Your Coparent Is Not the Enemy: A Spiritual Approach to Healing Conflict with Vanessa Martindale

In this week’s episode of The CoCo Blend Podcast, Jamie sits down with Vanessa Martindale for a powerful, spiritually grounded conversation about co-parenting, healing, and seeing difficult relationships through God’s eyes. Vanessa opens up about a season of her life that felt like “hell,” and how shifting her perspective helped her overcome fear, anger, and judgment.

She shares how God revealed that the real enemy wasn’t her ex-spouse, his new partner, or the conflict itself — but the spiritual forces working behind the scenes to create division. Vanessa explains how perfect love casts out fear and how choosing to see others through God’s love can radically transform blended family relationships.

This conversation is an invitation to release offense, recognize the spiritual battle at play, and embrace a healing, grace-centered approach to co-parenting and partnership.

Key Takeaways

Co-parenting conflict can feel like “hell,” but perspective can shift everything.

Your ex, their partner, or your co-parent is not the enemy.

Perfect love drives out fear — spiritually and emotionally. 

There is a real enemy, and it’s not the people involved.

Seeing others through God’s eyes brings clarity, compassion, and healing.

About my guest:
Vanessa Martindale is the co-founder of Blended Kingdom Families, a wife, mother, speaker, ministry leader, and co-author of Blended and Redeemed. She is a registered nurse and a graduate student pursuing her master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy at The King’s University.

As a passionate follower of Jesus, Vanessa is committed to helping people discover their God-given purpose, walk in freedom, and deepen their intimacy with Christ.

Vanessa and her husband, Scott, are a blended family themselves and understand the challenges that come with the blending process. Their heart behind Blended and Redeemed is to provide encouragement, support, and biblical resources to help blended families experience healing, unity, and the redeeming love of God.

Follow Vanessa on Instagram at: @blendedkingdomfamilies and on 
YouTube at: @BlendedKingdomFamilies 

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