Episode 5: The Most Important Move You Can Make to Create Your Next Level of Success

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What are you waiting for?

In this episode, I’m calling you forward.

You’ve gotten clear on what you would love. You’ve seen what’s not working. Now we’re facing the truth: you’re not stuck… you’re waiting.

Waiting for the right time.
Waiting for things to calm down.
Waiting for permission.

And that is exactly what’s keeping you from your next level.

This episode will help you stop waiting and start moving.

Inside:

• Where you’re still waiting for permission (and what it’s costing you)
• The difference between 3D thinking and next level thinking
• How to think and act like the version of you who already has it
• A simple way to start building momentum today

You already know what you’d love.

Your next level isn’t waiting on anything outside of you.

It’s waiting on you to decide. And begin.

Feeling called forward?

If you’re a founder, leader, entrepreneur, creative, or a woman who makes a difference and you are ready to break through your upper limits and glass ceilings, I’m personally inviting you to a complimentary Next Level 1:1 conversation with me.

With high-touch support, you’ll get clear on what your next level actually is, identify what’s in the way, and create aligned, powerful next steps tailored specifically to you and your next level of personal and professional success. You’ll leave with clarity, courage, and momentum designed around your vision and your capacity.

Schedule our conversation here.

You are here on purpose.
Your assignment is your next level.
And you have full permission and limitless possibility to create an extraordinary life that makes a difference for yourself, for others, and for the world.

Hey gorgeous.

I love you.

I'm so proud of you.

And I believe in your ability to create a next level life you love.

Transcript

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Welcome to her next level with Dana Hunter F. Where founders, leaders, and women who make a difference go to create your next level of personal and professional success. I'm your host, Dana Hunter, f Transformational success coach for exceptional women. And I'm on a mission to remind you of your limitless possibility and to show you how to create your next level so that it feels as good as it looks. Follow the show, my friend. Grab your iced coffee and turn up the volume to create her next level. Let's go. Well, hello, gorgeous, and welcome back to her next level with your favorite podcast host, Dana Hunter Fa. Hi. We have had so many powerful conversations over the last few weeks about how to create your next level, what it looks like, why it matters, and it does. And so I'm so grateful that you're back with us. I'm excited for the content that we will share today. And I wanna start by asking you, who have you chosen as your next level partner? Because as you know, we are 90% ish more likely to complete something, to be effective at something, to even follow through with something when we're doing it together. So I've just revived my her Next level Facebook group. I took a little break from that group and my newsletter and everything is reviving and an attempt to help us do a couple of things. One is build strong community of women building their next level. Two is to create intimate connections, partnerships, networking among women who are doing this really important work together. So I'll drop the links for those things in the show notes. If you're not on the weekly ish newsletter, I'm gonna invite you to jump in on that and I'll drop in one of my very favorite masterclasses, the Good Girl detox in the show notes today, so that you can jump on the newsletter and get that free class. The Good Girl Detox. It is one of my favorites. Okay, so let's get started. Quick recap for where we've been. We started by asking ourselves the powerhouse question, and this is what this entire episode is about today. What would I love? So when you're thinking about creating your next level, designing it, manifesting it, receiving it, feeling ended. Into it, being it, doing it, having it. What would I love is gonna be a fundamental question for you. The second thing we talked about is getting really clear about the things in your life that are not working. And so we did sort of a panoramic view of the core areas of life. You know, what they are by now. Health and wellbeing, love and relationships, career and creative expression and freedom. Your time, your money, your personal freedom. And we assessed ourselves given. What we know about what is happening right now versus what we would love to create, and we gave ourselves in each of those areas a one to five, one meaning I have so much work to do here and we're not gonna feel guilty about it. We're just gonna note, I'm gonna do a whole episode on the number of times I've heard a woman say. I felt guilty about that or I didn't feel guilty about that just in the last week. It's so interesting. So anyway, no need to feel guilty. You can feel empowered and excited, proud of yourself for showing up for this work. Fun in, in any of those areas means I have work to do. Za, don't we all? And five means I'm slaying the day on this. I love this. I could show someone else to do it. I'm really proud of it. I'm really upleveling. I'm sure you've done a lot of work there and you can give yourself. Anywhere between a one and a five. And again, those areas are just in case you're catching us, this is your first episode. Health and Wellbeing, which is mindbody. Spirit, connection, love, and relationships, which is your partnership or your your relationships that are really important to you with your friends, your kids, your grandkids, your colleagues, your neighbors, the ones that are important to you. That's love and relationships. It's also the one that you have with yourself. Ooh, I think that's the first time we've said that, but I'm gonna drop that in. It's also the love that you have with yourself. The third area is career and creative expression. It's your work that you're doing in the world. Is it aligned with your purpose? Are you on assignment? Do you feel so excited to go to work to create the work, to build the business, to lead the team, to launch the product? Are you excited about it? Does it feel amazing? Are you using your creative gifts to share with the world? You rate yourself one to five there. And then finally, this, my very favorite one, which is freedom. Do you have the time freedom that you want? Are you able to tell your calendar what to do? Or is it yelling at you and bossing you around? Your second is financial freedom. Do you have the amount of money required to live in her next level life? And what that means is, right, it could be millions, it absolutely could be. It could be six figures, it could be less than that. It could be the number doesn't matter. It's your number. Your next level is your next level. And you wanna answer the question, do I have. Overflow. Am I able to buy what I want, give what I want, spend what I want, invest what I want, help who I want, do what I want, right? That level of freedom, that financial empowerment can provide for you, and also do you personally feel free in the world. I've recently deepened my understanding and study of human design, and it is so amazing. I'm about to be certified as a reader. I'm very excited about this. But your human design is the way that you are energetically structured to move well and align through the world so that your life feels really good, your energy is being used efficiently. You know what your strengths are, you know where you're reflecting. Other people versus it coming directly from yourself. I feel like I might just convert this into a human design podcast. Stand by on that. I'm so obsessed with it and I'm excited. Um, I'm really, really excited about the way that this connects to personal identity and freedom. Because for so long in my own life, I was operating on conditioning and socialization where essentially it says, society says, okay ma'am, in order to be successful and I'm putting successful in air quotes, you need to do A, B, C, and D, and then you'll be successful. Now nobody ever said like, you know, take a look at your strengths and know your energy profile and go to your heart. Ask the question, what would I love? It was mostly like, no, these are the professions that are acceptable and will make you worthy and a lot of money. And when you do all these things, you'll finally be. Successful. Right? And we'll definitely do an episode or 10 on redefining what success looks like. But this is the whole game. Your next level is you redefining what success in your life looks like and not answering to anyone but you, you and your creator, and your source, and your heart, and your, you, you, you, you. Not in a selfish way with a small S, but in a capital S selfish way where you're connected to your higher self, connected to your source, connected to your spirit, and you are making decisions and creating your next level based on who you are, ma'am, not somebody else, and what they told you to be and how they told you to act and what they told you to wear. I've mentioned this last episode, but that's the core reason why so many. Of us as humans are having what we're gonna call midlife crises. It's like we're white waking up finally and saying, oh no, this isn't me. What the fuck have I been doing? So insert, enter next level, because that's essentially what this is all about. Not only what have I been doing, but what do I do now that I'm awake? What does my next level look like? And can I remember who and who is I am and that it's all possible for me? All of what? I would love. So we did that. We also went through the framework of B, then do, then have, and essentially a lot of us have gotten backwards, we think, and we'll talk a little bit more about this today. If I have this money or partner or job. Or health outcome, then I'll do things a little differently than I'm doing now. Right? So it's like this. This is one of my favorites. I'm a Monday morning gym girl. I'm about to switch gyms to be in community with women. Somebody hold me accountable for that.'cause I keep saying I'm gonna do it, but I haven't done it yet. But oftentimes. We'll say something like, when I have more motivation, then I'll go to the gym and I'll finally be healthy. But that doesn't work as many of us know, because the motivation probably isn't ever gonna come with a Monday morning alarm clock. It just isn't. So I want to be. The type of woman who does the type of things to have the results that I want. Now, my results for health and wellness are I wanna feel amazing in my body. I want my body to look as good as it feels. And I wanted to, I wanna feel like when I put on my clothes, I'm like, yes, I feel good when I wake up in the morning. I wanna feel good when I go to bed at night. I wanna feel good. And all throughout the day, I wanna feel inside of my own body and I wanna feel like we're having a good time. Okay, so there's this powerful theme of good, we were watching Wicked Too, this weekend. Has anybody seen that? Oh my gosh. We're obsessed with it. And Galinda said, or Glenda, I guess is her name for. The second one said, we should think about trademarking the word good. So anyway, the point is what I want to have, which is the end of the equation, is I wanna feel really good in my own body, and I wanna do it naturally. I wanna feel like I don't need to take a bunch of drugs or a bunch of shots. Or a bunch of whatever in order to feel really good in my body, I want it to be a holistic, like my body is working with and for me, which she is absolutely capable of doing. Talking about de socializing ourselves. Okay, so our point, my point there is in order to have that feeling, I wanna back up and say, who do I need to be to have that kind of result? So as a woman who's really into. Healthy living and feeling holistically good and trying to eat well and exercise and move my body and get the sun and dance around and get it moving. I feel like, I don't know why I wanna tell you this, but I'm gonna tell you this. I don't own a scale. I don't wanna scale. I don't know how much away, and I don't frankly don't care because no number is ever gonna tell me anything about my worth, and I had plenty of relationship with scales and numbers before this. But I haven't owned a scale in many years. I think when Ava, who's 10 now was in her, we had her first birthday party, maybe was the last time I owned a scale because I realized that that number was controlling me way more than the desire to just feel really good in my body. And maybe, but sure, that'll come through well, my relationship with food and disordered eating and weight and things like that. But when I say a holistic way, I mean I'm doing the things required to live well and feel really good in my body. So I'm gonna start by being the type of person who's available for that, and then doing the things like buying good food and actually eating it. Waking up and going to the gym and going to sit in the sunshine, drinking plenty of water. I'm gonna be her first. Do the things after that, and then I get to have the results. And that's the formula that we talk that we went through. I think that was episode three. So if you wanna jump back into that, that's a really powerful framework for creating your next level. And then last time we talked about how number one, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. So we really don't need to be taking things as seriously and we could just turn up the dial on the connection that we have with source, spirit, God, sister, soulmate, whatever you wanna call it. And we woke up at the wheel of our own life. And so remembering that there are two ways to create. We're always creating, we're the great co-creators. I was reading this book called The Tools, if you are a coach, a therapist, a psychiatrist. A helper of any human in any form, in any way. I highly recommend this book, and it's called The Tools. It's by Phil Stutz and Barry Michaels. I rarely read things written, written by men,'cause I think women can say the same thing and better. And this was recommended to me by a very powerful coach that I was working with previously. I'm almost finished with it and I'm trying to think about why I recommended it. Yes, because there's a story. About that a rabbi tells, and they, you know, they paraphrase this story about our, the way that God created us in the beginning, and God wanted us to be very much like her. So she gave us all sorts of things like willpower and the ability to create and stopped there, stopped and didn't create anything beyond, you know, the seven days. And gave us this inherent power to co-create our own experience. So in that way, we are made and the image and the likeness of our God in that she's a great creator. And she said, you're my child, so you are a great creator. Let's go create something next level. And that's what we're here to do. So we often. I don't know about you, but for most of my life I've been creating, manifesting just by default, allowing things to happen, not really being awake, not being intentional, not recognizing the power of my own ability to co-create. And the opposite of that, which is the foundation of this work that we're doing together, is we are waking up at the wheel of our own life, and we're also deciding to live by design. And today's all about that. So that's all of last episode was the difference between living on default mode, creating on default mode, or creating on design mode. And you, my friend, are officially a life designer. You are the designer of your own life and you are the co-creator of your own experience. And so why not use that power to create something beautiful for yourself in the areas that matter. The most. Okay, so let's get uh, into what we're here to talk about today. Before we do that, I wanna invite you to pause this episode. Send it to someone that you know, it will serve your sister, your mom, your best friend, your boss from your old job that you still love, the woman or women in your life that you're like, okay, yes, you're a next level woman. I want you to know about what's happening here. And then also I wanna invite you to go to the podcast on Apple Podcasts and give it a five star and write a review. And if you do that five star and write a a review about how this work is changing your life, screenshot your review to me before you hit publish or after. And I am gonna send you a very special gift. So you can DM me on Instagram at Dana Hunter F. You can email me dana hunter f@gmail.com. You can sky mail me or pigeon mail me, whatever you wanna do. Five stars and a review, send it over to me and I have a very sexy gift to share with you. There are so many beautiful reviews that are up for the podcast, especially when it was at titled Girls Who Recover, and I'm really looking forward to hearing your feedback. And your review makes a big difference. Of course, it helps other incredible women just like you find the podcast so that they can make more of a difference in their lives and for women and girls in the world. Let's get started. So I want you to imagine that you are walking into an architect's office.'cause the content, the topic for our conversation today is all about design. It's about blueprinting, it's about creating and really taking this role as co-creator seriously in your life. Okay, so take a breath with me. You wanna build a beautiful dream house? There's this house on our street, well across from our street that's being built, and it is so beautiful. It's basically made of windows, and I'm about to see when that goes on the market and see what we could do to get into the house. Because it's dreaming. It has so many windows. But I wanna imagine that you are walking into an architect's office and you say to her, I want you to help me build my dream home. And she says to you, okay, great. Tell me what you want. And you say, I want it to be amazing. I want an amazing dream home. I want it to be really great. I wanna feel really great. She says, okay. Anything else? Another example of this is you go to a fancy restaurant. Maybe it's a steakhouse, maybe it's a Dicky Brennan's restaurant. Maybe it's Commander's Palace or wherever you love to find Dine, and the waiter comes over to you and says, Madam, what can we serve you? And you say, gimme something really good, really good. Just yummy. Both the architect. And your waiter are going to look at you with a bit of curiosity, and they're gonna wanna know more about what you would love. Your architect, for example, is going to ask you things like, well, what would you love your home to look like? How many rooms would you like bedrooms? What kind of light do you want? Natural lighting says lighting. What kind of feeling do you wanna embody when you walk in the door? What do you want the house to be made of? What details matter to you? And let me tell you what you wouldn't say. You probably wouldn't say to her, I dunno. Just build me something great and we'll figure it out later. This is what so many of us do. As we're living our lives, we're building, we're designing, we're co-creating without a blueprint, without a clear plan, and we're just hoping that things will work out. Somebody said this weekend, who was this? Lisa Husseini, an amazing coach. She said, I've been driving my business on vibes for five months. Like I've been just living on vibes. And listen, I love to live on vibes. I would a hundred percent live just on vibes if that had been affected for me and in many cases. It has been. So now I'm transitioning from like 80% vibes and 20% strategy, and that still satiates my spiritual nature that I feel like I wanna live in all the time anyway. Most of us are deciding like, I just wanna be happy, or I want it to feel good, or, I don't know, and I'll figure it out later. We're hoping things will change and we're waiting for clarity. We might be waiting for something outside of us to happen for clarity or, and this is where I wanna get up on my box. We're waiting for permission. What? We're waiting for somebody or some time, or some entity, or some boss or some company or some yes, to give us permission to start designing the blueprint of what we would love. And we have got to be done waiting for permission because guess who's in charge of the permission slips. I wanna tell you that when I was a kid, my mom was a very busy woman, so. Oftentimes I would just forge her name on the permission slip. Now, most of the time I did that for good. Sometimes when it came to check writing back in the nineties, I was not so good. But I, I didn't even wait for my mom to gimme permission. I said, listen, I have already figured out how to sign my mom's name. Clearly, the Catholic school's overlooking it anyway. So I wrote my own permission slip, and I'm inviting you to embody that same rebel kid energy inside of you or grown ass woman who's ready to say yes. It is my identity to be the co-creator of my own life, and we're going to write our own permission asking yourself the power most powerful question you can ever ask because you aren't waiting for anyone to give you permission. You are. The permission, and I want you to put your hand on your heart or on your ass and say, I am the permission. Get a little smack wire on. You're back there. Okay. Ultimately, a lot of us are waiting for something external to change before we actually give ourselves permission to decide what we would love, what our next level. And the truth is, if we are going to create what's possible for us, which is limitless, we get to step into our architect shoes and decide that we are the designer. We are the blueprint, and we are the most sexy and credible, powerful architect of our own life, which means you are going to agree to commit your time to invest your energy. Invest your money to invest your love, to invest your focus into designing it. Just like you would decide that you were gonna invest in an architect who's gonna help you create the blueprint, or decide you're gonna invest in that fancy meal at Commander's Palace with Team Martin, and you're gonna put your money behind it and your love and your focus, and we're not gonna be waiting to do that. We're not gonna take it casually. We're not gonna kick it down six weeks from now or when things calm down. We're deciding right now that we're gonna put what we've got into Desi, designing our dream time, energy focus, love all the things into designing what is the most important thing you could possibly pour your investments into, and that's you and your next level. So before we get into the design process. Wanna talk about going back to this model of be, do and have. Remember that being the woman you are being is made up of a few things. Your thoughts, your feelings, your beliefs, and your energy. It's like a little gumbo, a big gumbo. Of the four things that make up who you're being, and I'm gonna say it again. It's what you're thinking. It's how you're feeling, it's what you're believing. And it's your frequency. It's your energy. It's your mood. It's the way you make other people feel when you walk into a room. That's what I'm talking about with your frequency. Okay? And I know you know what I'm talking about, but I'll give you an example. I, before I even see my kids know what their frequency is now, sometimes the visual reference absolutely helps. But my littlest 5-year-old can. She can just change the floor in the house that she's on, and I'm like, oh Lord, she's lost it. It's over. And I can also tell when she's totally lit up. Now I'm also energy sensitive, but everybody is, I was listening to Madeline Evergreen. She's got a human design podcast during my workout this morning, and she was talking about how all of our, our energy fields are always in conversation with each other, which is why I love to be in. Spaces with other people because I love our energetic connections and I love being able to sense like, oh, that person's having a great day. Like, oh, that person needs a big smile. Or that person might need a high five. Or just sending them energy if talking to them would be feel weird. So. Okay. The point is we're about to talk about the elements of being, okay. Remember we be first, then we do from that place of being, and then we have what we would love to create. We have the results. So let's start with our thinking, because our next level, what you're wanting to create, what you would love to create does not happen in your current paradigm of thoughts. And I wanna call it what it is, it's status quo thinking. D thinking d. D means, you know, the three dimensions, the things that are you see and believe that are real right now, even though none of it really is, but it's the kind of thinking that says, I'll do that thing when something else happens. So for example, I really wanted to start my. Coaching practice way before I did and I thought I will start that practice when I have more time or when things are settled down.'cause I had a bunch of very small kids, or when my husband gives me permission. Okay, that's status quo thinking 3D thinking and let's just call it what it is. Limited thinking. Other ways that 3D thinking shows up. I can't do that until or once this changes, or I need this, this, and this to be aligned before I can do that X, Y, and Z. A lot of people do this with like family planning and they say, well, I'll have a kid when I am done with my degree and I bought a house and I this I, my brother's doing this. I'm sure he's never gonna listen to this, but my brother is doing this and they're waiting. He's waiting for like the right time when I have these things in place, then I'll finally be ready. Now, if you have a child in your life, whether it's yours or you borrow it from somebody. You know that that is bullshit, that you're never gonna have what you think you need to be ready for having kids. Can I get an amen from the women in the back? That's never gonna happen. It's a cre. It's a self-created, socialized excuse for not doing the thing that you would love to do. Now, if the truth is you don't actually wanna have kids, great. Don't have kids. I'm for that. I'm for you. Having whatever it is that you want. But for us to say, I'm gonna have the kids, or go for the promotion, or learn to invest money or get smart with my finances, or go on the date or go for the promotion or start the business until something happens. We gotta be done with that. We gotta be done waiting to do the thing that's on our heart. That's the calling for our next level until you think you have what you need. Because here is the truth my friend. A hundred percent from my heart to yours, you already have everything you need. And more and more you already have every resource, every connection, every. Learning from my one lines, you already have all the learning you need. You don't need another course or a degree. You have everything that you need to begin today, and that's what we're gonna be doing today. I'm gonna invite you to begin today because 3D thinking is externally referenced. It's reactive, it's dependent on other people and places and things and times, and calendar and bank account, all the things. And it keeps even the most incredible high performing, accomplished, brilliant women staying stuck. I hate that word.'cause it doesn't even exist. Right? You're not stuck. We're just not moving. Stuck is an illusion. It's a, it's a patriarchal weapon that says, oh, well I must be stuck and then I'm gonna feel guilty and judge myself and shame myself. Like, no, we can be done with that. We can be done waiting for something external to change. I see this. All the time with all sorts of women, and the ones who work with me are the ones who are like, yeah, I see this too. Let's get, let's get this moving. Let's break that ceiling. Let's shatter that upper limit and let's get going. Let's start creating. Let's stop waiting. FG energy, and these are brilliant women. I get to work with founders and leaders and executives and attorneys and moms and grandmoms and single women and married women, and all sorts of incredible women who run the world. Women who make a difference. They run companies. They're raising families, they're solving these really complex problems. They're here to make a difference in the world. But when it comes sometimes to our own dreams, we be waiting. What are we waiting for? We are hesitating. What are we hesitating for? And we look outside of ourselves for permission. So I'm gonna invite you to ask yourself, what am I waiting for? What sort of external permission am I seeking? What am I looking outside of me to change before the inside of me changes? So that's status quo thinking 3D thinking. Now in this podcast, we are going to lean into next. Level thinking because it's different. Next level thinking, which is what we're going to be adopting from here on out right now. Draw your line in the sand. We're done with 3D thinking status quo, thinking, well, I can't just now thinking and we're saying hell yes to the next level thinking, which is already inside of you. It's not even anything you have to learn. I'm not gonna tell you one single thing on this podcast that you don't already know inside of yourself. It might be a reminder. That might be a reflection. You already know what you need to know. You already have the wisdom inside of you, and you already have what it takes to begin to create. So let's talk about next level thinking. Your next level thinking set exactly what I said. This next version of you, the next level addition of you already has this. Exists. She already exists and she isn't waiting and she's not asking anybody except for herself. And God permission. She is not negotiating with limiting beliefs and other people's ideas and her own inner fears and your fears. She is being next level. She is next level, and she is moving at a next level pace and this is where the shift happens. From relying on external forces and moving internally and relying on your own internal power, your own internal wisdom, your own internal authority, and as a woman, I promise you have that. You might need to strengthen that muscle. You might need some guidance. Maybe you could use a coach to help you wake up your inner wisdom, but I promise you already have it. It's not out there. And so this is where I wanna weave in something. I love teaching through the lens of human design. It doesn't matter what your energy type is. You can be a projector like me, you can be a generator, a manifester, a manifesting generator, a generator, or even a reflector. All of your inner authority lives inside of you. Reflector might be a little bit of a different story. There's a different way to access it, and you have a specific design on how to create and how to design and how to implement your next level. Given your energy type, but we all have our next level unlocked and we start to trust that our inner wisdom is way wiser than anything on the on the outside. And this idea of next level thinking is this woman who already has everything that you believe that you want, it's you. Time and space don't exist anyway. And so to take us totally out of 3D reality. If it's on your heart as a desire, if it's coming through, when you ask yourself the question, what would I love? It's already yours. The question is, are you able to elevate your being, which includes your, the way that you're thinking about things? To be willing to do the things. To create the results. She already has it, and she is you. She already received it and she is you. She already exists in that capacity and she is you. And so, so we answered the question, what would I love? What would I love? Just know that there is a version that exists right now of you, your next level edition, who already has that. We're gonna go to her for Wisdom and Counsel as a, as a part of this process. I wanna ask you, as you're considering those four areas that we talked about, and remember, the invitation is for you to pick one, the first level through this work. Where is status quo 3D thinking, showing up for you right now? Where are we attaching to external results? Let's ask, and probably in every area. But thinking about the one area that you're choosing to create your next level, where is status quo thinking for you? Where are you thinking like, well, I couldn't possibly do that, or I don't have the resources, or I need to wait for this, or I'm, things settled down. It's not as busy. And where is that showing up for you most? Is it in your career, in your business? Is it in your relationship with money, your finances? Is it in your. Relationship, your marriage and your partnership with your kids? Where is we? Couldn't possibly, and I'll just like call myself forward. It is showing up for me really, really, really hard in my marriage right now. Status quo thinking. Is it showing up for you in the way that you are being visible or not? In your leadership, in your identity, in your calendar, where is status quo 3D showing up for you right now? I'll give you a little hint. It's probably the area that feels most constrictive, most. I'll get to it later. It's the thing you're probably thinking of right before you go to bed or daydreaming, dra daydreaming about or putting off or say, I'll get to it. I'll get to it. I'll get to it. I'll get to it. That's a clue. That is where you're right now asleep at the wheel of your own life. And that's okay. We all are. That's where you're creating by default instead of design. And so we are gonna be done with that. So take a deep breath with me, let the exhale feel so good, and let's start designing our next level. Are you ready? Strap on ladies. This is where we're going to design what we would love for our next level. And we're gonna approach this like an architect, okay? But an architect who remembers her little girl self when you had a wild imagination. So right now. My 5-year-old and my 8-year-old still have incredibly wild imaginations. I mean, they are like, yes, we are all gonna be president and we're going to the mar. We're gonna Mars, we're taking our unicorn. We're gonna build a rocket ship made out of lollipops and sparkle throw glitter everywhere. I think they're creating a plan for everybody. You know how Dolly Parton gets together, gets her, you know, her whole foundation is helping. With literacy, and she gives anybody who's under five, maybe a free book. I mean, it's such a I love you, Dolly Parton. Please be a guest on the podcast. I'm just putting it out there. You're absolutely welcome. My girls have a plan to give everybody glitter because they think glitter is gonna change the world, and I'm pretty sure they're gonna be right. I mean. What a benefit of living in New Orleans. You can wear glitter anytime you want, even on like a random Wednesday morning, and people will be like, oh, good. Glad you're here. So you're gonna approach your next level like an architect with Wild Girl Energy. And a lot of us have lost that, me included. I take things way too seriously. We did this exercise this weekend as a part of a coaching experience. I'm participating in. And you might even let yourself do this too. And the exercise was, we spent some time imagining that the 5-year-old. Wild one who is a part of us, who still is a part of us, is in charge of our business. And so if I were to able, able to access her, which I can, she is strengthening every day, I'd stay in touch with her to help me have more fun. If we were to access that wild girl inside of us with the wild imagination, just like Alyssa has, what would she add to. The question, what would you love? And you get to love what you would love. You get to want what you would love. You get to design something extraordinary. It's your next level, yours, your creators, and that little wild one inside of you. So oftentimes the we're gonna ask ourselves, which we have in the previous episode, where am I longing? What do I want more of or less of? Or where am I struggling right now? Where am I unhappy? Where am I not beating the mark? Where I know I'm what's possible for me and know I'm capable of doing? Because none of that's a problem and none of that. We don't need to be judging ourselves or feel ashamed or feel guilty and fact, do you know if you decided to today, you'd never have to feel guilty again? I think I'm gonna do a whole panel on this. You never have to feel guilty again. Guilty is a choice and it's a socialization. And guess who it comes from. Straight from the patriarchy. And guess who typically doesn't feel guilty? Men. Why not?'cause they're not amazing'cause they are many of them. But'cause they're not socialized to feel guilty. That's why there's a phrase that's called mom guilt. Has anybody ever, ever heard of dad guilt? No. Of course you haven't because it doesn't exist. So that's a tangent. But I want you to know today, starting today, you can be awake at the wheel of your own life. And if that wave of guilt ever comes up, you can say, yeah, not today, Satan. Goodbye. Goodbye and move on. Feel. Choose a different emotion. Love, acceptance, patience, grace. The same shit you would give to somebody else. You can give it to yourself. Okay, got me. No more guilt. You can be done with that. It's really weighing you down. It's not gonna help you get to your next level. So please set it down. I'm gonna do it with you, okay? We're all setting it down. Collective sigh of relief. So as you become the architect of your next level. As a reminder, it gets to be limitless. It gets to be extraordinary. It gets to be whatever you want. And the song is coming through, so I'm gonna sing it. You know the song that says you can have whatever you like, you like? Yeah. Okay. That energy, whatever you like, your spirit is speaking to you, your inner wisdom, your intuition is saying, Hey, there's more for us, sister. What are we waiting for? So. Maybe what you've been waiting for is this question, which I'm gonna be all up in your face with love, and I'm gonna slap you on the ass. And I'm gonna ask you, sister, what would you love? And I'm gonna invite you, unless you're driving, don't do that to close your eyes and take a deep breath and all of that energy that's up in your head right now. On the exhale, drop it into your heart, in your stomach, your heart space, your solar plexus, maybe even in between your legs, your seat of desire and creation. Breathe in and out. You're gonna ask that part of you, that core of you. The question, when you think about creating your next level, what would you love? What would you love? What would you love to be? What would you love to do? What would you love to have? What would you love to experience? What would you love to feel? What would you love to buy? Give. Create, invest in experience, adventure. What would you love? And you might even put your hand on your heart and a hand in between your belly and your vulva, that space. The question, what would I love? What would I love? In that area that you chose, what would. I love, and if you feel stuck, you start with what you know for sure. I know. I would love more freedom. I know I would love more money. I know I would love more sex. I know I would love more confidence. I know I would love more connection. What would you love? Start there. You don't have to have the full picture. You don't have to have every little detail worked out, but let's start with this feeling in your body. What would I love? And the invitation to drop out of the mind and into your body is your mind is simply trying to protect you and keep you safe, and your body carries the wisdom of who you are. Your body is not who you are, but she carries the wisdom on a very deep cellular level of who. You are so be with your body when you ask the question, and you may need to practice this. A lot of us are trapped in our heads most of the time. It's why we have so much anxiety and mental health issues is because we're in the mind trying to seek a spiritual solution that can only be found in the spirit and the body. What would you love, and you might ask your yourself this question all day today. What would I love? You might sing it. What would I love? You might chance it. What would I love? What would I love? What would I love? And don't even feel any pressure to have the answer. You don't need the answer today. It's not a rush. If you have splenic authority, you know what? You know if you have. Emotional authority. You're probably gonna need a few days to ride the wave up and then ride the wave down and settle in. How does it feel? What would you love to feel? If you have sacral authority, you're going to your guts. Would I love this? She likes yes and no. Your gut likes a yes and the no. If you have sacral authority, and I'm talking human design, so if you don't know what I'm talking about, get on this bus of human design with me. Look up your human design chart. We're talking about the types of authority that you have. If you have sacral authority, that means your answer's in your gut, and she likes a yes or a no. So would I love to do this or that? What would I love? And let the answer come through in the way that feels like you, and it's not what would my mom love, or what would my kids love? Or what would my husband love? Or what would my wife love, or what would my boss love? Everybody has their own desires, of course, but for you to create your next level, your limitless possibility, your assignment here on this planet, in this life, we've got to start with the question. What I love. And then give yourself permission. Give yourself permission, whatever comes through, allow it, invite it, welcome it. Take care of it. So the second part of this is, and if this ever goes on YouTube, which is my intention, I'm holding my favorite work instrument, and it's a magic wand. And this is to help us take the next level to the next level. So imagine that you two, if you're a client of mine, you already have a magic wand because that's what we do. We create magic that collapses time and makes your. Experience in work or business or marriage or life feel like magic. So over your, what would you love? You're gonna wave that magic wand and imagine that it removes everything that's in the way. Every obstacle, every timeline, every dollar, every limitation, every hard personality, every hard situation. All of this magic dissolves that. So now there's nothing in the way. There's nothing in the way. If there were no challenge, if there were no obstacles, what would you love? What would you design? What would you add? Would you add another zero? Would you add even more time? Would you add even better sex? What? What would you, what would you love? Not what is possible, because I promise you, the mind, God bless her, she's designed to do one job, and that's to remind you who she thinks you need to be, right, the identity protector, and then to keep you safe. She establishes your identity, she protects that identity with everything she's got, and she tries to keep you and that identity safe. But this magic wand frees you of all that and frees you of limitation and hardship and anything your mind says, we can't possibly do that because, because, because, because, because, because that's how you know, this is where so many of us shut ourselves down. We start to ask ourselves a question, what would I love? And sometimes we can't even get started because of all the things we think our mind knows that are in the way. I'm gonna invite you to really pick up that magic wand and wave it over your mind and say, mine, we've got this. It's all created on our behalf. And allow yourself to dream, to get expansive and exciting. On the question, what would you love? Now, I can't tell you, nor do I want to, what you would love, because this is from your design, your heart, your spirit, your assignment. You know, your inner knower knows what you would love, and the invitation here is to let it feel so good to give yourself the permission to answer the question. Not once, but many a time. What would I love? Now, again, you don't get to figure out your way to the next level because that is not how it's done now. That's the patriarchal way. It's the very mind based way, but it causes, that's the thing that causes the burnout, the anxiety, the pressure, the stress. All that is caused by minds trying to figure it out in a whole society. That's like knowledge is power. No, it's not. Bitch. Wisdom is power. So we can get off that marketing channel and back into the channel of our own spirit. We're putting the how on hold. We're using our magic wand to dissolve every obstacle. Every issue, every challenge, and in the next episodes, we're gonna be talking about the things that our mind does to try to keep us safe and small. Just know that they're coming. When you allow yourself to dream, when you allow yourself to answer the question, which just in case you didn't hear the assignment today, that's what it is. It's to crack open your favorite notebook. Get your favorite colored pin and know it can't be on your notes and know it can't be on your computer and know it. You're not gonna dissolve it in the terrible energy of technology. We're going to let it come from the wisdom of your DNA out through the pin onto the paper, because when we write. Things down the universe remembers, and things begin to shift in our favor, and we don't have to figure it out. So pen to paper, the answer to the question, what would I love? And let it feel good. Let it feel easy. Let it feel exciting. Let it feel like you are the five-year-old who's going to Mars on a unicorn rocket ship with all sorts of glitter to just spread out into the universe. Let it feel that good because it's that part of you that has full access to your imagination. And as we grow in the world, especially as women, our imagination dial is turned all the way down in the name of, gotta fit in, gotta lose weight, gotta get this degree, gotta have this family, gotta have these kids. Right? No imagination. Go back to when you were five and ignite that imagination. And remind her that you're here showing up with and for her, and together you will lead the design process of your next level. Are you willing to do that for you? Are you willing to do that for her? And I'm not talking about your daughters. I'm talking about the five-year-old version of you who is beating inside of your heart and saying, can we come out and play? Let there be boas. Let there be glitter. Let there be dancing. Let there be laughter. Let there be tears on the floor. Invite her into the creation process. Let her be the CEO of helping you design your next level. Get out of your mind and into your being. And as you do that. You're gonna put your little antenna up. Okay? Your little antenna, and you're gonna be noticing any limiting beliefs or fears that pop up. If you want to, you can jot those down too. We're gonna do a whole episode on that. Any limiting beliefs, any negative narratives, any fears, any hesitation, any, they're all gonna laugh at me, or who am I to do that and all the things. Go ahead and write those down. Don't ignore'em. Don't tell'em to f off. You can later, but right now we're just gonna notice when they come through, because remember, all of those are just mind mechanisms to try to protect us and they're a part of the process. So you have two assignments. The first is to write on your notebook. What would I love? You might write it a few times to generate states. You might do your Beyonce dance or your state generator, or change the channel dance to Taylor Swift. Breathe in your lavender, your favorite candle. Hug your cat. High five yourself in the mirror, Mel Robbins. And then write it down. What would I love? Now, I'm gonna send you a gift if you do this and screenshot either the whole thing or just a little part of it and DM it to me on Instagram at Dana Hunter. I wanna know that you're into this work. I wanna know that you're here for yourself. I wanna know that you're saying yes to your next level. And if you DM me, just a screenshot of you, your answer to the question, what would I love? I'm gonna send you a gift. And that's one of my very favorite things as an invitation for you to say, yes, I'm doing this work. And also let me know who your next level partner is,'cause I wanna know her too. Answer the question, what would I love? And then maybe in the margins or in a different color, just notice and write down any limiting beliefs, any fears. Any negative narrative, anything that's inside of you, you might, even if it's a sensation in your body, you might write down like, I'm feeling a tightness in my chest, or I'm hearing my husband drone on in my head about how it's not time to do that. You can't do one more thing, like whatever that is. Write that down. Okay, so as you're doing this, you're writing down the answer to the question, what would I love? Next episode, I'm gonna help you. Beef it up, I'm gonna help you make it even more powerful and even more magical. But right now your assignment is, just get it down. It's draft number one. Draft number one. It can be bullets, it can be memoir style, it can be pictures, it can be whatever you want it to be because it's yours, whatever you want it to be. You, you, you don't need to answer the question, am I doing this right? The only way to do this wrong is to not do it. Did you hear me say that? I'm gonna say it again. The only way to do this wrong is to not do it. So the right way is your way to answer the question, what would I love? And then notice. Anything that's coming up and reluctancy to that. You might sit down after this podcast. You might go for a walk, you might meditate, you might do whatever you need to do to get yourself primed, and I'll invite you to set a timer for 20 minutes. Like what a gift to yourself, and then write your answer to the question, what would I love? Minutes. Write it down, take a picture, DM it to me. I'll send you a gift, and I wanna remind you why this matters. Like, let's just zoom out because this work just isn't about you. You know, it's not just. Endeavor. It's deeply connected to your assignment here, which is to make a difference, a difference for yourself, a difference for your family, a difference for your business, a difference for your community, and most importantly, a difference for all of the women in the world that get to know you. Because for women. Weren't even invited to consider that we could design our own lives much less given permission. We have been assigned everything, roles, colors, marriage, kids, the never ending to-do list of the woman, all of it assigned roles, and we've been limited. We've been given caps and ceilings and no, you can't and know you shouldn't. We've been taught to be good and nice and polite and sexy and accommodating and responsible. Yeah, so we're gonna be done with that together when you sit down and give yourself permission to answer the question, what would I love? You are a part of a revolution for women. All over the globe for generations before and after you for multi-generational legacy, you disrupted the patriarchy by giving yourself permission to answer the question, what would I love with a depth of passion and honesty that maybe you didn't know is available to you, but I promise you like a well, it will come out pump that well. Of your spirit, of your dreams, of your creation power, and ask again and again and again. What would I love? That is powerful, that comes from the essence of your spiritual nature as a co-creator of this universe, starting with your life. It's radical, it's true leadership, and when you design your life on purpose, you don't just change your life. You change what's possible for every woman, you and every woman they touch, which means women everywhere, forever. This work is important and it starts with you answering the question, what would I. Love. And the last part of the assignment is you're gonna take one baby step in the direction of you becoming the woman who is available for that. We call it the five minute baby step. So an action that you can take in five minutes, and I'm gonna invite you all the way forward. Every single day, five minutes a day, every single day until we meet again next week. That's moving you in the direction of your answer to the question, what would I love? Your dream, your destiny, your life by design.'cause you taking baby steps creates momentum. And momentum creates results. Your being the type of woman who's available just by listening to this podcast, you're doing what is required to create your next level, which today means you're writing down the answer to the question, what would I love? And then you're taking five minute baby steps every day between now and when we meet again to begin to create your dreams. What would she do? The woman who already lives in your next level, what would she do? And do that for five minutes each day. Just a reminder, you are a spiritual being, having a human experience. And so when you take the human action, the spiritual part of you and the whole universe moves in your favor. So we're gonna move like it. We're gonna act like it. We're gonna decide like it. We're gonna take the five minute action after we've answered the question, what would I love? So today we did a whole lot. We talked about the difference between 3D thinking and next level thinking. We talked about the things that we have got to be done with asking for permission, feeling guilty looking outside of us in order to really create the next level that is available to you. In whatever area is the most important, and I'm gonna say that again for us, that next level isn't a pipe dream. It's your assignment. And so when you're on route to creating your assignment, you're gonna feel so good and maybe even a little scared. And when you don't do the work, we're gonna continue as a species to encounter widespread anxiety, widespread depression, widespread not good enough. Widespread. It's never enough. And the way out of that, the antidote to that is you answering this simple question, what would I love? And deciding that you are going to be available for that, and then putting your money where your mouth is, which means you taking that baby step action every single day. You don't have to do it all. You literally might just need to start with a Google search. Or you might just need to swap out your Diet Coke for your lemon water, whatever it is, the five minute baby step that's going to help you move in the direction of you creating that dream, your next level for yourself. If you have stay stuck around until now, if you listened to any of these podcast episodes and there's something inside of your being that's like, oh my God, I have to go for this. I have to create my next level. Whether it's in your own business, in your company, on your team, in your leadership role, in your family, with your community, with whatever it is that you are dreaming about and you want someone to run with you, you want someone to help you create the framework and get really clear on it and LFG energy behind it. I wanna offer you a complimentary conversation. You and me, 90 minutes and together. We are gonna help you get so clear on the answer to that question, what would you love? And whatever area matters the most. And we're gonna dream together using the energy of that wild five-year-old inside of you to create and design your next level. And by the end of that 90 minutes, you are gonna have a clear next step on how to go from where you are now to where you would absolutely love to be in your next level. And if that is something that is calling you forward and it, listen, this isn't for everybody. I am not for everybody. But I am for a certain type of woman who's saying to herself in this episode, yes, I'm ready for this. I may not think I'm ready, but my intuition and my spirit and my body is saying. Girl, you have to go for it. You have to go for it. I want you to schedule our one-on-one conversation and I'll drop the link for that in the show notes. Oh my gosh, you have done such incredible work today. I'm so impressed. I'm so proud of the work that we're doing together. I love being on this journey with you. I'm grateful for your time and attention and your commitment to being a woman who makes a difference in this world. And as we close out, just in case you haven't heard it today, I wanna be the one that reminds you, you are limitless. You are made of infinite light and possibility. The universe is grateful that you are here. You have an assignment. The time is now. I love you. I'm so proud of you, and I'm grateful to be walking hand in hand with you as you create your next level. See you on the next episode and write in my dms. Whoa. Did you just feel what I felt? There's a whole lot of that and so much more to help you create your next level of personal and professional success on upcoming episodes of Her Next Level podcast, now ranked in the top 5% of podcasts globally. If you're a leader, a founder, an entrepreneur, or a woman who makes a difference in the world, and you're ready to break through your glass ceilings and upper limits. Let's make it happen together. 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