More Than Dance

How to Love: How Dance Teaches Us To Appreciate All Things | Ep 70

Krissy Phillipino Episode 64

This episode is about learning how to love something on purpose as opposed to the way we think we should love something: instantly

As a dancer, I’ve always learned how to love music. If it doesn’t hit immediately, I don’t write it off. I already know I want to love it, and that changes how I listen. 

I can’t tell you how many times we finish a song in class and someone says, “I didn’t like this at first… and now I’m obsessed.” And that’s the magic. The choreography. The movement. The way dancing to something creates a relationship with it. That mindset is a big reason why I don’t announce class titles ahead of time, because the second people think they know what they like, they stop letting themselves be surprised. Sometimes the things we resist end up being the things we treasure the most.

In this episode, I talk about why we don’t like things at first (specifically in terms of music)

  • maybe we don’t like the artist
  • maybe it’s not our usual style
  • maybe it reminds us of something we don’t like
  • maybe it feels repetitive
  • maybe we don’t understand how we’d move through it yet

And then I walk you through the art of learning to love, sometimes love comes after familiarity, not before.

We talk about:

  • habit and exposure (and why repetition actually matters)
  • how context changes everything
  • how music becomes meaningful once it’s attached to memory
  • why confidence grows from competence, and competence creates appreciation

I also connect this to life and relationships. The way I love Josh now is not the same way I loved him at the beginning, it’s deeper because I know more. I have more appreciation because I know more about him. 

This episode is about meeting things where they are, letting them teach you, and allowing love to grow instead of demanding it show up immediately.

Appreciation isn’t passive, It’s a skill we get to practice!!

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