Episode 8: The 5 Biggest Blocks Between You and Your Next Level (and How to Overcome Them)

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Are these blocks dancing naked in your driveway?

This is where your next level gets real.

You’ve created the vision. Now it’s time to bridge the gap between where you are and where you’re going.

Because the moment you decide for your next level… the gap shows up. And with it? Obstacles, resistance, and old conditioning trying to pull you back.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to navigate that gap with power.

We’re talking about the patterns that show up for every woman stepping into more, how to recognize them in real time, and how to begin shifting your thoughts, energy, and actions to match the life you’re creating.

This is the work of becoming.

In this episode:

• What it means to bridge the gap to your next level
• The thing you need to know about challenges and obstacles (and how to move through them)
• How patriarchal conditioning shows up when you expand
• The 5 Ds that keep women stuck
• What your current reality reflects (and how to change it)

Your invitation:

Notice the gap.

Notice what comes up when you decide for more.

And instead of shrinking back…
begin building the bridge.

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If you’re a founder, leader, entrepreneur, creative, or a woman who makes a difference and you are ready to break through your upper limits and glass ceilings to create more impact and income, I’m personally inviting you to a complimentary Next Level 1:1 conversation with me.

With high-touch support, you’ll get clear on what your next level actually is, identify what’s in the way, and create aligned, powerful next steps tailored specifically to you and your next level of personal and professional success. You’ll leave with clarity, courage, and momentum designed around your vision and your capacity.

Schedule our conversation here.

You are here on purpose.
Your assignment is your next level.
And you have full permission and limitless possibility to create an extraordinary life that makes a difference for yourself, for others, and for the world.

Hey gorgeous.

I love you.

I'm so proud of you.

And I believe in your ability to create a next level life you love.

Transcript

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Welcome to her next level with Dana Hunter F. Where founders, leaders, and women who make a difference go to create your next level of personal and professional success. I'm your host, Dana Hunter, f Transformational success coach for exceptional women. And I'm on a mission to remind you of your limitless possibility and to show you how to create your next level so that it feels as good as it looks. Follow the show, my friend. Grab your iced coffee and turn up the volume to create her next level. Let's go. Well, hello, gorgeous, and welcome back to her next level with your favorite coach and podcast host, Dana Hunter Fa, I love you. I'm so proud of you. Are you ready? Because today we are stepping into the next phase of creating your next level, and we are going to begin to bridge the gap between where you are right now. Your life, your leadership, your creativity, your wealth, your impact, all of the things that you have been assigned to do and be and create in this life. And today we're gonna get real because having your vision of your next level is really powerful. But today, we start becoming the woman who lives inside of that vision, and it's gonna require everything that you've got in order to have something you've never had. You are going to have to become someone you have never been. And to clarify that we're not New Year, new you and you. We are amplifying the parts of you that already exist so that you can match the frequency that exists at the next level you are headed to create. Are you with me? So it's gonna require everything I'm learning, rewiring and rising beyond. Even your biggest dreams, and especially beyond patriarchal, patriarchal conditioning that we have as women all experienced. Okay, so take a deep breath because this is gonna require everything you've got and it's worth it. Your next level, the dream that you're creating is your assignment. And as we're creating that for ourselves, we are fulfilling our purpose here. And what else is there? Besides fulfilling your purpose, completing your assignment, and remembering who you are and every single thing that you are capable of creating. I was working with a client this morning. We are doing a book study on the book, overcoming Under Earning. The quote is from. Thomas Edison, he said, if we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves. I'm gonna say it again. If we did all the things we are capable of, we would literally astound ourselves. We were talking about. The idea of fulfilling our capacity so that we can astonish ourselves and creating your next level is going to result in you feeling astonished. You're gonna look at your life and say, oh my God, I co-created that. You're gonna look at your relationships and say, oh my gosh, I participated and cultivating that. You're gonna look at your bank account and say, I did that. I created that I co-created, because remember, you are the co-creator and that's. The best news you could possibly get, because that means there is a CEO working in your favor. Your chief executive officer is the spirit of the universe. And I'm not gonna be shy talking about that because it's the reason that as next level creators, we can collapse time, create miracles, and fulfill our assignment completely, which is to raise the consciousness of the planet, especially for women everywhere. Are you with me? To go back to what I said, it's gonna require you to astonish yourself and go way beyond even the capacity that you believe is possible. So, quick recap from last week. We talked about our friend Dead Harry, right? If you haven't listened to that episode, please go back and listen to it because if you know, you know Dead Harry are all the old beliefs. Identities, stories, lies, reasons, excuses, logic that we are carrying around that are no longer living and breathing and thriving. And for us, the truth is about beliefs and stories and ideas that we have about ourselves, especially as women, is that most of those aren't even beliefs that we created ourselves. They were beliefs that were handed to us, that were shoved in our face. That were dropped in the Kool-Aid. They were beliefs in stories and ideas that we inherited from systems, from society, from culture, from generations of people who taught that women are to be small and quiet. Help everybody else before you help yourself. And this is not generations ago. This is happening right now where we're believing that we can't rock the boat. We don't wanna have conflict. We better be quiet, we better help others and we better not say what we would love, but we're gonna be done with that because today. You are continuing to let go of those old ideas, limitations, stories, conditioning, we're calling 'em all dead hairy. So you're not just doing professional development. We're not just growing ourselves. We are literally becoming. Generational interrupters abandoning the conditioning that we were born, bred, raised, and taught in favor of what our actual birthright is, which is to claim our next level. And it's the thing that you have been dreaming about in all of the areas of your life now. For the purpose of this podcast, we picked one area, the one that if it shifted, it would change everything for you. And since you are a woman leader, a woman who makes a difference, a woman founder, a woman business owner, a badass woman, you are going to create something that's going to shift everything. So let's be specific. Are you working with health and wellness? Mind, body, spirit? Are you working with your love and relationships, the partnership that you're in, that you're. Intending to to upgrade. Or improve? Or not just improve, but really just go like, what happened? It's a miracle. And that's happened over and over and over with my husband. We just celebrated 12 years of marriage, which if you know, you know, we have done this work over and over again, and by all accounts, we should absolutely not still be married. His parents have been married multiple times. My parents were married multiple times. Stan married is not in the DNA code for us. Okay? Plus, we're both sober, which means we've got, we've got alcoholism, which means insanity in the bloodline. And so the fact that we just celebrated 12 years and we just spent the most beautiful weekend together. Just the two of us. We were so beautifully hosted by our friends in Lafayette and we went hiking and we went to the Boudan Festival and we did KO dancing and we ate really yummy food that I'm happy I'm fasting today because all that's moving through me. We had to let go of old ideas about each other, about ourselves, about what marriage meant in order to upgrade our availability for what an incredible marriage looks like. Now, listen, I'm not, I'm never, never, never gonna lie to you. We have all the issues you could possibly think of, but what we have also is this firm commitment to create our next level of marriage. And since today we're gonna talk about. The first edition of how to overcome Obstacles. This is actually perfect timing, but just remember health and health and wellness. 11 relationships. Okay, good. I remembered where I was. Career and creative expression. So your business, your job, the way that you are expressing yourself in the world, your foundation, your organization. Your community, whatever it is that you're all up in with your purpose and your excitement or your alignment. And if you don't have that, that probably should be the first place you go unless something else feels more priority. In fact, most of the women that I coach, we are focusing on the that quadrant. And the last one, which is freedom, financial freedom, personal freedom, identity freedom, and time freedom. And regardless of the area that you've chosen. You are interrupting conditioning that has been limiting you. And it's not necessarily like, oh, you have bad beliefs. It's like, no girl. You live in Western society where the messaging is you better be quiet. You better not rock the boat. You better not make too much money. In fact, hey, we're gonna create a pay gap to make sure that you don't create enough creed as much money and. We're gonna tell you from the very youngest age that you're not good enough, that you're not thin enough, that you're not wealthy enough and healthy enough. And we're gonna put all of these beliefs on marketing and commercial, and now it's social media and it's gonna come through your mom and your aunt, and who knows where it's gonna come from. It's not an individual issue, it's systemic patriarchal conditioning, and we're interrupting that. This is the next level for you, for me, for us all. In order to create your next level, you have got to keep your vision alive. And so the first several episodes of the Her Next Level Podcast are all about you creating a crystal clear vision for what you would love. Remember hand on your heart, what would I love? And in order to create that, we've gotta keep that a vision alive. And this is especially important for us as women because we have been taught. And over and over that our desires aren't important, that we can do them later, that we are not connected to them, that they are not worthy or valuable. We've been taught to be practical and responsible and logical, and God forbid you want too much. Are you with me? So when you use these power tools, up until now when you decide to take your vision, your next level vision off the paper, and then record it in your voice memo, and then listen to it a couple of times a day, or hell even once a day. When you decide that in your carpool line or between meetings or on your walk, you are going to capture and sit in your dream. Achieved moments. Remember, dream, dream achieved moments are literally flashes or images or photographs or feelings of you on the other side of your next level where you already have it. It's already done. So I think I've shared this with you. One of mine is a selfie with me and my family under the Eiffel Tower with chocolate persona smeared on my face and probably crying because all my dreams are coming true. That is my dream achieved. Snapshots. And so when I come, I have many of them that's not just, there's not just one. One is we're getting on the metro. One is watching my 8-year-old have a conversation with a French woman. One is giving my French sister a hug because we're gonna go visit her. That's an update. So these dream achieved these next level vision moments that we're. Whenever you have a breath, a moment, whenever you can wake up from the wheel of your own life, you're bringing those moments into your consciousness and your DNA is remembering and your spirit is remembering, and they do not have to take long. It can literally be the time it takes to click your blinker and turn left, and you've been in that dream achieved moment. That next level moment. So we've talked about these power tools and what you're doing is interrupting the conditioning so that you can radicalize what is for you and create your next level. And through doing that, you are reclaiming your right to want what you want, to love, what you would love to expand your capacity to desire. And remember, desire means. Spirit. So if you want it, it's probably spiritual now. This doesn't apply. I was listening to a podcast this morning on from the Buda. We know her. She's amazing. I just met her and she and Mel Robbins were talking about the uptick in buying things we do not need on social media. They are so sneaky with that. So when I say get what you want, what wont you want? I'm not talking about that random TikTok purchase. Okay. That's if it's not in your vision. Maybe pause on it. Okay. Typically, I try to wait 24 to 48 hours, sometimes a full week, depending on the number of dollars something is asking me to invest. So that's another little dream tip. Next level tip is I don't just buy things at random. I have to wait at least 24 hours unless it's in the daily plan. Okay, so we're doing something really radical. We're interrupting generational conditioning. We are deciding that it is okay to want what we want. Put your hand on your heart. It's okay. Beyond, okay. You are giving yourself permission to want what you want in any of those areas. If you wanna be a millionaire, a, allow yourself to want it. And we'll talk about money if you wanna be a CEO, if you wanna start your own business, if you wanna have better sex in your marriage, if you wanna sleep through the night and wake up feeling totally refle refreshed. If you wanna have really amazing biceps like I'm creating right now, because I'm still hitting this 5:15 AM class every single weekday I, I'm on week four. And guess what happens when you show up for your dream every single day? There are obstacles today, I cried in class and I cried so hard. The teacher had to come over and say, are you okay? It's like, yes, yes. I'm okay. I'm okay. And it wasn't, I wasn't crying. Of course, you probably know this because the workout was hard. I was crying because workouts move energy and I needed to cry. And so the energy just came out and I was like. Are you really hard? And I'm crying and I'm gonna keep working on the teacher was really the only one concerned. Maybe the girl, the woman who was working out next to me, she's like, are you okay? But every other woman in that gym knew what was happening. And they know because, because when we exercise and we push ourselves to capacity, it often requires everything we've got. And in that case, it's happened many times already at this new gem. The energy that's been stuck in my body escapes and it moves. It feels safe enough to move, so what a gift. Okay, so let's talk about our topic for today, which is what happens? After you have designed your next level, and remember this is a draft blueprint. I wanna encourage you, if you have not put something on paper starting with, I am so happy and grateful now that, and then you write in the present tense with positive language and lots of passion and. Make, make it, create pictures. If you haven't done that for the area of your next level that you are focusing on, please pause the podcast right now and do that, because if you don't, you're literally wasting your time right now. Don't do that to you. Don't do that to my friend. Invest your time. Well, if you are driving, pull over and get a notebook. It should take you a minute or two or three just to get the draft down. Don't go to the architect's office and not tell your architect what you want on your blueprint. Okay? She's gonna look at you like, please get outta my office till you've got an idea. She probably won't do that. She's gonna help you just like I am. Dream into the answer to the question, what would you love? So consider me your architect for life and business. What would you love? And are you willing to write it down? Because listen, sister, if you haven't gotten willing to write it down, we're playing games right now and you, you could be listening to another podcast, true Crime or something. Okay. By the way, one of my favorite podcasts, I just wanna give them a shout out 'cause they're so amazing, is red handed. I got caught off from listening to True Crime because if you know, you know, you listen to way too much true crime, everybody starts looking like a serial killer or a murderer or a child vector. So I had to cut myself off, and I only get to listen to them every once in a while. And I've completely forgotten why I, why did I mention them? Oh. Because if you are here, you need to be doing this work. I'm calling you forward. I'm inviting you in. We're making it easy about asking the question over and over again. What would I love? What would I love? What would I love? Right. Down. Write it down, girl. Write it down. Pause what you're doing, get it down. If you don't, we're literally just playing in the sandbox, okay? And that's okay to play in the sandbox, but if you're serious about creating a next level life for yourself, if you're serious about creating a next level relationship or next level finances, or next level freedom, next level career. We gotta put in the work. We're taking it out of your ears and putting it into your experience. Write it down, add pictures, add stickers, add whatever you want. Make it fun, but get it down and that's important. Please don't listen to the podcast from now on until you've got that, okay? It should take you just moments. In fact, in order to remember. The experience before I hit record today, I took my notebook, my very favorite pink notebook that Olivia Scott gave me. Shout out, freedom at the mat. Her stuff is amazing. Go-to Freedom. At the mat, you'll see our journals, her uh, yoga mats, all the things. She's amazing. She's amazing. Anyway, I took out my pink notebook because this year we are going fuchsia pink. I think it's fuchsia. And I went out and I, I asked the universe to speak through me and I wrote. What would I love? And then I wrote it in the present tense. Two pages. It probably took me six minutes. It doesn't even have to take you that long. Okay, so I'm not negotiating anymore. It's a requirement. Let's keep going. What happens? The moment you decide for your next level is you are gonna start feeling the gap. And so the next phase in creating your next level, we're gonna call bridging. So we've broken the ground. You decided what you were done with. You decided where your longing and discontent was. That was the first phase. The second phase is blueprinting, and you got specific and excited and detailed about the one area of your life that you would like to start, begin creating your next level. It's like the last five episodes we're on that phase, and the next several episodes are about the phase we're gonna call bridging. Because what happens the moment you decide that you are going for your next level? What happens the moment you decide? I want it? I would love it. You will feel what we're gonna call the gap. And the gap is not a matter of if, but a matter of when, and that is speaking to the challenges that you will. Encounter in the process of creating your next level. Okay, so in, in the recovery text we use, it says certain trials and low spots, like not, there's not maybe gonna be obstacles here. There's not maybe gonna be challenges. There are absolutely gonna be many of those in this process of creating your next level. The key though, as a next level woman. To overcome those obstacles and those challenges is being awake to what they are, recognizing them for what they are, and then being prepared with the next level tools to create a bridge that gets you from where you are right now to where you would love to be. The next level that you are creating the gap is the frequency difference between how you're living right now and how you plan to be living when you are in the middle of the. Your next level. Now as you're creating next level dreams. The things that normally get in the way are limiting beliefs about ourselves, limiting beliefs about our ability to even create the next level, limiting stories from outside of us, limiting people and circumstances and situations who aren't available to help us get to our next level. In order to move beyond all of that, all the circumstances, all the situations, all the conditions that get in the way and Blis, listen sister, they are gonna strip naked, set themselves on fire and dance in the driveway when you were trying to back your car out to get to your dream. I don't wanna make any bones about this. This is funny, right? No. They're gonna strip naked, set themselves on fire and dance in your driveway to try to get you to stay where you are. And I'm gonna teach you week, after week, after week what to do when these things show up. Because in order to create, realize, and manifest your next level, we have got to be experts in navigating obstacles and challenges and the things that dance naked in our driveway and say, good thing we have cameras in our cars, right? So we can see these things and this is the exact technology we're gonna use so that you can see the things dancing in your driveway trying to. And what we do is we practice shifting our frequency. We change our thoughts, we change our feelings, we change our actions, and those raise our vibration to match the frequency of the next level. Everything is energy and the energy that you have created consistently recently looks like your reality right now. So the things that you're looking at right now aren't even a match for your frequency right now because your frequency right now is creating what you can expect to receive in the future. It's weird, right? Nothing's even real. One of my teachers, Tracy Lit, says none of this is real and we're not getting out alive, so we don't have to take anything really seriously. None of this is real is fitting here because what you see in your current experience matches the vibration, the thoughts, the feelings, the emotions, the beliefs, the actions that you've taken up until now, you're looking at it and your results do not lie. So if you love parts of your life, za you and your frequency and your creator created them. If you don't love parts of your life and listen, I have both hands in the sky. There are parts of my life that I do not yet love. Now I love 'em all. Okay? But they're not next level parts. It's a direct result of how my frequency is, and there's nothing to judge and there's nothing to blame. There's only a matter of picking up the power tools, bringing them back to the only time you can change pop quiz. When is the only time you can change? It's not the past. You know that you cannot go back to the past and change it. It's not the future. You cannot start a new diet on Monday. And can I say fuck diets? They don't work. Stop it. You can give it up. Okay. Who's the author that talks about diets? I'm gonna come back to her because she said something so powerful that she's basically like that. Anytime a client says, I'm starting a new diet, she says, oh, great. How much weight do you wanna gain? Why? Because diets are from the patriarchy and we can be done with that. But feeling totally in harmony with your mind and your body and your spirit and doing things like moving in ways that feel good and it drinking things that make you your body feel alive and eating things that are nourishing and listening to people and. Not television. Don't watch television. Listening to programs or podcasts like this one that will raise your frequency. That is what will create what you would love in your body. It's not counting macros, it's not going on the paleo, it's not doing keto, it's not peptides. It's you remembering your wholeness and then acting like you remember acting like you know who you are. It's simple and I'm, listen, I'm not calling you out. I'm not here to judge anybody, but I am here to judge the patriarchy and we're gonna do a whole lot of that and not just judge it, but dismantle it because I've got a big problem with a society that says, here's a bunch of terrible processed food that we're gonna encourage you to eat. We're gonna market the shit out of it, and then we're gonna sell you these drugs that are gonna help fix the issue. That actually has nothing to do with food at all. Your extra weight has nothing to do with food. Food is just the symptom. This is not what this episode about is about, but I'm up on this box because there are too many of us believing that some sort of external thing is gonna fix us. And let me tell you the truth. Are you ready? You do not need to be fixed. Women do not need to be fixed. You don't need the drug. You don't need the. Close. You don't need the number on the scale. You shouldn't even own a scale. What is this scale except for a weapon that you're using against yourself? Now listen, if you feel differently, you're allowed to. It's us remembering our wholeness that is the solution to creating the next level. I'm gonna say that again. It's us remembering our spiritual, our mental, our physical wholeness. That creates our next level. Most of the stuff that's in our way came from outside of us. I'm gonna come back to the script. I'm coming back to the script. Lemme take a breath because I got real hot there. Did you get hot? You felt that? Or maybe it's a hot flash. I dunno. These days. Good gracious. Okay, so in order to shift to bridge the gap between where we are right now and where we headed, my girl to my next level is we're gonna notice the gap. We're noticing the results in our current life, and those have a specific vibration to them. That's called point A right now. Right now, the results that you have in your life, in your business, in your bank account, in your sex life, in your everything, self-image, identity, freedom, partnership, all of those have a specific energy frequency vibration to them. And what you're wanting to create in your next level. Those also have a specific frequency, vibration, energy, that's the point B, when when we do conversations. When you schedule your conversation with me, which by the way, if you feel called forward by this in creating your next level, you should get one in while they still last. They're going really fast. My calendar's getting very full, and I have a spot for you and we'll get really clear on what is happening right now. The frequency of the things that you have created. And then we're gonna go to what I call that island a 'cause. We need to spend more time at the beach, I think then we talk about island B, which is the frequency, the specificity, the dream that you are creating for your next level. And those two islands have different music playing. Now it's probably, if you're on a conversation with me, not super different, but it's the difference between Destiny's Child amazing and the Renaissance album. You follow me, right? My Beyonce friends, it's the difference between 1989 and the ERAS tour. Same song, different amplitude. You feel me there? That ERAS tour literally changed my life and it showed me what was possible. When a woman says, hell yes. To her next level. That Airs tour was next level, not just for Taylor Switch, but for every human who participated in any way. Even if you didn't get Bing Go, but you watched the Disney special, you were changed, weren't you? Yes. Yes you were. Okay. So step number one is we noticed, we noticed the gap. We look at the frequency of where we are. We consider the frequency of where we're headed. Get yourself in a conversation with me if you're looking for high touch support. Someone to walk you through Island A and island B, and what's the gap and how does your next level feel? What does it look like? That conversation is so exciting, and when you're noticing the things that come up, that doesn't mean that you agree with them or identify, we can only transform something when we're awake to it. I'm gonna say that again, just in case you were sleeping, thinking about your shopping list or the last thing you bought on Instagram. We can only transform something when we're awake to it, so I'm gonna invite you into an experience of the things that happen. Once we create our dream and say, I'm going for it, I'm gonna create my next level, and I promise this is gonna happen, number one, because it's happened to me every single time. It continues today. I, I may, today I was planning a really, really big purchase and also taxes are due this week. Or not do, but filing your taxes or we're gonna, fingers crossed. What would you love? I would love that the government is gonna continue to pay me at tax season versus me paying the government. And so I'm letting that be so it is. And what we're noticing is what happens when we decide for our next level? Are you ready? Let's take a breath. Okay. So when you get clear on what you would love and you say, I am creating this, whether you do it, you try to do it by yourself or you link arms with the coach, you can support you. What will happen is the five Ds, what will happen R at the five Ds. So I'm gonna read to you the five Ds, and I want you to notice maybe some of these have already happened. Maybe they're happening right now. Maybe that's why you haven't even written your dream down, some of us. But this is what happens when we decide we are available for and creating our next level. Okay? So the five Ds, I like this because the name starts with D, so it's easy to remember, number one, when you decide for your next level. Dis persuasion will show up. Dis persuasion. Dis persuasion is the voice that dissuades you not to go for your next level. Probably sounds a little bit like you or the nun who berated you in school, or your mom who is worried about you. Who knows whose voice it is. But pay attention. Dis persuasion is the voice that dissuades you not to go for it. And it feeds on anything that you perceive as a past failure. And it might say something like, this is never gonna work out for you. You've tried so many things before and they've not been successful, just forget about it. Go back and do the same, the thing that's saved. Don't rock the boat. You can do it later. Who are you to do it anyway? I mean, you got fired from that job, you know, had alcoholism. Your reputation's probably not that great. Also, you have this really beautiful life, this husband like you don't wanna upset him and gosh, don't risk it for your kids. You hear her, right? She sounds like you. That for you too. It's the voice in your head that's like, no, sister, don't do it, and here's why. And she knows every nook and every cranny and every button and everything. And she is your nervous system setpoint, trying to help you stay safe. So we don't even need to be mad at her. We don't even need to yell at her or judge her. She is your set point, and all she wants you to do is be safe. Your nervous system wants you to be safe and settled, and often that means stay. Stay. Staying small. It often means in the safety of your comfort zone where your next level cannot possibly happen. It often means you're doing less than you're capable of. You're saying less than you can say you're doing less than you can do, or you're not taking as many risks or having as much fun as you could. So dis persuasion is the first D, can I get one or two hands in the air? If you are experiencing any dis persuasion when it comes to you creating your next level. So, for example, I have a client right now who's just begun her coaching business and she's looking to replace her income with her coaching business. Many of the things that are showing up in her head right now are, you can't do this. Who would wanna work with you? You don't know anything about marketing. This is too hard. You don't even have IFC certification. That's all persuasion. None of that's real. It's all nervous system. Now listen, I know it feels real. I know it does. And as we move through the podcast, I'm gonna equip you with tool after tool after tool. But the first thing you wanna do with dis persuasion is just notice. Just notice I'm in the book overcoming Underearning. Barbara, gosh, what's Barbara's last name? It's not coming. Somebody help me. Anyway, she talks about a client who has a voice in her head that she calls Blanche, and she's like, my goal in reading this book and doing this workshop is just to get Blanche to shut up. And Blanche is the voice of dis persuasion. She's the one who's all up in your head telling you why you can't, why you chance, why you shouldn't, all the things, and she is not real. She is a product of your nervous system. She is a product of society. She is a product of relationship. She is a product of old, outdated beliefs. You can also call her Harry. She's dead, but she probably feels very much alive and well because you've upset her by deciding that you are going to create something even bigger and better than you have right now. It's very upsetting to the nervous system because it doesn't feel safe. So dis persuasion, you got me? Yep. Is that showing up for you? I wanna hear about it. How is it showing up? What does she say? How does it feel? Is it working to dissuade you from doing the thing you said you were gonna do to start creating your next level? Because make no mistake, once you've got your next level on paper. It's time to start acting and you don't have to take huge, massive actions, but every single day we should take be taking little baby steps. And I love baby steps because babies when they step, they fall down and then they cry about it at the gym and then they get back up and they keep stepping and they look wobbly and crazy and they are committed. I love baby steps. So in case you missed it, once you have gotten your. Next level on paper, your assignment is to start acting and all of it will come together collectively, your feelings and your thoughts and your actions so that your next level looks like it's created itself. So dis persuasion, we're clear on that second D distraction, and this is something that all of us are suffering from. This paradigm says, why don't you clear out your email instead of writing your book or writing your cover letter to that new job that's gonna pay you $25,000, more like one of my other clients that the distraction says you're gonna feel way better if you just get the laundry done. Look, somebody commented on my Instagram posts. Lemme look at that first. Oh my gosh, somebody's having a new workshop. I gotta sign up for that. Oh my gosh, credit card's due tomorrow. I've gotta do that. And the distraction challenge is fed by delaying our dreams and seeing other things is way more important or urgent. So distraction. For, for example, I'll give you today, normally I write down my top three lists. Like each day I have three things that must be accomplished. I try to prioritize them, so first things first, but often a million distractions try to get in my way, which is why I love the book, how to Break Up with Your Phone, because right now my phone is off and in the other room. If my phone is nearby, it's addictive. It's got a sexy pool. It reminds me of all the things, and I even have it on d and d with no notifications. It still has that pool. So are you being distracted and let's not judge ourselves and make it a personal thing. Technology is literally set up to distract you. Take your money. Okay, so turn it off, put it in the other room. First things first. When you're taking your action, the distraction is again, part of your nervous system that says, okay, she didn't listen to us and we told her she couldn't do it, so now we're gonna give her something new on Instagram to follow. We're now, we're gonna help her remember how much clutter is in the shoebox area. She cleans that out. And now we're gonna tell her we're busy later, so we better do laundry on our work from home day. And now you see what? What's happening, right? Distraction is a pull, and not only is it distracting us from our next level, it's distracting us from our life right now. My husband asked me this when we were on our hike this weekend. He said, how many minutes, by the way, I didn't take my phone on my hike. I try not to take my phone really at all. It's the only sad part about it is I missed taking pictures, which I really enjoy. Sometimes I'll remember to borrow his phone, but often, I don't know. I guess I'm gonna have to get like a manual. Do you remember back in the day we had those Kodak. Cameras you could just put in your pocket and you like clicked them and then you turned the dial. Uh, I still have one of those in my closet waiting to be developed and honestly I've been distracted from doing it 'cause I'm not sure what's on there. I know it's a trip a friend and I took to Europe and we made some very bad choices. So I'm a little concerned about what's showing up there. It's also like 20 years old. Anyway, you're with me, right? Distraction. And he said on the hike, how many minutes of your day do you think you're actually awake and present? And I said, this day, or on a typical day, this day I've been present fully for probably like 18 minutes, 18. Where I was fully in the moment with everything around me present, enjoying, appreciating in all the five senses, probably 18 minutes on a regular day. If it is not built into the system to the, to the way that I'm moving through the world, it can be like five minutes. It can be no minutes. Not. If you're, listen to this podcast, you're gonna be awake at the wheel of your own life. And so distraction is the thing that takes us out of the present, where we're going to decide what is important, prioritize it, and take action on it. Okay, so just notice. Notice for Dis Persuasion, your blanche Notice for distraction, probably coming from your phone or some sort of media. It could be your head, could be an invitation to do a little bit of meditation. That is important. Third D is Defcon one. Defcon One comes from a military phrase, and I need to look up what it means because I forgot. Let's look it up. It means here it's so, it means defense readiness condition one, and it's the highest, most severe alert issued by the United States Armed Forces signaling that a nuclear war is imminent. Oh my gosh. Okay. That's a little timely. Anyway. It's pretty serious. It's the warning that the. United States, armed forces says, Hey, listen, something really bad is happening. Something really bad could be happening. And so this is where you might feel bringing it back away from the government and bringing it back home to what really matters, which is you and your experience. This is a physical reaction that you're having with your next level. Maybe you, this happened to me, so I'm gonna tell you what it is. I'm gonna tell you an example, and then one of I'm having today. So Defcon one is where you might feel something physical. You might wanna get angry and fight, you might wanna run away. That's the flight response. You might freeze up. And this Defcon experience is fed by the fear that paralyzes us from taking action. So for example, you might pick up the phone or open your email to communicate in a way that moves you in the direction of your bus, your dream. So you might call a potential client or book that speaking engagement or book those tickets to your trip to Europe, and you might feel paralyzed, sick to your stomach. Maybe your throat dries up. You might literally feel like you can't move. That's Defcon one. And if your next level is big enough, you should be experiencing it at some point. And it's not comfortable at all. It is not comfortable at all. And I wanna quote this author, right, because her, I wanna get her name right, Barbara Houston. Okay. So Barbara Houston says something really powerful about the work that she greets in her overcoming Underearning, which by the way. Is amazing. I highly recommend it for every woman. It is changing my life, and it's also creating Def Con because she says this work isn't easy, it's uncomfortable. I'm sorry. She says The work is easy. It's just uncomfortable. The work is easy. It's just uncomfortable. So DEFCON is the response that your body has because your next level is going to create a level of discomfort that maybe you haven't even experienced, that you've never experienced. I'll give you a few quick examples. I was supposed to go live with my business in September. Of 2024, and I set the date and I was like, I'm going live. I'm gonna make my Facebook post. I'm gonna tell everybody I'm coaching and girls who recover is live. And I'm just so excited about it. And then the day that I was supposed to do it, I thought I had a stomach bug and I threw up and I thought, oh, well I can't possibly do it today. And I didn't. I didn't do it 'cause I thought I had the stomach bug, but really it was my body saying, don't do this to us. This is gonna change the identity of who people think we are. It's gonna change our identity at the core. It's gonna make the dream real, it's gonna require us to be brave. And my whole body said, absolutely not. And so I started throwing up. It was the weirdest thing. And so when I learned about Defcon one is a response. The nervous system response to try to keep us safe. I was amazed and I laughed a little bit. I was like, oh, that's good fucker. Trying to stop me from creating my business. Good thing I didn't listen to it and launch the next day. The other thing about the launch is if you go back to September, 2020, oh, it may have been taken down because of the, um, Facebook, the Facebook policies, but I went live that the next day and it was. Terrible. That life video was so terrible because I was terrified, but let me tell you what, it wasn't not done. It was done. I did it. I did the worst live ever, and I've never done another terrible one as terrible since then. And then I'm not even judging. I'm so proud of myself. The next day after having been sick, going live, being like, okay, this is my dream. It's coming true. I'm really excited about it. Meanwhile, I'm like dying inside because my ego's like, don't do this to us. It's so unsafe. But we did it anyway and now I go live all the time. It is super fun. The second one was when I was scheduled to launch my podcast, so January, 2025. Remember of course, waiting till the last minute and I was on vacation with my family. We were at the beach, and I said, okay. I just, you know what? Like I can't figure this out. I'll do it later. I'll do it later. But this is the value of having someone support you, right? Because I had set myself up in a program, I was in a little mastermind of all of these women who still have amazing podcasts. We still meet regularly and they said, absolutely not. You are gonna be publishing this podcast. And there was one woman who said, and I'm going to sit with you on the computer until you figure it out. We're gonna do it together. I felt like I couldn't breathe. I was sitting there like, I think I'm having a panic. A panic attack. But by that time I knew what it was. I knew what it was. I knew it was Defcon one trying to get me to stop doing what I was doing because if I published that podcast, that was gonna mean something upgraded for my identity. And my nervous system was terrified. It was terrified. And the one that's recent, the one that's recent is. Gosh, it's kind of all happening at once. I, I have one more set of plane tickets to purchase for our multi-city trip to Europe in a couple of weeks, and every time I have bought a set of plane tickets, I have had to navigate this DEFCON one because. If I actually create, manifest this dream of taking my my family to Europe, my family to France, it is gonna mean something different about my identity. Now, it doesn't mean anything about my worthiness. Okay? 'cause we've talked about that we're worthy because we are. But it is gonna mean something about my identity. It is gonna mean I'm the kind of woman who takes our family to France, which is really fun to dream about and it's a whole different ball game when we're doing about it. And so before, I've actually had a call in support and say, listen, I'm having way too much anxiety. I can't even read this free. Can you please help me find the right plane ticket ticket to get to France? That is the power of asking for and receiving support from someone who's been there, done that and can hold your hand, link your. Arms with you and to create the way with you. So that's Defcon one. I also. Get especially nervous around tax, tax time, even though I've only had to pay taxes one time because we're pretty good with money in terms of the business and keeping our ducks in a row and things like that. But every time I wait till the last minute and I start to wake up at night, like super worried about it and then it, you know, it takes a few hours and it, we get it. Shake it out. I'm sure it's gonna be like that too. I need to write down, well, what would I love for that? But whenever I think about tax season, I guess it's better this season than it has been before. I typically go into def con mode where it's like a little bit of anxiety, some panic, like, and doing the tools that I'm sharing with you on the podcast. I'm able to navigate that. Plus I have, um, support for my coach. The fourth d, we've got two more is disdain, and disdain is fed by our pain. Our resentment by our blame towards ourself or towards other people. And instead of focusing on our next level, the vision that we're creating for our next level, we might instead be rehearsing stuff that happened a while ago. Things that hurt us in the past. So you might be thinking about an argument you had or a resentment that you're carrying around or some sort of other issue in the past and be thinking about, God, why did I let that person say that to me? Why did I do that? Why did he do that? Why did she do that? And then you might turn it as a weapon against yourself and start saying things like, I'm so stupid. Like, how could I have let myself be lied to? Like, it's so infuriating. So this energy of disdain, whether it's external to someone or something else. Or more likely if you're a woman, it's internal. Some of the things that we say to ourself, I just wanna get up all up in your head and all up in your heart and say, let's be kind to my friend. Be kind to my friend. And so that's the fourth D that tries to get in the way if the others don't work. So your nervous system has gone with dis persuasion. Blanche is just chirping to you about all the reasons you can't do it. The second is distraction. So instead of moving on your goal, you get distracted by everything else. The third is Defcon. Literally your body starts to shut down. You get angry, you get tired. You get tired. Is is one, sometimes when I read books about money, I get really tired. That's my system. And if DEF Con doesn't work, then we're gonna go to disdain. The barriers, the obstacles, the challenges that our nervous system in society pitch up against. Our dreams are so powerful and our only job this week is to be awake to when they show up. So this fourth one is disdain. It's the disdain towards others. Maybe you're still holding onto that resentment from first grade, from that teacher who said your handwriting was messy. Part of this work is gonna be being done with that. It may not be that serious. It may not be as lengthy a go, but you could be mad at your husband or your wife, or your partner, or your business partner or your pastor or whatever. All of that energy. Is taking away from energy, you have to advance your next level, and oftentimes we weaponize it against ourselves. Again, it's not a personal thing, it's just the way that we're set up as a society, and the best news of the day is we get to be awake at the wheel of our own life. We get to be in front of things when they show up. The dis persuasion, the distraction, the def con, and the disdain. So that we can use the tools that I'm gonna lay at your feet in the next episodes to navigate them, overcome them, move through them, be with them. And the last D, the last one, five out of five is deficiency. And it's the feeling like you're lacking something, like you're missing something like you're not enough, like you're not good enough or wealthy enough, or smart enough or confident enough, and it's fed by all these thoughts of you're not good enough. And thinking, and feeling. That's rooted in lack and limitation. So for example. I have a client who is positioning herself for a promotion and a raise. Can I get an amen? Or she's thinking about leaving, which, I mean, that's a whole journey, but the limiting paradigms of deficiency are saying to her, you don't have the skills, you don't have the credentials, you don't have the, this, you are a mom. You don't have as much time as somebody who can work 80 hours a week. You don't, you don't, you don't, you don't, you don't, you don't. You don't. All those deficiency thoughts. And remember, sometimes they are coming from the external, but most of the time, especially for us, they're coming from the inside. They're coming from the inside, and that's the best, the worst news maybe, but it's also the best news because if it's coming from the inside, guess what else we can generate from the. The antidote for these, the antidote for deficiency, the antidote for disdain, the antidote for Defcon one, the antidote for distraction, the antidote for dis persuasion, so your next level becomes inevitable, unstoppable, and you're able to easily navigate and notice when each of these things come up so that you can continue to move forward to create the next level that you are dreaming about. So we're gonna stop here. I'm gonna give you a little bit of life work between now and the next time we meet. Are we ready? So you've heard all of the Ds. We're noticing the gap between where we are right now. And what, what we would love to create for our next level. And we know that once we've gotten clearer in our notebook, what we would love, all of these Ds are gonna come strip naked, set themselves on fire and dance naked like they're in Zumba class, in your driveway with the explicit purpose of keeping you safe so you do not back your car out of the driveway and advance towards your dream. They're there for a reason to keep you safe, which most of the time means the same, and you staying the same is not the assignment. You staying safe and small and say, and slowing things down is not your assignment. It's not your purpose. It's not your next level. And so in order to be equipped and ready. To create what is required in your next level. We're going to be awake to these these, so when you notice what you're noticing, you're gonna see these limiting paradigms and see this old programming or current programming rise up. Knowing that those paradigms are what create the gap between Island Day, where you are right now, which admittedly probably isn't, that you're probably in a great place, aren't you? I know you are because if you're listening to this podcast, we're talking about not even a good to great situation. You are ready for great two phenomenal Next level is not good to great. It's great to phenomenal. That's who you're, that's what's available for you. And the power tools that you'll walk away with to navigate each of these limiting paradigms will make you and your next level unstoppable. So my friend, this week, you're going to notice the gap. You're just gonna notice where you are, where you would love to be, and we're not judging or shaming or blaming. We are done with that. Take off your robe, judge Judy, and put on your spiritual scientist white. Because we're gonna get curious and notice what we notice with the gentleness and intrigue of a scientist, not a judge. We're gonna notice the frequency of where we are. We're gonna notice the frequency of where we would love to be, where we're headed, and we're gonna keep our glasses on and our eyes wide open, awake at the wheel of our own life. Because once you decide for your dream, my friend, this is what's gonna show up. The voice in your head that tells you you can't do it, the distraction on your phone. That tells you there's something more important than you fulfilling your assignment. Your body might betray you with anxiety or stomach bug or panic or whatever it is. The sickness might get in through your mind and make you resent and and even hate yourself or others. And. You're gonna be comparing and looking and judging yourself as not good enough, not because you have some sort of issue with your character, because this is what happens when you create your next level. Do you hear me? It has nothing to do with you and your moral character. You are worthy and deserving, and incredible and amazing, and a child of the most high God and spirit of the universe and creator of all things. That is who you are. And the five Ds are tools of your nervous system and society to keep women safe and small. And so we're gonna be done with that one power tool at a time. And the tool you're gonna use this week is simply to notice which one of the five Ds is showing up for you. Is it dis persuasion? Is it distraction? Is it Defcon one? Is it disdain? Is it deficiency? They probably all showed up to this party. If you're listening to the podcast, they may have all shown up in this episode. I wanna hear from you. You can DM me on Instagram. Which one of the DS is showing up for you? What's it sound like? How's it feeling your body? What are you noticing now that you're awake at the wheel of your own life and if you feel so called forward by this next level vision that you're creating, if those Ds have gotten in the way of you doing the thing that you would always have loved to do, that you have always wanted to do, that you would absolutely love to do, and you haven't been able to figure out how to navigate those on your own. You need to schedule a conversation with me and for a limited time. Uh, the podcast is live today. There are spots for you today. Go in the show notes, set up your deep dive conversation with me. It's completely free, the first one. And in that conversation we're gonna get real on what your dream is and which of the D'S is sabotaging it. Which of the D's dis persuasion distraction. Defcon one disdain is getting in the way between your point a. Of where you are now and your point B of you being in the middle of your next level. I would, it would be such an honor for me to walk you through that process. Especially if you are looking into high level mentorship, coaching support so that your next level is inevitable and it doesn't take you 10 years and you don't have to wait until your kids leave the house and you don't have to wait until you have more money in the bank account and you don't have to wait until you're going to the gym five days a week. You don't have to wait for any of that. Today is the day you might just be deciding, I'm gonna go for it and go for, it might mean just one conversation with me. Who's gonna hold space and clarity for your dream so that by the time you leave, you have remembered who you are, remembered what is possible for you, and decided that your next level is inevitable. That's what one conversation with me will do. So as we wrap today, we talked about you noticing the gap. We explored the five Ds dis persuasion distraction, DEFCON one, disdain in deficiency, and you made a commitment to stay awake at the wheel of your own life this week so that you can notice now that you have created your next level blueprint, which of these limiting paradigms is getting in the way? What it looks like, what it feels like, what it sounds like. And you might even just look at it and wave and say, I see you. Don't judge it. Don't shame it. Don't beat it. Don't chase after it. Notice it. Be with it. Maybe even wave and say, I see you, and then join us again. Our episode of her next level next week before you go, I love you. I'm so proud of you. I'm so grateful for you and your next level showing up for this podcast week after week after week, not just to hope that you were gonna create something amazing, but to commit, decide, and be transformed through your next level. I love you so much. I'll see you next week. Whoa. Did you just feel what I felt? 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