Healing Her Story with Riva Jean-Paul

5 Things a Trauma-Informed Therapist Would Never Say

Riva Jean-Paul

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This week's Healing Her Story episode is a fiery one, intentionally timed with Aries season.

Over the years, Riva has heard things said in therapeutic spaces that stopped her in her tracks. Things said in places that are supposed to be safe. Places where people go to heal.

But this carries profound wisdom about what truly trauma-informed care looks and feels like.

In this episode, Riva shares 5 phrases that have no place in trauma-informed healing, drawing from her own lived experience, her work supporting women, and the research that backs it all up.

She covers:

"You're just sensitive" and why dismissal activates the nervous system's threat response

"You should..." and why prescribing someone's healing path undermines lasting change

"Just let it go" and why the body cannot be forced to release before it feels safe

Interpreting your spiritual or psychedelic experience and why meaning must come from within

Toxic positivity and why rushing past pain is its own form of invalidation

If something has ever felt off in a therapeutic space but you couldn't name why,  this episode will give you the language.

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