Talking with Emma: Stop fighting food & weight

56: Getting out of confusion and making a quality decision

Emma Wright

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If you keep going around and around on a decision — and no amount of Googling or talking it through is helping — this episode will help.

Confusion feels like an information problem. It isn't. It's a protective strategy your brain uses to keep you from feeling something uncomfortable. And once you understand that, you can actually get out of it.

In this episode, Emma walks you through a four-question tool to get yourself out of the loop — whether you're stuck on something big, like a relationship or a work situation, or something that should feel simple, like what to order for lunch.

You'll learn:

  • Why confusion is not a thinking problem — and what it actually is
  • Why women in particular get stuck in this loop (and why it makes complete sense)
  • What people pleasing has to do with feeling confused
  • Four questions that help your brain find a way through
  • What to do once you've worked through the questions

This tool works best when you approach it with kindness toward yourself. Emma explains why that's not just a nice idea — it's the only way the tool actually works.

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Talking with Emma is hosted by Emma Wright — certified cognitive behavioural coach, Intuitive Eating coach, author of Body Confident, and holder of a Masters degree grounded in feminist theory. Emma helps high-achieving women build a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.