Danielle To You 's Podcast
I’m Talkin to You, I’m Talkin to Me Too is a heartfelt podcast where I, Danielle To You, embrace the courage to be seen. Each episode offers “mirror moments”—raw, soulful reflections on my ongoing journey of healing, releasing past traumas, and rediscovering who I am. This is for Black women who’ve let pain shape their identity but are ready to gaze into their mirrors, confronting their truths with vulnerability and strength. With a direct, empathetic, and compassionate voice, I share my evolving story to inspire you to share yours, inviting you into a space where self-discovery and reflection spark profound healing. Together, we explore the power of seeing ourselves clearly and stepping boldly into who we’re becoming.
I’ve realized that if I’m not all of me, I’m nothing—done hiding in the shadows, afraid to show my full self. All my mirrors matter, infinite reflections uniting my past, present, and future into one sacred truth. As a Black woman, I stand before these mirrors, honoring every facet—wounds, triumphs, ancestral wisdom, and dreams yet to unfold—to craft a reflection that’s wholly me. I invoke Black women to reflect in all their mirrors, to embrace the old, the new, the pain, and the power, knowing it’s all you. We refuse to enter spaces dimming our light, choosing instead to break the mirror of societal distortions and celebrate the infinite layers of our existence, where vulnerability and courage intertwine to redefine our worth.
What makes this podcast unique? It’s my unfiltered bravery in laying bare my journey, creating a sacred sanctuary for Black women to reflect, release, and grow. In “mirror moments,” we shatter the lies of external narratives, weaving our stories to reflect our shared strength and ancestral resilience. This is a call to honor every dimension of our being—past, present, and future—and to craft reflections that radiate Infinite potential. Together, we build a space where our infinite mirrors liberate us, empowering us to redefine our worth as Black women. Subscribe to I’m Talkin to You, I’m Talkin to Me Too for soul-stirring conversations that inspire us to heal, shine, and embrace our true selves.
Episodes
26 episodes
My Soul Lets: Grieving Through Growth
In this episode, I sit with the ache of my soul letting go. I left the family I created, the mirrors I looked into every day, the ones that reflected the newlywed me, the ambitious bartender, the young woman ready to take on the world....
Charity With Strings:Predators Know Their Prey
On this episode grooming, power abuse, and the freeze response that kept me alive. The savior teacher who turns villain at night. The singer who sings in my ear. The one who makes me forget he’s dangerous because the help felt real. Predators k...
Caged Bird’s Alchemy: My Song
In this episode, I explore the caged bird’s song, realizing my strength was never a choice but a survival instinct. People praise how I endure, but I never had options like leaving my kids or falling into addiction. I chose to sing, turning ...
Rooted in Resolve: My Mirror to Freedom
In this heartfelt episode of Season 2, I share the chaos of losing my business and money, raising three kids while terrified as a new manager. Then I met Desi, whose words, “We don’t have to live like this,” stopped me cold, offering a choic...
Silent Boughs, Loud Heart: No Shade, Just Strength
In this opening to season two, I dive into the heart-wrenching night my ex-husband assaulted me in our home, ignoring my desperate pleas to stop as he forced himself on me. The weight of childhood pain, where I learned to silence my voice, r...
From DC with Hate : A Seasons Truth
In this season finale, I dive deep into the soul-crushing betrayal that unfolded with DC, a friend I held close to my heart, whose whispered “I love you” turned into a hollow lie as he forced himself on me . That night didn’t just deepen the...
My Store of Secrets : A Child’s Silent Scream & Surviving the Unseen
In this episode, I recount opening the door to sheriff’s officers as a child, facing eviction. We sat on the curb, desperately waiting for help.Later we moved to a dissembled community in Chicago.My mom’s absence left me vulnerable, sent to ...
From Weakness to War :The Other Side of the Water
In this episode, I confront the anger that consumed me after giving birth, staring in the mirror at a woman who felt weak for not saying no , risking her baby’s life. I reflect on the mental escape during abuse, the silence that let him get ...
From Ashes to Bloom: Sun After the Storm
In this episode, I unravel the storm of 2017, starting with my son’s birth by C-section, a fragile three pounds, fighting in the NICU until he passed at home in May. By July, pregnant again, I buried my shame and rage, questioning God, terri...
Waters of Loss: Birthing Truth in Isolation
In this deeply personal episode, I bare the unseen battle of birthing twins in a tub at home, a secret I’ve carried in silence. Discovering my pregnancy with lifeless twins after a quiet ultrasound, I hid my grief while bartending, pac...
War Within the Roots: Facing My Silent Struggle
In this episode, I wrestle with the parts of me no one sees the silent struggle of no motivation and paralysis when faced with choice. Rooted in past trauma, I’ve lived in survival mode, moving only when the fire’s under me, but I’m tired of...
Chasing Shadows: The Pain of Unseen Love
Today I pour into myself, choosing subtraction by addition, letting go of the parts that crave attention from those who overlook me, and finding strength in my own worth. Join me as I unravel the pain of chasing unavailable love, confront my...
Unfamiliar Peace: Saying Farewell to Chaos
I’m at war with myself, holding onto a life that doesn’t satisfy, where shame and anxiety grow when I ignore what I know. My therapist’s words bring back a rainy drive with my dad, when he taught me to keep driving through the storm, not to ...
Kin and Concealment:The Lies That Shaped Me
On Father’s Day I reflect on the father who raised me, the father I lost, and the daughter I shield from my truth. Join me as I navigate family lore, betrayal, and the silence I’m learning to break. For 26 years I believed my father was a ma...
Waves of Memory:Believing in Him, Learning to Trust Me
In this tender episode of I’m Talkin to You, I’m Talkin to Me Too, I share a day drawn to the water, where a walk with a sandwich and a chocolate cookie sparked deep reflections. Seeing a young mom with her one-year-ol...
Wounds That Won’t Heal: Speaking to Survive
In this raw and powerful episode of I’m Talkin to You, I’m Talkin to Me Too, I confront the pain of staying silent after surviving abuse. Triggered by a courtroom moment with my ex-husband, I revisit the night I went n...
Three Hours to Nowhere: Trusting Myself Over Dates
In this heartfelt episode of I’m Talkin to You, I’m Talkin to Me Too, I unpack why the thrill of dating has faded into a daunting task. As a single mom of three, the effort of getting ready, hours on hair, makeup, and ...
Empty Fridge, Full Heart: Neglecting Me, Loving Them
In this episode of I’m Talkin to You, I’m Talkin to Me Too, I confront the shame of neglecting myself when my kids are away. I preach to them about eating fruit and drinking water, yet I’m sipping from their half-empty...
Beneath the Branches: The Weight of His Shadow
In this raw and emotional episode of I’m Talkin to You, I’m Talkin to Me Too, I dive into a haunting memory that still lingers: the night my sister caught my ex staring through my bedroom window, fix...
Cold Agave : Echoes of Absence Pt.2
In this raw and heartfelt episode, I dive into the whirlwind of a connection that lit up my world with late-night laughs, quiet glances, and unexpected gestures—like a smoothie sent to brighten a tough day. But beneath the joy, I wrestle wit...
Cold Agave : Roots of Attachment Pt.1
In this raw episode, I dive into the tangled branches of a tree rooted in my mother’s wounds. I opened my heart to someone new,a chance meeting that sparked laughter, late-night talks, and a night that felt like a fresh start. We texte...
Ripping the Roots: Cutting Off My Mother, Planting New Ground
I made the hardest choice—I cut my mother off. I’ve been stuck in this cycle, aching for her support, especially now, with my kids leaving for the summer with their dad. I asked her to help this last week, but her response, demanding money a...
Chicago’s Hold: Family Fractures
In this raw and emotional episode, I confront the struggle of masking my anger, sadness, and overwhelm from my kids, who see it all despite my efforts to hide. , a call hit me hard: my brother was sentenced to four years. Chicago’s hidden st...
“Roots of Absence: Unraveling Love and Trauma”
In this unflinching episode, I dive into the tangled roots of my marriage, built not on love but on the absence of it—a pattern I mistook for familiarity. Growing up, I learned love through trauma, shaped by my mother’s harsh discipline, inc...
Not Yet: My Journey Through Loss and Finding Myself Again
In this raw and deeply personal episode, recorded on May 23, 2025, I share the devastating story of losing my infant son on May 23, 2017. It started as an ordinary night, but when I went to bed, I found a small puddle of blood and discovered...