Found at 40
Turns out, life doesn’t come with a manual—but it does come with a podcast.
Found at 40 is a podcast for women in midlife having honest conversations about relationships, work, parenting, and figuring out who we are in this season.
Each week, guests over 40 share their best lessons, hilarious moments, and wisdom that only comes from surviving the ultimate group projects of marriage, motherhood, and careers. Together, we talk through the chaotic season of shifting identities, evolving marriages, growing kids, perimenopause knocking at the door, and the quiet panic of reinvention.
It’s what we’ve learned now that we’re finally old enough to know better—and still occasionally do it anyway. Because midlife isn’t a crisis… it’s just incredibly well-researched content.
Welcome to the group chat you didn’t know you needed.
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Found at 40
Your Brain is a Liar: How to Stop Overthinking & Break Old Patterns in Midlife
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If your brain has been running the same exhausting loops—overthinking, second-guessing, telling you you’re behind—this episode is going to feel like a reset. I’m joined by life coach Ashley Molitor, who helps women unlearn the BS stories that keep them stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from themselves. We get into the patterns, limiting beliefs, and midlife mindset shifts that quietly run the show—and how to finally break free from them. If you’ve ever felt like you know what needs to change but can’t seem to do it, this conversation will hit.
(0:00) 🔄 The “spinning wheel of death” in your brain—midlife overthinking explained
(2:00) 🎯 What a life coach actually does (and how it helps you break patterns faster)
(5:00) 🧠 Why your brain resists change—and keeps you stuck in the same cycles
(7:30) 📖 Limiting beliefs: the stories you didn’t choose but keep living by
(10:30) ⏳ “I’ll focus on me later”—why that mindset never works
(12:30) 🗓️ Living on autopilot: busy, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your values
(15:30) 🤝 Motherhood, burnout & why asking for help is the real power move
(18:30) ⚖️ Body image, negative self-talk & separating facts from the story
(21:30) 🔁 The patterns you don’t realize you have (relationships, habits & self-sabotage)
(25:00) ❓ The questions you’re asking yourself that keep you stuck
(30:00) 🔥 How to identify patterns by looking at results you don’t like
(34:00) 😵 Post-interaction spiraling & how to stop overanalyzing everything
(38:30) ✨ Letting go of “shoulds” and rewriting the story you actually want
Follow Ashley on Instagram at @ashleylmolitor and or visit her website at https://www.ashleymolitor.com
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Keywords: midlife overthinking, limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, breaking patterns, mindset for women, life coach Ashley Molitor, feeling stuck in midlife, negative self-talk, body image, boundaries, emotional health, personal growth for women, midlife reset, confidence, self-trust