For a long time, hyper-independence felt like strength. When people disappoint you enough times, you learn to rely on yourself. You learn not to ask for help. You learn to solve everything alone.  But over tim...

 December pulls us home with a lot of expectation — vibes, people, memories, fun 🎄✨ But sometimes you arrive and realise… things aren’t the same. And neither are you.  In this episode, I reflect o...

On this episode of whateva this is 🎙️, I’m reflecting on the many “firsts” we all face — from swapping seats on a flight, to learning a skill, to big life changes like starting a new job or moving somewhere new. First exper...

 I’m back on whateva this is 🎙️ to talk about the expectations we set for ourselves and the timelines we’re “supposed” to hit ⏳. From family pressure 👪 to personal milestones 🎯, life rarely happens the way we imagined it — ...

A two-minute walk-and-talk on why chasing beauty in a culture that was never built to see you will only shrink what makes you unforgettable. In this short reflection, I unpack how beauty standards are shaped by history, culture, and power - and...

What if healing isn’t a destination, but a messy group project you never signed up for?In this raw solo Q&A, I answer the kinds of questions that don’t always come with neat answers: Are you more afraid of heartbreak...

 Three weeks, two Beyoncé concerts, and one very fried brain later… I’m back! 😅 This one’s a voice note from the edge — unscripted, unfiltered, and deeply unserious (but also kinda real). I talk about: – Tryi...

 Altyn just turned the big 3-0, and we had things to say. From the chaos of our 20s to the calm (kinda?) of our 30s, we reflect on the glow-ups, the letdowns, and the weird in-between. 😅💅🏾 We’re talking friendship glow...

In this episode, Elavisa and I take it waaay back to the wild world of African schooling — from the chalk-dusted classrooms to the chaos of punishments and the sting of the cane 🥲📏. We’re talking strict headmasters, creepy teachers<...

This week on Whatever This Is, Deniz and I dive into the unexpected side of weight loss—losing friendships. From childhood dietitian visits 🍏📏 to shedding the Fat Funny Friend identity 😂➡️😶, we unpack why some fr...

In Part 2, Elavisa gets real about the mess of dating while Black in Germany 🇩🇪. From cringe-worthy openers 🙈 to dealing with fetishization, biases, and stereotypes 💭, she shares the unfiltered truth behind the struggles. B...

In this episode, I sat down with Elavisa to spill all the tea on dating while Black in Germany. From awkward openers to straight-up fetishization, biases, and stereotypes, we get into the wild, weird, and sometimes wonderful reali...

The gym should smell like hard work and determination—not like expired onions and wet dog. 🤢💀 Some of y’all are out here deadlifting 100kg but can’t lift a damn washcloth. WHY?! 🚿😭 Let’s talk about gym hygiene, body odour, ...

This week on Whatever This Is, we're going international! I chat with Felix about the ins and outs of dating in Germany. From average first date ideas (beyond the beer garden!), to Berlin's unique winter dating scene (and summer break-up phenom...

Welcome to the first episode of Whatever This Is! In this episode, I sit down with @kasenteng to explore the emotions that often come with the post-Christmas and New Year period. We talk about the pressure of New Year’s resolutions, th...