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Brandon Held - Life is Crazy
I Host 2 Podcasts. Life Is Crazy and The Buckeye Battle Cry Show. The Life Is Crazy podcast is designed to help with suicide prevention. That is the #1 goal! This is also a Podcast of perseverance, self-help, self-Improvement, becoming a better person, making it through struggles and not only surviving, but thriving! In this Podcast the first 25 episodes detail my life's downs and ups. A story that shows you can overcome poverty, abusive environments, drug and alcoholic environments, difficult bosses, being laid-off from work, losing your family, and being on the brink of suicide. Listen and find a place to share life stories and experiences. Allow everyone to learn from each other to reinforce our place in this world. To grow and be better people and help build a better more understanding society.
The early podcast episodes are a story of the journey of my life. The start from poor, drug and alcohol stricken life, to choices that lead to success. Discusses my own suicide ideations and attempt that I struggled with for most of my life. Being raised by essentially only my mother with good intentions, but didn't know how to teach me to be a man. About learning life's lessons and how to become a man on this journey and sharing those lessons and experiences with others whom hopefully can benefit from my successes and failures.
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Brandon Held - Life is Crazy
Episode 67: Your Perspective Is Your Greatest Superpower with Reginald Martin
Reginald Martin shares his journey from poverty to purpose, revealing how he transformed repeated rock bottoms into spiritual awakening through the power of perspective. His framework, Kemetaphysics, merges ancient wisdom with modern psychology to help people create life on their terms without guilt or shame.
• Growing up in poverty with a teenage single mother, sometimes surviving on mustard sandwiches
• Earning a basketball scholarship to college that opened his eyes to new possibilities
• Experiencing the devastation of losing everything five times throughout his life
• Discovering ancient Kemetic teachings that answered his deepest spiritual questions
• Learning that thoughts and beliefs create our reality through the law of attraction
• Identifying patterns in relationships and circumstances that pointed to internal beliefs
• Shifting from religious framing to understanding ourselves as extensions of Source
• Using perspective as a superpower to transform life circumstances
• Following joy as a guidance system rather than external expectations
• Living life on his terms without guilt or shame
You can connect with Reginald at reginaldmartin.substack.com and learn more about his AI tool at thesoulpreneur.ai to discover how to create life on your terms.
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This is survival of the fittest. This is do or die. This is when it takes it all, so take it all. Welcome back to Brandon Held. Life is Crazy and today I have a special guest on my show that I'm pretty excited to talk to. He's pretty accomplished in all the things that he's done in life and, just like everyone else, we get to hear his life story today and how he got to where he is today, and his name is Reginald Martin. Reginald Martin is a spiritual architect, metaphysician and creator of Kemetaphysics, a high-level framework that merges ancient Kemetic science with modern psychology to help spiritually evolved leaders, creators and visionaries reconstruct their inner architecture, transcend inherited limitations and create life on their terms, without guilt or shame. So I'm going to bring Reginald in now. How are you doing today, Reginald?
Speaker 1:Hey, brandon, I'm doing great man. How about yourself? I'm doing pretty well, sounds like you got it going pretty good right now.
Speaker 2:Let's just get into it. This is Life is Crazy, crazy. We love to tell the life story, but before we dig into that, let's hear just a little bit about who you are and what you're about yeah, uh, brandon.
Speaker 1:So I guess, uh, just a quick blurb about me is that you know I'm a risk taker, you know, and, and something that I decided a long time ago was that I would never live my life in a way that I would look back on it and say I wish I had half. You know, look back on my life with regrets. But that has also caused its own problems, because I take risks and those risks can have you can. You know, you can go high or you can go low, and I have had both. So I'm a risk taker, I'm, in that sense, an entrepreneur, but I love living life to the fullest and that's what it's about for me and having fun and taking all the lumps with it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what a great attitude. And taking all the lumps with it, yeah, what a great attitude. Being a risk taker obviously has its rewards and it also has its pitfalls. So if you can live with the pitfalls and be happy with the rewards, then yeah, what a great attitude, what a great way to live life. You've accomplished many things in life and I think being a risk taker is incredible. Not everyone has the ability to do that. I consider myself a slightly moderate risk taker compared to, say, some of my partners and ex-wives that I've been with, who like that security of knowing I'm going to get paid this much every two weeks and blah, blah, blah, whereas I was like, well, you got to grow, you got to evolve to make yourself have a better life, right? So I'm sure you kind of adopted that same personality.
Speaker 1:For me, it's one of the worst things that I felt like I was doing when I was living early in my life was I was living as a father you know husband, you know the house, the cars, all that stuff. But I was living in a frame that I was told that a good man and a good husband is supposed to live in. And, believe me, I wanted to be a good man, I wanted to be a good husband good father, all of that, but it was also like a slow journey to death that really lights you up from within, so that that, for me, was just.
Speaker 2:I had to do something about that later on, yeah, and that can be soul sucking. I also was there at one point in my life as well, trying to do what everyone, quote unquote, called the right thing, but I was just miserable and unhappy, trying to be what everyone else thought a man should be or I should be. Let's go back to the beginning. Let's go back to the foundation. What started you into being the man that you are, and let's so tell us about your childhood, where you grew up, what life was like.
Speaker 1:Okay, so for me it was. I grew up, I grew up in poverty. So I was the product of a single parent, mother. She had me when she was a teenager. She was 16 years old, so she had to make a decision early whether or not she was going to even have me. So that's how life started out for me. You know, it was just I was. I was a question mark. So you know, are we going to let him live or not, you know, but obviously she let me live. So you know which was that worked out for me? So so glad of that.
Speaker 1:But growing up in poverty, you know you deal with a lot of things, a lot of trauma, that a lot of people might not, and for me it wasn't even trauma, it was just my life. You know, I didn't, I didn't, I didn't know that I was in poverty until people told me I was. You know what I'm saying? Yes, so it was just the way I lived and so the way I. There was just some days that you know, especially as a teenager. You know, in high school, brandon man, I didn't know where my next meal was going to come from. You know my mother, she was working hard, she was an entrepreneur herself. But it was like there was some nights that I went to bed and my stomach was touching my back. You know, you know, but but it was. It was a sobering life that. It teaches you mental toughness too, because you have to overcome a lot.
Speaker 2:It teaches you mental toughness too, because you have to overcome a lot. Yeah, you probably don't know this about me, but you basically just described my childhood. Same situation my mom had me when she was 16. Obviously, not planned. By the time, two days after her 18th birthday, she now had two kids as a single mother and also grew up very poor.
Speaker 2:Same situation in high school, uh, but you know, I had stepdad around and he was abusive to her and I used to watch her get beat up and stuff like that. But uh, but yeah, some days my only meal was my free school lunch and I'm not saying I didn't eat anything at home, but I didn't have a meal. Like maybe I'm not exaggerating when I say I would peel a raw potato and eat a raw potato, put some salt on it and eat a raw. You know just something to put in my stomach. But yeah, like you, it was my quote unquote normal and you didn't even realize until later and after the fact that, oh man, that was not normal, that so yeah, so I totally get everything you're saying right there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, some sometime. My meal was a uh was a mustard sandwich with salt and pepper. So I would take two pieces of bread, spread some mustard on it, sprinkle it with salt and pepper. That was my meal. No joke, yeah, no.
Speaker 2:I believe you, I totally believe you. Being in those circumstances as a youth made you feel like I don't want to live my life this way, so it gives you drive to want to be successful and do more for yourself in the future. Is that safe to say for you?
Speaker 1:Yeah, that kind of came a little bit later, because what happened to me was I was also a pretty good athlete. So I ended up going through high school playing basketball and I ended up getting a scholarship to college, which happened to be a seminary college, but I wasn't going to seminary school but they, you know, had a basketball team. So that helped me to get exposed to other people's lives that were not like mine. So it was only then that I could put my life in the context of how regular people lived it, because for me, athletes were the idea of what a life outside of what I was living was supposed to be like. That was the only way that that was going to happen. But once I went to college I started to meet other people who were working for a living, you know, got educated and got good jobs and still live really nice lives. That was just like an eye opener for me. So that was like amazing.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah. So that's great. You had that athletic talent and the ability to go to college right out of high school. I was in no way, shape or form, ever ready to go to college out of high school. As a matter of fact, when I graduated high school, I thought I would never attend college. It turned out not to be the case. I now have an MBA, but it took a lot of growing and maturing and different things to happen in my life for that to happen. All right, so you get to college. You had this basketball scholarship. What position did you play, by the way?
Speaker 1:I was point guard, so I'm I'm actually six three, but I was one of the little guys on the team.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's funny how that is Cause'm 6'1" and I played shooting guard. I didn't play point guard, I didn't have the handles to play point guard, but I could shoot the lights out on the ball. But they used to jokingly call me Steve Kerr back in the day because he was the shooter back in the 90s when I was playing. But yeah, that's cool, 6'3" with with handles.
Speaker 1:I envy that because I never had those kind of handles yeah, well, see, I had designs on making it to the NBA and I knew, uh, I was, uh, the NBA was already moving towards by that time, and this was in the early 80s for me. So by that time they were moving towards bigger guards, uh, being six, four and up. So I was like, like, right on the precipice of not being big enough for the nba. And now, man, these guards are six, seven. I mean you six, fives to six, seven guards, you know.
Speaker 2:So it's a different, different world. Now, I think iverson was only six one, wasn't?
Speaker 1:he? Yep iverson was six one'1", wasn't he? Yep Iverson was 6'1", and he looked tiny on the basketball court.
Speaker 2:I used to watch him and be like we're the same size and he looks so small on that basketball court, absolutely, absolutely.
Speaker 1:One of my contemporaries was Spud Webb. I don't know if you remember him. Of course yeah, 5'6" and Kedunk yeah yep, yep, actually we played against each other in high school, so uh. So yeah, he was one of those little guys that could up, but man, he had the hops yes, he did all right.
Speaker 2:So you're going to college. You have dreams of the nba that, I guess, didn't happen. What happened? No, no, didn't happen not, not even a tryout on a team, not a tryout or anything.
Speaker 1:So by the time I, when I went to college um, I ended up, I was one of those guys. I was on the team, you know I was. I guess I was a valuable piece because I kept my scholarship, uh, but I I was not one of those. That was like one of the top players.
Speaker 1:I thought I should have been, but I wasn't, you know and I'm probably, looking back on it, the big reason was that that was was probably because of me and my attitude, you know. So I didn't have mentors and you know I thought I was entitled to play and you know so. So I did some things that the coaches didn't necessarily see as a leader, you know, being a leader on a team as I got into later years, so you know I but I was a hard worker, I wasn't a troublemaker or anything like that, so I stayed around, you know, but I didn't. I, I wasn't one of the starters on the team, so, but you know, we got a chance to practice against the Houston Rockets at that time Moses Malone and a lot of those players, ralph Sampson. We actually got to play pickup games and I held my own with those guys, you know, but just never got the chance to actually play in the league or or anything like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and that's unfortunate. Life is a lot about just chances and opportunities. Complete sidebar here. My brother is a drummer. He plays the drums and he can literally pick any kind of rock song, heavy metal, band song and he can duplicate it, he can recreate it and he can play. He's incredible. He never had an opportunity to just be a drummer in a band in his life and he could have played literally for anyone. He's an unbelievable drummer. So you saying that's what that makes me think about my brother and his lack of opportunity with his high level of skill, which it's clear you had if you were able to hang with those kinds of players playing ball All right. So that didn't work out. So what did you do next? Where did you take yourself?
Speaker 1:Well, one of the things that I did was, uh, even though I wasn't playing, uh, you know, uh, I wasn't a basketball star or anything like that I still ended up getting my degree OK. So at that time the college was doing a double major, so my major was in psychology and business management. I was one of the first people in my whole extended family to ever even go to college, let alone get a degree Right. So so that? So I got opportunities because of my ability you know my athletic ability. But I turned that opportunity into something good for myself, you know. And getting that degree, you know myself, you know. And getting that degree, you know. So I never, even though I wasn't playing, you know, I thought I should have been.
Speaker 2:I was smart enough to know that this was an opportunity that I did have to make something of it. Okay, and so what did that lead you into?
Speaker 1:Well, I, once I graduated, so I had lived in Houston. Then I came back to my hometown, dallas, and, you know, found a job and, you know, just started working, you know. So I worked for a lot of years and you know, and I can say that even though, well, let me go back to college, because that's something pertinent to now was, in college I had, I had always had questions about, well, even before college, I had questions about my religious upbringing, so, and I was born and raised as a Christian and I started asking questions when I was a teenager. So one of the questions that I remember asking my mother about the age of 15 was is you know the idea of hell and if people will go to hell or not? You know, basically, I'm trying to, you know, figure all of this out. And I said so, tell me this you know, a person who is Jewish doesn't believe in Jesus as the Savior, but they could do good all their lives and they could end up in hell, but a person who is a mass murderer could basically accept Jesus on his deathbed and go to heaven. You're telling me that that was something like that could happen. My mother didn't even hesitate and said yeah, and Brandon, that just did not sit right with me.
Speaker 1:So I went through high school and I had questions and of course the people in the know I would ask those questions, you know. And of course the people in the know you know they would, they could, I would ask those questions, but they could never answer them satisfactorily. Well, I went to this, this Bible college, you know, on my basketball scholarship and of course you know you had to take Bible classes and stuff like that. But at that point I considered myself an atheist, okay, okay, but it wasn't necessary that necessary that that I didn't believe in something bigger than me. It was the idea that that I didn't like that Bible God, that idea that that was taught to me, that God was supposed to be in the Bible.
Speaker 1:So, so I had, so, going through college, that whole time I was there I invited people to talk, you know, and to challenge me, and I challenged them and you know, so I went through that. But once I graduated, those questions never went away. I just, you know, just started studying comparative religion, just different things, to basically help answer those questions for me. So after I graduated, worked, then ended up getting married. After I got married, had children and then actually went back to the church because I wanted what I felt was a spiritual connection, but I didn't know where else to go. So that was kind of that takes me up to uh, to marriage, then divorce, and things started happening after that.
Speaker 2:All right, I feel like anyone with any kind of intelligence and this is not to disrespect anyone who hasn't taken this journey but I also completely understand the journey, your spiritual journey, because I went through the same things. A lot of things being taught to me in church as a young man didn't pass the sniff test. It just didn't make sense to me, and so I also went through a period of time where I considered myself an atheist. I flat out said I don't believe in God, I don't believe he's real. Now, later in time, I came back to him and I had my belief again. But I have a very and I'm not going to get into this for it's. This podcast is about you but I have a very, I would say, different perspective on how I view god in religion and my relationship with god, and that's something I don't talk much about, but clearly this is a big part of your life. So yes, so yeah, continue on your journey. So you were married. You had kids that didn't work out. Now you're going through a divorce. What's happening there?
Speaker 1:Yeah. So once I went through the divorce, man, that that's my world just crashed, because at that point I thought I was doing everything that a good man was supposed to do you know, to do, you know and then all of a sudden the woman that I was with didn't want to be with me anymore, and that was like just devastating for me, you know. But at that point she ended up cheating on me and so that, that, just that tore me up and but we ended up getting a divorce. And so the next few years Brandon, I course you want to like how can I say you wanted to be okay, you know, even with the opposite sex, you know. So I started dating and different things and I started to recognize some patterns, and this goes into my spiritual journey here.
Speaker 2:The patterns in you or other people.
Speaker 1:Both and they're related. So that's part of the spiritual journey that has helped me to come through a lot of difficult times journey that has helped me to come through a lot of difficult times, but basically I lost everything. At that point. That was one of the first times I lost everything, because my house that I had bought, the family that I had, the friends that I had were all around, my marriage, my neighborhood, everything I lost all of that.
Speaker 1:I started dating and the reason I mentioned dating is because that was one of the things that first started me to asking some questions that I recognized but I didn't have a language for, and what I recognized was that I kept dating really the same type woman. They look different, different names, everything, but they essentially were the same type woman. They look different, different names, everything, but they essentially were the same type woman. And at that point I had to step back and I had to ask a question. You know, just logically, either all these women have gotten together and conspired to treat me the same way, or there's something happening here that is because of me. Yeah, okay, and so that that started me to asking that question and what I, what it came down to was I. I was going to take responsibility for what was happening in my life. I still hadn't had my language for it yet, but I knew that what I figured out was it was something within me that was causing me to choose those type women, okay, okay. So let's move forward a few more years around.
Speaker 1:This is around 2006. The secret came out and a funny thing happened. My brother had asked me hey, man, have you seen the Secret? I'm like, huh, the Secret. He's like, yeah, the Secret. I'm like, so you know, he started telling me about it and all this stuff. And I'm listening to him and I'm like dude, when the hell are you going to tell me the Secret? You know?
Speaker 2:So you know.
Speaker 1:So he's having this coming and I'm getting angry because I'm like are you trying to hold out on me, or what you know well needs to say that the the secret turned out to be what he was telling me about you know? Yeah, I saw the secret yeah yeah but what that ended up doing was it gave me a new frame to look at life through okay and a metaphysical frame okay to look at life through that was detached from the religion, from what I thought was spirituality and religion being synonymous.
Speaker 1:It ended up helping me to separate the two ideas, okay yeah because of that, I was able to really start to look at my life and who I was in a way that empowered me. So when I did start to go through difficult times and I lost things after that, uh, that this gave me a foundation to to re-evaluate a lot of different things.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay, yeah, I saw the secret. There's a lot of that I buy into and we won't sit here and go through the secret, but just the power of positive thinking that's to me. That's been a huge helpful benefit for me in my life Once I turned my life around. You probably don't know this about me, but I've been divorced three times and if you and if you include the day that I left my mom's house to join the air force at 17, four times in my life I've had to start with nothing, nothing. I've lost everything three times in my life, so five for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah so people won't.
Speaker 2:I only do audio, I don't do video, so people won't see your hand up in the air. Yeah, so, yeah. So you showed me the five. So five for you, yeah, so for me. The fourth time was the way you were describing your divorce. I it was the fourth time I lost everything. I lost my wife, my kids, my house. I got laid off at the same time and I was just tired of starting over. I was tired of finding myself in the same place and so I actually attempted suicide same place, and so I actually attempted suicide. I took a whole bottle of Ambien pills and I ended up living. Someone called an ambulance and they saved my life.
Speaker 2:And when I first woke up, I was mad, I was angry, I didn't want to live. I was angry that I lived. But then, a little short time after that, I realized if I'm going to live, I can't keep living the same way that I've been living. And just that thought started a whole change in my entire life. The way I thought, the way I behaved, the way I not only treated myself but treated other people, myself but treated other people it really changed my entire life, obviously for the better, which is why we're here today now doing this podcast.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so, go ahead and tell us where that led you. Yeah, so, and and just like you, uh, brandon, I, you know, I think any of us that do come through that it is because we literally make a shift, you know, and we make a shift and we look at our lives in a way that we know something is not going right. So we have to change that, you know. And that's really about what Kemetic spirituality is about for me, because what? I go back to the ancient um teachings, because a lot of times they're just. They're just pure and unadulterated. They, they don't, they're not framed in ways that, you know, try to keep people in power, or or whatever the case might be.
Speaker 1:Sure, so the original, what what you just described? Sure, so the original, what, what you just described, you know, having you literally tried to die. Ok, a lot of times, this is, this is. This might be a figurative, jeff. Now, I thought about it. You know, I thought about suicide. I started preparing for, you know, all of that stuff, man, and, and it was because at that point, when you lose everything as a man, you start to question your work, everything that you are, you know, if you had a house, a car, a wife and kids and all of that, and then all of a sudden it's gone. And if you've tried to live in that frame and it's all gone, then who the hell are you Exactly? You know?
Speaker 2:And what is your purpose? Why are you here? What is your?
Speaker 1:purpose? Exactly, what is your purpose? Why are you here, you know? Why does anybody even want you now? Because you don't have anything to offer, exactly, you know. So all of that stuff is running through your mind and I don't know if that was the way it was for you. That was the way it was for you, but I'm sure on some level it was like I don't have a reason to live.
Speaker 2:No, it definitely was.
Speaker 1:You're describing my whole thought process at that time. So, yeah, yeah, so, and a lot of us go through that as men, right, but on a figurative level. That's what the ancient idea of the crucifixion was is that you literally die to the old self and then the resurrection is. When you come through it, and it as a literal thing, then you worship the idea, but it has no other meaning to you other than it's something you're supposed to worship rather than embody. Ok, that's what. That's what the comedic teachings taught me.
Speaker 1:That's what the comedic teachings taught me, and the reason I even got to that was I started looking for the origin of the secret, because in the movie, rhonda Byrne alluded to the Greeks having the secret, and the secret basically being that thoughts become things. So I had seen that play out in my lives in a lot of different ways the, the women that I was dating, you know this. My beliefs showed up as those women. So my, my thoughts and what I say beliefs are simply thoughts that are viewed with imagination and emotion. Okay, so habitual thoughts and uh, so. So that's what I saw as a, as a reflection of that. But once I came through that, then that was the resurrection, and at that point you can start to change and start to live life in a different way.
Speaker 2:Yeah, what you're saying is.
Speaker 2:I just agree with that so much.
Speaker 2:It's so spot on, and one of the things that I saw recently from a psychologist was they had put these women through this test right, where they were going to scar or disfigure their face with makeup not for real, just make it look like something was scarred or disfigured and they wanted them to go into job interviews and see if they felt like they were being treated differently than they normally would because of their scarring or disfigurement that they had put on their face.
Speaker 2:And so, right when they were about to go into the job interview, they would say let us touch up your makeup and they would remove the discarring or disfigurement look. But they didn't tell the women, and so the women would go into the interview and then they would come out complaining about all this behavior that they received because they were scarred or disfigured. Yeah, wow, and it wasn't there. It literally wasn't there. So it was just they already had this in their mind that they were going to be treated a certain way, and they were looking for this behavior when really it had nothing to do with anything.
Speaker 1:It was no different than it, except their mental belief, except their mental belief.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly, and that is mental belief. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1:And that is so powerful.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, a very eye opening. Not just not really for me, specifically because I have understood for a while. I've told my kids are almost adults now, but when they were little I used to say to them if you think life is miserable, you're right. If you think life is miserable, you're right. If you think life is great, you're right. It's really just what you think. So you choose a perspective. That's right and I've known that for a while.
Speaker 1:But what I teach, is, is, is, brandon, is a perspective, is a superpower.
Speaker 2:That's right, that's right, so tell us more about that.
Speaker 1:So, basically, this again goes back to the idea that thoughts become things because, essentially, we create the reality that is our lives. From a comedic perspective, it is the idea of living the principles of Ma'at which is, first of all, your truth is something that is subjective. Okay, that your perspective and your beliefs are totally within you and how you see life is really a projection of those beliefs. Okay, life is going to reflect or reciprocate. Going to reflect or reciprocate the thoughts become things. This is what that underlying idea is is that life is a reflection of your beliefs and your vibrational essence being projected as your life. Okay, you are being shown and given, basically, life as feedback to help you to understand what it is that you are believing and if there is something that you don't like, you change it. You change your beliefs and you change your life. That's right.
Speaker 1:You change what happens outside of you. That perspective is the superpower because if you, like you said before, if you want to look at life in a negative way and see all the negative aspects and the pessimism about life, you can absolutely take that perspective and live miserable every day. But I like to say you can. You can also choose to find the silver lining in any cloud, if you decide silver lining in any cloud, if you decide.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I totally agree. I grew up under pretty bad conditions, like you, but I also was surrounded I don't know about you because you didn't get into it, but I was also surrounded by a lot of alcoholism and drug abuse and physical abuse Not me personally, like I said to my mother, and people would always say to me. My mother and people would always say to me how are you so happy? Like, why are you so happy? And then they would point out negative things in their life or whatever the case is that prevented them from being happy. And I would just look at them and go is it something you can change? No, then, all right, there's not. Then let it slide, don worry about it. Is it something you can change? Yeah, all right, then change it, do something about it. Bingo, yeah, that's how you get through, that's how you know when things aren't going your way. If you can change it, you change it. You have to change it, otherwise you're just going to be stuck in that miserable situation or condition.
Speaker 1:Oh, absolutely and mean Brandon. That goes to also what I went through the last time that I lost everything because this was like a slow progression. So I saw it coming, you know. But what I recognized is that there's a science to this, you know, to science, to your beliefs, beyond superstition. Because what? What ended up starting me on this road of really studying metaphysics was? I wanted an answer to one question how the hell can I get my prayers answered? I see people around me who were drug dealers, that that were in family, that were getting their prayers answered. They were living the life. They were doing everything. I'm living the right way. Things are not happening like I said. This person is doing stuff that's supposed to be wrong, illegal and everything, and they're getting life handed to them like this great stuff. But I'm living the right way and I've lost my job, I've gotten laid off, I'm collecting unemployment for the first time in my life, I'm in my 40s, you know, living like this and I'm like what the hell is going on started that.
Speaker 1:So how do I get my press? Because I recognized too that again I understood the idea that thoughts become things, because I could see that happening throughout my life where, uh, there were certain things that would just, they just seemed magical, brandon, that would happen, that there was no explanation, except there was just something that was making these things happen. But again, I was the common denominator.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Okay. So when I started to looking at that, that's when I started to study these ideas and that's where really I got into the ancient science, and that's where really I got into the ancient science, so trying to find out the answer to law of attraction. I ended up finding the answer in the ancient African spirituality of comedicism. But I also found answers to my childhood religion, so I also found that the answers that I was asking people about. I found the answers to both those systems within these ancient teachings.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's great, reginald. I love everything you're saying here today. I don't know that I've agreed with someone this much, just on the whole life outlook period, everything you've gone through and everything, your growth and showing just how different life can be. It's almost like we were on the same journey. To some degree, our lives were very parallel.
Speaker 1:And it sounds like you. You've had to make some of the same realizations. You know, so you might not have my same language, you might not have thought about it the same way, but in order to get to where you are, you got to go through these things. I don't care what you call it. Yeah, you know. Yeah, you got to go through it or you're gonna live miserable yeah, for sure, excuse me.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, cometaphysics, that's your terminology for it. But, like you said, I was doing it, but just with different terminology, different. Yep, I may not have even had a term for some of the things I was doing. It but just with different terminology, different. I may not have even had a term for some of the things I was doing. It just instinctively felt like the right thing to do.
Speaker 1:And what I call that is is that you have a soul level guidance system. It kicks in so many of us again. We don't call it that and a lot of times we couch the soul in the idea of religious terms. But it's just that, that energetic, higher level aspect of you, that that you're tapped into, you know, and I call it a soul level guidance system.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and once I got on the outside looking in, even I was guilty of. I worked so hard to do everything, quote unquote right in life and and just like anyone else, I had hard times and I had good times. And to me it was almost like the good times were what I was supposed to have, because I was doing the right thing, so I took those for granted. And then when the bad times kicked in, that's the parts that really affected me and it really hit me hard because it was like, like you were saying, I'm a good dude, I'm doing good things, why the hell are these bad things happen to me? And once you just flip that perspective and realize bad things happen to everyone, good and bad people, and you can just focus on the positive things, the good things that happen in your life, and let those bad things slide, because it will pass. It'll pass and if you keep doing the right things and doing what's good for you in your life, those bad things will slip away and they'll be in your rear view mirror.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and see, and what you're talking about to me, brandon, is, this is where the science comes in for me, because I didn't like the idea that I had no say in what was happening in my life. That's what I was taught. You know that. You know, either God blessed you or God cursed you, right, and if I'm doing right, god's supposed to bless me. Yeah, but that's not what was happening. So I'm asking why is God cursing me?
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's how I became an atheist. That's where that led me. It was that those teachings. And then I'm doing all the right things and my life is miserable and I'm like F this there is no God, exactly exactly.
Speaker 1:No, that's you describe exactly. That's the process that I went through, too mentally, and a lot of us go through that, you know. And but the science of it is that we are the, we are an aspect of what we call God. So the ancient idea of God and our religious idea of God is two totally, completely different things, is what I found out. But we are an extension of that source, living as a human being, and the idea is that we are here on the earth plane to remember that, Okay, to remember that we are souls with the ability to create in on this plane of existence and you are to live a life in a way that you live through your joy. And what I like to say is is that I now, I now live a life where I'll live it on my terms. So I do the things that I want to do when I want to do them, okay, and I live that without any guilt or shame. But joy is my guide, yeah, and what I mean by that is is that the things that light me up within, that get me excited from within, are the things that I move towards.
Speaker 1:So, when I dealt with depression and I got down because again. I've lost things five times and I've gotten depressed every time. Depressed every time. But understanding that I am the creator of that, I realized that the only way to get me through that was for me to focus. It's not just positive thinking, it's positive being, and positive being means is that you focus on what you desire, not the shit that's happening to you. Yeah, so you can. You can focus on the pessimistic stuff, but what that ends up doing is magnetizing all the things that are negative to come into your sphere of experience. Okay, you have a better chance of experiencing that negative stuff than you do the positive stuff when you think pessimistically and you move through life from a pessimistic perspective like that and even if you see positive stuff or you won't.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry you won't even see it because you'll be blind because of your perspective to anything that's positive yes, yes, you know.
Speaker 2:No, I think what you're, what you've gone through, what you've learned and now what you're trying to coach people with and help lead people in the in what I call the right direction, is great and amazing, and I hope you get all the opportunity in the world to do that and people get that from you and take that from you. So you are life coach and we got to bring this to a close because we're running out of time. But just let everyone know how they can reach you. You know how they can get your book. We didn't even talk about the fact that you're an author and how they can get all the good stuff that you have to provide they can get all the good stuff that you have to provide.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so the the simplest way is I have a Substack account, that uh or Substack uh website, which is basically my newsletter, where, uh, I write and teach about these things just about every day. Uh, so if a person wants to tap into these ideas, uh, like one of the um, the ideas that I that I talked about today was are you one of the chosen people? Okay, but that is coming from. We're taught that chosen people was something that was bestowed from something outside ourselves, but the ancient teachings wasn't that. So I gave another perspective on that, but it's at reginaldmartinsubstackcom. You can reach me there.
Speaker 1:Also, I've created a tool where people can actually really get into apreneurcom and, I'm sorry, ai, so the soulpreneurai and you can actually. This is where it's like a chat GPT-like thing, where you can actually get into conversations, you can learn about esoteric symbolism, just a lot of different things, but you can find out more about it there, and so those are mainly the two places that you can kind of get into contact with me and and and get yourself your feet wet on how to really live life on your terms and to create life on your terms without guilt or shame.
Speaker 2:Yeah, great stuff. And so if you're someone that is struggling to even just have a positive perspective in life you keep seeing things in a negative way and life is happening, happening to you instead of you making life happen you definitely want to reach out to Reginald and learn how to change that. And you can change that. Believe that you can change Absolutely. He did it, I did it, you can do it. So let someone teach you how to do it if you can't do it on your own. So I want to thank you, reginald, for being on my show today. What a great conversation. For being on my show today. What a great conversation. What a funny, almost parallel life we've run.
Speaker 2:We're soul brothers, yeah, soul brothers, for sure, absolutely, and I really appreciate you sharing all this with the audience today and hopefully you can help more people turn their lives around the same way. And for me, like I always say every week, please go to my website, brandonheldcom, and subscribe to the podcast. It's 10 bucks a month, but it's just supporting this show. You can help me keep this podcast going and not trying to be rich here, just want to break even. So I'm doing this to help people, not make money, and, as always, I want to thank you for giving us your most valuable asset, which is your time, and I never take that for granted, and I appreciate you. Listening to life is crazy and until then, I will talk to you next time.
