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Finding Home When You Feel Lost: Embracing Your Longings
Ever felt a yearning so deep it aches? A longing for something that hasn't yet manifested but feels somehow written into your bones? You're not alone.
This episode of the Salty Bake Club opens with a message from a listener that cuts straight to the heart: the universal struggle of feeling unrooted, searching for home, and longing for a sense of belonging. Sara Grace vulnerably shares how these words could have been pulled directly from her own journal during a tumultuous period when she felt swept away in life's washing machine, disconnected from stability and doubting her own instincts.
What makes our deepest longings so sacred? Drawing from Sue Monk Kidd's "The Book of Longings," Sarah explores how desires that form from the marrow of our existence aren't random—they're holy guideposts. "God bless the largeness inside me, no matter how I fear it." These words become a touchstone for embracing rather than fearing the magnitude of what we wish for.
The path to manifesting our heart's desires requires a delicate dance between seemingly contradictory forces. On one hand, we must actively participate in creating change—shocking statistics reveal that 85% of people globally feel unfulfilled in their jobs, largely because comfort is chosen over growth. Yet simultaneously, we must cultivate the discipline to sit quietly with our longings, allowing all the accompanying emotions—hope, fear, grief—to move through us without resistance.
Have you noticed how the words "longing" and "belonging" are connected? Perhaps our deepest yearnings are ultimately what guide us toward our rightful communities. In a culture that teaches isolation, sharing our unfiltered truths creates bridges of authentic connection.
Ready to honor your holy longings? Join our community of seekers who are learning to trust the pathway, however winding, toward what their hearts truly desire. What are you deeply yearning for right now?
Bake Club. We're back with another episode of the Salty Bake Club. I'm your host, sarah Grace, and I have literally no freaking clue where the first half of this year went. It is July and I feel like we are all a little bit too tanned, a little sun-tired, a little restless and eventually even sticky, hot and sweaty. So I baked us something to counteract that A really fresh and tangy raspberry almond cake, and I'm sitting here with my pitcher full of raspberry and strawberry milk being dressed in all these colors and, honestly, this week's episode will bring you something that at least it brings me to my depth. So the freshness here in the attire, the baked goods, shall counteract that a little bit. Let me begin with.
Speaker 1:A couple weeks ago, after the the truth is episode, I received a message on Instagram. In the episode, I told you please share your truths with me, like what is something that feels like a deep and tender truth to your heart but isn't easily said. What this person wrote cut through the layers and opened my 2021 journal. Seriously, her words could have been mine and I felt so seen in the struggle, in the heartache that I felt back then, and I was so touched once again by our mutual experiences. So this episode is for her, for me, for everyone who deeply and wholeheartedly longs for something in their life that hasn't yet manifested into form. So lean back, get a cold beverage and let's dive into it. Before I read you her message and open this chapter for us, I want to share a little personal side of my.
Speaker 1:Last week. We celebrated five years Treason Stories, that's the yoga school where I'm the lead teacher, and me and my business partner had this amazing idea to pull together a festival, really invite all of our students back, and it was a weekend full of workshops, masterclasses. I taught at an actual festival. We kind of combined that, and it was so full of joy, of tears, of connection and belonging. I was once again reminded that we have to, we simply have to participate. Without participating, we're not being part of community, of a tribe, of a movement, we're not being part of anything at all. So if you find yourself wishing you had a different job, wishing you were part of a different friend group, wishing for community or anything to change in your life at all, well, here is your reminder, a gentle but firm reminder, that you have to participate in the change that you want to see in the world. You have to take action in order for this change to manifest, and at that moment in time, I just want to give a little notion of love to my community, the community that actually shows up for each other, the community that participates with messages like the one that I got. The community that participates with messages like the one that I got, the one that I'm going to read you in a little bit, or with the many, many of my students coming back from the most northern regions of Germany, from Switzerland, from all over Austria, just to celebrate with us for this weekend.
Speaker 1:Okay, here we go. I want to read you the message that I received. It is divided in three parts, but I honestly read that these are all interwoven. Close your eyes and listen up.
Speaker 1:I'm living in a wonderful place and yet I'm not truly happy. I miss friends, I miss community, I feel alone and I'm afraid of losing myself. Two I often get lost in thoughts, possibilities and what-ifs, so much so that I sometimes don't even know what I truly want. I often lose myself in the outside world, and then I end up being really hard on myself that I'm too boring, not enough, too heavy, not doing enough, not real red enough. Realizing all of that has at least helped me start being kinder to myself, which is already such a huge step Three I'm scared I won't find a home, I mean a place of feeling where I truly belong, where I can slow down and finally feel at peace Not always, but at least most of the time and where I look forward to coming back to after a trip.
Speaker 1:Girl, I need to say this again. These could be my words. So, for anybody listening right now, I want you to put her theme of not belonging or not having a home, not having found that place, into a universal or maybe very, very personal matter for you. What I'm hearing in this message is a deep, deep longing, a holy longing that guides towards a place that isn't there yet. And we all have those longings, but so few people are in touch with them, so few people actually notice the heartache of that. There needs to be a change. The majority of people would rather stay comfortable than change anything, even though that change would bring them towards something they longed for with all their heart. But I know that I'm not talking to some of those people. I know that this crowd who's listening right here resonates with that sensation of the chest pounding and almost a heartache of that. There is something that hasn't fully transmitted into form yet, but you can feel it, you can smell it and you reach for it so wholeheartedly. So, for the course of this episode, put all of what I'm saying into the context of your holy longing.
Speaker 1:Now, what really connects us the woman who wrote this and me is that 2021, I started feeling a deep, deep longing of having a home. I had just based myself in Europe again. I was traveling in Turkey a lot. I wasn't fully sure where I wanted to base myself, so I basically wandered around. I didn't fully commit. I did sign a lease for an apartment, but I knew it wasn't my forever home. I did want to look for another lease in Turkey, but it didn't really happen.
Speaker 1:So there were a lot of attempts. Were they wholehearted attempts? Attempts? I'm not very certain, but at that time that was all I could do and I felt so damn alone. I felt so unrooted, unstable. I got lost in so many minor things of life. I literally felt like I was sweeped away by my feelings again and again and again, and I just couldn't put my feet back on the floor when such things happen to us and when we go through a big emotional transformation, it is really hard to grasp what's going on. I was kind of pulling through and I felt I literally felt like I was in the washing machine, like that is the best description that I can give you. My whole life felt like in the washing machine and you cannot, like, you cannot make a clear decision, you cannot really gaze towards a point and run towards that point, because you're sweeped away.
Speaker 1:What happened was that I gradually lost faith in myself. I started distrusting my instincts, my decision making. After all, I didn't know what was good for me, I didn't know what was wrong or right, because I was in that constant swirl and that was so hard, it was so freaking hard, like I'm. Ah, if I had my journal here, I could probably pull out a page easily and and read you something that was deeply, deeply melodramatic, like Pisces core. Like Pisces core, if I may say so. But here's the thing it changed. I did not lose sight of what I so deeply desired. I might have made some bad decisions, I might have made some even wrong decisions in financial or stable or security terms, but I did not lose sight of my longings and it carried me to where I am today, and that is. I just renovated a house with the men that I deeply, wholeheartedly love and, for the first time since I was six years old, I feel at home and I feel so incredibly lucky. Because of that, I'm tearing up. That is how privileged and lucky I feel because of where I am now.
Speaker 1:But I need you to know that just because I am four years ahead in the timeline of my own longing, that does not make me superior to you in any way at all. Do not put me on a pedestal. I am that person who struggles. I am that person who doubts. I am that person who longs and wishes and desires so deeply that it breaks my own heart. So I'm in no way different to you, whatever your longing may be. I also feel very fortunate that I have extremely good memory of feelings, meaning I can relate back to how I felt at a certain stage in my life, really, really well. I still feel how that felt so well. I didn't cover that up, I didn't push that away, and I'm so grateful for that, because that is the exact thing that brings me in relation to you and I mean all of you Because we share so, so, so many experiences. Now what I can do is share what worked for me and give you a little bit of insight on what I think will bring you and carry you through this time of being in the unknown.
Speaker 1:I want to share one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite novels. I might say that's my third or fourth favorite novel. Yeah, my third favorite novel by Sue Monk Kitt, the Book of Longings. That book transformed my relationship to religion. That's a whole different story. Like I don't want to open that book now because that is huge.
Speaker 1:So this book of longings is about a woman called Anna. When she was young she would receive a very special gift from her aunt. That gift was a bowl. She was instructed to carefully write the longing of her heart into this bowl. A part of what she wrote stayed with me till this day and I wrote God bless the largeness inside me, no matter how I fear it. Just take that in again. God bless the largeness inside me, no matter how I fear it. Ah, I love this so much.
Speaker 1:I deeply believe that these longings, the desire of your heart, is something holy, something so sacred when a wish, a desire is formed by the inside of your flesh, of your bone, then it is something that you are meant for and it will come. It will come and unfortunately I don't have a timeline for you, but it will come. If you long for it deeply enough, then it is already on the way. And once again, I know that is so much easier said from my position, where that has just fulfilled. But I need you to trust me in that. I need you to trust in your own faith and keep longing. Keep writing that into your singing bowls, keep journaling about it, keep it in your focus, keep your heart pointed in the direction of your longing, whatever that may be. And here's the tricky part Once again, my experience, my humble suggestion there's two very polar sides of the quest.
Speaker 1:On the one hand, like I said in the intro, you have to participate. There's two very polar sides of the quest. On the one hand, like I said in the intro, you have to participate. You have to be the lead role in your own story, main character, energy. That's what you gotta bring forth for that second half of the year, because if you don't change towards the direction that you want to go, well, you're gonna stay in that place.
Speaker 1:But and I hear that very deeply in this message you cannot change the place where you live every couple of months. Well, actually you can. I did that, too, for a while and it was very adventurous but also very tiring. If you feel like that could be part of your quest, do it, but set yourself a timeline. And I highly suggest, even though it might only be the basement of your mom, keep a base. You have to be courageous, you have to take a leap into the nothingness, and I know from personal experience how daring, how hard, how daunting that can feel. That is why so many people don't do it.
Speaker 1:I know this is a US study, but it's a very recent one from 2025, from Gallup, and it says that only 47% of US Americans are very satisfied with their lives. That is less than half people of such a huge country. A study by Gallup from 2023 says that 85% of people feel very unfulfilled in their jobs, and that is global job data. So what the F? Are the psychological patterns behind this numbness, this stuckness?
Speaker 1:I feel like there's a learned helplessness in our society, because we are very privileged, because we are very safe, even in times when we feel emotionally lost, and this privilege allows us to linger in our comfort zone. Another pattern that we see is comfort over growth. I mean, we as humans have a deep urge to grow, but usually the option to stay comfortable is what most people choose. Also, what I meant with learned helplessness is partially what we inherited from role models around us, but also the fact that if you've tried before in your life and it doesn't really matter if that was in sixth grade when you were singing a solo and everybody laughed at you, or if that was in a job that you really desired and your boss didn't give you the promotion that you really wanted If you have tried to show up and you failed, then it's very likely that your system tells you do not do that again. Caution, stop being brave, stop being vulnerable. Let us rather be semi-satisfied with what we have than going out there and trying those big leaps again.
Speaker 1:What I'm saying and seeing here over and over again is that you have to take action. There is no way life will hand you everything that you long for on a silver plate. Actually, there is maybe 0.1% of people who are lucky enough to get that, and if you are one of those 0.1%, well, lucky you, congratulations. And for the rest of us who has to struggle, fall, stumble, be thrown in the dirt, find the courage to get up again, please know that it is so worth it. And even if you've tried so so many times, you have to keep on trying. You have to have faith in your longings.
Speaker 1:Now here's the flip side, the other side of the coin, and it might sound quite paradox to what I just described, but I wholeheartedly believe that both are true. You cannot lose yourself in the hustle of things. You cannot only run and grasp and reach and move around. You have to take a moment, find stillness and sit with your longing. You have to really fully sit with that sensation inside you. You have to let it live through you. And you cannot do that out there in the bright and loud daylight. You have to stay alone and deeply connect to that longing of yours Silence, the noise, the mind chatter and really be in relationship to it, listen to it, listen to what it has to tell you.
Speaker 1:I believe that sitting with it part of it is what we so often shy away from, because if you don't have a meditation practice, then it's safe to say that you haven't trained your whole organism to sit in silence with yourself. And now you have to sit in silence with yourself in the presence of this deep and maybe even heavy desire, where so many emotions spin around it. And these emotions might be hope, might be fear, might be devastation, might be grief, might be really heavy at times. So, sitting with your holy longing, sitting with all the emotions that it brings up, sitting with all of it quietly and deeply intimate, without trying to fix or hide or change anything at all Now, that is hard, but it's also so liberating. So find a place wherever you feel safe and sit with all these what-ifs, thoughts, with the chatter, and wait, just wait for it to soften and for your heart's longing to blossom forward.
Speaker 1:And again, while that sounds so romantic and poetic, I know how hard it is, but there is no easy way out, and that's the good and sacred part of it. The only way is through, and you cannot increase the speed. You have to walk in your own timing through all these experiences that, in hindsight, will be pointers and marks and guides to the place where your longing is fulfilled. And you know what? In a culture that teaches you to isolate, to stay alone with your fuzzy thoughts. Cheers to those people who have the courage, like this person who wrote me, to share not only polished feed pictures but the raw and unfiltered feelings behind. Cheers to that, because only that, only this behavior, this participation, this devotion is what creates community, and we all need community. I think community is the arch to belong. I also think that your longings are what guides you towards belonging.
Speaker 1:I haven't noticed, and I love that these words are connected Longing and belonging. It ultimately reminds me of that one Rumi poem that I read to so many of my students. It's called Love Dogs. He writes about how the cry out, the cry, the longing, that is the connection. We don't always have to hear the answer, but it is there. Simply in longing and crying out, you receive. You know what I'm going to post it on my Instagram. That felt personal role and I feel a big pounding in my chest for all of you who participate and engage in this community.
Speaker 1:Thank you, thank you, thank you, because it would be so hollow without you. Of course, I could sit here and talk a little bit, but without the resonance, without the relationship, it would be very one-sided. So I'm deeply grateful for each one who listens to these words just now. Thank you for being here. Thank you for listening to this week's episode of the Salty Bay Club. I hope that you have something to cool off the heat wave. I hope that you do resonate here or there with a bracket of what I'm saying and even if you don't, thank you for being here. Thank you for listening. Thank you for gifting me your time again. I'm your host, sarah grace, and I cannot wait for whatever is bubbling up to the surface for next week's episode. Thank you, I love you.