You're Drinking The Poison

In this episode I talk about the invisible poison that we continue to feed ourselves. I'm talking negative thoughts and how it shapes your mindset, your energy and over all well being. I talk about how social media wasn't always the problem but it magnifies it and how protecting your peace can be as simple as hitting unfollow. If you've ever caught yourself rollling your eyes at someone or their posts online, comparing yourself to someone else or thinking something negative before you realize it, this episode is for you. 
Every time you stop to judge someone you're not poisoning them, you're poisoning yourself.

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Transcript

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Hey hey! Welcome back to I Know a Girl, the cozy corner of the internet where we hype each other up, get a little raw and real, and remember, healing is hot. I'm your host Morgan, and today's episode might make you pause and say, damn, because I think this one is something that every single one of us needs to hear. For starters, I want you to imagine someone handing you a little shot glass of liquid. Now, the shot glass isn't full to the very rim, but there's only just like a few little drops of liquid in the bottom of the shot glass. Not enough that you're gonna feel it instantly, but if you keep ingesting it every single day, it's uh it's gonna affect you. Now, what if I told you that that liquid is poison? Would you drink it knowing it's poison? Probably not. However, the scary part about all of this is you're already ingesting that poison. And I'm not talking about the stuff that's in the shot glass. I'm talking about your thoughts. Every time you're on social media scrolling, every time you're in the grocery store, walking past someone, you may see happy moments from someone else's life and think, that must be nice. You may notice someone got divorced and already seeing someone new, and you immediately start criticizing them. Every time you see something you don't like and you start criticizing their appearance, their relationship, maybe their success, or literally anything about their life, you're taking another sip of that poison. And guess what? Let me tell you a little secret. That person that's triggering you has no fucking idea that you're triggered. And guess what? That person that's triggering you, they're not being poisoned by these negative thoughts that you're having. You are, babe. Do you know who else you're poisoning with these thoughts? Your entire universe. I'm talking your spouse or partner, your kids if you have any, your family members, your co-workers, your friends, even people you only interact with for a short duration of time. They're being affected. Because these negative thoughts harbor inside you if you don't work through them. And before you even know it, you're using a short tone. You have a little attitude, or maybe no patience at all with anyone you come in contact with. I'm letting you know I'm raising my hand here because I've been through all of this. Okay. Because let's be real. None of us are perfect. And I know a lot of people who like to play like they have it all figured out. I know a lot of people who like to play like they've never made a fucking mistake. And I'm not here to tell anybody's mistakes, I'm not here to point out anybody's flaws or anything like that. I'm literally just trying to inspire you to stop the negative thoughts. Because those people that have this like arrogance, I feel bad for them. Because if they just humbled themselves a tiny little bit and were open to learning and experiencing through connections that they make with other people of different l walks of life, they'd have so much wisdom and experience to share with others. They're missing out on so much. I think life is all about experience. We're here on earth to experience a magnitude of things. Now, before you go blaming social media, and don't make it don't get me wrong, social media is is the problem. I think this has been a problem long before social media even became a thing. If anything, I feel like social media has become a mirror for it. It reflects our triggers back at ourselves. So if someone else's happiness makes you angry, you should go discover why. If somebody else's confidence irritates you, you should be asking yourself why. If seeing someone's body makes you feel disgusted, or even makes you compare your own, you most definitely need to ask yourself why. Those feelings don't make you a bad person. Okay. Let me say that again. Those feelings don't make you a bad person. Because we're human, we're supposed to have those feelings. But these moments or fragments of ourselves need healing. Because hurt people, hurt people, and we're no longer hurting people, right? And when you act on these negative feelings and thoughts against someone else, that's a bigger sign that you need to heal. So get the whole idea out of your head that healing is bad, okay? Because it's not, it's how we level up, it's how we become hotter, unbothered versions of ourselves. Okay, babe. On today's soft life starter kit, I'm pulling out an old item from a past episode. We're gonna start using the unfollow button. And I know there's not like an actual unfollow button, but we're gonna start unfollowing people. You don't owe anyone a spot on your newsfeed. You don't owe anyone a spot on your followers. If someone's content makes you feel jealous, mute them. If someone's posts make you angry every day, unfollow them. Got a couple of accounts that make you compare your body, remove them. Got a couple of girls that you know compare themselves to you or always had something negative to say about you? Get rid of them. You got a couple of people that are constantly posting drama and it leaves you feeling anxious. Fucking get rid of them. Unfollowing someone is not rude. Protecting your peace is a huge form of self-care that we all need to start using. So months ago, I said something similar in an episode. So every so often I do like a closet clean out on social media. I go through my newsfeed and I mentally think, does this account inspire me? Does it educate me? Is it making me laugh or bring me joy or peace? Or do I feel worse every single time I see something that they post? If so, it doesn't fucking belong. But after you remove these accounts, you must replace. Replace them with creators, artists, therapists, all people and things that genuinely make you smile. Next time you find yourself thinking something negative about someone, ask yourself, what could that trigger be trying to tell me? And it's gonna get really fucking uncomfortable. Healing is uncomfortable, and you know that because I've said to you many, many times, growth doesn't come from your comfort zone. But you could do hard fucking things, babe. I promise you, you could do hard fucking things. The glow-up from this is well worth it. So here's a little extra tip: celebrate people on purpose. Start freely giving compliments out to people. Share someone's business or even a post that you saw them create. Cheer someone on, make someone feel good about themselves. Recognize that they're doing something hard and that it inspires you. Recognize that they're having a great time and you love watching them have a great time. The more abundance that you give, the more you're gonna receive. And the more that your brain is gonna recognize good things. So let your homework this week be to scroll less. Go outside. Maybe read a book. Call your grandma. I know she misses you. Mine misses me, and I'm about to call her as soon as I'm done recording this. Listen to music. I've gotten on a 2000s kick lately. And I mean anything from the 2000s, anything from bad rock, divorce rock, punk, um, I'm talking hip-hop, anything. Anything from that era has literally been bringing me joy. But I promise you, whatever you do for yourself, your nervous system is gonna thank you. Now, let me forewarn you that healing doesn't mean never having another negative thought. I promise you, because even after I started making these changes within myself, I still have negative thoughts here and there. We're human, right? We're not perfect. But healing means catching it before it becomes your personality. Healing means you pick the negative thought out of your head and flick it somewhere before you embody that whole energy and then project it on someone else. Because resentment is a very heavy feeling that you don't want having to give to someone else. Comparison is extremely exhausting, and judgment is very expensive. None of those things are making your life better, and you know I'm right. So protect your peace. Your mind is your home. Make it a nice place to be, and be careful about who or what you let inside your mind. So our horoscope hype for the week is gonna be a little message that you need for this week. Starting with Aries. Aries, you do not have to know the next move yet. Rest is also progress. Taurus, you are allowed to change your mind. That is not failure, it's growth. Gemini, your worth was never up for debate. Stop negotiating for what is already yours. Cancer Not everything needs to make sense right now. Trust what your intuition already knows. Leo, the spotlight is coming. Rest now so you're ready to shine when it is your time. Virgo, you do not have to earn your rest. Let the people who love you hold you this week. Libra, the noise around you is not yours to fix. Calm your own waters and balance will return. Scorpio, what you believed before does not have to define you now. Let it go and grow. Sagittarius, the plans are shifting for a reason. Trust that the detour knows the way. Capricorns, you have carried enough. Come home to yourself before you pour into anyone else. Aquarius, you set the frequency of your days. Build your week around how you want to feel. Pisces, let yourself play. Joy is the shortest way back to your magic. Don't forget that. All right, so let's get into our arrow card pull. And then I'll let you guys get on to your day. Okay, so the card that we pulled today is the hermit. The hermit symbolizes a deep dive into soul searching and introspection. It represents the quest for wisdom and truth achieved through solitude and meditation. This card encourages independence, inner guidance, and a heightened consciousness. So literally everything that we've been talking about in this episode. We're trying to get rid of feelings of isolation or loneliness or comparison or resentment. We're trying to reconnect with ourselves and others, find our way back to ourselves and our happiness. We don't want to poison ourselves anymore. We're breaking free. We're going to find our inner peace. So, yeah, a great card for today's episode. All right, so if you love this episode and it really resonated, definitely give me a review wherever you listen to this podcast. And if you're not, I would greatly appreciate it if you went and followed me on whatever form of social media that you use. I'm on Facebook, I'm on Instagram at inowagirl.pod, I'm on TikTok at i.no.a.girl.pod. And yeah, come hang out. I'm lots of fun. I love to chat. I'm always here for you. You know that. We're 51 episodes in. It's crazy to even think about how our one year anniversary is quickly approaching. And I have so many ideas of how I want to celebrate that like I can't just pick one. So yeah, I'm definitely, definitely struggling with some indecisiveness there. But if anybody's got any ideas on how to celebrate our one year for I Know a Girl, I'm definitely looking for some suggestions. Maybe I'll um plan like a little date where we can all meet up and hang out or go for a hike or something. If you're local. Because I know I have a lot of listeners that aren't local. So I'd love to hang out with you guys or even chat if you're not local to me in New York. But yeah, I hope uh this was a good episode for you. Or a good episode for somebody that you know that kind of needs to stop drinking the poison and just be happy. But I love you guys. I hope you have a good week. Bye!