Why You Want It… But Still Don’t Do It

You want it.
You know how to do it.

So why aren’t you doing it?

In this episode of Joy Unfiltered, Rachel sits down with performance coach, international speaker, and bestselling author Kam Knight to unpack one of the most misunderstood forces in personal growth: internal resistance.

This conversation goes far beyond surface-level mindset talk. You’ll learn why your brain can create powerful desires… and block you from acting on them at the exact same time.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, inconsistent, or frustrated with yourself, this episode will change how you see it and more importantly, what you do about it.

Because you’re not broken.
 You’re resisting.

And once you understand that?
 Everything shifts.

🎯 KEY TAKEAWAYS

•  Why wanting something does NOT mean you’ll take action 
•  The two competing systems in your brain: desire vs resistance 
•  Why fear is not the cause - but a symptom - of resistance 
•  The hidden “board of directors” in your mind making decisions for you 
•  How beliefs, habits, comfort zones, and self-image silently block progress 
•  Why your brain prefers familiar - even if it’s painful 
•  The surprising role your past (yes, even childhood voices) still plays today 
•  How strong desire can actually increase resistance 
•  Why letting go of the timeline accelerates results 
•  The simplest and most powerful tool to rewire your brain: self-talk

🛠️ PRACTICAL TOOL FROM THIS EPISODE

The “Do It Now” Self-Talk Formula:

Repeat daily:

•  I am a do it now person. 
•  I easily do things now. 
•  I easily accomplish my goals right away. 

Simple. Repeatable. Powerful.
 This is how you start retraining your brain to act.

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Grab all three at: kamknight.com

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•  Deep Dive into Internal Resistance 

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Transcript

SPEAKER_01 0:05

Welcome to Joy Unfiltered. I'm Rachel, and this is a podcast about joy. Not the shiny performative kind. Not the everything happens for a reason kind. This is joy as a strategy. A way to stay steady when life feels loud. A way to stay human when things are hard. A way to lead in love and live without burning out or checking out. Some episodes will be just me. Some will be honest conversations with people who have lived their way into a deeper, truer joy. No fixing, no bypassing, just real stories, real tools, and room to breathe. Let's get into it. Well, welcome back, or welcome to Joy Unfiltered. I am Rachel, your host, and I am so excited to talk to today's guest. So we are just gonna get right into it. I have with me today Cam. So Cam Knight is a coach, international speaker, and best-selling author of dozen, a dozen books in the area of in the areas of mental, emotional, and physical performance. He is known for bringing fresh solutions and insights that are a rare departure from traditional ideas, which I'm delighted to talk about today. Because of his fresh perspective, his books have become the gold standard for their um for their topics, which have helped over, if I do the math right, is that over half a million people?

SPEAKER_00 1:53

Half a million people.

SPEAKER_01 1:54

When he is not coaching or writing, he is, which I love, traveling, having traveled to over a hundred countries around the world. So welcome, Cam. I'm excited that you are here today.

SPEAKER_00 2:07

Thank you very much, Rachel. I'm really happy to be here and really excited to chat with you.

SPEAKER_01 2:13

Good. Well, let's kind of start. I don't know necessarily start at the very beginning, but start a little bit giving us some context. Would love to know um kind of a little bit about your background, how you got to where you are, and then we are gonna talk a whole bunch today about internal resilience. Yay. Resistance, sorry, which goes to resilience as well. But let's get to know a little bit more about you.

SPEAKER_00 2:39

Exactly. So I'll talk a little bit about me. My name is Cam Knight, and I am a coach international speaker and author of a dozen books, many of which you see behind me, in there your mental, physical, and emotional performance that have sold over half a million copies and have over 10,000 readings on Amazon now. So it's a good sign. And now I talk about a concept called internal resistance, and it answers a question I had my whole life, and that is why is it if I want to do something, I know what to do, I know how to do it, and I have the motivation and desire to do it, but for one reason or another, I can't or don't do it. Now, at the time, there weren't really good answers that I came across. A lot of the answers revolved around beliefs, as if if you have limiting beliefs, that will hold you back. And I think beliefs are a big part of it, but I always thought there was more to it. And over the last 15 to 20 years, that question always lingered in my mind. Every time I fell stuck, I wondered why. Why can I get stuff done? Why do I keep spinning my wheels? Why don't I just do this dang thing so I can get the result that I want? And the more books I was reading, coaching I was doing, and seminars I was attending, the more I was learning about the complexities of the human mind and human behavior. And unknown to me, my mind was processing all that information. And at a certain point, I had this epiphany or aha moment where I was like, oh my gosh, there's a part of our brain designed to hold us back. There's a part of our mind built to keep us from growing and making progress. And I call this part resistance, and it's this brick wall that we hit anytime that we want to do something, but we can't, no matter how much we want to do it.

SPEAKER_01 4:36

That I love so so many questions kind of right off the bat. But the first one is clearly our brains were designed to keep us safe, right? Or that, you know, that's right. I mean, our our were designed to just to stay alive. So why, like why were our brains designed with this internal resistance?

SPEAKER_00 4:58

Yeah. So that's one part of the reason resistance comes up, because when I talk about I do internal resistance, the two main places people go to is fear or they go to, oh, is it a protection thing? And I like to say that fear isn't the cause of resistance, it's a manifestation of resistance. So when we have fear, it's because there's resistance, and the brain uses fear to stop us from doing something. And as we'll get later into this conversation, you'll see that it's not just about protection. But before we go there, I it really helps to kind of understand how this process works. So the part of the brain that creates wants and desires, it works separately from the part that actually allows us to act on the desire. Now, this is extremely important, so I'll say it one more time. The part of the brain that creates wants works independent of the part that actually allows us to act on that want. So we have one part of the brain that's creating wants, and in many ways it's unrestrained. It was never meant to see if a want was achievable or worth going after. Its only job is to create wants. So in many ways, it's kind of unrestrained, cranking out endless wants one after another at a pace faster than anyone can achieve. And I know many people experience this. I want this and I want that, I don't have time for this and all that. Well, it's because of this part of the brain. And then we have this other part of the brain, which are called resistance, that is designed to see if a want is worth going after or pursuing. And so what's really key to note here is that it's possible for both the brain to create a desire for something and at the same time keep us from going after it. So if people have experienced those moments where they want this thing, but they can't, or they want this other thing, and they're kind of going back and forth, well, it's because that's what's actually happening inside their head. There's a want that's being created, and the want's not checking to see if it's safe, worth doing, fulfilling, and all of that. And then resistance going, oh, danger, or this isn't going to be fulfilling, and all of that.

SPEAKER_01 7:25

And this is so if we put this into just real context, right? So I want a million dollars, or I want six pack abs, or I want I want to, I want, I want to live in a house on the ocean in California. So I have these, I have this list of I have this list of wants. So my brain is going crazy having this list of wants.

SPEAKER_00 7:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 7:51

And then you're also saying, but I can have this crazy list, and some of it might not be crazy, but I've got this list, but the other part of my brain hasn't said, but here is how you do it, or is this even attainable?

SPEAKER_00 8:05

The other part of the brain is saying, we're not going after it. And the reason it does that is because every time we have a want, it gets filtered by this part of the brain using a whole host of criteria. And if the desire is not in line with any of the criteria, the brain will prevent action. So it really helps to think about standing before a panel of judges or board of directors. Every decision and desire that comes up has to go through them. And if even one of the members is against the idea, it will not pass. So the question is, what are the criteria the brain is going through?

SPEAKER_01 8:44

Which I just wrote down. Yes, that is my question.

SPEAKER_00 8:48

Exactly. And in there's actually dozens of criteria, and they go into things like beliefs. So if we don't believe something is possible, of course the brain is gonna keep us from going after it. But there's more to beliefs than just thinking something's possible, because we could see something being possible, but if we have a deep down belief that it's not possible for us, that can also hold us back. And if our beliefs go even deeper than that, where we don't feel like we deserve something, so we can think something is possible and we can think it's possible for us, but there's a feeling of undeserving, then that will hold us back too. But then there's also habits. Habits are designed to keep us in a routine and pattern of behavior. And so if we've developed a habit that goes against what we're trying to do, our old habits will pull us back and create resistance. And then there's comfort zone. Comfort zone is a zone of comfort or knowing. So for some people, their brain likes the familiar over the unfamiliar. And even if the unfamiliar is gonna provide positivity, uh the brain will still create resistance because it doesn't know. And so those are just three criteria, but these criteria go quite deep. They go into things like self-image, they go into things like core pains, they go into things like demographic. And so all of this is being processed, but unknowing to us, we don't notice any of it. And because we don't notice it, the natural assumption that comes up is I'm not good enough, I don't have what it takes, I'm lazy, I don't have motivation. When it's not that, it's all these cryptic things that are going on. And if we can hone in on that and see the inner workings, we can have a better idea of our resistance and it makes it easier to do that thing. Now, just to backtrack for one moment, you kind of talked about all these desires you were listing off, house at the beach, million dollars, all those things. Because the natural assumption is, well, why would my brain protect me from that? Well, if we don't have the belief that we can attain a million dollars, of course the brain is not gonna have us go after it. If we don't feel like we deserve it, wherever, no matter why the feelings of deserving got there, if it's there, it'll keep us from going after it. And these things create change. It means moving out of our comfort zone. For a person whose brain is familiar or likes the familiarity, even it's pain, if it's painful, it will create resistance to something new, regardless of how great it is. But then it gets nuanced too, because remember, I said it goes into self-image and things like that. I'll give some examples of what I mean by that. So a lot of times, as we're growing up, we create a self-image of being a certain way. You know, some people create a self-image of being cool, other people create a self-image of being studious, other people will create a self-image of having this great story or they're this great artist or whatever. But they won't study, apply themselves, or put themselves out there because if things don't go well or they experience difficulty, they have to face the fact that they're not this great self-image they created for themselves. So it's easier for the brain to keep us from doing that thing so we can hold on to the self-image than to do it and potentially prove it wrong. And in many ways, the self-image is a survival thing. The brain actually believes we need to uphold that self-image for survival. And it'll keep us from doing things that will damage that self-image, including the things that are wanting mechanism. It's crazy. So that's another reason that can come up. Um, an interesting reason for resistance that doesn't get talked about, but I think it's really important and it really plays out, is a lot of people are still worried about the kids from their past. That is, people are still worried about what the kids that they grew up with are still thinking of them. And even though they don't talk to or see them, or they might even live in a completely different city, state, or country, a part of our brain is still wondering what they're thinking and it's affecting our decisions here and now. And the more people have helped through resistance, the more this comes up. Anytime they want to do something, their brain wonders what that bully that made fun of them, the kids that laughed at them, or the girl that rejected them will think if they find out. And if the brain feels it won't be positive, it will hold us back. And again, it's a lot more common than people would think. And I can prove it because I know for a fact everyone listening here has memories of people from their past flashing their mind from time to time. And they might assume it's for nostalgic reasons, but it's actually to reinforce the walls in their life. They may have had a desire, and such a person flashes up, and they're like, nope, I don't want to do that. And they don't realize that that's what's happening. And so this resistant thing, it kind of gets pretty nuanced. It's um there's a lot of stuff going on. And again, like I said, we don't notice the processing happening, we don't notice the decisions or the things that the brain is going through or the criteria that's checking off to make the decisions. Oftentimes we just find ourselves unable to do the thing.

SPEAKER_01 14:38

Yeah, absolutely. And I love all of the, well, the specific examples you gave about those that criteria being that board of directors, because I think that a lot of the listeners either have a board of directors or are on a board of directors or or understand what that looks like. And so thinking about you have this wand and then standing before that that board of directors, what a what a great way to illustrate that. I also love the fact that you're right, it is nuanced because I think that um it's a little more in vogue right now to talk about your limiting beliefs, or a lot of work has been done, research has been done, and books have been written about habits. And so we're familiar with those things. So thinking about those limiting beliefs, those feelings, those habits, but even going deeper into that in terms of what are some of those past experiences that you've had, um, and really kind of honing in on what some of those things might be. It's it's um it makes me think one, the first thing I think of is, oh my goodness, sometimes it's hard to change then, and how do we how do we actually get to those dreams? Um, but also gives me a better sense of um giving ourselves up first a little bit of grace or forgiveness than just because we can't figure out how to get up at five o'clock in the morning when the alarm goes off to get to the gym because we want to you know have those six-pack abs. Um that there's so much more into that. So first taking that deep breath and giving us ourselves that that grace. But if we find ourselves, Cam, like we're in this situation. And so we are thinking, or yes, agree with what you're saying. I'm sitting here listening in my car, I'm like someplace listening to this podcast, and I'm like, yeah, hello, me. Yes, I have these wants and desires, and I can't figure out how to get there. What are some of the tools or ways in which you help people kind of break through that internal resistance?

SPEAKER_00 16:42

Yeah, so when I do one-on-one work, I actually developed a method, which I call the Camnine method, that where I can guide people into their unconscious, and we can find their exact internal resistance and release it. And it's the one of the most direct and efficient ways to do it. And the reason I say that is because, again, when we go to personal development, they'll they'll throw out a lot of buzz buzzwords like beliefs and comfort zones and habits. In fact, when I started talking about some of the criteria, those were some of the first ones I mentioned, and I even said the commonly known causes of resistance. And so when we can kind of put that to the side and start look, stop looking at just cook-a-cutter possibilities and can go directly at what the real cause is, it makes it much easier to move through. But this is obviously one-on-one work, and if a person wants to do it themselves, they need a different approach. So I have tools for that. And there's many ways to one, access our resistance or figure out what's causing it, as well as move past it. And I usually like to start about, start with and talk about uh self-talk. I don't know if you've heard of self-talk, but I'll quickly define it and go into why it's so important. Self-talk are statements that you say or repeat to yourself of the changes that you want to have or have happen. For example, if I want to start getting up earlier in the morning, I would repeat a statement like, I quickly jump out of bed and start my morning routine. In fact, the set the soft talk I use to help me get out of bed is I quickly jump into and complete all the items in my morning routine every morning. So why is soft talk so important? One, it gives you a lot of data about what's going on in your unconscious. Because when a person first starts speaking a statement like, I am healthy and fit, or I exercise regularly, in the beginning, the brain is going to react and respond to that statement. It might say things like, No, you're not, you're not healthy at all. Or think about how much time it's going to take to do this. Or what happens if we're become healthy and we start getting a lot of attention? Because some people are averse to people. So that's one of the reasons resistance comes up, is some people are more sensitive to the thoughts, judgments of others. And the more it will bring attention to them, their task or activity, the more resistance there will be. So if they start feeling the sense of like, oh wow, what if people get to notice me or see me more? And then now I have to whatever. All those reactions are data about your resistance. It's telling you why you have the resistance. So we can get very quick, accurate data just by taking a goal, turning it into a sub-talk statement, and then seeing how our mind responds. I'll give another example. So let's say if a person wants to improve their memory, they can go out and read a bunch of books and all of that. But if they just create a statement of the outcome they're seeking when they're looking for that memory, let's say it's I have an excellent memory. I easily remember names, dates, facts, presentations, podcasts, and more. In fact, that's those are two statements I repeat every day. Once I start repeating it, my mind will start reacting, saying, Well, you're not smart. Remember in grade school you didn't do well? Well, now you have data that my brain believes that I can't have a memory, good memory. So that's a belief that will get in the way. Or I might say, Oh, this is going to be very difficult. So now I'm getting more data, the unconscious feels there's going to be a challenge to it. So now it's creating um resistance because of that. So to answer your question, how can we kind of get information about our resistance? This is one of the easiest and fastest ways to do it. Now, how can we push past it with self-talk as well? Because yes, in the beginning, when we start repeating the statements, it creates like all sorts of triggers and unpleasant feelings like this isn't gonna work and all of that. But if we keep repeating it, the more we get those resistance out. And if we continue repeating it, it actually starts rewiring our brain to act out the statements. So if a person wants, the fastest way to overcome resistance is to create statements of the outcome they want and to repeat it regularly. In fact, I have all sorts of statements that I repeat throughout the day. I have a set of statements for in the morning, I have a set of statements in the evening, I have statements that I will do if I'm driving and things like that. And it's one of the best ways I've found to help me get through resistance. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 21:55

Oh, sorry. Good. Yeah, so no, I have a couple of questions though about self talk before if you were gonna move on. So I one, I love it. I mean, I think it is so powerful. And it's so interesting the um the similarities and the synergies, because I talk about the same thing when I talk about coaching joy, um, that saying those, having those statements, having like looking for it, saying that, having those, you know, we can call it self-tag or mantra, or you know, whatever, whatever the words are, but having those things are powerful. So I am with you on that. I'm curious, you you did say that you use them kind of throughout the day. So that was that was one of my questions. Are there um the two that I have then, are you writing them down as well? So, or is it just spoken? And do you like do you have um a suggestion about how many statements that people have? Is it the more the better, or you know, only having a couple? So those would be those are a couple of questions that I wrote down as you were as you were talking.

SPEAKER_00 23:02

Those are fantastic questions. And before I answer them, I wanna talk about why self-talk is really important to start with, because there are other tools, and we can get into that um a little bit later down the conversation. It's because one, when we're dealing with resistance, we have to take a very different approach to other advice. So when we're talking about A-type personalities and high performers, we can give them the advice that's gonna take them the maximum results, right? Because they're action takers, they're doers, and if you give them something, they're gonna do it. But when a person has resistance, they have a hard time doing things. So what we wanna do is focus on the littlest things that have the biggest outcome. Little changes that can lead to the biggest results. And I personally believe in my, you know, 20 years doing this, I this is the simplest thing a person can do. It's literally just talking. And you can do it while laying down, you can do it before going to sleep, you could do it in the shower. So that's one reason. But the other reason is to create change, we don't just need to do something once or twice, we have to do it consistently. And it's easier to do simple things consistently, it's easier to show up for something that's simple day in and day out. And so this goes back to the saying, you know, it's the simple things that get the result. And it comes on to it's because it's the easiest to do on a regular basis. Now, to answer your question, um, one was what was the first one?

SPEAKER_01 24:42

Well, so the way it do you write them down or is it something, and then I have a second, I'm gonna add a B statement to that one. Do you say them out loud or are you just saying them in your mind?

SPEAKER_00 24:52

Okay, so this is the best question you can ask around self-talk. So I use the word self-talk very intentionally. I didn't use the word affirmations, because on the surface it seemed the same way. But self-talking is the talking of it. So a lot of times people assume that you write it down or you put it on the mirror in the bathroom and you look at it. And all those things help, but the talking of it helps the most. And you can talk it in your head or out loud, but out loud is better. So I say it's better, meaning if you're in a place where you can't say it out loud, it's okay to say it in your head. So when I'm waiting in line at the grocery store, I'm still self-talking, but I'm doing good in my head. But when I'm in the car and no one's in the car, I'll do it out loud. So there are levels to it. So it's not like either or. It's you can start one level and then if you want to get more results, you get the other level. So the first level would be just looking at the statements, the second level would be writing the statements, the third would be speaking the statements, the fourth would be speaking it out loud, the fifth would be speaking it with belief, and the sixth would be speaking it out loud with belief and emotions. Now, not everyone can get to that level, and even with some of the self-talk I do now, I can't, I don't usually do it with emotions, even though I know it's important. But at least I do it, and that still gets me results. So very good question. And as far as how many statements, it's easy to overwhelm ourselves with too many statements. Because when we start something, it's easy to do uh even difficult things a few times. And when we do it a few times, we feel like we can do it regularly forever. But that's just not the case. In fact, uh some people struggle with just doing four statements regularly. What I recommend is people do create about eight to twelve statements that they could do regularly, but if that's too much, tone it down. For me, since I've been doing it for as long as I have, and since I preach self-talk and I already am motivated to do it anyways, I have a lot of statements. I mean, I have dozens and dozens and dozens of statements for different areas that I want to work on. You know, I do social dancing, I have a whole set of statements to improve my social dancing. I rock climb, I have the morning routine, I have different things, and I've created statements that describe the outcome I want in all of those things, and I'm finding ways to repeat it throughout the day. But I'm on a higher level, so I wouldn't recommend starting that way because it's too much of a change. Start simple. Um, a person can just start by saying something like, I repeat positive self-talk every day.

SPEAKER_01 27:48

And that would be great, that's a great one. I love, I love that. And I love the fact, I love the fact, Cam, that you are, because I love language as well. So I love the specificity or the precision in that. So I just want to make sure that we're repeating that as well, that it is self-talk. So I know I said something about mantras and affirmations, but but self-talking, that is that is your um first tip for everyone if they're as they are, not if, but as they are um working through this internal resistance. Can you talk us through again? You had six levels, I think, six or seven levels. So, in terms of growth, because I also appreciate the fact that those of you who are listening, that maybe this is brand new to you, maybe it's not, or maybe you're doing some mantras or some affirmations, or you're reading them, or you're putting them on that posting note on the on your bathroom mirror, but we are walking through. So if I'm brand, brand new to self-talk, I know that I don't have to start up here at level six or level seven, I can start down at number one. So can you just walk us through what those levels of growth are with self-talk?

SPEAKER_00 28:57

Yeah. So the first level is looking at the statements.

SPEAKER_01 29:00

So that's that's reading it, like finding like I can go to your website or I can go someplace and or I can go to some book or something and I'm reading it, like somebody else's affirmation or somebody else's statement that they wrote.

SPEAKER_00 29:11

Yeah. Or even your own. You can create statements and you put in the mirror and you have that post and on the mirror or in the in the fridge or on your desk. So when you walk by and you see it and you read it, so that's the reading of it. And that's helpful. I'm not saying that's a bad thing to do, but there's something better. The next step is writing it. So I know people who every morning write the statement that they want to transpire. And that's good too. And the third level is speaking it. And you can do it in your head or out loud. And again, if a person is around other people and they don't want them to know that they're doing self-talk because it's not socially, you know, looked at as a positive thing, you just do it in your head. Like I literally have a set of statements that is designed for me to do in my head when I'm in a public place. Yeah. And but it's better to do it out loud. So that's a fourth level. And I didn't realize the importance of the belief and emotions until much later on when I was off talking for a while, but I just wasn't getting like the results that I wanted or the consistent results. And I came across people talking about the importance of adding feeling to it and the belief. And when I did that, that was like rocket fuel. But it's hard because if you don't have good feelings about yourself, if you feel limiting and things won't work and just down, it's hard to call up that energy to do the self-talk. And that could be enough for a person to want not want to start or even continue. But I want people to know that it's okay as long as you're saying it, even if you don't believe it, because self-talk doesn't need belief to see results. And so once you get started saying it and it becomes easier to say it, then you add the next level of it being something you do believe, and then you do add it to uh positive emotion. Now I know a lot of times people say you gotta scream your goals out at the top of your lungs and things like that. I'm not of that mindset. I don't think you have to do it with so much energy and charge. It's possible to say self-talk with belief and feelings without it being so overt and so extreme. You know what I'm saying? So normally I would just say, um, I'm gonna give a self-talk statement specifically designed for internal resistance. And it's I'm a do-it-now person, I easily do things now, I easily accomplish my goals right away. And I'll tell you people why that self-talk is so important. But when I first started saying it, I would say it usually even with anger, like I'm a do-it-now person, I easily do things now, I easily accomplish my goals right away. But then to shifting it with belief and feelings, if you notice there's not much of a shift when I say it. It's like I'm a do-it-now person. I easily do things now, I easily accomplish my goals right away. So it doesn't have to be extreme when we're adding beliefs and emotions. Now, this statement is took me over 15 years traveling to a hundred countries to narrow it down to. And why it's so powerful in helping us overcome resistance. I'm a do-it-now person creates an identity that we're a person that does things now. So when a want and desire comes up, it filters through resistance, and resistance goes, Well, my identity is I do things now. So it makes it easier to do things. Now here's the thing it's not always comfortable and easy to do things. Because for some people, it's actually awkward and painful, and that's a very thing that creates resistance. So the next statement, I easily do things now, helps to ease uh the pain of doing things. So we can do it in a more enjoyable way. But there's also a challenge to doing things because we can do a lot of things and spin in circles, and a lot of people experience that. So the last statement, I easily accomplish my goals right away, helps the brain hone in on specific goals and targets when we are doing things. So I'm a do-it-now person, I easily do things now, I easily accomplish my goals right away. If they just took that statement and repeated it every day, they would have huge shifts in their ability to do things.

SPEAKER_01 33:51

I'm a do-it-now person, I easily do things now. I easily accomplish my goals right away.

SPEAKER_00 33:59

Yep.

SPEAKER_01 34:01

All right. I am adding that, Cam. I am adding that to my self-talk. I haven't called it self-talk before, but I am going to start to call it self-talk because that is actually what I am doing. I just hadn't labeled it that way, but I'm adding that. I'm a do-it-now person. I easily do things now. I easily accomplish my goals right away.

SPEAKER_00 34:21

All right, say it again.

SPEAKER_01 34:23

I'm a do-it-now person. I easily do things now. I easily I easily accomplish my goals right away.

SPEAKER_00 34:31

Okay, again.

SPEAKER_01 34:33

I am a do-it-now person. I easily do things now. I easily accomplish my goals right away.

SPEAKER_00 34:40

And one more time.

SPEAKER_01 34:42

I am a do-it-now person. I easily do things now. I easily accomplish my goals right away.

SPEAKER_00 34:48

So what I was doing is was just trying to help create habits in you. Because if you just repeat it enough now, it becomes easier to do it later. So yeah.

SPEAKER_01 34:57

Yes, I love it. And again, those of you, those of you listening, that is something that is really important. So even that exercise of what Kim just took me through, yes, and I felt, I don't know if you could hear it, but I felt the change in emotion, not just because I was more easily reading what I was had written down, but because I actually was feeling it towards the third or fourth time that I said it out loud. There was um in that progression, I could um I believed it.

SPEAKER_00 35:28

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 35:28

Because the first couple times having more feeling of that too. So, right.

SPEAKER_00 35:32

Yeah, the first couple times there's resistance, but the more we say it, the more that clears and it becomes easier to say. Now imagine in 30 days from now, it'll become even easier where it just rolls off your tongue. Like, I mean, I can give you tons of examples of talk that I do now. For example, when I first wanted to start talking about my concepts and things I write about, I had a lot of challenges because I was never a communicator or I didn't really talk well. I stuttered, I stammered. It was really hard to get thoughts out of my head. And because of all of those challenges, I for a long time kind of held myself back. So I got really good in the written word, um communicating um in in text, but I wasn't so good in speaking. So what did I do? I agree at some self-talk. I'm an excellent communicator. I easily communicate my thoughts, ideas, feelings, experiences, and more. I can write about and verbalize anything. I'm never at a loss for words because the right words come to me quickly and easily. Now, I can't say that I am the most eloquent speaker and the right words always come out because if somebody were to go back to this podcast and really dissect it, there are times I said uhs and ums and I paused to figure out the word. But I am far better than when I started. And what was really great is I didn't have to go take classes and read books and do all these exercises to improve my skills. I all I did was repeat the statements. And this is a really great point to make, is a lot of times we're going out and putting all this time and effort to develop a behavior or an ability when we can shortcut the entire process and just create a statement or a couple of statements of the outcome we're seeking and repeat that. And over time, not only does it help us show how those behaviors come out, but we naturally get motivated to learn the things that we need to to have that behavior become reality. So let's say, for example, I'm repeating these statements of I'm an excellent communicator. There were very moments, there were multiple moments where I had this drive to just learn and learn new words. Because my mind believed if I knew more words, I could speak more eloquently. Prior to that, that drive wasn't there. But because I was speaking the words, the brain was trying to figure out how I can make that happen. And opportunities start showing up, things you didn't notice become more apparent that can help you get there. So it's actually quite magical.

SPEAKER_01 38:29

Yeah, I believe that because I and I think again, bringing that back to some of the things that that I coach with as well, is that we are just like you said, you are training your brain to get to that belief and feeling level, but you're also training your brain to say, okay, these are the things that I want to notice. Because right, and you know, I'm sure, that our brains are filtering so much information. And we could barely, I mean, there's no way that we could actually function as a human being if our brains weren't filtering. So if we tell our brains, right, and that's what we're doing, I believe, what you're saying through this self-talk, is that we are telling our brains to filter the pieces of information that support those statements. So some of that as well is that it's, you know, it is a little bit magical, but it's really that we were telling our brains to filter these things. So when you said the opportunities then arise, the opportunities were probably always there for you to learn how to be a more eloquent speaker. However, you have said to your brain, filter the information, filter the opportunities. I like to talk about filter the joy moments, filter those things so that I see them and so that we can experience them. So whether you're experiencing joy or whether you're experiencing opportunities to be a better speaker, that's, I mean, we're just we're we're just we're just brainwashing ourselves, right? So let's brain amongst ourselves for things that we want rather than for the things that we don't want.

SPEAKER_00 40:01

Exactly, 100%. It's all about filtering. And yes, we're receiving so many millions of bits of data. So it does help to give our brain what to filter on. But another thing that we're filtering is our wants. Because remember, I said the part of the brain that creates wants is unrestrained and it's creating endless wants and desires. In fact, even if you live the multiple lives, you couldn't achieve, let alone find enjoyable, all the wants your brain is producing in a single month or even in a single week. That's how many wants we have. And so when we're creating these statements, we're actually helping the brain filter which wants to go after. We could be watching television, or we could be out going to the game, or we could be doing a bunch of other stuff. And a lot of times the brain doesn't do things because there's too many things to do. But when we do really hone in on exactly what we want, it's easier to get there. And self-talk is a great way because when you think about it, what I'm actually asking you people to do is take their goals and turn it into a statement and just repeat that statement.

unknown 41:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 41:17

Oh, that is a really good way of framing that as well, Cam, to say really what we're doing is saying, okay, you told me about all these goals, or you have these things, so you know what they are, but now let's speak them in. I mean, it's kind of like we're speaking them into reality, right? We're speaking them, but we don't even have to go that woo-woo into saying we're speaking them into reality, we're manifesting them. That's, I mean, perhaps we could say it that way, but what you're saying in a really concrete way is you have these goals, okay, let's make them happen. And the first step in making them happen is to speak them aloud. Put them in a put them in a self-talk statement. Um, and I did notice too, as you were saying these things, it is all about I am, I am someone who does this. I I already're speaking them as they are already true. Um, because I what I heard you say too is you don't quite have to believe them today. But the more you say them, your brain will start to believe them. And then you will get to that where you consciously believe it, but your brain starts to hear that filters all that information. So really take a look at your goals and then create these statements that support those goals.

SPEAKER_00 42:32

And I think well exactly that's 100% what I'm saying. So you definitely picked up what I was communicating. So I must be an excellent communicator.

SPEAKER_01 42:42

Right, right, right. We're reinforced, we're reinforcing that, Ken. We're reinforcing that today.

SPEAKER_00 42:45

Absolutely. Yeah. Um, if we can add to it, maybe we can talk a little bit about goals because I think goals are really important because it does help filter for the brain what to go after. Because, like I said, we have a lot of desires, but if we can pick a few, our brain is gonna be, it's gonna make it easier for the brain to know which ones to go after. This is why you hear that saying, you know, if you write a goal down, you're like 80% more likely to achieve it. And it happens because you're literally essentially just filtering it. Now, the way most people set goals isn't very functional or helpful because they'll say what they want. And if we can take it a few steps more and get to what we need to do to get it, that'll help the brain even further. So let's say I have a goal of becoming healthy and fit, and I write it down. That helps the brain, uh it helps us filter that lets the brain know what it is we want. But there's still some confusion like, what are we gonna do? Like, how are we gonna get there? And sure, the brain can figure it out, but what if we did it for it? Okay, so. I want to get healthy and fit. How am I going to do that? Is I want to start running. So we get more specific. I'm going to start running. And we want something that's going to be achievable. Like if we've never run before, we're not going to run set a goal for running a marathon, but maybe set a goal to run a mile. All right. So how do we get to that mile? Well, I'm gonna jog 15 minutes three times a day. Boom. That's what that's our goal now. And now we just repeat that as a soft talk statement. I I run 15 minutes a day, three times a day. And we repeat that over and over. And that helps us get to the bigger goal of getting healthy and fit. Does that make sense?

SPEAKER_01 44:49

Yeah, absolutely. So it is taking that larger goal, but not just as a goal. We have to have actions because our bodies don't live in this like whatever state. Our bodies do things. We are action beings. So we have to do something. So it's not just I want to get healthy and fit. That's great, right? That's great. But that, and that also looks what it brings me to is it looks different for everyone. So you can say, I want to be healthy and fit. So for for you, that is running. And for you, that means okay, every day I'm gonna get up and run for 15 minutes, and then you create that into a statement. For someone else, we have the same goal, healthy and fit. That could mean I want to go to the gym. The only time I can get to the gym to lift weights is in the morning. So what my next step is I'm the person that gets up at 5 a.m. in the morning and goes to the gym.

SPEAKER_00 45:42

And then I Or we can cut the I'm a person out and say, I get up five in the morning. I get up 5 a.m. in the morning and go to the gym to work out. Or we can say something like, I get up five in the morning every day to go to the gym and work out, to make sure that the brain knows it's a daily thing or whatever time frame you want to put. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 46:06

Yep. Yep. So you have this goal, and then that is how, and you can write, you can have that goal even written, but you need to get to that self-talk statement so that you are telling your brain, this is what we are going to do, and then and then your brain will help you do it, right? Because then your brain is like, oh, okay, the alarm went off. We we are getting up to go to the gym. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 46:29

Yeah. Yeah. I love that we're going so deep into self-talk because I don't get a chance to do that much. Um, and I'll have one more thing to it, which is different statements will take different time different length of time to get comfortable saying, internalize, and start seeing results. So there's some statements that are gonna be really far out of reach for where you're going. So I'll give an example. I had really poor beliefs and poor views in myself. So when I would create statements about doing things, I found myself doing it a lot sooner than changing my views in myself. So I believe like I'm a worthy, secure, deserving, loving man. That took a lot longer for me to get comfortable saying and it took a lot longer for it to start internalizing and to start feeling it. But when I would say something like, I'm gonna do it now person, I usually do things now. I found myself acting that out a lot sooner. And it could be different for different people. Maybe for some people it'll take longer to internalize the action of things, but they could change the feelings a lot quicker. So the reason I'm saying that is because it's easier to start to self-talk and not see any results and then give up. And with self-talk, like you said, it's magical. Sometimes it's like magic. You'll say it a few times and like things just shift. But other things, you could be saying it for a few months and nothing move, but that's okay. You just keep saying it until it does move.

SPEAKER_01 48:18

Oh, I like that. I like that as well. So I hear consistency, because you had said that before too. Consistency is so important, right? And yeah, it's everything, right? I mean, we just have to continue to keep doing it and giving ourselves, going back to giving ourselves the grace of you don't have to believe it, but you still have to continue to do it, you to say it. And it will happen. I mean, that is how the universe works, that's how energy works, that's how our brains work. Um, but we have to um, and I sometimes tell a client says, Too, you have you can do this, but you have to let go of the um timeline because we're not always in control of the timeline, right? So you can have the thing and we can do we can do this, but and you can do the actions and you have to let the universe be in control of the timeline.

SPEAKER_00 49:09

Yeah. And that's one of the most important things a person can learn because a lot of times, especially, you know, when we're selling something, we're trying to give the end result and good marketing, or not good marketing, but marketing is always trying to make it seem like it's gonna come quick and it's gonna be easy. That's how they get people enticed into the product or service that they're selling. And oftentimes we can get hung up on the when it's gonna happen and the expectations of it happening sooner than later. And sometimes we do gotta let that go. And there's a really important reason why. Remember, I said that our own wants can create challenges to getting our wants. So, what I found is there's multiple challenges our wants can create, and one of them is what I call a strong want. So, a strong want is a strong desire for something. In personal development, you talk about a burning desire, and oftentimes coaches and experts talk about why it's important. And I like to veer from that thinking because when our wants grow, so does our resistance. A great analogy for this is Einstein's theory of relativity. One of Einstein's theories, the theory of special relativity, says that space and time are not separate. The three dimensions of space, up, down, north, south, east, west, as well as time, they're actually one and the same. It's kind of hard to imagine, but it's actually the same fabric. And in many ways, our wants and resistance are one and the same with the same fabric. So our when our wants grow, so does our resistance. And our resistance growing makes our wants grow even more, and that in turn makes our resistance grow even further. And very quickly, this becomes this feedback loop or runaway process where now we want this thing really bad and can't have it really bad. And I know for a fact, everyone listening here has that moments where they wanted something really bad and things weren't moving for them. And as soon as they let it go, things began to fall into place. So this is another reason why it helps to let go of the time, because the more we get hung up on the time, the more it actually makes the resistance stronger and it makes it harder to go after that thing. And I don't know what it is, but also it's like a universal thing where the universe doesn't like to feed the hungry. The more we want something and the quicker we want it, the harder and more strained it gets. So if we can just kind of let it go and allow, sometimes that usually ends up being the best option. Easier said than done, because even though I understand this, I still struggle with it. But this I said it to help people understand why sometimes it does help to let go of when and how it should show up and just let the statements work.

SPEAKER_01 52:07

Yeah, that is beautiful. I mean, seriously, and I um I live this and I actually wrote about this. I just I I just am now joining your ranks and just became an author as well. But one of the things that I wrote in in my book too is once I let go of and I was letting go of wanting a partner. So I let go of wanting a partner and said it and finally said it. I called the universe God. So when I once I when once I finally was able to clearly, and I said it out loud to someone else that I was finally ready to let go, two weeks later, I met the person that I'm gonna marry this summer. So I mean it was it was it was like a magic, but it was exactly what you just said is once I stopped fighting, once I let go, released that want, the resistance like lowers lowers. And I then was able to see the opportunity that was presented, you know, and not like that person wouldn't have been there before, he was there all the time, but it was it was um just one specific example of how how much I believe in what you're saying. And honestly, Cam, this has been um a delightful conversation, and I feel like there is so much more. And I feel like you should be one of these repeat guests on here because I think there's so much um the language that we use is so similar, yet yet coming at things from different perspectives, but all of the same things about the self-talk, about the I call it surrender, about that leads us to this um is this to lowering resistance, allows us to bring that joy into our lives. Um, so two questions. One would love to know if you had a parting thought kind of to um for part one. I'm gonna call it part one. Do you have a like parting thought to um the listeners about what you want for them or what you wanted really them to hear for this first piece of it? And then if they want more right away before we can get on a second podcast, um, how can they find you?

SPEAKER_00 54:14

Okay, perfect. So, you know, before we started, I was saying people really love this topic, and most podcast hosts have asked me to actually come back. So I'd love to hear that you do as well. Um, it lets me know that I'm on a good track. And the parting thought I usually like to leave with is letting people know wanting doesn't equate to having. Just because we want something doesn't mean we'll take the necessary steps to go after it. And unfortunately, our want can make give the illusion that yes, it'll happen. Because when our when our brain triggers a want, it oftentimes triggers it with these really intense positive and euphoric feelings, where it can feel like, yes, I can attain it, I can do it. It's like it's of my grasp. But once those feelings fade, we're still stuck because we didn't address the resistance. So I want people to know that just because you've been wanted for something doesn't mean you'll actually take the necessary steps to be able to go after it. And it's because you have this part called resistance and it's gonna throw roadblocks on the way. And if we're not aware of the roadblocks, when they come up, we get derailed really easily. But if we can be aware that they're gonna come up, when they do, we're not derailed, and we can take another course of action. So that's what I want to leave for them. And then for everyone, um I'm gonna share a couple of free gifts, some of my offers. So I've got three free gifts for everyone listening here. The first one is called Prompt Engineering for Your Mind. The human brain was original Chat GPT, and you can prompt it to give you answers and solutions, but unlike Chat GPT, have you take answer or action on those answers and solutions? So another way we can take action. And that's the first guide. The second guide is Build Skills and Habits in Your Sleep. It teaches you how to use self-talk to build the habits that we're seeking. And the third guide is a deeper dive into this topic of resistance, and they can get all three at my website at camknight.com. I've got a course called Conquer and Terminal Resistance that is one of the best dives into what's going on for a person and the blocks that's um keeping them from moving forward and how to actually make sustainable progress. They can get it at camknight.com. And then if anybody wants to do that one-on-one work with me where I take them into their unconscious, it's not LP or hypnosis. It's a method I spent 20 years developing, which is the fastest, most direct way to move past the resistance. They can reach out to me at coach at camknight.com.

SPEAKER_01 57:00

Oh, beautiful. I thank you so much for those lovely gifts. Thank you so much for sharing your insights. I hope that everyone is listening, taking notes. You might need to re-listen, take some more notes, go to, I will put that um all the contact information in the show notes so that you have that. And I wish for everyone really that you come up with your self-talk statements. And if you come up with some good ones and want to share, or just want to share how this has impacted, um, be sure to follow the show. Be sure to um leave us, leave us a message. And again, Rachel from Joy Unfiltered, from my heart to yours, I am celebrating you today and every day. So have fun, live well, enjoy.