Love Better & Life Better
Love Better is a safe and loving space where we talk about the real, raw parts of relationships. I’m Shazmeen, and in this podcast, I’ll be sharing my own story and the lessons I’ve learned about attachment styles, relationship healing, and self love. We’ll talk about how attachment styles shape the way we connect, the struggles of addiction your fearful or dismissive avoidant partner may have to pornography or other levels they numb feeling away, what happens when intimacy fades in sexless relationships, and how losing touch with our inner child can impact how we love. You will walk away with lessons and tools to improve your current relationships, walk away from ones that no longer serve you and learn how to build new relationships from a place of secure foundations. We will break down anxious attachment, secure attachment, fearful avoidant attachment and dismissive attachment and the deep role our attachment styles play in the way we intimately relate to others and ourselves. The key will be to grow to be more securely attached. But most importantly, I’ll be here offering support, kindness, and compassion as we explore how to heal these wounds. My hope is that through these conversations, you’ll feel seen, heard, and empowered to rebuild the love and connection you deserve—starting with yourself. I wanted to create a podcast that felt like you are talking and listening to a friend. One that cares deeply for your ability to love better. We will dive deep into how our attachment styles hold a foundation for a lot of the decisions we make. You will gain an insight into your "why's" and learn from a place of no judgement. You will learn how to communicate better, resolve challenges and handle conflict from a new perspective. I hope you enjoy listening to this podcast whilst on a walk, jog, in the tub or taking yourself on a date. Lets get vulnerable together and as we heal remember we can love better. NO more blaming, critiquing and shaming yourself and your partner.
Life better is a segment that drops every Thursday and will teach you self mastery, mastering emotions and how to take responsibility of your life. I will give you tools you can use weekly to grow into the version of "self" you are born to be.
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Do u have episode for the effect of this has a parent whos married to a dismissive avoidant? After so much research, 3 years married. I came across dismissive avoidant this weekend and is 100% my husband. And 70% of our problems and why we are barely surviving in our marriage. Im fighting to save us. I want to learn and better understand the "whys" so I can hopefully empathize with why he reacts the water he does, why he checks out, Stonewall, gaslights, takes everything I say as criticism and has effected our ability to communicate with one another where it's minimal. Connection is lacking. I don't think he's ever validated my emotions, hurts, feelings once in our entire relationship. He always has excuses and shift blames, deflects. And its emotionally and internally destroying me. I lll spiral while he sits back unbothered with no desire to find a resolution. It feels like he's incapable of ever taking accountability. I need to understand why... and understand what I can do differently to avoid things escalating while also not neglecting my emotional needs and need for emotional validation. Im trying to save us. I want him to understand how it effects me as well
I would love to ask you a question about my dismissive avoidant ex to see if I’m doing it all wrong or if she wants to to reconnect
I just listened/watched to your emotionally unavailable episode and found it really helpful. I’ve been working on what you touched on for a while now, and am more centered on myself than chasing connection from my husband. I’m past the anger and frustration of being hurt and dismissed and it trues breaks my heart to see him like this. His anxiety and inability to deal with emotions is hurting him and seeing this darkness spread (as most things do) to consume more of him and all of us. I’ve been working on managing my role in this toxic cycle and pouring more energy in to my self and I love the letter writing you spoke about. It’s so hard to watch this pressure and volatility he’s created in our home seep on to our children. As I’m working through the guilt of not protecting them. the struggle of balancing my intellectual self and emotional feelings it’s tough. It’s hard not to feel embarrassed and shame of being emotionally abused although I know I shouldn’t. I appreciated your empathic approach, because I see him and his struggles so clearly and really wish he could trust that. But I can’t keep throwing energy into that void, and need to center it on myself and my children. Any ways I just wanted to let you know that I felt that your episode was very helpful and I appreciated it.
I would like to know if I should stay quiet while he's pulled away or can I say something to him about how I want to be a safe space for him, if he comes back. And how should I word it so it doesn’t cause him to retreat more? Also he broke up with me over some texts I sent him a few weeks ago where I was stating my feelings and I guess I overwhelmed him. He’s sent me some flat texts lately and I've mirrors him in my texts back. Thank you.