The Catholic Couch
The Catholic Couch is the official podcast of the Catholic Counseling Institute, where Catholic faith and psychological science meet real life. Hosted by licensed Catholic therapist Amber Pilkington, this podcast explores the intersection of theology, mental health, and human relationships.
Each episode offers practical tools, grounded in Church teaching and peer-reviewed research, on topics like marriage, boundaries, anxiety, intrusive thoughts, parenting, trauma, forgiveness, and healing.
This is not therapy. This is faithful, formative support—so you can grow in clarity, peace, and purpose.
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The Catholic Couch
Boundaries in Catholic Marriage - Episode 3: Why Do We Keep Missing Each Other?
In this episode, we cover:
- How personality and upbringing shape emotional communication
- Why “mental load” causes resentment in marriages
- Dr. John Gottman’s research on “negative sentiment override”
- Emotional filters and the nervous system’s role in conflict
- Real-life boundary examples that invite connection, not conflict
- The difference between disharmony and disconnection
- Gentle strategies to reconnect with your spouse without blame
- John 8:32 and the role of truth in healing marriage
Featured fictional couples: Emily & Josh, Teresa & Mike, Carmen & Leo
Referenced research: Gottman (1999, 2000), Daminger (2019), Bowlby (1969), Johnson (2008)
Next episode: “What If My Spouse Gets Mad?”
Disclaimer:
This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional counseling, spiritual direction, or medical advice. While I’m a licensed Catholic therapist, I am not your therapist—and listening to this podcast does not create a therapeutic relationship.If you’re experiencing significant distress, please reach out to a licensed mental health provider in your area, your parish priest, or a trusted support resource. If you're in crisis, contact 988 or your local emergency services.The Catholic Counseling Institute exists to support women with resources that integrate faith and psychological insight. We’re here to walk with you, but we are not a crisis line or emergency care provider.