Deep Heartfelt Success

When life feels chaotic, contentment is still possible.

• Heidi Marke, The Gentle Rebel Coach • Season 1 • Episode 9

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Join us this November for From Chaos to Contentment

Deep Heartfelt Success means expanding our capacity to enjoy what we've worked hard for, finding contentment even during chaotic times and recognizing that our lives are good regardless of external circumstances.


• Turning chaos into contentment by shifting perspective

• Traditional success often delays satisfaction with "when this, then that" thinking

• The final quarter of the year brings heightened chaos with multiple demands colliding

• Recognizing the difference between chosen, purposeful chaos versus externally imposed chaos

• The mind tends to over-control during chaos while the body craves normality

• Creating small oases of calm within chaos helps maintain wellbeing

• Focusing on the process rather than just the end result creates more fulfilment

• Using heartfelt priorities to navigate chaotic periods more effectively

• Finding contentment doesn't mean being unaffected by chaos but embracing it purposefully

• Work can become an oasis during times of home chaos


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Speaker 1:

Hello, welcome to the Deep Heartfelt Success podcast. Success that feels even better on the inside than it looks on the outside. Hello, I'm Heidi Heidi Mark, transformational Coach for big-hearted, driven professionals who want more, more ease, more joy, more capacity to fully experience and enjoy the success you've worked so hard for. Because real success isn't just about achieving more Although I'm sure you want more. It's about expanding our capacity to feel confident in it, to really enjoy it. It's time to start feeling the fulfillment, the freedom and the ease you've worked so hard for. This is where traditional success ends and deep heartfelt success begins. Welcome to the adventure. Hello, and welcome to this week's episode.

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This week, I want to talk about the idea of turning chaos into contentment, Deep, heartfelt contentment where, regardless of what's going on, you can still tap into the idea that your life's good, because you've already made sure it is, because that's what you're committed to. You want your life to be good. You've worked really hard that the success you've created in the past or now, the relationships you have, your home, your ability to look after yourself, to feel joy and ease regardless, that still exists, even during times of chaos, and maybe actually using the chaos to notice that your life's good to allow a feeling of deep, heartfelt contentment during chaos, even during chaos. So it's crazy. I know it's definitely kind of alchemaic, is that a word? I'm thinking of merlin in his little cartoon cavern whisking up magic. So we're using magical thinking here to say, but what if we could? What if, instead of I'm thinking of Merlin in his little cartoon cavern whisking up magic, so we're using magical thinking here to say, but what if we could? What if, instead of the normal approach, which is to brace yourself against chaos, to batter yourself with self-improvement, if only I was more organised, better at managing my time, better at managing my thoughts, more emotionally resilient, had a thicker skin, wasn't so sensitive, coped better. So not that any of that's bad, but it's just it's more of a traditional way of dealing with chaos. So we might want some of those skills, but what if we can go one step further? Let's be really rebellious here. Let's say what if chaos had some gifts in it, some treasure? And what if one of those beautiful, long-lasting ones was a sense of deep, heartfelt contentment, which is definitely part of this deep, heartfelt success pathway for me.

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How can I feel content regardless? That doesn't mean that I'm wandering through chaos, feeling content, as if I'm some amazing zen person, just like, oh, nothing affects me. I don't mean that at all. I'm not saying this is easy. I'm saying why can't we use stuff to have what we want? So at the moment, I'm sitting in chaos and I'm thinking about the end of year. Chaos because I'm offering a course, and if you'd like to come and join me for four Sundays in November to talk about this and to go deep into your sense of deep, heartfelt contentment, if you'd like to come and join me exploring how to turn chaos into contentment, click the link in the show notes or go to my website. More coming about that.

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But right now let's think about this what if we could? What if we could use the chaos to create more of that sense of deep, heartfelt contentment where you just know your life is good because you've worked so hard to make it? So why can't we feel contentment? Why are we always putting it off? When this, then that no way to be, particularly if you've been alive for several decades? Come on, guys, we can have more than this Feeling content, feeling deep, heartfelt contentment.

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I like myself, I love myself, I like my life. Look what I I did. I'm proud of myself. I'm proud of myself for creating the life I have. There is much about it to be contented about. I don't need to strive in order to feel better. That doesn't mean we don't want more and it doesn't mean we're never going to strive for more. It just means reaping the rewards of the work we've already done while creating the next level of success.

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It's a really nice, grounded way, I believe, of ending the year, particularly as the last quarter of the year tends to be traditionally the most chaotic, because everything collides. The days are getting shorter and shorter, so there's less daylight, there's less vitamin d, there's less chance to be outside. This can affect your health or your just how you feel as you move through the day. There's less sunlight. There's more of these horribly harsh lights we have now, which can be really I find them really hard to deal with. I really don't like these white led lights. I won't bring back full spectrum bulbs so I can feel better.

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Then there's the invitation to socialize. There's there's a lot of thought about how you can make the people you love the most feel loved and appreciated, because there's that opportunity at christmas. So then there's the family game of chess, of how you can create harmony at Christmas and make beautiful memories which are linked to your own memories and longings. So it's that high stakes Christmas time. Then there's the work of wrapping things up, whether you run a business or the end year reporting in large companies. There's so much going on. There's there's a lot of high-stakes stuff going on, and when it all collides it can be incredibly chaotic.

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So I see the last quarter as, look, it tends to be chaotic. So what can we do about it? And traditionally, what we tend to want to do about it is to move through it better, and then we get stuck in the if only I was better then. And it's not that having better time management, emotional regulation, skills, all that kind of stuff, it doesn't. It's not that we don't want them, it's that that's not enough. That's not deep, heartfelt success. That's just. That's really.

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The get better at stuff is really linked to the old version of success, where you can manage things better, you can always do better, and some of that's good. But let's go deeper. Let's gently rebel against the idea that you have to be better at everything in order to feel successful. That sounds like a bit of a contradiction, because you do have to be better at some things to to be successful, but for people who've already focused on that and worked really hard at some point, it's really worth looking, embodying that and that's what I see the deep, heartfelt success pathway being. It's an exploration of reaping the rewards of everything you've already worked hard for, while at the same time saying and I also want this, and that's not easy, but it's one hell of an adventure.

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And today I want to talk about how to turn chaos into contentment. So I'm in chaos at the moment because my sitting room is being lime plastered, which means knocking off the old concrete that they stuck to the walls to try and stop the damp coming in and then putting on what now feels like a million different layers of different plaster. I don't know. These guys are amazing. They will make it beautiful and the walls will be able to breathe. And this is the last big renovation project in the house and one of my heartfelt priorities for the year was to treasure my home, love it, look after it and finish it.

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I am done with living in a renovation project. Unfortunately, the project sitting room project started just as somebody switched summer off and we had this beautiful, beautiful summer, so beautiful and then it really did feel like somebody just pulled the plug and we went from beautiful warmth and sunlight into soggy, damp and really quite chilly weather, without that beautiful September kind of Indian summer thing when the kids go back to school and you can reclaim the beaches and that kind of stuff. No, somebody switched summer off and my city room has got loads of water and plaster going on, so it just feels damp, there's a lot of stuff going, a lot of stuff to dry out and it's going to be amazing. But, man, it's tough when I no longer can use my garden as part of my house, which is what I normally do. I'm outside a lot, but it keeps raining proper rain and, yeah, we really need the rain. I'm really grateful and it's making the soil amazing and I've been delighted actually to get back to some weeding, which is hilarious.

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I actually like weeding and I actually missed weeding. I mean I don't like weeding in the middle of the summer when it's insane and the dandelions have taken over the world, but I do quite enjoy a bit of weeding and there hasn't really been any weeding this year because it's been so dry. Now there's tons of weeding to do and I can start with all of those new and creating chaos winter projects where you that's when you do all of the creating new areas of stuff and I've got stuff going on. I go outside, it keeps raining and it rains suddenly. So sun comes out and I go outside and then it rains on me. I'm like that's not right. The sky's blue. What's going on? So there's not only a lot of rain, it's very wet rain, which is welcome in terms of the soil in the garden.

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But it's really hard to plan outside time. It's really hard to plan anything because we're back to that traditional English weather of oh, we're gonna have four seasons in one day again, are we? This is adding to my sense of chaos, because it's hard to let the dogs out. It's hard to have outside space because at the same time as the sitting room being done which means that's like quarter of the house is out of bounds the bathroom is being done. Oh my goodness. So we've got two rooms that have been in chaos, one room well, actually, both rooms had to be completely cleared out, which creates other chaos.

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Before that chaos started, I cleared out our main kitchen larder cupboard, which is kind of under the kitchen stairs. This is a weird house to explain. I won't bother explaining it. I created more chaos. I mean it's good chaos because I've sorted it all out. And then I sorted out the temporary laundry storage area, which is this weird little conservatory outbuilding which one day we will knock down, but not right now. I am done.

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This will be the last renovation project for a bit, but anyway, I've done a lot of sorting already moving stuff around, so that's good, but it just means that the chaos has been going on for longer, so stuff isn't where it used to be and my mind's having to do that thing of where where is it, which costs energy and slows everything down right, so there's a lot of chaos going on. At the moment. My office has a strip behind me that looks like it's not Celtic, so that I can record YouTube videos, but apart from that, on the other side of the room, out of the camera, it's chaos. Of course it's chaos because chaos is a necessary part of change. It's a necessary part of creation. However, I really want to sit in the feeling of chaos for a moment and use it rather than weather it. So what I am doing at the moment is noticing the effects of chaos on me and how I'm responding to that, and how that's different than I would have responded when I was in my burnout phase, because then I can see my own progress in terms of my own gentle rebellion, making overwhelm optional.

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And now this path I'm calling the deep, heartfelt success path, which is the alternative to the traditional path of success, where we work really hard and we achieve success but we lose many of the things that are most important to us, like the ability to look after ourselves properly, hold relationships together, or more than that. We don't want to just hold relationships together, we want to have deep heartfelt connection. Right, we want to have good relationships and our ability to switch off and have fun and laugh and be ourselves so all the stuff that we tend to lose on our way to working really hard. So deep heartfelt success is instead still working hard towards whatever you want, but at the same time, deliberately embodying someone who can feel at ease in themselves, who reaps the reward of their success by feeling confident, standing firm in yeah, I'm good at this, now I've got this while at the same time acknowledging that the next thing that you're going for you do feel some anxiety about, because there's imposter syndrome. You don't have confidence in that yet. So it's the ability to walk the path of creating the life you want while also reaping the rewards of that success.

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So why do we work so hard? Because we want the satisfaction of it, we want to be useful, we want to make good money. Why? Because we want to feel successful, feel confident, feel satisfied, feel fulfilled, have more money so we have more choice, more freedom and we can do the things that we want to do and we can look after the people we want to do and we can look after the people we love, etc. Etc. And then we lose the good things about having hard work for success because we get stuck in the success requires sacrifice, everything worth happening, everything worth having requires struggle, and we get stuck in that old-fashioned paradigm which does work until it doesn't and you want more. And then the wanting more often comes out of a noticing that you're close to burnout, that it's the cost of having what you want is too high and you want your life back.

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So deep, heartfelt success is acknowledging that actually what you really wanted was all of it. You didn't want to compromise. You actually wanted to feel really well and like yourself and still be able to have fun and laugh, rather than being caught up in, you know, the usual chaos and turmoil of just holding everything together. There's got to be a better way, right? So how do? How can we use chaos to have more deep, heartfelt success?

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And in this episode, and actually for this whole rest of the year, I'm really thinking about contentment. So before I think I've talked about exploring deep, heartfelt success in terms of a sense of ease, confidence, joy, yeah, a feeling of success, regardless of what's going on. So over your lifetime, you've reached a level of success, even if externally, it appears to go up and down and that can throw us right. We have a bad day at work, we don't feel so successful. Today, I want to really think about the idea of contentment, deep, heartfelt contentment. I don't know exactly what I mean by that. I'm exploring it.

Speaker 1:

Right, I'm exploring chaos and contentment, and the reason for that is I have noticed that the last quarter of the year tends to be something that people brace themselves against, like it's tough and you get through, and then at the end of December, once Christmas is over, there's this small window of opportunity to actually ground yourself and think about yourself, and that's when I tend to run my well. It's when I always run a turn of the year workshop. So last year's was called Create a Gently, rebellious 2025. If you want to join us next year, it's going to be 4th of January, so mark that in your diary. Love to have you there.

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So I have this idea that what if we could end the year instead of bracing ourselves against chaos? What if, instead, we used the chaos, not just weathered it better, but actually used the chaos in order to end the year on a high? What if we could end 2025 with this feeling like yeah, this was a damn fine year, this was a 2025, loved that year. Yeah, this went wrong, this went wrong, this went wrong. But my mind is focused on what went right, what I gained.

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Because if our lives are always about success in terms of achieving something, then that's no fun, right? Because, first of all, when you achieve something, the feeling tends to be fleeting before you're on the next delaying of feeling okay, when I choose this, then I will feel safe. When I have this much money coming in, then I will feel secure and I can do that. It's not much fun living like that unless you can use things like that as helpful motivators rather than paralyzing, procrastination-inducing nonsense. So what if we can end, or no, not? What if magical thinking?

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Here, the question to me is how can we end 2025 with a sense of deep, heartfelt contentment? How can we do that? I certainly intend to. So I'm getting a head start on this. It is not the final quarter yet. It's only September, even though it feels very October-ish. I'm now sat in literal chaos and I'm feeling the feeling of chaos and it's reminding me of the traditional end of year chaos when all this high stakes stuff collides. So what I'm doing right now, and what this episode is about, is how I'm attempting to turn my current chaos into a sense of contentment. So this is what I'm up to.

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First of all, I'm noticing that it's a lot. First of all, I'm noticing that it's a lot. It's a lot all at once and while much of it is chosen and this is really important I think when chaos feels externally imposed, it can feel like it like quite threatening right when there's big changes at work really tough because you didn't choose that, you weren't expecting that that doesn't seem fair. That doesn't seem right. That's having a huge impact on you. It's not the right time for you to be having to cope with all this chaos, the insecurities, the constant shifting of goalposts. That's really hard. So when it feels externally imposed, notice how that feels. So I can relate to when I was employed and that happened and it was really hard to deal with, really hard. But right now I found it really helpful to notice that my current state of chaos is chosen and that it's all good that this not the way it's happening, because projects have collided but they're all chosen. It's all good that this not the way it's happening, because projects have collided but they're all chosen, it's all good.

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My intention was I would no longer live in a renovation project and I will not be living in one. The major renovation will be done. Will there be finishing of jobs? Yes, of course, but it's not the same as the wild disruption of having, you know, your entire walls redone for three weeks. That's a bigger, that's a whole different ballgame than decorating, isn't it? It's just different and it affects the quality of the air and you know whether you need to run dehumidifier, like there's a lot going on in a renovation of an old cottage. There's a lot of stuff going on. There's a lot of unknowns, because nobody really knows when it was built, how it was built, what happens if you wanted to remove that wall? Why is there mould coming in there? Is that rain going in Like it's a mystery hunt? And I am done with it. I don't care. I just want it warm, cozy and dry and I want it to look beautiful inside. I am done. I I am no longer prepared to sit in a renovation project saying, when we've done this, then that, so it's all happening. So this is actually a dream come true.

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And as soon as I sit in that in the chaos, it becomes easier for me because I can almost, in fact, I am welcoming the chaos. So it's chaotic because it's purposeful, whereas I notice, in previous chaotic times in my life when something's been externally imposed, I found it really, really hard because it didn't feel purposeful, it was all unclear, I didn't know what to do, I didn't have control. That feels very different. So noticing the difference I found to be really helpful. I can also then use that knowledge to create a sense of contentment. Woohoo, look at me, I did it. To create a sense of contentment. Woohoo, look at me, I did it Even though I'm still in the chaos, even though it's not finished, and even though it's quite difficult at times and I just want to cry because I just need somewhere to go and chill out.

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Even though I'm in the chaos, I can tap into if I do it purposefully and intentionally I can tap into a sense of deep, heartfelt contentment. This cottage is my dream home and we have poured money and love and hard work into it and it's all coming together so exciting. I mean even sat in my office surrounded by unwanted stuff and furniture surrounded by unwanted stuff and furniture, the walls. I did also do the office this year, only about a month ago, and it's beautiful, really beautiful. It's only white. But there's something magical to me about a tiny cottage painted white inside because it really helps the light and if you paint the woodwork and the and the ceiling and everything the same colour, there's something softening about it which is different than if you're in a big, high-ceilinged modern flat or a Georgian house. There's just something lovely about it. Reminds me of Wind in the Willows when the mole is whitewashing his burrow Something really both freshening and softening and clean and cosy all at the same time. Something beautiful about a cottage being white inside that I really love.

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So, despite being in the chaos, I can purposely shift my attention to contentment. This is my home. I love my home. I'm loving my home, I'm caring for it, I'm renovating, I'm rescuing an old English cottage from crumbling walls and damp. Yay for me. There's contentment in that. There's satisfaction in that. That's years, that's years and years and years. I can trace it all the way back to when I bought my first house and did that house up, and then I bought another house and did it. I've done so much work on houses externally to create the money.

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I've done so much to reach this point and I want to sit in this point and I want to feel that contentment in the chaos, not delaying it until it's done. Also, what I find this helps is, instead of looking at the present chaos, I've noticed my mind is shifting to it already being clear. You know the stuff being back where it should be. What's really nice about that? Is it then means I don't actually notice the stuff that I'm tripping up over, because there's DIY stuff everywhere as well, because we've been doing the bathroom, so you know everything's out of place, which is hard to cope with. Or is it so when I shift from yeah, everything's chaotic. This is really hard. I can't wait for everything to be done, so when this is done, then I'll feel better by deliberately shifting to no, this is it. This is the dream. This is what I wanted. This this is. I created this chaos. I chose this chaos. This is good chaos. This is purposeful chaos.

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I find I'm not actually caring so much about the fact that there's stuff everywhere and there is stuff everywhere. That's. I find that really helpful. I've also been examining the difference between the effects of the chaos on my mind, my body and my heart, and here's some of what I've noticed. My mind tries to control everything, and some of that is really useful. So when we were clearing rooms out and shifting stuff around, I was very good at noticing I'm going to need that, so I'm going to keep that separate from the stuff that's being shipped to different areas and I won't be able to reach it. That's been really helpful, but if I've done it, tried to do it too much control it backfires and just creates mass anxiety because my eyes are noticing the things that are going into a corner and getting packed into the corner and are not going to be available for a month. What if I need them? What if, what if, what if? Making up scenarios where I really need to get that thing and it's not that it hasn't happened, it's still happened. But do you know what? By focusing on what is going right, by focusing on it being temporary, by noticing that there's a timeline that's going to end as it's purposeful that's, I've been able to let go of those stories. So that's been interesting.

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What's going on in my mind? How will I cope? There is also the how will I cope thing. So I think, for anyone who has experienced that surfing the verge of burnout now we call it burnout. I'm just going to go full on. It felt like I had a breakdown and I'm okay with that. Now, I don't know if it's a breakdown, I don't really know. Nobody knows what a breakdown is. It used to be like this 1950s give housewives valium thing, didn't it? I don't even know what it means, but to me I wasn't okay. I definitely snapped and recovered. Now I think it's probably more relatable to as burnout, because that makes sense and because I didn't fortunately end up being tranquilized. So it's probably not really a breakdown.

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I don't really care what I call it, but I have noticed that, since experiencing that my mind will do this safety mechanism of but what if you can't cope? And that can lead to me stopping things or slowing things down, that's not necessarily bad, but noticing that matters, noticing the stories in my mind about if you do all of this, you're not going to be able to cope and therefore, what does that mean? What do I mean I'm not going to be able to cope. What do I think is going to happen? Will the wailing banshee return? Will I get all over over emotional? What's over emotional mean? But just noticing that, noticing that that's an impact, because I've learned. I've learned that I've learned that if I push myself too hard then I don't feel like myself and I don't want to do that again because it's it's really not much fun and it takes a long time to recover. But it's interesting that my mind's still putting those brakes on things and this panicky thing.

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And when I've noticed that I notice what happens is I start trying to control the chaos and, by definition, it's pretty much uncontrollable. I can't determine who turns up when to do work and what happens. It's just not controllable. There's stuff out of my control. So there's a difference between managing it by making sure things we're going to, objects that we're going to need regularly, or setting up and making sure there is somewhere we can relax in the evening and recover and reconnect. There's little oasis of space. That matters. That makes the difference. But if I try and control too rigidly, that adds to my stress and overwhelm and it just isn't worth it. Which leads me to another thing I've noticed really have really helped.

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A year ago I introduced the idea of heartfelt priorities and that went into both the New Year's Workshop and the One Minute Gently, rebellious Journal, because there's a difference between choosing priorities in a mind-based way, goal-orientated, things that you think ought to happen, and really getting your heart and your body involved and then feeling them Like. When these priorities are focused on, you feel this deep, heartfelt success, this joy, this ease, this fulfillment. That's different than your mind being hijacked on, being hijacked by fake emergencies, real emergencies, the demands of the world, things you feel you ought to do, things to keep yourself safe in terms of people pleasing. There's a difference, right, there's a higher level of priorities and that's what we delved really deeply into in the New Year's workshop and then, using the One Minute Gently, rebellious journal, stayed focused on throughout the year. The gently rebellious journal stayed focused on throughout the year and what I found has happened in this chaotic time is that I'm really, really having to stay tapped into that and because I've had that practice all year, just on one minute every morning, it's really helpful. I'm, I'm, I'm steering through the chaos. To start with, I think things got a bit oh where am I, what am I doing. But I kept coming back to walking my talk, to practicing these tools and it's really helped, really helped. And what I love about that is, instead of work being something I'm trying to squeeze into a chaotic time, it's actually an oasis, like yesterday when I wrote my highlights of my day.

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My top highlight that I recorded in the one minute journal was work. I really enjoyed working today and I didn't finish much yesterday. But I'm really trying to focus on the the work without the finished goal, because when I write down goals, it really annoys me. You know, write this, publish this, do this, do that, because I don't know how long things are going to take and if they take longer than that, then I'm disappointed. But if I focus on, yes, this is what I want to achieve, but I'm going to really focus on the doing of it, the enjoying the doing of it, the doing it.

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The purpose of work was to use my mind to create, to learn to. You know what, if work is about fulfillment and you also get money, we just focus on the money. Right, when I've done this, then I'll get my paycheck. Or if you're in business, so I need to do this in order to generate money, this, it's, it's I don't know. It doesn't seem enough to me. I know it also seems naive to say, well, if you focus on the work, the money will come. I don't mean that. I just mean I want more, I want the money and I want the deep fulfillment.

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So the the doing of it, when I focus on the doing of it, when I focus on the doing of it, it's easier, it's more enjoyable, more fulfilling and it gets done to a better standard. And it gets done. It's going to get done regardless. It just is because I meet my deadlines. I don't like letting people down. I'm full of integrity, I'm highly conscientious, but when I focus on the end result, it's less satisfying.

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So what I found is that the being really clear on my work priorities and my home priorities and my heartfelt priorities and creating clear lists from that to. I mean, I do this anyway, but to negotiate through the chaos with those heartfelt priorities I found has been really, really helpful and is helping to create contentment during the chaos, because, regardless of the chaos around me, I love my work, I love my life. There's so much I have achieved that's here, regardless of my physical environment, so I'm finding that really helpful. So so that's some of the things, the way the chaos has been affecting my mind. So both causing chaos in my mind and feelings of overwhelm, and then noticing that and using it to up-level how I'm working and create more contentment In my body.

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I've noticed my skin tends to feel thinner because I just craving normality, you know, being able to, to do what I normally do, the normal habits that support my body and make me feel safe, cozy, comfortable at home. Well, that's hard when your home is in chaos because there isn't that feeling of at home. But I went away to escape the noisy parts of the renovation and when I came back, even though it was in utter, utter chaos, it was so nice to be home. So that was cool, that was interesting, finding the home in home, even when it's really disorientating and noticing that felt sense in the body of the joy of just being at home and finding the little corners of the house where there is space for me, where I can carve out a little oasis and relax, and it feels more normal. That's been really interesting and I do feel okay actually. That's been really interesting and I do feel okay actually.

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And then, lastly, the heart really noticing how the heart feels and there's grief to do with renovating, which is interesting. So we did destroy the old piano because it was no longer nobody wanted it and it was no longer worth keeping, which is sad, but that's what happens to old pianos now, letting go of an old settee that I'd bought when my children were small, which was just really old and needed to go, and the easiest way to get rid of these things you know, if nobody wants them, you need to actually physically destroy them. That's interesting on the heart. But my heart was ready to let go of those and actually it felt good to let go of things. It felt lighter in my heart and that surprised me because previously, when I've been thinking of letting go of those two objects, my heart felt heavy. So that was interesting.

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So there's a lot of heart guidance going on in what's happening and noticing, and then when I I find that when I acknowledge that there is some grief in changing my physical environment, this is my home, this is my sanctuary I find it then turns to lightness. It's like an acknowledgement of what my heart is feeling, allows it to shift and then allows in deep, heartfelt contentment because my life's good. So purposely directing myself to the contentment and embracing, even welcoming, the chaos because it's going to create even better contentment, joy, ease, beauty, home that's been really good. So that's what I've noticed is going on. So the gift for me in this is the ability to up-level how I create not how I create chaos. The ability to up-level how I approach chaotic times has been a real gift and to deliberately start using the chaos as an opportunity to create more contentment. I think this is well worth delving into. So I really invite you to delve into that and if you'd like to join me in November for the first four in fact, I think there's only four Sundays in November every Sunday morning November, we will be getting together, a small group of us to go into this even more deeply. So I'm just at the beginning of this and I'm really reaping rewards.

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The end of the year, the final quarter, tends to be very chaotic. If you would like to take that chaos and go deep into how you can create, turn that into a deeply contented end of 2025, then please click the link in the show notes or go to my website. It's a button at the top of the home page there for you. So chaos how do you approach it? What's in it for you? How do? How do you approach it? What's in it for you? How do you want to approach it? How do you usually approach it? How can you find more contentment? How can you dare? Can you dare to turn the end of your chaos into deep, heartfelt contentment? I'll leave you with those ideas. See you next time.

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Thanks for listening. Hey, thanks for being here. Thanks for listening. Thanks for joining me on my own adventure into what deep, heartfelt success means for me. To explore further, make sure you hit the follow button. It really does help, helps other people to find it and if you're up for it, scroll right to the bottom of apple, where they've hidden the review section, and leave me an outstandingly wonderful review. It would be just so lovely. It would make my day. And if you're ready to talk about working with me one-to-one, to go deeper and explore what it looks like to create your own version of deep, heartfelt success with a powerful coach walking alongside you, I invite you to book a deep, heartfelt success session. There's a link in the show notes below or you can just go to calendlycom forward slash, heidi, mark, forward slash heartfelt success. I can't wait to meet you and see what that looks like for you, so exciting. Here's to the next evolution of your success. See you in the next episode, thank you.