
The Fairy Elephant Effect
Welcome to The Fairy Elephant Effect Podcast, a space where we’ll explore the powerful, often hidden influences that shape our lives. Each week, we’ll dive into themes from my book, The Fairy Elephant Effect, as well as other topics that help us unpack how our experiences and beliefs shape the lives we live. Together, we’ll examine how words and actions—both our own and those of others—can leave lasting imprints, holding us back from living authentically and fully. Once a month, we’ll feature an inspiring interview with someone who has navigated their own journey of transformation and healing.
My mission is to support you in creating a life you truly love, where you not only love yourself but also truly like and accept every part of who you are.
Welcome to The Fairy Elephant Effect—where everything starts and ends with you.
The Fairy Elephant Effect
“When the Emotional Story Still Leads – Even When You Know Better”
In this powerful episode, Elysabeth explores the frustrating and familiar experience of falling back into old patterns — even after doing mindset work, healing practices, or gaining insight. She challenges the idea that these setbacks are failures, instead framing them as responses from the emotional body, not the logical mind.
We all have two minds:
- The Logical Mind wants progress, makes plans, sets intentions, and often “knows better.”
- The Emotional Mind stores experiences, associations, and emotional imprints that shaped our survival patterns.
These old emotional stories — formed when we were young — can quietly lead our behaviors, even if we think we’ve “outgrown” them. They whisper things like:
- “Stay invisible.”
- “Don’t trust too easily.”
- “Be perfect or you’ll get hurt.”
Elysabeth explains that this isn’t resistance — it’s recognition from your nervous system. It’s your body remembering what happened last time you spoke up, stood out, or relaxed.
The episode invites us to stop blaming ourselves and instead understand that true healing comes from:
- Emotional awareness
- Creating safety within
- Body-based integration, not just mindset shifts
This is the heart of The Fairy Elephant Effect — returning to your truth by honouring the emotional story, not bypassing it.
💭 Reflection Questions from the Episode:
- What emotional story is still leading, even though you logically know better?
(Think about an area where you keep repeating a pattern despite knowing it’s not serving you.) - Where are you responding from protection, not presence?
(Are you shrinking, people-pleasing, over-performing, or staying small to feel safe?) - What role have you been unconsciously playing… and who are you beneath it?
(Notice if you've identified with roles like “the fixer,” “the strong one,” “the invisible one,” etc.)
Key Reminder from Elysabeth:
“You don’t need to fix yourself — you need to return to your truth.”
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