Self Healing Action Plan

In this episode of the Kevin 3.0 Era Podcast, I talk about my self-healing action plan and how I began rebuilding after a year filled with trauma, heartbreak, and hard lessons. I share why I took a hiatus from the podcast and social media, and how stepping back allowed me to focus on my mental health, physical well-being, and personal growth. I walk through how I created a flexible weekly routine centered around movement, fitness, journaling, time management, and personal development, even when life did not go as planned. I reflect on the importance of starting small, staying consistent without being perfect, and giving myself grace during difficult moments. This episode is a reminder that healing is not linear, taking care of yourself is never selfish, and growth happens when you choose to show up for yourself one day at a time.

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Welcome to the Kevin 3.0 Era Podcast. And in tonight's episode, we're gonna be talking about the self-healing action plan. Ways to heal our inner self and our inner hearts. Sit back and enjoy the episode. A new me, a new you, new experience, and a brand new story to tell for this year. I know in the last um year we talked about a lot of trauma and we made a lot of realizations and learned so many lessons. And to be honest, I'm excited for this year. You know, I took a little hiatus, so I wasn't working on the podcast or any of my social medias. I took a break. I literally took a break from any everything. And I wanted to heal my heart from all the trauma and all the heartbreaks that I went through last year, and it felt good to just focus on myself, to strictly put away time for myself, and to learn new things and gain some new experiences. I made myself a self-healing action plan. In this action plan, I made a plan of what I was gonna do throughout the whole week. Mondays it was um training, Tuesdays training, Wednesdays to train. It was basically training, training, training. The following week I made an official one. Monday, I of course had my 9 to 5, and I taught my Matt Pilates class on Tuesday, 9 to 5, and then I had the day after just to work out. Work a little bit of uh cardio, some strength training, and Wednesdays, same schedule. I did my 9 to 5 and did some workouts and made myself um read a book and do some LinkedIn trainings. Thursdays is my busiest days, so I taught my class, got home, did some studying for my CPT cert, and did my strong nation class at the end. It was really fun. That class is my most busiest one, and for Fridays I did my Matt Sculpt class. The rest of the day I just did LinkedIn trainings on personal development and reading books. Saturday and Sunday, it's a little iffy, so I keep those open. And what I noticed throughout this whole action plan is that I was changing it, it was never consistent, like it wasn't like okay, this is the plan, this I have to follow it. You know, life happens. Sometimes my work schedule can change, sometimes my class could get cancelled, or I got things to do. But the whole point of this plan was to heal myself. Instead of moping around in the house, instead of laying in the house, I wanted to be active, and it was hard, trust me. There were some days where I just wanted to sleep in bed and cry, or like just sleep in bed. But I had some grit and I got myself up. I was like, you know what? Let me listen to this track, this song, and let's get right into it. And that's exactly what I did. And it's a different process for everyone, you know, when it comes to self-healing, it's all about being consistent and it's all about taking care of yourself. It's important to take care of yourself, it's important to take time out for yourself. It's never selfish to focus on your own mental health and your own well-being. Period point blank. Like, you need to focus on yourself, you need to make sure that you're okay before taking care of anybody else. Are you okay? That's what you need to ask yourself. Are you okay? And if you're not, take a deep breath, get a journal, and write them down, write your feelings. One of the first steps to self-healing is just acknowledging it, it can be all over the place. And just taking like at least five minutes to just write it down, your feelings, your emotions, just composing it and letting it all out. If you have to scream, you have to cry, let it out. And that's exactly what I did. You know, I just did like I did like a good 30 minutes of a writing session, letting all my feelings and emotions out, and I started to make a self-action plan to focus on myself. There were some things, there were some events that happened in the beginning of the year, and I took an L already, no shade intended. Like, here's the thing, and I really, really hate someone that is not transparent. Okay, you can be an asshole, you can be a piece of shit to me. What really like really really ticks me off is when you're not transparent. And I'm not gonna go into details. The point is that was like one of the first L's that I've taken this year, and I wasn't too filled with it. I was just like, whatever. It happened, it happened, I threw it away. Like, I mean, I'm gonna be honest, last year I took so many L's. Like, I took so many L's when I think about it. So many instances. It was like this one saying in high school that my friends used to make a thousand seven fights, all L's. That was literally me. I was taking L's after L's after L's after losses, and reflecting on that statement is just funny because I'm like, damn, I did 1700 fights, all L's, no W's, but I did have some W's. I was able to get my group fitness certification, and I was able to get my you know an intro and a jump start to my Pilates certifications, my map Pilates, and I got jump started in yoga, and that's something I'm gonna get back to this year. Like this first L, it was not in my action plan, it was something that happened and it made me feel so bad about myself. You know, you work so hard, you work, you put your body through so much, and when you're not giving an answer to a situation, it it just sucks. You know it sucks. And the point was, you know, when I was making this action plan and I was going through it, I did a whole week of just not exercising. I didn't even want to do my class, like I didn't have the energy to do it. It was one of the hardest things to do. And there's an episode that I have coming up that I'll explain about my journey as a Zumba and Strong Nation instructor that I really did like enjoying when I recorded it. But getting back to that point, you know, I felt so bad. And then one day I was like, why the hell am I sleeping in bed? Like, why am I in bed? Like, let's get up, let's get our ass up, and let's go do something. Whether it's going to that yogurt shop, that coffee shop, or going to the bookstore and getting a book, let's get out of the house and let's go be active. And when there's days that I don't feel like working out, at least a treadmill for 30 minutes, 20 minutes, something, and like a 10-minute dumbbell workout. I have like a timer that I use, and I have my workouts like all planned in there, even my classes, and I was just being consistent. You know, the whole point that what I learned in January was to take care of myself, and I did do that. I started taking LinkedIn trainings every Wednesday night on my way to school, just something on personal development. And if I didn't want to go on LinkedIn learning, I would go on YouTube or on TikTok or on like my social medias and listen to some personal development. You know, I gotta make my mind stronger. And I do have new certifications on the way so I can expand myself as a group fitness instructor. My goal by the end of this year is to become a certified personal trainer, and I know I'm gonna make it happen. I'm also gonna push to get my Matt Pilates certification completed with my hours of the observations, my practical teaching hours, and personal sessions, which has been an amazing journey because I got to focus more on my mobility, and I really want to do this um new compet like not competition, but there's this new um race that I want to do with my mom, and I'm looking forward to it. The whole point is, you know, when you're feeling down, when you're feeling like you're, you know, I'm gonna be real for a second. Like, if you're just feeling down, one of the hardest steps is just starting. What is your fitness journey, your personal development journey, starting is the hardest. Because it feels like you know, when you're doing this fitness journey, you're like, Oh, I don't see the results, but starting is the hardest part. But I gotta tell you, once you start and make it into a habit, a good habit, is gonna be such a blessing and it's gonna be such like an accomplishment once you get to where you need to be at. In my fitness journey, I didn't see myself teaching all these formats. I only saw myself as a sumba instructor and and and a strong nation instructor, but once I got that exposure into other formats, it's it's amazing like being able to teach anything that I want to teach. Because at the end of the day, I am Kevin 3.0, I'm this fitness instructor, I'm not tied to anything, you know. I teach what I want to teach, and it's such an amazing thing. Like, I like before the schedule that I had, I would just teach two formats, and they're such amazing formats. Like, I love them, I really do love them. I love teaching them. And now I'm teaching on Monday, I teach you know, a Matt Pilates class for my student teaching hours, and then I'm teaching um this new format on Mondays as well, and then on Wednesdays I do a little group sessions, and then on Thursday, that's when it gets all together. Like I'm doing my string training, my Pilates sculpt class, and then my strong nation class, and then Friday I do my math sculpt class. I'm teaching so many formats, even when I cover at the gym, I'm teaching so many different formats, and it's amazing. Hopefully, in the near future, I'll get into aqua. Kind of a little nervous about that one, but you know, it doesn't hurt to take a training, and I want to get into cycling, the indoor cycling certifications. I been looking around to see which one I can get that's accredited. It's just amazing what fitness can turn you into. And part of the self-healing process is you know, expanding my mind to new opportunities. And I feel so good about myself right now because I've accomplished so much for my age, and this year I want to make more accomplishments. You know, I've been focusing on myself as an instructor and as a person as well. You know, I want to deliver the best classes to my students, and part of that is making sure that I'm okay, making sure that I'm taking time out of my day to train, to work out, or even just to go explore the life, you know, like it's so beautiful outside, especially in my city. Like, it's so beautiful. Going to a new shop, talking to people. Like back then I was so introverted, like I didn't like talking to no one. Like now, like when I go to school, oh my god, like you know, you can see my energy. I can talk to you or I'll make you feel welcome. Like, I like talking to people. The whole point is it took a a lot to get to where I'm at, and I'm still in the self-healing process. I made a plan. And now we're gonna move to the small exercise. Here's our small exercise or our small task. I want you to grab a notepad. Or anything, or even on your phone. Open up. If you're on your phone, you're gonna open up your reminders, or you know, you're just a notepad. I want you to write out your Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday. And for those days, I want you to write five goals of what you're gonna do each day. And if that seems too much, what I do recommend getting one single page, your to-do list. Honestly, if you have Apple, I use my reminders app, and I list out what I need to get done in order. And the way I think about it, I list down, you know, in in a tone that I I say like putting out fires, what is the most what is the task that is that needs the most attention, and what is the task that needs the least amount of attention. And the way I think about it, I'm a student, so my priority is my schoolwork. My schoolwork needs to be done before anything else. So every day I update my list, and when I wake up, you know I'll you know I wake up and I look at my list. And I always, always change it. What is the fire that needs to be put out today? And the way I have it is let's just I'ma say for a random day on Tuesday, I had the workout. So of course it was a 9 to 5. After the 9 to 5, we had a workout in my list. After the workout, let's go explore. And then it said film reels. And then it says once we get home, let's clean out our classic. Getting things organized. From there, I had the next task. Finish your schoolwork. After your schoolwork, relax for a good 10 minutes, 10 to 15 minutes. From there, take a LinkedIn training on personal development or a YouTube video on personal development. After that task, relax for the rest of the day. Or do some meditation. And little steps like that, you know, when it comes to this self-healing action plan, like it's on your terms and your method. My method is like I I do it day by day. So I make sure I open up the reminders and I change my tasks to the most priority, to the least priority. But my goal is to get them all done before the end of the day. And sometimes I don't get them done. But you know, it takes time with time management, having a calendar, or even on your phone, we're in the age of technology where it's easy now. You can have it all on your phone without getting any notepads or pencils or anything like that. But the point is you do what works for you, and it's part of your self-healing journey. Another part of your self-healing journey is not being so hard on yourself when shit hits the fan. Stuff happens, stuff happens, and it's okay. Take a deep breath, acknowledge it, and move on. Certain people can be a pain in the ass. I'm being honest, certain people can be a pain in the ass. Take a deep breath, ignore it, and move on. I will give you this one advice that I've been told many times. 10 seconds can ruin your life. And here's my words do not let 10 seconds ruin your life. Just smile and wave and ignore. It's never worth it. So just never, never, never. Don't let it, don't let that that 10 seconds of insignificantly ruin your life. Just be yourself. Be your true self and give it your best to your capabilities. Don't overdo it. And we're in the age of you know where some people are like content creators. If you're doing 16 takes, call it a day. Don't push yourself. I usually do three takes, and the third one is like, okay, if it's not, if it's not it, then we're not gonna post it, but we can make some content off of it. But do not push yourself. We're not machines, we're human beings. Give ourselves a break. As we grow out through this year, uh don't be hard on yourself. Uh take care of yourself. Take time for yourself. It's never selfish to take care of yourself, it's never selfish to think for yourself. You have to take care of yourself first before you help anybody else, you know? And it takes time, but once you take care of yourself, you will become a stronger person. And I got this. I'm wishing everyone an amazing happy new year's. And I know that we're gonna get through this journey. And if we're going through hard times, it's okay. Take your time, take your pace. You will be okay. Take a deep breath and take a deep breath out. Have an amazing night. Happy New Year's life again, three more.