The Answer Isn't In Your Head

Most people stall out waiting for clarity before they act. But clarity isn't something you think your way to--it's something you build by moving.

In this final episode of Changeology's three-part series on the zones of change, host and life coach Meg Trucano breaks down the momentum zone: the messy middle of personal change where behavior starts to shift, identity begins to catch up, and the old version of your life fights hard to pull you back.

If you've been stuck in analysis paralysis — mentally running every scenario, waiting for certainty before you make a move — this episode reframes what you're actually waiting for.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why action produces clarity faster than contemplation ever could
• How the momentum zone's version of "interruption" is different from earlier stages of change
• Why self-trust is built after you move, not before — and what that actually looks like in practice
• How small, concrete actions in your career or relationships generate the real data you need to make better decisions
• How to identify which zone of change you're in so you're using the right strategy

Whether you're navigating a career pivot, a relationship crossroads, or a quieter but persistent sense that something needs to shift, this episode gives you a framework for getting unstuck — without waiting until you feel ready.

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Transcript

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[00:00:00] Speaker: Welcome back to Change Ology. This is the final episode in a three episode series that explores zones of change in the first episode. We talked about the instability zone, and this is the place where change happens to you. The rug gets pulled out from beneath you. Your system moves into survival mode, and the work in the instability zone is orientation and stabilization.

In the second episode, we talked about the tension zone, which is where you desperately want change, but nothing has moved yet. You're stuck. Desire is allowed. Dissatisfaction is growing, and the work in this zone is interruption, interruption of old narratives and old thought patterns and old behavior patterns.

But today we're going to focus on what happens after that interruption. This is what I call the momentum zone. And make no mistake, the momentum zone is the messiest zone of change. This is where things start moving. This is where behavior begins to shift. This is where your self-concept, AKA, your identity starts catching up with what you're actually doing.

Because movement is happening, right? Things are not neat. Things are not perfect. This is the messy middle. So throughout this mini series, we've been talking about our relationship with change in each of these zones, right? As well as our relationship to clarity within each of these zones because. Clarity is something that when we're facing a big change, we want more than anything.

We want to be clear. We want to be certain, right? But clarity is actually not available or accessible in the instability zone or in the tension zone, right? You really, really want it that there's work in both of those zones that needs to be done before you can arrive at clarity, before it even becomes possible.

I wanna take a moment to talk about clarity here, because one of the biggest misconceptions about change and about how to do it, how to make it stick for long term, is that you need clarity before you take action and hypothetically, logically on the surface this makes sense. Of course, you want to know where you're going before you start moving.

You know, look before you jump, we've all heard this, but psychologically. And in practice it's often the reverse. Taking action helps clarify the direction you want to be going in. Why is that? Well, taking action gives you feedback. I wanna take a small kind of stupid, frankly example to explain this mechanism.

So. You have a meeting at 3:00 PM and you're, you're really excited about it, but you pass by a burger joint on your way into work and you're like, oh, that sounds so good. I really want a burger. So you order a burger for lunch. You eat the burger, and then you show up to your 3:00 PM meeting and you feel like garbage.

So you don't have the mental bandwidth to contribute meaningfully in this meeting that you were looking forward to, which does not align with your goals of being a thought leader in, in your industry. Right. That is feedback. So now you know something. Could you have predicted it? Yeah, absolutely. But now you have actual concrete data.

Next time you have a 3:00 PM meeting, you are not going to get the burger for lunch. Right? The same principle of action feedback. Corrective action applies to much bigger and more like, frankly, more important areas of our lives. Take some kind of career change. Okay? Let's say you want to make a career change, but you don't really know what you want it to look like, and you're stuck in this imagination thought loop, right?

Imagining your way forward isn't going to get you very far, but action will. For example, you might volunteer for a different type of project at work. You might consult part-time, you might take on a short contract on the side. You might take an online class in a work related or hell unrelated topic that interests you.

Right. What action reveals is incredibly valuable because in these just a very short list of things that you can do, actions you can take, it can show you what kind of work actually holds your attention, what skills or tasks energize you versus drain you. And you know, could answer something like whether your dissatisfaction in work, that is the reason you want to make a change in your career.

Maybe it was role specific, maybe it was related to the tasks. Maybe it's systemic, maybe it was related to the team, right? Like. All of these actions will answer some of these questions for you, right? The upshot here is that you, you really can't think your way through these kinds of questions to find clarity.

You figure it out. By experimenting and by testing moment momentum, and again, we're in the momentum zone here. Momentum is built through action. And that action creates feedback, and that feedback creates the clarity that you're really craving here, and it creates clarity way faster and way more comprehensively than contemplation ever could.

Why? Well, if you're imagining or thinking about possible outcomes, possible paths, possible decisions, any decision that you think of in your head has. A very large number of possible outcomes, right, like almost infinite you could think of, and that quickly becomes overwhelming. You're trying to think through all of these things in your head, but experimenting by taking action, there's only one outcome, and that is what actually happened.

Okay, let's take a look at another example of this in kind of motion. So maybe. You want a stronger relationship with your romantic partner. Let's say that's a goal of yours, but right now you're kind of dissatisfied with how things feel, right? Maybe you're resentful about how many daily responsibilities fall on your plate and 'cause of that resentment.

Maybe your sex life isn't where you want it to be. Maybe you don't feel connected in the way you used to, right? So. Instead of mentally having conversations with yourself and deciding whether you should continue the relationship for the long term, try something smaller. Try taking action, right? Maybe try naming a single desire that you have, that you've been minimizing that might be a source of resentment.

So, for example, maybe you tell your partner that you want to wake up in the morning with the countertops and sink clear, no dishes, no crap all over the countertops. Maybe you could ask your partner to cover bath time with your little kids for 15 minutes after dinner so that you can decompress by yourself.

Right? By the way, these are all real requests that I've asked of my partner and I got some really great feedback as a result of those experiments, he actually did them and my resentment disappeared. Okay. Taking action produces real concrete feedback. Okay? You ask your partner these couple of things. It will reveal to you whether there's room for your full self in the relationship.

Right? If he's like, if your partner's like, hell no. You know, I'm not gonna put in the effort to clear the countertops so you can have a smoother morning. That's really good to know. That's great info, right?It could also reveal how conflict is actually handled in your relationship. It could give you feedback about whether your partner cares enough to make a genuine effort to meet your desire.

Maybe you could evaluate whether your sense of connection and intimacy increases or decreases as a result of asking this thing of them, right. Unvoiced desires kind of keep everything theoretical and stuck in your head, right? But action gives you real data and you can respond to real data, right? You can't respond to having a conversation in your head, and I know I'm not the only person out there who does this and has full fledged conversations in our heads, but responding to conversations 

in our heads doesn't get us very far. Right? Relationships require relating. You can't have an entire relationship in your head, and if you are, it's time to get that out into action. Okay? Relationships reveal themselves in response. Okay? So. You might remember that in the tension zone, the work there was interruption.

It's interrupting the automatic patterns that keep your life running on autopilot and keep change out of reach in the momentum zone. Where we are now, that messy middle interruption hasn't disappeared. We're still doing that work. It's just changed its outfit a little bit here in the momentum zone.

Interruption isn't about waking up, it's about staying awake. So instead of kind of identifying those automatic patterns and doing that interruption, you interrupt the old patterns that are trying to reassert themselves in new and interesting ways. Right? Maybe you interrupt the poll to slide back into a familiar role, a familiar argument, a familiar way of thinking about yourself.

Right. Because as you start taking action and experimenting with change the old version of your life, how you did things before, it's gonna try and reclaim control because that's what you know, it's familiar. And I really love to think about these automatic patterns, which by the way can be thought patterns, behavior patterns, really anything that.

Has become automatic or habitual. Right? I love to think about these things as being well worn tire tracks on a country road when that country road is, is new, right? You can drive anywhere along that road, but once those roads are more traveled and. Tire tracks ruts appear, right? It becomes extremely difficult to travel down that country road outside of those.

Well worn tiger tracks, right? Like it's a bumpy ass ride. And it's the same thing here. It's gonna feel a little weird. It's maybe even gonna feel straight up wrong to do things differently, right? But the important point here is that staying awake. And continuing to focus on that process of interrupting these automatic patterns allows you the mental space to be able to interpret the feedback that you're getting from those actions a lot more clearly.

And then this is when the most powerful thing begins to happen. As you take action, you start to collect and respond to feedback, and you begin to integrate it into your life. You start building self trust and when you try something different, be it in your work life, in your relationships, how you think about yourself, really any of these ways.

You build self-trust because you're moving the needle and you're subsequently clarifying what you do or don't want. And when you know, say you voice a desire in your relationship, you demonstrate to yourselves self that your needs matter too. And that is a huge part of relationships, right.

This whole process of action and feedback and subsequently clarifying, make space for yourself, and that is where self-trust loves to hang out. Okay. Over time, self-trust looks like cleaner, faster decision making. The, like fewer justifications, but like the desire to justify your choice just diminishes.

Like, you, you don't care what people think because you're just doing it because you need to do it or want to do it. There's less self-doubt and less second guessing. There might even be an increased tolerance for ambiguity for not being perfectly 100% clear or certain. You don't need that certainty as much as you once did because again, it's all a process of experimentation trying to figure it out.

You, you're able to exist in that liminal zone and hold that for a lot longer. Right. That's a, that's a huge part of self-trust. So. Here's kind of the key idea. Self-trust is built after you move and take action, not before. So please don't wait for self-trust to arrive before you make a move, before you take action, because it won't.

It's developed on route and. Just a note that if you are in that messy middle right now, where you are experimenting, you're getting that feedback, you're putting it together, you're clarifying what it all means, that can be exactly the moment where an outside perspective can really help you sharpen that clarification.

For the month of March in 2026, I've opened a small number of clarity calls for listeners who want a focused space to step back from all the noise, all the data, and figure out what decision is actually in front of them. It's totally free 30 minute chat, and if you think that sounds useful to you, you can find the link in the show notes.

But again, the point at which you begin to really cultivate that self-trust is also the point when the momentum zone gets really juicy and it's where the work shifts from Insight, oh shit. Yeah. Into integration. And this is where you begin living that change, you actually become the person you wanted to change into, frankly.

So. Let's take a a step back and bring this entire series together and tie the zones together. Change unfolds through different zones, and each zone asks something different of you and requires a different psychological orientation. Right? So if you're in that first zone, the instability zone, your job is not to decide your future.

That is way too advanced for that zone. Your job is to stabilize, to name and to grieve what actually ended for you and to quiet that urgency enough for your decision making agency to come back online. That's it. The instability zone is frankly no fun, but that's how you get through it if you're in the tension zone.

Also not very fun because it's very uncomfortable. But again, clarity isn't missing here. It's not available. It's buried. It's buried under the rules you've created for yourselves. The, insidious shoulds that we've talked about in previous episodes, expectations of you, other people's expectations of you, and then those automatic patterns that haven't been interrupted.

This is the work of the tension zone. Interruption. An interruption is where conscious choice and that agency begins to take over again. And if you're in the third zone, the momentum zone, AKA, the messy middle action is the work. Here's where you actually get to take concrete action. Action gives you feedback, and that feedback sharpens clarity.

And this is how you cultivate self-trust in real time. Doing the work, showing up, taking the opportunity to clarify what the feedback from the action means. Okay. And just a reminder that these zones are their own entities, right? They aren't sequential. You don't have to graduate from one into the other.

They're totally different. None of these zones are better or worse, they just are. And. They're simply different from one another because of the form of kind of psychological orientation within each. So that being said, one of the biggest mistakes people make when they're trying to navigate one or the other of these zones is that they use the wrong strategy to move through the zone.

So. If you are like, okay, Meg, this is all great, this is really helpful, but like, where the hell do I start? Like, where do I even figure out which zone I'm in? Right? Here's what I'd invite you to do next. If you're listening and thinking, I'm actually not sure which zone I'm in, that's frankly a great place to start, and I created the personal change pattern assessment to help you figure that out. It's a short, free assessment, takes about five minutes, and it helps you identify the dominant psychological barrier to change.

And that's what helps you identify the automatic patterns that you need to interrupt. So if that interests you, it's in the show notes. You can find the link to the personal change pattern assessment there. But if you already know, for example, that you're in the tension zone, you want change, you feel that pressure, but you keep circling that same decision, you can't really get a a foothold.

That is exactly the work that we do inside the Real Change Kickstart. We're not forcing clarity. We're absolutely not mapping your entire future because again, that's premature. We are practicing interruption. We are dismantling outdated rules, exploring insidious shoulds, and ultimately restoring your ability to exercise agency and choose on purpose because change doesn't happen simply because you want it.

Or wanted more, right? It happens when your psychological system becomes well resourced and practiced enough to choose differently. Change really moves at the speed of capacity, not desire. And I want to say sincerely, wherever you are right now in your relationship to change, let that be your starting point and let it be enough.

Thank you so much for listening, and I can't wait to talk to you in the next episode of Changeology