Pathfinders
Welcome to Pathfinders! I’m your host, Jessa, and in this podcast, I bring you heartfelt conversations with those who have found their own paths in life while dealing with its challenges. My hope is that it inspires you to make choices that feel true to you so that you can live your life in the most authentic and fulfilling way.
Pathfinders
Navigating Self-Trust and Boundaries: Insights into Healing and Growth with Ruth Clare
In this insightful episode, I’m reunited with Ruth Clare for an in-depth conversation about emotional healing, vulnerability, and learning to trust oneself. We reflect on the themes from the first episode, focusing on the impact of growing up in unsafe home and how that leads to an external validation system where you have learned to look to others for validation that you’re okay.
This episode emphasizes the significance of connecting with oneself and others, offering support for those dealing with childhood trauma.
Ruth and I share personal stories of using journaling, artist dates, and acknowledging personal likes to reconnect with oneself. We also discuss the challenges of parenting differently from how we were parented and understanding the nuances of setting boundaries in relationships. Additionally, various techniques like the 'stop, drop, and feel' approach to manage triggered states are highlighted to help regulate the nervous system.
About Ruth Clare:
Ruth Clare is a TEDx and motivational keynote speaker, MC and panel facilitator, award-winning author, connected communication and embodied speaking coach, mental health, child voice activist and former professional actor. Through her own lived experiences, she knows what it's like to be in survival mode and how to get out of it. She has a desire to break stigmas, speak up for those who have been silenced and help people who are facing adversities to become resilient.
Ruth’s TedTalk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=orOJb8MDaGk
Ruth’s Website: https://ruthclare.com
Ruth’s Books: https://ruthclare.com/books/
Ruth’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruthclareauthor/?hl=en
00:00 Welcome Back: Reflecting on Episode One
01:07 The Impact of Childhood on Self-Trust
04:48 Rediscovering Personal Identity
13:43 Navigating Relationships and Boundaries
19:58 The Power of Journaling and Self-Reflection
25:33 Communicating Needs in Friendships
32:10 The Power of Boundaries
33:49 Parenting Challenges and Boundaries
35:05 Reflecting on Childhood and Parenting
36:38 Navigating Parenting with Trauma
38:15 Trusting Yourself as a Parent
43:52 Balancing Parenting Styles
47:26 Nervous System Reset Techniques
56:12 Final Thoughts and Encouragement