EP77.愛的能力2-分享自我價值

靈性成長/情感課題

很多人以為結婚代表找到幸福，但真正的幸福，來自於是否具備「愛的能力」。

本集從愛的能力第二層──分享自我價值出發，探討婚姻真正考驗的，不是激情，而是溝通、理解、表達與共同成長。我們也將透過東西方文化差異、真實案例，以及邱吉爾夫婦五十多年的婚姻智慧，重新理解：健康的關係，不是沒有衝突，而是願意一起成長。

如果愛是一門課，那婚姻，就是最深的一堂課。

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本集重點

一、婚姻，是提升愛的能力最快的修煉場

* 戀愛靠感覺，婚姻靠能力。
* 愛不是依附，而是彼此成長。

二、愛的第二層：分享自我價值

* 表達自己的感受。
* 肯定彼此的付出。
* 尊重彼此不同的價值觀。

三、為什麼很多婚姻不是輸給沒愛，而是輸給不會表達？

* 東方習慣用行動表達愛。
* 西方較習慣說出口。
* 講話，是最低成本、最高價值的投資。

四、爭吵，其實是了解彼此的開始

* 事件只有10%。
* 90%來自彼此如何回應。
* 每一次衝突，都在訓練理解與溝通。

五、真正健康的婚姻

* 保有自己的空間。
* 保有自己的成長。
* 兩個不完美的人，一起面對人生。

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靈性成長/情感課題

「很多人不是在談戀愛，而是在找止痛藥。」

「婚姻經營靠的不是感覺，而是能力。」

「講話，是最便宜，也是最有價值的成本。」

「爭吵不是關係的終點，而是理解彼此的入口。」

「婚姻結束，不代表人生失敗；真正的失敗，是沒有學會成長。」

Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:00

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SPEAKER_00 3:31

Sui ta tai hui si that deosen, yo si young ying the same curti like su ego di and si.

SPEAKER_01 3:38

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SPEAKER_00 4:28

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SPEAKER_01 4:34

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SPEAKER_00 5:32

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SPEAKER_01 5:41

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SPEAKER_00 6:15

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SPEAKER_01 6:23

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SPEAKER_00 7:03

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SPEAKER_01 8:08

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SPEAKER_00 8:39

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SPEAKER_01 9:11

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unknown 22:01

I think it's a good thing.

SPEAKER_01 22:27

So you can see the Jose Mai Yun.

SPEAKER_00 22:50

Do I put that? Do I need to mean teeth are down it sees the drunk higher gun? Just how show your mother courtesy ho fang or do it song in the ping ni fang hoji sangsu now to hold one go to kai tongue so you sing the dongsing.

SPEAKER_01 23:33

Sad like two beyond your meals of tea sensitive quiet. Nama Tui Honor sensu na Yai Two eager song chia. Younger Lao Ting a long each suit and guan she ping pussy out to mo also need the shing for a ting yenna eats the changle the poquila can say yen li shing tan so y fang e so. She won't woman may eager in a chi yo eye eager in the li kai e to and puti and kan guan chi the yo chi buyo high past children hurn. Ching hung the guan china busiango wan made the insai chi uh shoot liango yuang yi ten sang the run, each me and to po waneda rensen. Ai, bo sui si chi ten champ period no, uh sinyao bau yot si a tongsi, ye yuang yi shu di chi toi fang, tang suen song sangwe shi guan guan shi pien and go tang jok, tang tensang sangwe fang shan, aye pien and go sio tong. Sui in uh senh, you tina ju like woo chang iwa jing nian kan chi open ma. Now how jokung wo si wo si I ming shang the shokeway don't jing yu shu way like an tafan shang sha. Sensun yu chang suing tang song the eye than lina says yang i pandan liang e do ka. Henduran she boosted tang eye.

SPEAKER_00 24:49

Honduran she says out hung yo su the gutan chi mo now to eagle that pepang.

SPEAKER_01 24:56

Now who shangin sang cob the hwing boosit the doubt one me's high jinglu a s may tang song trifu shanfu. How's one hung eye cheese on shing tong u tie to the qi chi la chi the hung eyeshi.

SPEAKER_00 25:11

Ju si tubus iso fang the zoo. Then how she too sang bio chin's o thing who the seal twinsong the she cho the so pe each me and do it won't he can couldn't just him. So urging hue uh shing sang.

SPEAKER_01 25:33

Now ni hai shing tong yung sensi the hu. Sui ruo, tang eager and rang so to be sensi pe di chi bay fang zai shing sang wang one tose eye the hen chi ni two the hun do the fang sh ni tea se and the zoma be usually lighter. Now one ta any issue the sum ya one saname the can or song cheese do easy tea may do shui how the e s you always on woon on the gun so it fang cheese is your can't doubt the zongtai opinion does be can chin the mm how the nina cheese is your eager her shing Shing the moon thing the two Tang Shing won't think the shoner guan she hadn't go won't think Ching shoots happy eyes hen and goes yoga. I think it's a very good thing. Yo soji the young eating sio eager fangsang now how to e fang yet yung i each can eat changer fangshan, i no y can ching shing. Yo sing the huhua tensen. Doe na hundu and those ka ching ji ten ye ha kaze. Yang are just a song to like y meo shen qi double that yeshi gong tong chin swang zama o meao to the six the may young fangsi but she taugu how the ho woman pu fang yo han do the quin lao. Naho say song song jin sa tri kai swang li younger each one the shima.

SPEAKER_00 27:32

We can't down it say the guan si ni me and uh put on a trees cow che to e fang han do either y and the goo di Io Nizinama Chianghua said sweeping the temple.

SPEAKER_01 27:44

Sweep young so has it sweet how to eat the temple. She ta shanger n go fen shang ni me kai tai geni ishi putu yang the si we n'go teni the sungo tang song lugo ni jinza hui ni yo shen the ping ching. Shi wang se jinan nang go pang ni ta kai eating is shing the ho, ng go to fo ni, ng go tai ni me sets out su e gir, shing the fang si. In way tang su shia hung eating the kai shing the ma. Then the tangsu the wo dos the hang kai shing now eh melting the ma ting do shing the suya sibusi do not ru the fangfa suha song si can su ma today now case our shuanghua today. Toting on paces and then all the biotasong teachy dou chin saying cheese chi ta chang gets double the bell's hard. Just key but si the turds say young put on the chin sick and can the chia too. Has on the chuck in can do handus, and I'm not sure. May so many as it's go on the quanchi nimi and so the guan she can hang the guan she ran. She tachia or she shin such in the twenty sing woman, she was a gin low.