The Catholic Couch
The Catholic Couch is the official podcast of the Catholic Counseling Institute, where Catholic faith and psychological science meet real life. Hosted by licensed Catholic therapist Amber Pilkington, this podcast explores the intersection of theology, mental health, and human relationships.
Each episode offers practical tools, grounded in Church teaching and peer-reviewed research, on topics like marriage, boundaries, anxiety, intrusive thoughts, parenting, trauma, forgiveness, and healing.
This is not therapy. This is faithful, formative support—so you can grow in clarity, peace, and purpose.
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The Catholic Couch
Am I Allowed to Need Space?
What if the burnout you’re feeling isn’t a sign of failure—but an invitation to rethink what love actually looks like?
In this powerful opening episode, Catholic therapist Amber Pilkington unpacks one of the most requested topics she hears from Catholic women: boundaries in marriage. With warmth, humor, and deep compassion, Amber introduces us to three fictional couples who mirror real-life dynamics—Emily and Josh, Teresa and Mike, and Carmen and Leo—and invites us to explore what boundaries are (and what they’re not).
Together, we’ll challenge common spiritual misunderstandings, explore what the Catechism and Scripture really say, and learn why boundaries aren’t barriers to love—they’re the structure that makes love sustainable.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it okay to need help?” or “Am I allowed to ask for space?”—this episode will meet you where you are.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- The true definition of a boundary (hint: not walls or ultimatums)
- Why emotional burnout doesn’t mean you’re doing marriage wrong
- What Jesus, the Catechism, and modern psychology say about personal limits
- How to take your first gentle step toward clarity, honesty, and connection
Resources mentioned:
- Matthew 5:37 – “Let your yes mean yes…”
- Catechism 1731 & 1782 – On freedom and conscience
- Cloud & Townsend (1992) Boundaries
- Maslach (2001), Figley (1995) – Research on burnout and compassion fatigue
Disclaimer:
This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional counseling, spiritual direction, or medical advice. While I’m a licensed Catholic therapist, I am not your therapist—and listening to this podcast does not create a therapeutic relationship.If you’re experiencing significant distress, please reach out to a licensed mental health provider in your area, your parish priest, or a trusted support resource. If you're in crisis, contact 988 or your local emergency services.The Catholic Counseling Institute exists to support women with resources that integrate faith and psychological insight. We’re here to walk with you, but we are not a crisis line or emergency care provider.