Why Mindset Matters
Eslana Lower is an author, speaker, resilience mindset coach, nurse, midwife and mother of 4 who is also navigating life following the tragic loss of her teenage daughter Rylee to suicide because of bullying.
Why Mindset Matters is the podcast that explores how resilience, gratitude, and intentional thinking can transform even the most challenging seasons of life. Each episode offers raw conversations, empowering tools, and real-life stories to help you shift your perspective and reclaim your power.
This podcast is for you if you’ve ever asked yourself…
- How do I survive the heartbreak of a breakup or betrayal?
- How do I keep going after the death of someone I love?
- Is it possible to live and grieve at the same time?
- Will I ever feel happiness again after so much loss?
- How can I begin to heal when everything feels broken?
- What can I do to strengthen my mental and emotional wellbeing?
- How do I build resilience for the inevitable challenges life brings?
- What does happiness really mean—and how do I find it for myself?
- How do I create a life that feels meaningful and aligned?
- Can I truly manifest the life, love, and peace I long for?
- How do I call in the kind of relationship I truly deserve?
- What steps can I take to live the life I know I’m meant for?
Trigger Warning: This podcast contains discussions about suicide and may include occasional strong language. Listener discretion is advised, especially for those who may find these topics distressing.
Why Mindset Matters
Self-Sabotage, Safety & Saying Yes to Life
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Season 3 Episode 1 : Self-Sabotage, Safety & Saying Yes to Life
In the very first episode of Season Three of Why Mindset Matters, I open up about something I’ve realised I’ve done for most of my adult life — pulling back from the very things I say that I want.
Recording from beautiful Tasmania, I share the story of almost cancelling this trip and the pattern of self-sabotage, fear, and nervous system protection that showed up in the lead-up. What I’ve come to understand is that sometimes it’s not that something is wrong or out of alignment — it’s that our nervous system mistakes the unfamiliar for unsafe.
After years of living in fight-or-flight through childhood trauma, grief, loss, and survival mode, I now have the awareness to recognise when fear is trying to disguise itself as logic. This episode is about what happens when we stop letting old wounds dictate our future and start choosing expansion, joy, connection, and life anyway.
I talk about solo travel, healing through therapy and neurofeedback, learning to embody resilience instead of just teaching it, and the importance of questioning the narratives we adopt about safety, love, happiness, and what we believe we deserve.
If you’ve ever found yourself sabotaging opportunities, doubting yourself right before something beautiful, or talking yourself out of the very life you desire, this episode is for you.
Because sometimes the only thing standing between us and the life we want… is the story we tell ourselves right before we step into it.
