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I'm Alex Delmar, a certified ADHD coach and person with ADHD. I'm here to share what I've learned so other people with ADHD can enjoy better lives!
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Try Different, Not Harder with the ADHD Scientific Method
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Tired of “try harder” being the only answer? There's a practical way to make ADHD strategies work in real life by borrowing the structure of the scientific method: name the problem and break it down, identify specific sticking points, brainstorm solutions, and try them out.
Start by naming one concrete challenge and mapping the exact steps where things go sideways—decision fatigue, missing tools, bad time management, or too many moving parts. From there, brainstorm targeted changes using four guiding principles: keep tools close to the point of performance, make cues impossible to miss, schedule actions when energy and time align, and connect new behaviors to something you already do. The approach comes to life with a relatable example—clothes on the floor—and potential adjustments to solve the problem behavior.
Turn experiments into progress with lightweight tracking—smiley faces, a quick grid, or a daily photo—so results are visible without adding stress. Decide whether to keep, tweak, or replace a strategy to make progress toward your goal. Along the way, maintain grace during off days, credit yourself for progress even if others don’t notice, and use rewards to wire new habits. The goal is to make everyday actions easier by design.
If you’re ready to swap shame for strategy and build systems that actually stick, this technique offers a clear path forward. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs practical ADHD support, and leave a review to tell us your first experiment.
A lot of the advice for managing ADHD has some level of "that's a great idea. Now, how do I do that?" Like when we're told to just keep track of appointments in a planner, as if most of us don't have a whole collection of planners with only a half dozen entries in each of them. With ADHD, we have to make extra effort to figure out how to have a writing implement handy, keep the planner accessible, and remember to check it every day. This is where the scientific method of ADHD symptom management comes into play. It's a technique for developing the most effective strategies to help things run more smoothly for yourself.
Alex Delmar:I'm Alex Delmar, a certified ADHD coach and person with ADHD. Welcome to Thoroughly ADHD, where I share what I've learned to help other people with ADHD enjoy better lives.
Alex Delmar:People around us get frustrated when we exhibit the same problematic characteristics over and over, and though we try, over and over to change unwanted ADHD associated behaviors by sheer force of will, it almost never works. We're told to try harder, but we don't need to try harder. We need to try different.
Alex Delmar:Here's an example some of you might relate to. When I was a student, I could not complete my homework. Even though I knew I'd be embarrassed in class the next day or get in trouble when the next test came around. Night after night I'd try again and generally got nowhere. I didn't see how it was possible to try any harder. I didn't have the maturity or the knowledge to consider what changes I might make to improve my chances of getting the work done. I could have asked, how can I remember what I'm supposed to do? Is this the best environment for me to concentrate? Am I hungry, thirsty, tired, overly emotional, or antsy? Every once in a while I'd be inspired and do a great job on something, but it never occurred to me to examine what was different this time and try to replicate it. And that's exactly what we need to do with anything that's consistently giving us trouble.
Alex Delmar:So here's the scientific method:
Alex Delmar:Step one is to pick a problem, any problem.
Alex Delmar:Step two is to think through the parts or steps involved and identify the sticking points that cause the problem. Difficulties commonly fall into categories such as making decisions, managing your time, remembering multiple steps, and being disorganized, but be as detailed as possible.
Alex Delmar:Step three is to brainstorm potential ways to minimize or resolve these roadblocks. The most effective changes often involve close proximity, high visibility, good timing, and connectivity. This means any tools you need are close to the point of performance, cues are in your line of sight, the activity is scheduled for when you have sufficient energy and time to complete it, and the new behavior is associated with something you're already doing.
Alex Delmar:For instance, let's say there's friction in your relationship because you frequently leave your clothes on the floor. For you, just trying harder to pick up your clothes isn't enough, or you would be doing it already. Consider changes you might make to increase the likelihood you'll pick them up. Will it help to put a hamper next to where you undress or to change clothes in a different location or to move the furniture around? Do you need hooks on the wall or a designated spot for empty hangers? Should you get dressed earlier so you have time to put away reject outfits or get ready for bed earlier so you're not too tired to deal with it? How much earlier? Do you need to post a reminder next to the door and on the bedside table? Or set a daily alarm that tells you it's time to pick up your clothes? Maybe you need to adjust the temperature in the room, turn off the TV, or change to minimalist decor. Have fun with this part and write down as many ideas as you can think of, even the ones that seem a little out there. I can help you if you get stuck.
Alex Delmar:Step four is to test something from the list. To start, pick one that is easy to implement and that you suspect will have the most effect. Don't forget to connect the behavior to something you're already doing. In this case, it might be scanning the floor after showering or before jumping in bed.
Alex Delmar:Step five, track the results with something simple like smiley faces, X's on a grid, or a daily photo.
Alex Delmar:Step six, pick a different strategy if this one didn't help at all, or continue the strategy if it solved your problem, or tweak and add to this strategy if it got you closer to your goal. Repeat steps four through six until you get your desired outcome.
Alex Delmar:Remember to give yourself grace while you go through this process and to reward yourself every time you achieve the targeted behavior or move closer to it. Rewards can be as simple as giving yourself a pat on the back or savoring the result of your actions.
Alex Delmar:Don't expect recognition from others. In our current example, chances are that to the significant other, keeping clothes off the floor is basic consideration and something a child can manage. But those of us with ADHD know you deserve credit for your efforts!
Alex Delmar:Your time is valuable, so I hope you found something useful here. If so, please like, follow, subscribe, and come back next week for a new episode of Thoroughly ADHD. Thank you.