Hang In There

27. Beyond Coercive Control: To My Parents- You Loved Me Through It

Hang In There Season 1 Episode 27

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"You weren't silent because you approved. You were silent because you loved me."

Walking into a small entryway. Physically and emotionally exhausted. Carrying bags, holding onto dogs, trying to hold onto the kids. Trying to hold onto myself.

And you just… made room for us.

In this episode I write a letter to my parents. To the people who loved me through something they couldn't fully see. Who stayed available even when they didn't know what to say. Who watched me go back again and again and kept the door open anyway.

Tuesday phone calls on a landline. Lawyers who couldn't help. Missed holidays that slowly became normal. A magic wand no one could wave. And a voice in the background saying three words that changed everything.

This episode is for every survivor who never found the words to tell their family what those years cost them. For every parent who watched their child disappear and didn't know whether speaking up would help or make things worse. For the child waiting to hear the door is still open. For the parent waiting for them to walk back through it. And for every survivor whose family wasn't there at all, this episode holds space for you too.

Coercive control doesn't just affect the person living inside it. It spreads outward quietly. Into families. Into silence. Into the way everyone around it learns to survive too.

Love doesn't always look the way we expect it to. Sometimes it looks like a door that stayed open.

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