Deep Heartfelt Success

What If You Welcomed Your Self-Doubt Laughing?

• Heidi Marke, The Gentle Rebel Coach • Season 1 • Episode 3

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What if your self-doubt wasn’t a problem—but a guest with something important to say?
In this episode, we explore how to transform your relationship with fear and imposter syndrome using a gentle, one-minute practice inspired by Rumi—and why this might be the key to real, lasting success. 

Success isn’t just about what you achieve—it’s about how it feels to live inside it.

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Speaker 1:

Haha, I see you self-doubt. Hello, welcome to the Deep Heartfelt Success Podcast. Success that feels even better on the inside than it looks on the outside. Hello, I'm Heidi, heidi Mark, transformational coach for big-hearted, driven professionals who want more, more ease, more joy, more capacity to fully experience and enjoy the success you've worked so hard for. Because real success isn't just about achieving more, although I'm sure you want more. It's about expanding our capacity to feel confident in it, to really enjoy it. It's time to start feeling the fulfillment, the freedom and the ease you've worked so hard for. This is where traditional success ends and deep, heartfelt success begins. Welcome to the adventure.

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So in the last episode I talked about a way to embody your success, so you could deeply feel the success that's already here, to allow your mind to catch up, to allow yourself to become more aware of all of the stuff you've already created and to really feel it. To start to create deep, heartfelt success by embodying what's already here, celebrating who you are. By the way, I hope you like my music. I see the music for this show was partly inspired by the fact that I got completely excited and hooked on Yellowstone last year, but it's also for me. It's a celebration of us, a celebration of ourselves and our success. It makes me want to get up and dance, so I hope it does that for you too. See it as a celebration of you, hear it as that, enjoy it.

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In this episode, I want to talk about what to do with negative thoughts, emotions and feelings the stuff that arises as a natural consequence of being alive, of being a human, and also that particularly happens when we're not feeling our success, we're not allowing ourselves to feel it. And what I find interesting about this is well, first of all, I read last week or the week before, that imposter syndrome increases the higher up you go, which is really interesting, because I don't know about you, but in my head it's like well, there will be a point I get to where I just feel like I've made it, like I feel really confident that at some point this magical thing will happen, where I just know I've made it, I feel really secure and safe and it's like, well, that's obviously a nonsense, isn't it? It's clearly a nonsense, isn't it? It's clearly a nonsense, particularly if feelings of the imposter syndrome increase the more successful we get. So that's maybe that's never going to happen and maybe that's okay, but maybe we can decide when it happens.

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And that, to me, is deep, heartfelt success. It is owning it, it's saying yes, I have made it, I'm okay, I'm always going to look after myself, so that the security and safety comes not from getting more, having more like having enough money, or being in a position where I don't know we, what are we aiming for? What are we up to what? If it comes from this internal sense of yes, I can create success, I can look after myself, I can make money, I can run a home, I do get to live this life because I choose to. What. If it comes from an internal quiet, clarity and confidence about who we are, what we've been up to, rather than linked to external success.

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Now, I don't want to, obviously I don't want to completely unlink it to external success, because I want external success, so do you. We want a lot. We want to live in a house that we love. We want to have good relationships. We want to have good work work we, we love work that lights us up. We want enough money to feel whatever it is we want to feel. We want success and we want more success, but if we can create the feelings of stability and safety and security and joy and ease and satisfaction, by noticing, embodying it internally. That gives us more power, that gives us more feelings of success. So that means we have to translate the feedback we're getting from our minds about what we're up to in a way that's helpful.

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We need to be on our own sides and this is where I started changing what I was doing in the morning. I started noticing the self-doubt, the anxiety, the fear and what I now call it Rumi guesthousing it. So if you know the poem, the Guest House by Rumi, he talks about how this being human is a guest house. Each morning, different stuff shows up and this is true, isn't it? If we notice, we pause and notice on waking what's going on for us. There's all sorts of stuff going on there's joy, there's comfort, the bed's lovely and comfortable. There's anxiety about the day, there's excitement about the day, there's self-doubt, there's some confidence. There's joy, there's comfort, the bed's lovely and comfortable. There's anxiety about the day, there's excitement about the day, there's self-doubt, there's some confidence. It's just like a whole, whole different crowd of stuff and the poem invites us to treat them all as guests, to welcome them in because they're useful, they're there for a purpose, but they only get to be there for a purpose if we know how to welcome them in and use them.

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I know that sounds really a mean thing to do, to guess, but it is what we want to do. We want to be able to notice everything, all of it the imposter syndrome, the self-doubt, the joy, the ease, the feelings of success and the feelings of not being successful enough. Yet If we can welcome it all in as useful information and use it to create deep, heartfelt success, that's really skilled's, that's a major up level, and that's what I've been up to, particularly this year. And the reason it's been particularly this year is for two reasons. Well, three one, I decided to make it so. Two, I hired a coach who's the best coach I've ever worked with and that's working really well for me. And three, I published my journal method in order to make this happen. I'm experimenting with that journal method and it's working.

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The purpose of the journal is called the One Minute Gently, rebellious Journal. It is available on Amazon. I'm using it daily. I've never missed a day. It's working really powerfully for me and it's designed to identify what matters most to you and make sure you stay focused on it, because what would happen if you stayed focused on what matters most to you and by what matters most to you, I mean your heartfelt priorities which is very, very linked to the feeling of creating deep, heartfelt success, where we are actually focused on what matters most to us, creating the joy, the satisfaction, the ease, the security, the fun, the laughter, whatever it is.

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Identifying that, owning it for where you are right now because it changes, doesn't it, throughout our lives we're in different seasons of our lives and then staying focused on it, and because I've been doing this, what I noticed is I got, I became more aware of the stuff that was in my way, it felt like it was in my way, it was disappointing, it's like. So why am I waking up? And now I notice fear, which doesn't make any sense, because yesterday I had a plan, I was on it, I was all excited, and now I I waking up, and now I notice fear, which doesn't make any sense, because yesterday I had a plan, I was on it, I was all excited, and now I'm waking up feeling like I can't do the thing or it's going to be really hard. So now I'm dreading it and then I can notice the desire to procrastinate and avoid doing it. What's that about? What's going on?

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And when I read, rumi's poem has popped up in my life and followed me around for years and I had read it as meaning that stuff's going to show up and that's okay and you welcome it in. But it felt more like feel the fear and do it anyway, or fear can come along for the ride. And then I thought actually that's not enough for me, because fear is a really rubbish guest in a car. Like, if you're going for a ride, it's like having a terrible backseat driver who keeps putting on the pretend joint brake. You know when you learn to drive, and what do you call it? The driver, the teacher's got the other brake, haven't they? I don't know. Fear feels like that to me. It's like having somebody in the car who shouldn't be there, because you got your test years ago and yet somebody's there slamming the imaginary brake on or nagging you or telling you you're going in the wrong direction and it's really confusing because you can't remember your left and your right anymore, because they're overwhelming you with all of their anxiety and their need to be in control. You're right anymore, because they're overwhelming you with all of their anxiety and their need to be in control. I don't want fear coming along for the ride.

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However, what I noticed this year when I re-read the poem because it kept popping at me from every direction at one point there's a line in it that actually says welcome them in laughing. And I hadn't read that before. I'd obviously read it hundreds of times, but I hadn't noticed it before. I'd obviously read it hundreds of times, but I hadn't noticed it before. And that changed everything for me, because then, instead of it being well, I ought to welcome them in, and then it kind of felt like another thing to add to my to do list. Oh, I need to examine that fear, find the gift in it. Big, deep work, lots of messy journaling. Instead, I thought, well, what if I can just do this in one minute, because I'm a big fan of short, deep, powerful practices that don't take much time but work One minute If I just invite in the self-doubt laughing, not just welcoming, as if it's going to be good for me, you know, like a kind of cold shower, wim Hof, kind of thing.

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Not in that manner, no, in a laughing way. Haha, I see you self-doubt. Hand over the goodies. Let's just get on with it. I haven't got time to mess around, I've got stuff to do. Today, as one client said to me, she started inviting them all in and giving them cocktails, which I absolutely love. I love that image. That image has really struck me. Let's make it fun.

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So you notice in the morning there's some self-doubt, there's some fear, there's some anxiety, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, the usual suspects, and you just invite it in. So you actually, instead of avoiding it or pushing it away or thinking that's something you need to deal with later, just invite it in, laughing, look it in the face. This reminds me of the times when, in the past, when I've wanted to give up chocolate and I've deliberately not eaten any for however many days it takes to get to the point where I can walk in a shop, look the bar of chocolate in the eye and walk away, laughing. It reminds me of that. So, inviting the self-doubting Hello, I see you, self-doubt. What have you got to give me today? Not so, inviting the self-doubt in Hello, I see you, self-doubt. What have you got to give me today?

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Noticing what the self-doubt is trying to tell me, like pulling it into my heart, really feeling it, noticing it, thanking it for its gift and then getting on with my day. Seriously, you want to try this. It's fun, it's fast, it's deep, it's effective. It's very high level negotiation of how to move through your day. It is a way to increase your deep, heartfelt success, because it's all useful information. It's all useful information. Nothing is wrong with you, with the situation, nothing is wrong. It's just here to help you to make things lighter.

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It's time to maybe let go of something. Maybe it's time to let go of that self-doubt and believe in yourself. Try it, I dare you. It's so much fun. It's ridiculous, right? The idea that you can deal with this stuff in one minute, oh my goodness, outrageous, gently rebellious, it is outrageous. So give it a go. What have you got to lose? Some self-doubt, woohoo. So have fun with that one. In the next episode episode, I'm going to pull all of these things together, everything from the first three episodes, but particularly the two methods I've introduced you to and dared you to play with. I'm going to pull it all together for the most powerful start to your day, so that you can start each day feeling the success that you already have. See you next time. Hey, thanks for being here, thanks for listening, thanks for joining me on my own adventure into what deep heartfelt success means for me To explore further, make sure you hit the follow button.

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