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Bad Advice, Broken Myths: Rethinking Marriage

Martha Rice Season 2 Episode 41

In this refreshingly honest and insightful episode, I sat down with relationship coach Monica Tanner, whose upcoming book is set to shake the very foundation of what many couples believe about marriage. The book is titled “Bad Marriage Advice: 15 Myths That Will Make You Miserable”, and trust me, it’s the relationship wake-up call we didn’t know we needed.

Monica didn’t just study marriage, she’s been living and researching it since she was 12 years old, inspired by the pain of watching her parents’ divorce. With a background in family systems and relational therapy, Monica uses her own marriage as a living lab to test what really works and what absolutely doesn’t.

We dove into a few of the most dangerous myths she tackles in her book:
"Divorce is not an option” may sound noble, but it often kills motivation for real growth.

“Compromise is necessary” can leave both partners feeling like they’ve lost.

And the classic “Happy wife, happy life”? Monica calls it what it is toxic and one-sided.

Instead of these worn-out clichés, Monica champions curiosity, creativity, and collaboration in marriage. She helps couples move from resentment and reactivity to connection and intentionality.

Her approach? Relational Life Therapy, a no-nonsense, results-driven method that gets to the heart of the issue fast. She works with couples who are ready to stop playing emotional tug-of-war and start building something real together.

This interview is filled with wisdom, real talk, and a fresh take on what it means to build a mutually fulfilling marriage in today’s world. And Monica’s book? It’s not just advice, it’s a blueprint for truth-telling, heart-healing, and lasting love.

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