The Attachment Diaries
Karolina and Gabriel, the couple behind SimplyTogether.co, aren’t just coaches, they’re proof that love can survive the messiest breakups. After going through multiple painful splits with each other and struggling through the chaos of attachment issues, miscommunication, and unmet needs, they learned relationships the hard way. Because let’s face it, nobody actually teaches you how to love someone or how to stay when things get tough.
Through trial, error, a lot of late-night talks, and even more personal growth, they found their way back to each other. They didn’t just fix their relationship, they transformed it. Now married and running a thriving relationship blog together, Karolina and Gabriel are on a mission to help you do the same.
In this podcast, they’ll show you how to understand your attachment style and your partner’s, how to communicate in a way that gets you taken seriously, and how to win your ex back even when it feels like all hope is lost. If you're ready for real conversations, practical advice, and a little tough love from a couple who’s walked the walk, you’re in the right place.
Episodes
19 episodes
Anxious Vs Avoidant Debate: Who Actually Has Bigger Trust Issues?
We’ve spoken to hundreds of people that identify as avoidants or anxious and have our own personal journey as well of course. So in this podcast episode we are debating who has the bigger trust issues, anxious or avoidant people? Ga...
How Do Avoidants Actually Feel Deep Down
How do avoidants feel deep down? Or as Karolina liked to ask “Do avoidants even have feelings??” In our latest Attachment Diaries episode we answer this question and more. It may come as no surprise that there is more to being in a relationship...
Anxious Confronts Avoidant - What Did You Do During Deactivation?
When your avoidant drops off your map and suddenly ghost you during a deactivation, it might send you into a spiral of doubts and fears. So in this podcast episode, Gabriel and I are answering the most burning questions we know many of you have...
Why Most Avoidants Don't Think They're Avoidant
Most avoidants don’t identify as such. Why is that? After all, it’s easy for an anxiously attached person to say that they are anxious. Is it pure denial of not wanting to face their attachment style that’s holding avoidants back from a fulfill...
Real Stories, Real Advice - For People with Avoidant Partners
In this episode, we’re going over a few of the stories that you guys were kind enough to share with us. After reading them, we’ll give some advice tailored to each situation. And hopefully you can relate and learn something from them yourself.
From Anxious to Secure, How I Attached My Avoidant
Today Gabriel (avoidant) finally puts Karolina (anxious) in the hot seat about her clingy and controlling behaviors. How did Karolina’s anxious attachment style make Gabriel feel, and even sabotage their relationship? We’ll cover all that and m...
From Avoidant to Secure - How I Stopped Running from Love
Karolina gently asks (and grills) Gabriel on his Avoidant to Secure journey. What was he thinking throughout all of it? What did Karolina do to get him attached? How did they manage their relationship to get to this point? - All of this and mor...
Married to An Avoidant, How to Fix It
You've recently heard about attachment styles and now understand that your spouse is an avoidant? In today's episode we're getting down to how to fix your avoidant-marriage.
Are Avoidants the Main Reason Relationships Fail?
The internet seems to have uncovered the main reason relationships fail: avoidants. Join Karolina and Gabriel as they explore the truth (and falsehoods) surrounding this narrative.
Avoidant Or Just Not Interested? How to Tell
In this episode, Gabriel and Karolina discuss how to tell if you're dealing with an avoidant or someone who is just not interested.
Silent Signals - How Avoidants Really Show They Care
In this episode, Gabriel & Karolina explore the silent signals that avoidants send to show that they care. Why so quietly? Because avoidants can have a hard time expressing just how attached they are. Especially if it's about a future toget...
Anxious Confronts Avoidant About Not Needing Commitment
In this episode, Karolina (anxious) calls out Gabriel (avoidant) on a juicy and oh-so-common double standard: why do avoidants crave the benefits of commitment while running from the responsibility of it? From love...
What Does Real Love Feel Like In a Relationship?
In this episode, we unpack the big question: What does real love actually feel like? From childhood conditioning to Hollywood myths, many of us enter relationships with distorted ideas of what love should be.We talk about how fi...
Why the Real Reasons for a Breakup Are So Hard to Face
In this episode, we dive into the uncomfortable truth behind breakups. It’s rarely just about timing or circumstances. We talk about the difference between the excuses people give and the deeper emotional realities that often stay buried. Karol...
Do People With Avoidant Attachment Ever Get Anxious?
Avoidants act like they don’t get anxious... but is that actually the case? In this video, we dig into what’s *really* going on beneath the surface when someone has an avoidant attachment style.We explore why avoidants pretend not to wo...
As An Anxious Person Why Would An Avoidant Like to Be With Me?
Ever wondered why an avoidant would want to be with someone anxious? It might surprise you, but your anxious traits, yes, the ones you sometimes wish you didn't have, can actually be deeply attractive to avoidants.In this episode, we ex...
Why Breakups Aren’t Always Final and What Keeps Us Attached
Think a breakup is the end of the story? Think again. In this episode, we dive into why breakups are often not as final as they seem and how human attachment has a sneaky way of keeping people emotionally tethered, even when they think they've ...
I Have Avoidant Attachment Style and I Am Confronting My Anxious Partner for Acting Like I Was Never Enough
Last time, we shared a really personal conversation where Karolina called me out on my avoidant behaviors, the distance, the power games, all the stuff that made her feel invisible.This time, we flipped the script.In our lates...
I Am Anxiously Attached and I Am Confronting My Avoidant Partner for Acting Like I Was Too Much
There was a time when I was anxiously attached and Gabriel was avoidant. Our relationship felt like a puzzle I could never solve. I was always chasing connection. He was always pulling away. I thought he just didn’t care. But now I...