🎙️ Episodet #55 The Lonely Path: The Part of Becoming No One Talks About

Most people will tell you that following your purpose feels aligned… expansive… exciting.

But there’s a part they don’t talk about.

The part where it gets quiet.
Where the validation disappears.
Where you start questioning everything.

In this episode, we go into the lonely chapter of becoming—the stretch of your journey where you outgrow your old life… but haven’t fully landed in your new one yet.

The middle.

The place where:

• You wonder if you’re delusional for wanting more
• You question if you’re making the right decisions
• You feel disconnected from people who used to feel like home
• And it feels like you’re building something… with no proof it’s working

This is the part most people turn back.

Not because they’re not capable—
but because they think this feeling means they’re off track.

It doesn’t.

This episode is for the ones who feel called to create something exceptional…
and are realizing that path doesn’t always feel glamorous.

It can feel uncertain.
Unstable.
And sometimes… incredibly lonely.

But this isn’t punishment.

This is preparation.

Inside this episode, we talk about:

• Why following your purpose can feel lonely
• The truth about the “middle phase” of growth and success
• The internal battle between who you were and who you’re becoming
• Why most people give up here—and how to keep going
• What it really takes to love something you’re creating… without guarantees

If you’re in this chapter right now…

Feeling the tension.
Feeling the doubt.
Feeling like you’re walking this path alone…

This episode will remind you:

You are not the only one here.

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Transcript

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So there's this part of your journey that no one prepares you for. Not the breakthrough, not the glow-up, not the moment where everything clicks. I'm talking about the part where it gets really, really quiet, where the excitement wears off, and it's just you on the path and the question: Did I just make the biggest mistake of my life? Welcome back to the Spiritually Kinky Podcast. This is the place where truth meets turn on and transformation. And I'm Dustin, and I'm here to speak to the ones who feel that pull inside of them. The ones who know they weren't made for a normal life. The ones who feel called to create something exceptional. Even if they fully can't explain it yet. And if that's you, then this episode, this is for the part of you that's wondering if you're losing your mind. Because somewhere along the way, we got sold a really pretty lie. That when you find your purpose, when you follow that nudge that won't leave you alone, life becomes aligned, magical, flowy, effortless, like it's just puppies and fucking rainbows. And listen, there are moments like that. But when no one talks about is everything in between. Because the truth, the path of becoming exceptional, it's not fucking glamorous. It's gritty, it's uncertain, it's confronting. And sometimes it's painfully lonely. There is a chapter in your life, maybe several, where you will outgrow everything that once felt like home. Your patterns, your people, even the way you see yourself. And suddenly, you don't quite belong where you used to be, but you're not fully established in where you're going either. And that space, that's the middle. And in the middle is where most people turn back. Because it's not sexy, it's not instant. And it doesn't feel like success. Wondering if you're delusional, falling, failing, recalibrating, repeating. It feels like standing in a massive fucking empty room, giving everything that you've got, and hearing one slow clap. And realizing it's just you. Let me tell you, there have been a lot of moments in my own life where everything felt like it was cracking open behind the scenes. Where I was holding space for my dad after he tried to take his own life, and no one that was listening to me speak would have ever known what I was carrying. Moments where I was showing up while my grandma was in a nursing facility, sitting there holding her hand as she took her last breath, and then getting back up and continuing to create. Because you realize there is no backup plan. There is no safe version of your life that will satisfy you anymore. Once you felt the call, you can't unfeel it. And let me tell you, there was no clear evidence it was working. Just this quiet knowing that I couldn't go back. And this is where it gets real, because the hardest part isn't what's happening outside of you. It's what's happening inside of you. The voice that says, Who do you think you are? This is too much, you're not ready. Just go back to something safe. And at the same time, there's another voice quieter, steadier, and unfucking relenting that says, keep going. And this is the war between your past self and the one you're becoming. And most people they interpret this tension as a sign that they're doing something wrong. But babe, it's not. And recently, walking through this with Simba, walking with him as he moves through cancer, there have been nights that I have barely slept, waking up every hour just to make sure he was still breathing and feeling the weight of knowing that loving him fully will also mean letting him go. And still, I'm here. Still creating, still speaking, even when my voice shakes. And this chapter, babe, it's not here to break you, it's here to build you. Because this is where you learn who you are without validation. You build discipline without applause, and you choose yourself without evidence. And this is where your nervous system learns I'm safe to move forward, even when no one is clapping yet. And this is where you stop needing the world to confirm your path, and you become the one who confirms it. Because why most people turn back? Most people don't fail because they're incapable. They turn back because they think that this part means they're off track. So they go back, they go back to what's reasonable, what's predictable, what feels safe. And they choose good enough because the middle feels too uncertain to hold. But you, if you're still here feeling this, listening to this, babe, you were never built for good. You're built for true. And true doesn't always feel comfortable. And here's the truth that nobody fucking talks about about the ones who make it. You look at people on the other side and think, wow, they've got something special. They're different. They have something I don't. No, babe. They just didn't leave themselves in the middle. They walked through the lonely chapter again and again and again. They loved something so deeply, they were willing to keep choosing it. Even when there are no guarantees that it would work. And the only certainty that I can promise you is that anyone who has ever created something that they truly love and something that they wanted that was different than their current reality has walked this same path. And this is what people don't understand about this path. You don't wait until life is calm or perfect or figured out. You create in the middle of the chaos, in the grief, in the uncertainty, in the moments where your heart feels cracked fucking wide open. Because what you're building matters more than your comfort. Not it'll be better someday, but pure fucking devotion. The kind of devotion that says, I'm gonna create this, not because it's guaranteed, but because I cannot imagine choosing anything else. And yeah, some days that means walking alone, some days that means facing the biggest fear in your life. That you might end up with an okay life. And choosing forward anyway, knowing that this is what it looks like to love something all the way through. So if you're in this chapter right now, I want you to hear me clearly. You are not the only one here. This is exactly the kind of work that we do inside the spiritually kinky space, not the fucking highlight reel, the real shit, the middle, the recalibration, the becoming, the remembering. So if you're ready to stop trying to fix yourself and start creating from who you actually are, then come join us in our community on school, the spiritually kinky community for creators. Because, babe, the truth is that you are not broken, you never were. You are the creative force within, and you get to choose what you would love to create. And whether you're here to be a little bit spiritual, or you're here to be a little bit kinky, or you're here, like me, to be a whole lot of both, because creation is one of the kinkiest fucking things that you can do. Lead with love, my friends. And in case nobody told you today, I see you, I feel you, and I love you, and you are not alone.