gonna be a reteach. And every time you hear something, it goes deeper and it goes deeper and it goes deeper until you embody it, become it, and can use it onward demand and on repeat. So when you think about what you would love in that area, and also think about what you've got now, just know that when you put your hand on your heart, you are the great creator. You might even call yourself the co-creator. Because we're working with a force, a spirituality, an entity, a God, a goddess, a force, a source that's bigger than us and always moving towards us and for us. So I'm, I hate to tell you, but you're not God, but you're close. You've been given the image and likeness of the Great Spirit who is right next to you right now, and so you get to be the co-creator of your own experience. Nobody is creating on your behalf. Everything that you have ever created is a result of this formula. And yes, there's social influence and yes, there's cultural influence, and yes, there are systemic barriers. And I promise you that when you get really good at using this formula, you will overcome any obstacle challenge no matter what. So the, the way we get it wrong is this. Most people look at what they've got and they say, okay, these are, this is what I've got. And so because I have what I've got or because things are what they are, I'm gonna do a certain thing, right? So it's like, oh man, um, I got fired from my job, so I'm gonna be really, I'm gonna talk smack about the company. I'm gonna get online and bash them. I'm gonna tell all my friends, and then, um, as a result of that, I'm gonna be, you start to be really gnarly. You start to be really sad, you start to be really angry. Or on the other side you say like, okay, let's talk about money. So I have this amount of money and I wanna, I wanna give generously to my church or my friends or social organizations or planned parent or whatever, whatever cause you support. But I'm gonna wait until I have more to give more and I wanna be generous. Which is gonna happen when I have more, so I can give more and then I'll be generous. You follow me, right? It's backwards. It's when I have it. Then I'll do it. Then I'll finally be it. Sometimes for women it sounds like, well, when I have the approval of my X, Y, Z, husband, wife, boss, friends, externals, then I'll do it. Sometimes it sounds like when I feel ready, which means when I have the approval, then I'll do it, and then I'll finally be successful. I'll finally be a business owner. I'll finally be a multi six figure entrepreneur attorney. Whatever it is have, do be. So if you wrote down have, do be, you can scratch that out because that is backwards and it is often the way that people think and function and work in the world, which is why it is not working. There is a spiritual principle that says as within, so without, you heard me say that right? As within so without. So what we're gonna do to make it really easy is we're just gonna flip that baby around and what I do want you to write down as the formula to create everything you've ever wanted for your next level is be then do, then have, be, do, have baby. And it all starts with you focusing, which is why I say set an intention. Get clear on what you would love to create as your next level. Are you trying to amplify the revenue in your business? Are you trying to have better sex with your partner? Are you trying to align your mind and your body and your spirit so you feel like, so you, you feel incredible in your own body and you feel connected to your source? Are you setting yourself up for a career that is doing actually what you would love? If so, that needs to be our focus on what we would love, and we want it to be specific. Now after we've got our focus down, which we've already done. Then we're focusing on the, I call the, and it's our being, our identity, our thoughts, and our feelings, and that is who we be. What is your current identity? Because that is who you are being. What are the thoughts that are dancing around most prominently in your head? Are you thinking This is gonna be a great day, gonna have a good day? Is that you or is it like, oh my God, it's Monday. Oh, that's where they got the Sunday scaries from. Is this idea, this thoughts in our minds that are, this is gonna be good or it's not, this is gonna be good or it's not. It's mostly judging up or judging down. Pretty simple. Expansive, constrictive, expansive, constrictive. And if I were to jump in the middle of your own head, I'm gonna bet and research suggests this, that many, if not most of your thoughts are negative. What? And because we have so many thoughts a day, thoughts actually aren't the fastest route to shifting things. What happens after a thought? A feeling? What happens after a feeling of thought? A thought and a feeling, and a thought and a feeling, and a thought and a feeling, and a thought and a feeling. And that is who you're being. It's your frequency. Who are you being? If you would love to create more money in your life, who are you being? What are you saying to yourself? What are the thoughts that you're thinking when you pay your bills? Are you grateful or are you thinking, oh my God, there's not gonna be enough? My paycheck went so fast. Those are the thoughts that created your current results. So if you're living paycheck to paycheck, which I hope you're not, but if you are, I want you to draw it all the way back to what are you thinking about money? What are you believing? What are you feeling about money? Because ultimately, money is a gift from God. It's a gift from the spirit. And so anytime we're thinking about money, we're touching money. We're spending money. We're giving money. We wanna feel deeply grateful. Expectant that there's more than where there's more that came from. That's the kind of being required if you are open to creating and receiving more money. So being is your identity. It's your frequency, it's the way that you're showing up and people can feel your being when you walk in the room. Sometimes they can feel it before you even get there. That's how you know in the store, you walk by somebody and you know they're in a bad mood and you're like, I will go to the other checkout aisle. Thank you. Or if you're like me, I just send them good energy and bless them and love and watch what happens. But it's because we can feel each other. We're feeling beings. We each have a frequency and the frequency shifts. Nobody's trying to be perfect in your frequency, but ultimately you pretty much have a set point in your frequency. And it's based on what you've been thinking and how you've been feeling, and what you've been thinking and what you've been feeling, what you are believing, which is a concrete mix of what you've thoughts and what you feel. So I wanna offer you a suggestion here to change the game, to create your next level in this very first step in the formula, and that is to change the channel. You are a state generator. You can generate your own state. And just like you're laying on the couch and you're like, Hmm, I'm tired of this show. I'm gonna change the, I'm gonna change to a different show. Um, let's see what we've done in our house recently. So we used to watch, we were binging this terrible show called Once Upon A Time. My kids love it and I love my kids, and we just love to talk about the show. And recently we've gotten into a series of unfortunate events together, which is also very interesting to discuss with them. So sometimes we'll change depending on how brainless we wanna be from once upon a time to series of unfortunate events. Now we don't wait on the couch and think, man, I wish that channel would change. I mean, my 8-year-old does. Somebody changed the channel. We pick up the remote and we change it, and it's pretty quick. It takes about 10 seconds. And so to change the channel of your being, we wanna make it quick. We want it to take about 10 seconds, just like you were picking up the channel changer or the remote on your tv. And some things you can do are get curious about what you're thinking and then decide to think something else. If you wanna approach it through the mind and listen, I like the mind. I have recently been more aware and awake to my own thoughts, so that's one way in the most powerful way in though, is to go in through how you feel. And there are mood changers, state generators, and mood shifters all over the place. And you wanna pick the ones that make you feel the best. And so, and then the fastest, even my very favorite state generators, where I will, and I'll give you, I'll give you a real example, is I often wake up at like 3:30 AM so anxious. Anybody else? I'm in perimenopause, so maybe that's the 3:30 AM but I wake up and I'm like, oh my God, this day, this talk and this client, so to change my state, what I'll do in bed is I'll pray, I'll put on a meditation. I will take some deep breaths and ultimately I will do a state generator where I'll go to my heart and just say, God, I'm so grateful for this and I'm so grateful for this, and I'm so grateful for this, and so grateful for this. And I'll put myself back to sleep, feeling really good about all the things to be grateful for. Now, if I wake up more around like 4 45 or 5:00 AM with the same feelings, I get up, I get in my car because this is a habit. I get up, I pray. I brush my teeth, I put on my clothes, I get in the car, I talk to God all 12 minutes when I head to the gym. And then I go to the gym for a really hard workout. And that is a state generator. It's a habit I've created. It's a conversation I'm having ongoing with God, the great creator. And then I also go and move my body. Now the gym isn't for everybody. Everybody can do a walk or hula, hooping or zoom. My friend does Zumba. I think that's really sexy. Yoga, Pilates, acrobats, burlesque, like whatever it is, soccer, basketball, tennis, pickleball. Move your body and that will change your state. And when you be at a different frequency, you act with different energy. So that's step number two. And we might do a whole episode on each of these things because listen, I could talk to you for hours and hours and hours and hours and hours about your set point for how you're being. And then suggestions and strategies and tools and talents for you to turn up the dial on how you're feeling. And the goal isn't to feel, I gotta feel amazing every single day. I mean, that would be great, right? Especially if you're doing it without medicine. But the goal is for you to feel a little bit better today than you did yesterday. And the goal isn't to go from deep anger or resentment to, I'm on top of the world. Hey, I mean, we wanna get there, but in order to move in that direction, we wanna do it. One click of the dial up and I'll maybe do an episode that includes Dr. David Hawkin's, scale of emotional frequency. But essentially you don't wanna jump from the bottom to the top. You want to ease your way up. So if you're feeling okay, maybe you could go move your body and you're gonna be feeling grateful, or you're gonna be feeling a little happier or a little more calm or a little more, this is a little by little next level creation. You can collapse time and create something really big that's absolutely possible. And it all starts with you feeling just a little bit better than you were feeling before. How do you do that? There are a million different ways. So when I meet with you one-on-one, we create each of my clients a tailored plan for mood boosters, for state generators, because your frequency is your everything. The way you are being is your identity, the way you feel, the way you think. All of that influences so powerfully. Step number two, which is the actions that you take, and it's why. Two people with exactly the same privileges, exactly the same education, exactly the same experience, can come to a project or even sit in an interview and one of them blows it out of the water and the other one just gets by. This happens a lot in sales. It happens a lot everywhere, and it's because not the skills or the credentials or the experience, it's because who is that person being? I just met with an incredible client this morning who she opted to go solo for her real estate career and her, she's been incredibly successful. I'm coaching her as she creates her own real estate team, where she's bringing on the right people and deciding the splits and creating the team culture and planning out the vision. Like that work is so exciting. It's so exciting to do with somebody essentially though. If anyone were to ever ask her for her secret success, secret to success, it's not because she works harder than everybody else. She does. She does work really hard. It's not because she knows all the right people, because when she started she didn't, and it's not because she has all the certifications. She's been doing it forever and she has all the privileges. It's not that the difference between her and the next agent who has exactly what she has on the outside is what she's got going on on the inside. It's the way she speaks to herself. It's the thing she believes about what's possible for her. It's about the way she feels, and if she doesn't feel good, she takes that really seriously. She doesn't shove it down or overmedicate it or try to get rid of the feelings, she addresses the feelings and takes care of them so that they move so that she can soar. The reason for that woman's success starts with who she is being, and it's gonna be the reason why her team is successful too, and why she will continue to be successful as a leader is because of who she is being. The fastest way to change who you're being is just change your state. I like to call, I call'em Beyonce moments because I'll be having a moment that doesn't feel high frequency. I will pause what I'm doing and I will go downstairs and I'll ask Alexa to play Beyonce and I'll shake my body. And after that song, there's no way I can't feel better. And for the sake of time, I'm just gonna offer you that suggestion. The exercise suggestion, the prayer and meditation. Look at what you're having for breakfast, all of your state generators, because who you're being affects what you're doing. And that is step number two. What are you doing from the place of who you're being and the woman who's on the other side of your next level has a next level identity. She feels better. She thinks better, and she takes actions from that. So I can tell anybody in order to coaching someone to create more clients on her caseload right now, and I can give her the same set of directions in order to create clients based on your human design. Because I coach people based on their human design. If you have a coach or you are a hook coach and you're not using human design, if began using that because it is a game changer. If you want to know about your human design, I would love to give you a conversation that mixes how your human design can Im impact your revenue, your business, your career. Those are part of my one-on-one, uh, complimentary conversation. So get you on there. Link is in the show notes, but we talk about what she needs to do after we talk about who she needs to be. And all of this is based on her human design. So I wanna throw that in there. That's not part of the formula, but it definitely is important. Because whatever actions you take, the results are gonna be dependent upon the energy that you had when you took them. So if you're feeling amazing and you're feeling hopeful, and you're feeling deep belief, and you're feeling certainty, and you're feeling confident, and you're feeling grateful and hopeful, and then you take the action. You that action is gonna have way more success than if you just took the action for the action's sake. So what are the actions that you need to take to create what you want to create? And who do you need to be before, during, and after you take those actions so that you can have, which is the third part, be, do, and then have what you would love? What would you love? Is it a career change? Is it a new partner? You wanna 10 x your revenue? Is it you wanna have your own time freedom? Is it that you wanna invest more? Is it that you wanna have more quality time with your kids? What would you love? And then you back that up. To Who do you need to be? Who do you get to be? Who is the woman who already has that? You get to be her now. You feel the things she feels, you think the things she thinks, and if you don't know, then get in a conversation with me and we'll work it out together. We'll literally plan out the things that your next level you thinks, the things she feels. The action she takes to create and have the things she would love. So in order to have a different result, we start way back and we ask, how can I upgrade? And next level the way I'm feeling and thinking, how can I upgrade and next level the things I'm believing about myself and what's possible and other people, and then what are the actions that I can take from that energy? I will create collapsed time, gorgeous results that are aligned with who I am and what I would love. That's the order. So if you have things in your life that you don't love, I want you to back up, look at what you have. Back it up to the beginning. What are you thinking about it? What are you feeling about it? Money's the easiest. If you don't have a lot of money, I can guarantee that there's some stuff that we need to clean up in your mindset. There's some stuff that we can clear up in your nervous system and the way that you're feeling about money and the relationship that you're having, and then you take the actions that my finance coach is like, yeah, you need to do this. Invest here. 5 29 knot. Set that aside for savings. All those actions are beautiful, but they mean nothing. If you are sabotaging yourself on the front end, there'll never be enough. I'll never be able to take him to France and then feeling so shameful and guilty and remorseful. That is the reason why we have what we have is the way that we feel and the things that we do. And then we have what we have so we can turn all that around. And guess when it starts. Not in 10 years of therapy, it starts right now. In this moment, you making a decision. To get clear on what you would love. A decision that you are going to do whatever it takes to create your next level. And I promise, whatever it takes isn't hard. The only hard thing about it is some of the things that you're gonna have to stop believing and trade up for things that you're going to believe. Like money can come easily and frequently, and of course you can ask for a$20,000 raise and get it. And of course you can create a career that lights you all the way up. And of course, you can create a time and a schedule that will make your kids a priority. Of course you can. You've gotta go first. You making a decision that you are available for your next level. You getting curious about what you're thinking about, what you would love, and how you're feeling about what you would love. And we're gonna start there. So we're gonna keep it simple without going deeper into what to do or even deeper about what to have. I promise we will go there. Your life work. For this episode that you're gonna get with your next level girlfriend and do together is ask the question, who am I being that is getting me the current results? Don't you dare judge yourself? There is no shame. There is no judgment. There is no guilt. We can move way beyond that and say, okay, cool. Interesting. That's interesting. The second question is, now that I'm clear on what I would love. Who do I get to be on the front end? And I'll give you a hint. We're gonna keep it simple. You get to be grateful. You get to be worthy, you get to be excited. You get to be expansive, you get to be peaceful, you get to be grounded, you get to be connected. Those are the feelings that we're going for. That's who you get to be. And then the other thing that you get to decide is, how am I feeling and what am I thinking? How am I feeling and what am I thinking and can I turn up the dial in those things? And you can turn'em up a little bit or you can turn them up. A lot of it. I took a group of women through the A 30 day experience called the Woman of Gratitude Challenge, and we pushed the pedal. To the metal on the amount of gratitude that we were practicing and story after story, after story after story is my health condition cleared up. I can't believe money just came out of the blue. My connection was restored, my relationship was restored. My body feels a lot better because gratitude is the powerhouse frequency right next to authenticity. Authenticity means you get to show up in the world exactly how and who you are. You don't have to sugar coat or paint or chameleon eyes or pretzel yourself. You show up as exactly who you are. That's the highest level of frequency. And so your life work is, can you turn up the dial on what you're thinking? Can you shift some of those limiting beliefs? Into one that's more empowering. Can you shift your feelings of, oh man to, it's gonna be a good day. I mean, put on some music, get yourself in movement. Take some breaths, do some meditation, whatever your practice is, and if you have a favorite practice, I wanna hear about it. We're gonna start there because I wanna remind you that you are a spiritual being, having a human experience, and your spirit gets to be in charge of your physical. I wanted to show you exactly what I mean. Close your eyes unless you're driving. Take a breath. Notice your toes, the left one and the right one. Notice your knees. The right one, then the left one. Notice your butt cheeks. Your right one. Then your left one. Notice your belly button. Your left shoulder, the tip of your nose, your right ear. Who is noticing that your body's not noticing it? It's your spirit, your soul, noticing that you are a spiritual being, having a human experience. And so we're going to use our superpower of being a spiritual being to notice what we're noticing in our thoughts. To notice what we're noticing in our feelings and to change the channel. Upgrade your thoughts, upgrade your feelings. Do the things to be the woman who's ready for her next level. I am so proud of you if you are feeling called to the work, and if your time is right now. If you've got a dream on your heart and it's specific to career creative expression, business, financial, time freedom, and you want time with me to get really clear on where you are, on what you would love and the type of frequency that you need to create and order to welcome all of it in in a way that feels like you just collapsed time and witnessed a miracle. There is a link for a complimentary conversation with you and me in the show notes. If now feels like it is the time for you to create your next level and you're ready to welcome all of that in and upgrade the way that you're being and feeling and believing and thinking so that you can have the things literally fall at your feet. You need to get inside a one-on-one conversation with me, and I'll tell you a phone call that I got this week. I feel like I might cry on the podcast, which is absolutely okay, but a woman who worked with me in a container last year and she's been. Listening along to the podcast, we did some one-on work to one-on-one work together. She was in that woman of gratitude experience and we've kept in touch along the way and she said, oh, I'm gonna go for this job. We coached her through it. She didn't get the job, and I kept telling her, the thing that I'm telling you is that it's all happening for you. And she got crystal clear on what she would love. She wants to prioritize time with her four kids. She is a baller attorney and she is respected in her field and people are asking for her support and counsel and advice in all sorts of different ways. She is a change maker and those are the kind of women I work with, change makers. But she thought that in order to have the kind of life that she was craving to be a present mom and to be feel successful in her field and to have it all, which is absolutely possible as long as you know what your all is, that she would have to sacrifice something in order to have what she would love. She called me this week and said, you are not, it's my favorite intro, Dana. You're not gonna believe what happened. And I love those cults. I love them and I get'em all the time, Dana, you're not gonna believe what happened. And I get so emotional because not only do I believe I expect it, I expect that you are going to do the work and that the work will work. It works. The work of creating what you would love works. So stick in this work with me, whether it's along the podcast or hop in a one one-on-one conversation. Jump in and do the work.'cause the work works. She said, Dina, you're not gonna believe what happened. And I'm like, hold on, tell me what happened. And she said, A$90 contract, that's a no-brainer. That will not take more time. That will allow her to spend more time with her family on top of the job that she already has now fell in her lap. It wasn't something she worked for, it wasn't something she grinded for. It wasn't even something she expected. It fell in her lap. And that is the kind of creation I am available for. Are you available for that? Because most people would say, well, you gotta update your resume, you gotta go interview, you gotta try really hard, you gotta work a lot. Like, no, absolutely not. I'm over working harder to prove that we're worthy or to make money that we don't have time to spend. We get to have it all, and it all depends on what you would love. So if you haven't gotten clear, now's the invitation and I'm making an invitation to you. If you want support on clarifying that on who you need to be in order to create it, grab yourself a 90 minute one-on one conversation in the show notes and let's begin. It's a gift from me to your dreams. I am proud of you. I am believing in you. I'm believing for you, and I believe in your ability to create your next level success so that you can make an even bigger difference in the world. Wow. I'll see you in the next episode. Great work, everybody. Whoa. Did you just feel what I felt? There's a whole lot of that and so much more to help you create your next level of personal and professional success on upcoming episodes of Her Next Level podcast, now ranked in the top 5% of podcasts globally. If you're a leader, a founder, an entrepreneur, or a woman who makes a difference in the world, and you're ready to break through your glass ceilings and upper limits. Let's make it happen together. In the show notes, you'll find a link to book a free one-on-one conversation with me. 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