Helping.Mom
Army Vet goes home to care for mom.
Terry closed his restaurant in Texas to care for his elderly mom on their family farm in Indiana. What happened next, no one could have predicted. In this "Helping Mom" podcast, Terry gives fellow caregivers real-world tips and straight-talk motivation to love & serve those who loved & served us--our parents!
You can find his fast-read book "Beginnings" on Amazon Kindle & Softback.
Terry is disabled Army Veteran, with 4 university degrees, and proud Dad to 5 daughters. He has taught university in Europe, Asia & Africa. He completed Harvard University Faith & Leadership program. His work includes Soldier, attorney, champion basketball coach, and Fortune 500. His restaurant was 2-X Best of Region.
Terry is medical guardian to his mom, Sherry, and full-time caregiver to her brother, Uncle Perry, who also lives on their family farm. For his own therapy Terry raises pure AKC White German Shepherd pups for military veterans & other great families, thru his non-profit PatriotPups.org WOOF!
Terry welcomes your emails of your experiences, stories, tips and ideas, in addition to prayer requests, at Info@helping.mom
Episodes
48 episodes
Why We're Here. Sunday Musings
Daughter Vivian helps us today answer the age-old Q: why we are here, what we are supposed to be doing, and why. These are critical to know, as caregivers. Come let us study together.
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Episode 48
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12:09
Cell Phone Minimalism. Decluttering Mom's Phone
I think term "parental control" applies more to regulating your aging parent's cell phone, than your childrens'. Decluttering your mom's phone is like swatting mosquitos in Summer in Indiana--you gotta stay at it. It never stops. With her phone...
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Episode 47
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15:31
Self-Pity, How to climb out
Self-pity is the self-dug grave of caregivers. Why Me, Woe is Me. I dont deserve this, I didnt ask for this. Why dont they, When will they... SP is worsened by our culture of selfishness, our online/on-phone isolation, and breakdown in family s...
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Episode 46
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13:43
Wasted Words. Right use of Tongue in Caregiving
Nothing is more untrue than, "Sticks & Stones may break bones, BUT WORDS CAN NEVER HURT US." Every pain I have suffered in life, and most I have inflicted on others, has been the result of words--hateful words, mean words, destructive words...
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Episode 45
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13:53
Mental Minimalism. What Caregivers must NOT think about
What not to think about is the epitome of positive self-discipline. Think of the squirrel who loses half by thinking of all. The weight of wrong thinking submerges the caregiver, more than the doing of required tasks; our battles are more withi...
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Episode 44
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12:57
HOW to LOVE DAD. What’s his Love Language?
At helping.mom we also love dads! In fact, my hero is the man who does the hard, silent work of being dad, who daily stands by the stuff, with no appreciation. So, how do we love him? Who is he? How does he love us--in his own way? HOW can we b...
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Episode 43
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13:44
Sunday Musings. Meet the New Boss. Mom reads, The WHO sings
"Meet the New Boss," Pete Townsend wrote, in classic 1971 song "Wont Get Fooled Again." Not sure which is greater--Roger Daltry's scream there, or my mom reading Jesus Christ here in Matthew 9:16-17. Jesus is the New Boss, and he is not like th...
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Episode 42
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5:57
Unlocking DAD
Who is this man you are caring for, are married to, or are yourself? Do you know this man who sits quiet at kitchen table, alone, looking far outside? Do you know this man whom you call "sir?" Have you thought today what he is thinking about. D...
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Episode 41
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9:21
Caregiver SEX is Best!, and Caregivers are HOT
Caregiver sex is best. I repeat--caregiver sex is best. 50s-60s caregivers are HOT. Very Hot! No periods. Soft skin. Real hugs. Tempered thru life experiences. Established. Fit. Physically desirous. Accessible. Did I say--No pads, No periods, n...
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Episode 40
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9:45
SHOULD I DATE a WIDOW? your advice, please,...
Widows are like homeless--we define them by what they DONT have. Forever they are labeled in sadness & want. We never hear a Cyndi Lauper song, "Widows, just want to have fun--un!" Teen boys scarce scan their father's mags for a widow cente...
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Episode 39
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12:30
Widowhood in America. Widow Facts 2025
HOW do we know being a man married to a wife is MUCH harder than being a wife married to a man? Listen today, as Terry shares facts about widowhood in America. There are 14M widows in USA, and 3.5M widowers (man whose wife has died), with 50,00...
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Episode 38
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9:45
Sunday Musings. The Christ in Colossians Chapter 1:13-21
Paul says 10 things about Jesus Christ in this passage. He is image of God, God in flesh, God incarnate, thus fulfilling 10 Commandments. He is first in time and place over his Creation--which includes evil, dominions, powers & principaliti...
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Episode 37
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15:30
Estate Guardians Stay out of Jail (unlike mafia bookies)
The BLUF (bottom-line-up-front) to being an effective Estate Guardian for your mom is "DONT TOUCH THE MONEY!" Her assets are not your own. Dont blend them, steal them, share them, borrow from them or lend to them. Keep a meta-awareness of your ...
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Episode 36
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14:04
Medical Guardians play Accordion, like John Candy
Being the medical guardian for your parent is a sticky-wicket, of big picture + fine detail. Here we DO sweat the "small stuff," while trying to stay on the larger path of footsteps we take each day for our parent. Thankfully the pi...
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Episode 35
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17:49
DUMPSTER Party WooHoo! How to order, schedule & fill a trash dumpster
"The only cure for hoarding is a trash dumpster." --Terry Today is practical--how to order, schedule & fill a trash dumpster. Find a local company; order the 20-yd option at minimum, schedule it at least 2-wks out; get cheap lab...
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Episode 34
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17:13
Hoarding! HOW to CONQUER it? Boesch Answer vs Book Answer
Every military veteran in our country, 17 million strong, knows the "Book Answer" is the answer to a question we are required to memorize and regurgitate back, to pass the test, but which we know doesnt work. The book answer to "how to deal wit...
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Episode 33
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13:38
Hoarding! What is it? WHAT does YOUR mom/dad hoard???
Oh boy, a disease by degree, not kind. We all have the hoarding gene inside us, combining gluttony (lit "gulping down") with fear of want, not having. So, what does your parent hoard? My revelation in 2024: men hoard in barns, women hoard in ho...
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Episode 32
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8:22
Sunday Musings. Colossal Claims in Colossians. Chapter 1:9-14
In smallest letter to smallest church in smallest city, destroyed 2 years later, Paul declares colossal claims. He tells them 4 things they must do, because of 4 things God has done. Today we examine this twin-set of 4-things. Please join us. &...
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Episode 31
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15:11
Unhealthy Health. Badd Facts about USA & us
Honest truth today about American health, and its enormous costs personal & collective. Then one solid piece of helpful advice. Americans spend 2-X $ amount for health care than world, yet die 5-yrs before every other developed ...
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Episode 30
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11:19
Movement IS Medicine, by Howard Luks, MD
I follow Howard Luks, MD on X. He is one voice I listen for each day. He is an Orthopedic Surgeon n NYC. All thoughts today are his, so let me give him credit. Your fitness is your safety net, not $, insurance, govt program. (my wo...
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Episode 29
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9:20
Storms of Caregiver. Famine, the worst
Caregiver famine. It may be the worst storm. Want compounds, quickly. Every nation knows it. Every caregiver, too. Special words are invented to describe its awfulness. It may begin external, but it always includes the internal. My wife's lawye...
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Episode 28
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11:57
Storms of Caregiver. Hurricanes. Paul's Story
Hurricanes are 100mph, and 1000 miles wide--a draining bludgeoning of wind + water + waiting. Typhoons in Asia sometimes last 30-days. In USA the avg time is 6 days. The worst hurricane in US history? Not Florida, but TX. In Acts 27...
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Episode 27
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8:30
Storms of Caregiver. LIGHTNING. My Story
Lightning strikes the earth 8M times/day. It is 5X hotter than the sun, at 5BN volts, 50,000 degree temp, and shoots thru sky 30,000 times faster than a bullet. What is the lightning caregivers face, and how do we face it? Today I ...
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Episode 26
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11:36
Sunday Musings. Corban vs Cobain. 3-Level Care in Bible (self, family, church--p.s., NOT govt)
Daughter Vivian (9yoa) reads Bible to us from John 19:26-7; 1 Timothy 5:4, and; Mark 7:10-13. QUERY: Are we so spiritually minded, we are of no earthly good? Amidst our blessings from God, do we chuck grandmother into a government-provided nurs...
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Episode 19
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7:12
7 & 7 for Weekend (no, not THAT kind!). 7 Cheap things to DO with Mom & Dad
Mom is coming home today! 2mos ago she fell--then ER, to SX, to Rehab Hosp, to Assisted Living, now to home...if I can get a toilet installed in time!?!?! Today I share 7 easy, cool, cheap things you can do for your mom this weekend...
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Episode 25
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9:50