Burn It Down Or Build It Better: Boundaries, Morning Rituals, And Mom Guilt

Ready to reclaim your energy without apologizing for it? We play a no-overthinking game—rebuild it, burn it down, or leave it as it is—to sort the habits, expectations, and obligations that shape mom life. The rules are simple, the takes are spicy, and the insights hit close to home for anyone juggling anxiety, exhaustion, and an overfull plate.

We start with rest, calling out the myth that you have to earn it. From there, we dive into morning routines that either steady our minds or trap us in brittle scripts. A hilarious detour through dishwasher filters and shower habits turns into a real talk about control, comfort, and why small rituals feel so big when your brain is tired. Then we get serious about access and availability: instant replies, constant fixing, and the invisible tax on moms who never let a message sit. We draw new boundaries, ditch guilt-driven yeses, and build a saner response rhythm that protects our time and our mood.

The middle stretch gets raw. We examine sky-high self-expectations, the sting of being “nice,” and the courage to choose kind or honest instead. Mom guilt takes center stage—career over presence, worry over connection—and we show how repair beats perfection every time. Social media gets a rebuild verdict with clear guardrails: time boxes, unfollows, and a shift from comparison to creation. We close by tackling overexplaining and the inner critic, giving that harsh voice a demotion and choosing compassionate standards that fit our season of life.

If you’re craving practical boundaries, relatable laughs, and the freedom to say no without a 10-paragraph text, this one’s for you. Subscribe, share with a mom who needs a reset, and leave a review with your top “burn it down” pick—we’ll feature our favorites next week.

Transcript

Welcome And Game Rules

SPEAKER_01 0:01

You're listening to the Anxiety Ridden Moms Club, the podcast for moms who love their kids deeply and still feel anxious, exhausted, and overstimulated. Here, we talk about the messy stuff, the thoughts we don't say out loud, the pressure to do it all, and the journey back to ourselves. Progress over perfection always. Let's go.

unknown 0:27

Okay.

SPEAKER_01 0:28

Today's episode is not a therapy session. No feelings worksheets. No deep breathing. This is a game, a rebuild game. We're calling it rebuild it or burn it down. We're reading things out loud and deciding do we rebuild it, burn it down, or leave it as it is? It's kind of like Tinder. Swipe left, swipe right. What are we doing? Not that I would know anything about Tinder. I'm just saying. No overthinking. Oh boy. I don't know. I don't know. Who came up with this game? Thank you. I always overthink. I know. And I need 28 answers, 28 minutes to answer a question. Right. And if you're listening, you're playing too. You better be. Come on. Let's do this. All right, okay. So set the rules. The rules are simple. Rebuild equals it stays, but differently. Burn it down. We're done. We're not dealing with the shit anymore. Leave it as is. Surprisingly, it works. We don't have anything to change. No justifying your answer. Just bullshit. I don't like that rule. It's a dumb rule. I think we're gonna need to. I think we're gonna need justification on some of these things. Yeah. Let's have at it. Hey, I kind of think it would be good to have something where we're we're really going at it. Arguing one of these days we're gonna have like probably tear your ass up. I was gonna say, one of these days we're gonna have somebody call in and have a conversation. Right. Yeah. It'll be fun. Join in, answer our questions. That'd be great. We ask for ask Kylie why she's got so much anxiety and ex-crazy. Yeah. We've got a new, we've got a new feature on the on the system we use to record, and it's called live. I think we need to go live. I think we need to take a channel.

SPEAKER_00 2:20

I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 2:21

I don't know if I'm ready for all that. In some in in previous episodes, Gina talked about my negativity, and I told her that we needed to take this podcast on tour. And do you know what her response was? No one would show up. So if you would show up and you would love to see us on tour, let us know. Anyway, back on track. Back on track. If we did go live, would you get on and watch?

SPEAKER_00 2:43

Yeah.

Energy And Rest: Reward Or Need

SPEAKER_01 2:43

If you would tell me that you would, I would do it. Otherwise, I mean, like, what's the point? Okay, all right, round one energy plus rest. So your relationship with rest. Rebuild, earn, or leave. Rebuild. Okay. I love to rest. I rest too much. I need to rest less, I think. I love to rest. I love TV. I love doing nothing. Me too. I honestly do. And I honestly now in the winter months I do probably definitely more than I should. But you know, I I definitely treat rest like a reward, so that's kind of a problem. You know? I don't know. Do you rest before burnout or after? Both. I rest all of the time. I love resting. Resting is my favorite. Okay, rebuild for me. So we're both rebuilding. Okay, we're both rebuild. All right. Your morning routine. Bring it down. Now for me, uh yeah, I leave it. I I'm very routined. I've told you that before. I'm super routine. Well, I mean, I'd like better weather. I hate that it's cold, but I still have my routine. I'm a routine person. No, but when it's decent outside and it doesn't feel like it's negative 10, mom and I were getting up before I would go to work and we were taking the dogs for a walk and the whole, and that just I feel like that just set my whole day up for success. And so I miss I missed that. Um, so I'm going with Burn It Down because I miss I gotta get up and I gotta move my butt and I've gotta get myself in gear. Yeah, I can see that. Okay, I can see because you've had a change in your routine. So that definitely kind of is a bummer if you have something that you were doing every morning and now you're not able to do that. Um, my routine's the same. I don't care what the weather is outside. I am very routine for my morning and don't talk to me. I really don't want you to talk to me when I'm getting ready or anything. Shut up. So, for our listeners, what would a realistic morning look like for you? Right. Are you routined? Every morning, do the same thing. Really? I, you know what I to be honest with you, I never really thought about it until we were doing these podcasts and talk about shit. And then I started realizing maybe I have issues.

SPEAKER_00 5:14

Like what?

Morning Routines And Control

Dishwasher Debates And Shower Filters

SPEAKER_01 5:15

Explain. Just like you know, when we talked about like cleaning the kitchen and the dishwasher and all this different stuff or whatever. Um, in fact, it's kind of funny because I don't know if I even I don't even think I talked about it, but when we were talking about the dishwasher and you were saying like how to like sort the sample wear or whatever, you know. And I'm like, so you've made me crazier. But um, it's kind of funny because my kids one time, it was Austin, I think, actually was talking to me and he said something about the dishwasher. He's like, Yeah, there's a filter in there and you need to really clean it. I'm like, There's what? I did not know that. And I started feeling, oh my God, what if I have a filthy filter in my dishwasher? I am going to die. Because if I that means I'm in wash gross, like that means my sanitizing piece of equipment is not really sanitizing anything. So I had to immediately find my filter and look at it. I was so proud because there is not an app, there is nothing, that is a clear, it looks like a brand new filter. Mine did too. And I was shocked because we're gross, but like nothing on mine. Mom, I need you to check the filter on your dishwasher because this woman puts anything. Like, I am okay. So, are you a rinse before the dishwasher? Before I wash. I wash everything soap, sponge, wash it all off, make sure of a clean flat, and then I put it in the dishwasher. No, no, I've everything comes off. So that's why I was like, well, no, duh. But after I thought about it, and I open up like, well, of course my filters clean, like the brand, because I'm it's like I wash, I sanitize clean dishes. I do it's a dishwasher, not a dish sanitizer. Is it? Mine actually has a sanitizer. Wait, is it? Yeah, mine actually has a sanitizer like setting on it. It's a dishwasher. Okay. To wash a sponge and I wash something. Then why the dishwasher? Because a sponge is disgusting. Think about this for me. I let's get a microscope and put your sponge under it right now. No, I'm I agree with you, but that's why I have a dishwasher to wash my dishes. But it's time because I don't want a whole fucking hot dog in my no. See, I wash it off. It's washed. My mom with a with my sponge. She puts it in the dishwasher and she thinks it's like the greatest thing ever. And hers like gets it clean. I don't know. Her dishwasher is from another. Uh listen, you need to check your filter if you do that. Definitely. But, anyways, I'm just saying, like, you so let me get back to my morning routine because that's what I'm supposed to be talking about. So I as we talked about these things, and I've learned how I have issues. It made me even realize how my morning routine, I have issues. Like, I don't like somebody talking to me if you talk to me either. I would probably shake my head at you like a yes or no and pray you stop talking. Like, I don't want to talk to you. I want you to shut up. I have a routine, and if I throw anything off of that routine, my day just doesn't seem as good. That's a problem, isn't it? Okay, so telling your routine. What is this routine that we can't interrupt? It's not anything any, it's not anything that's specific, but I mean, I literally, I'm gonna get out of bed. I have my phone and my um drink on my nightstand. I pick it up, I put my drink onto my fireplace in my bathroom. I take my phone and I put it directly onto a shelf in my closet because I don't want it to have moisture from my bathroom going. Put it on my closet so I could hear it if it went off. Then I have to brush my teeth, and then I have to um go ahead and get in the shower and take a shower. And then if we get out of the shower, I then have to lotion. I mean, like it's serious, like it's all stupid. Like what I'm telling you is probably and people are like, well, I mean, of course it's every single day, but it is exactly too. Wait, you shower every single day? Yeah. So I would, and I would every single day, I would. This is, I mean, and if I don't do those things, I don't feel right. And it has to like, even if I put my phone in a different spot, I'm not yeah, I'm not joking you. Like, I'll be like, what the hell? Where'd my phone? And it's like puts me in this like, what where where's my phone at? Why would what the hell am I thinking? And then I put my phone on that shelf and not this shelf. You do have some issues. Like, I am very returned. Do you watch the hero every day? No, I used to for years and years and years and years. And then I probably in the last maybe three years, I stopped doing it every single day. But it was hard for me to do that. I really was hard. But then I started realizing I saved me a ton of time. This is so funny. We just had this conversation at work. Where do you brush your teeth? In the sink. Have you ever brushed it in the shower? Hell to the note. Why? I do it all the time. No, that's with my Boston friends. Where are you gonna put your toothbrush? Where are you gonna put your toothbrush when you I have a mug? Oh, in your shower? Yeah, yeah, no. I have a mug that I move from the that's not part of my routine. Like this. I'm just saying my routine. I have a I have a mug that, like a coffee mug, so whatever. And then I have my face wash, my toothpaste, and my toothbrush, so it moves from either the counter or the shower because I either and I know you're not supposed to wash your face in the shower, but like, what the fuck ever? I do. Why are you not supposed to? I don't know, it's bad for your skin. I mean, I don't, anyways, but like I didn't know that that mattered. It's just not, I wash my face in my sink. And I do that after my shower, not before my shower. So I would take a shower and then I will get out of my shower and I will drive, I will lotion everything up, I will get my clothes on, and then I will wash my face in the sink. I'm very routined about everything. So I looked it up really quick. Why shower face washing gets a bad rap? Water is usually too hot. Your hot water, your hot shower water strips your skin's natural oils, dryness, irritation, redness, and can worsen acne or rosacea, strong water pressure, shower streams can be harsher than sink water, which can break down your skin barrier or increase sensitivity over time. Hair products, sneaky skin offenders, shampoo and conditioner, and red and residue can clog your pores or trigger breakouts, especially around your hairline, forehead, jawline. Overcleansing happens easily in the shower. People tend to scrub harder, cleanse longer. Yeah. Hmm. Interesting. Well, I put a filter on my shower head. Of course you did. Of course. And this is the funny part of the I one day was like going through, and I'm like, I saw these filters and I kept popping up myself. I'm like, I have got I have to have one. I mean, I have to have one. And so um I had to go out of town for work and it arrived while I was out of town for work. And so I called my husband. I said, Okay, I just arrived. There's these filters for the shower. And he's like, What? And I'm like, I want these filters on our shower head. They need to be put on. And he was like, I don't know why you're getting a filter for the shower. Like, this sounds stupid. And he was just like negative Nancy over there, talking about how dumb I am for get a filter for my shower. I said, just please do me a favor, put it in, it'll make me happy and whatever. So he put it in and he told me to shower. He said, I seriously took four showers today. And I'm like, he said, that feels like the best shower. Having the filter, I go, what? And he goes, I'm not kidding you. I cannot wait to go and try the shower. So like I can tell a huge difference in my shower from having that filter on there now. Saying that. What are you talking about? What is it filtering? It's like this, these beads, there's this stuff in it, whatever these, I don't even remember it's uh, I can't even not you'll have to provide a picture. Provide a picture, and I love it. And my shower, no, I'm telling you, it's way better. It feels your skin feels better from using it, everything. Do you have to change the filter? Yeah, you gotta change the filter every so many months or whatever. We'll change it. And um, so worth it. But we then is it like dirty when you change it? Um, I don't know. He changes that. I never asked. I don't know. I just tell him change it about the time when you change that filter. But you can tell a difference when you're showering, like through time. Like then when you change the new one, you can you can kind of tell a different just feels like what like it's off you put a water softener in your house and you had hard water, and now you have soft water. It's kind of the same idea. But um, it was just funny because it just made me think about it because it was just like he really thought I was dumb. And then he took four showers and he loved it. Then we had a plumber come out. I needed something fixed on my shower, and so this guy comes out and he right away wants to tell me how that filter is not doing a damn thing. It's a waste of my money. He left. I told my husband he isn't taking a shower with these filter showers. He don't know. I don't, he does not know, but maybe it doesn't mean anything. But you know, according to you, I doesn't make any difference. I guess I should doesn't never wash my face in that shower, which I don't, anyways, but I think my filter would help. Just just throwing it out there. Okay. Have you ever seen the ones with the beads in them that's in the handle? So if you have a shower handle that has a handle that comes down, okay. I did that on my daughter shower. That was the first one I ever put it in, and I you could tell a difference. Okay. But if it will get to where eventually, like your water pressure will go down because it is getting clogged in there. But hers are beads, so it's not you. I see something, but you can tell it's just it starts getting definitely something that people should invest in. Just don't ask a plumber, he'll tell you it's a waste of your time.

unknown 14:25

Oh my gosh.

Access, Availability, And Boundaries

SPEAKER_01 14:26

Okay, round two, access and availability. How available you are to people. Okay, wait, like that I want to be or that I that you are, and then do you want to rebuild it, burn it down, or leave it like it is? How available you are to people. Me, leave it as leave it as it is. I I set that boundary. If I don't want to, I'm not going to. Period. I would say. Period. Not a dot dot dot. Period. If I don't want to, I'm not doing it. See, I really wouldn't want to say rebuild it or burn it down. I would say I'd want to leave it dot dot dot. No, no, you can't do that. I because I do feel like maybe a little bit of rebuild would be good for me. But I don't know. I then have all my issues we we're talking about before, then I'd have, I don't know. You're too available. I am. And I'll be honest with you, like I even noticed like work-wise. If you don't want to be an asshole and say burn it down, then you at least have to do rebuild it. Okay. I'm gonna say rebuild it because it just depends. And I will say, like, I even think sometimes this happens to me, like even at work, like it'll be like a I'm always the type if you call me, text me, writer, I'm instantly gonna call you or text you back. I don't like wait. I was told by a couple different people I should let it sit for two hours. I'm like, two hours? What? Well, because you shouldn't be that accessible to everybody, right? And that that's they'll figure it out in those two hours and then they won't need you. It's what I was told. Yes. But you know what? I I don't like that. I I'm not getting I'm gonna tell you this much. If I if I'd wait two hours for your ass to answer me back, I'm gonna figure you're either one blowing me off, two, you're out screwing around because if you're working, if you if you're working, you have your phone. I also can't stand anybody who doesn't know how to use a phone and text back on pretty decently timely, anyways. Because hello, I guarantee you that if you're wanting to talk about stupid shit with some friend blowing off steam or whatever, your phone's been right in your pocket and you can answer at the drop of a hat, but all of a sudden I text about something, you know. That's my kids, they'll post the post on TikTok and haven't responded to a text message in seven years when it's their dad's weekend. I'm like, Are you a little pissing? I would say I would never do the two-hour thing. I think that that's I don't like that in any way, shape, or form. I can't stand it. If anybody treats me in that way, and I understand there can be a moment in your life that that happens, whatever, but for the most part, that should not typically happen. Two hours is excessive to me, but I also probably am too I'm in like, you know, 30 seconds responding like all the time to anybody. I do find it, and that's too much because then I do find it puts a lot of pressure on me, and then people expect me. Like I feel like if there's always a higher expectation of, we'll just get a hold of Gina. Gina can help you with that because Gina actually responds and other people don't, but I just find that rude. Yeah, and it puts more on you because yes, and that pisses me off, and then you wonder why I get in a bad mood, people, and then so I'll I'll just say rebuild. I probably should not be as accessible as I am. Saying yes without guilt, burn it down, rebuild, leave it as is. Saying yes out of guilt. Saying yes out of guilt. Oh. Because you feel guilty. That's why I say yes. You say yes, because you would feel guilty if you said no. Yeah, burn it down. Yeah. I'd say yes, and I'd bring you asked me, I'll, oh yeah, sure, because I'll figure it out. If you need my extra time, then I need to rearrange my whole life. I'll probably do it for you because I'm burn it down. I'm gonna leave mine as is, because well, that's because you're up. No, I don't want to. Exactly. So I don't think I'll say I don't want to. I'm not going to. Hey, that's new for me. It is? Yeah. Really? I spend a lot of time trying to make everybody happy and kiss everybody's ass. Now really? If I don't want to, I'm not going to. Yeah. Oh, that surprises me. I guess I've always, in the time that I've known you, thought that you pretty much were like, I don't give a fuck. I'm gonna do whatever I want. Fuck you. And then I overthink about it, and then I And then you give in and do it. Yeah. So you start with the I'm gonna do what I want to do, and then you end with the I'm gonna do whatever you told me to do. Basically, but not anymore. Not anymore. I'm very upset in the like, I'm gonna do what I want to do, I'm gonna take care of me, and I'm gonna take care of my four walls. And if it's outside of that, not my problem. Not my problem. Your expectations of yourself. This is burn it down. Me too, burn it down. I have definitely way too many, way too high of expectations for myself. I'm hard on myself. I don't believe in myself sometimes. So I'm gonna burn it down. Me too. We're gonna start over and rebuild it. Me too. I definitely am hard on myself. Like I said, if you came in and I was my confidence is shot, everything's shot. I gotta rebuild it. See, that's the thing. It's funny though. It's like I would say my expectation is really high, but my confidence is is high. But I just always don't, I don't ever want anybody to think that like I'm lazy. Like even as I'm getting older, now let's just be honest, your body starts to hurt. Like the shit is not like like when you know you when you're young and you see like somebody walk around be like, oh man, my back's killing me. And you're like, oh my god, they did that to themselves, or that's because they're lazy, or that's because whatever, right? You come up with a million reasons why that their back hurts and probably or they're just making it bigger than it is. That shit is for real. It actually hurts. You don't do a damn thing, you just hurt just because you're getting older. And then I worry that then somebody thinks I'm lazy when I'm like, no, like seriously, my body is like needs to lay down. I even told my husband yesterday, I'm like, okay, I sit on that chair next to you, and I'm like, I'm not joking, like it is killing my lower back. I can't even sit in that chair anymore. The way it like puts me in a position, I don't know, I don't like it. So I go to this other couch and I'm like, our furniture is it? We were at that point where you're like, it's okay, but you probably need to really get new furniture. But like you're in that, like, are we gonna what are we gonna do next? Like, am I gonna move? Maybe I should wait because then I'd want something different. Why buy something and you know what I mean? Like you're gonna move. Do you want to move? Well, at some point to like once my daughter graduates, I want to downsize. Yeah. So then I'm like, well, that I don't want maybe I'll need something completely different style than what I would here for this space. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. My husband thinks I'm stupid. He's like, if we need to get furniture, let's just go get it. But I'm kind of holding out because I'm just not for sure what I would want. But then I got on the couch, the other couch, and I'm like, okay, like I sit in this one way too much. Do you have an asshole? You can tell, like it's like leaning, it leans into the one corner in the back because I tend to really lean into that side. And it's so it leans some, and not that it's like horrible, but it's enough that it's hurting again. If I was younger, it would not hurt me. But I'm like, God dang it, my back is killing me. And I am not moving to a different seat because I don't like the other ones. I know I have uh one particular seat, and like I'm literally like having an ass. Like in it, and so I know I do not want to spend the money. Sheldon's ass is in this seat. Yeah, you know, and I just I don't want to spend the money, but I I'm the same way. I it's it's probably time, but it still looks good. And I've had this furniture for over 10 years. So the same year. I've had mine for like long enough, though, that you're at that point. You're like going, I mean, we have had It for quite a while. We haven't like totally abused it or anything, but it definitely needs it's it's seen better days, and so it needs to go. I don't know. I I need to have something I need to get something different because my back hurts.

SPEAKER_00 22:14

So when you get old, it really does, it really does hurt.

SPEAKER_01 22:17

Hurt, yes, yes. Okay, so being nice. Being nice, are you going to leave it as it is? Leave it as it is. I'm a freaking nice. I'm a nice person. Probably too nice. If anybody doesn't think I'm nice, fucking I'm really nice.

SPEAKER_00 22:37

The way you're saying this is kind of scaring me.

SPEAKER_01 22:41

I'd say leaving it as it is. I try to, we talked about the paying it forward and stuff like that. I try to do nice things for other people. I try to be conscious of other people. I try to compliment people even when I'm out and about and strangers and blah blah blah. With that being said, I'm and I do too, but I'm gonna rebuild it. I'm gonna try to be nicer. Well, you need to be nicer. Fuck all of you.

unknown 23:02

Rude.

SPEAKER_01 23:03

I think you could use a lot of work. Let's do a burn it down. I have no comment. You just finish out this episode all by yourself all by yourself. I quit. It's called a boundary. Fuck you. So true. So true. Nice versus kind versus honest. Let's debate it. Nice versus kind versus honest. I'm apparently fucking one of them. So I have nothing to say. No, okay, here. You might be kind. You're the one who calls people trees. You're you're a fucking tree, and I'm gonna ignore you, but I'm the one with issues. I think you're honest. I am honest. See? I'm nice about what I'm saying. I didn't think he was honest. I did rebuild it. This is me being nice. Honest. Giving you feedback. You need to burn it down. Where did nice get me? Nice didn't fucking get me anything. You weren't nice. Yes, I was. You were kind. No, I was. I was nice to these motherfuckers that I worked with for 15 years and poured my blood, sweat, and tears in them. Where did that get me? It got me shit on. So you know what? I'm not nice, and I'm not going to be nice. I'll say I'm, I mean, I'm nice. Fuck you. You're not nice. I don't, I don't like this episode. I quit. Whatever. Okay, next. Because we don't want to talk about if Kylie's nice or not. Let's go to the next one. Mom, guilt. Burn it down. Ceremonial fire. Do not feel guilty. I have so much guilt. Do you? Yeah. Yep. Yeah. I do. For not focusing on what was important. But you know what? I'm doing it now. I'm doing it now. That is what is important. Yeah. Honestly. It's not what we've done in our past. That might not be nice, but I am protective. Oh my god. Look at her being so nice. Acting bitchy today, boy. Ceremonial fire.

SPEAKER_00 25:29

I'm letting it go.

Guilt-Driven Yes And Self-Expectations

SPEAKER_01 25:30

I'm I'm letting it go. Okay. I wasn't who I wanted to be. I'm I'm building on it. I'm getting better. Fuck that mom guilt. Well, what are you feeling guilty about? Putting my career over them. Not being around. Like you should be. Like I should have been. Yeah, for sure. Yeah. Even if I was home or present, I wasn't home or present. I was on the phone. I was putting out fires. I was focused on everything else. Or I was sitting there thinking, fuck, what am I going to do? How can I whip Gina's ass? Yeah, I know. I would have loved to thought about that more, but it was more just like, you know, um winter snowstorms. Like I couldn't even enjoy the winter snowstorms because where are my employees at? How are we gonna go to work tomorrow? People are already calling or texting that they're not gonna make it in. I'm not gonna have a staff, but I'm gonna have the expectation of being open. Gotta keep everybody safe. How could you close your door? You know what I mean? It was just it was just expectations and meeting them and then worrying about work over family. Yes, basically at the end of the day is your guilt. Yep. So but I think it's all I think here, just like we talk about though, it's all about recognizing our mistakes and learning from them makes it not really a mistake, just makes it a learning adventure. Exactly. Okay, social media. Okay, I don't really want to quit. I mean, I would love to burn the motherfucker down and never have it. But I feel like I'd say rebuild. But the business that we're in, it needs to be rebuild. Yeah, I'd say rebuild. I want some boundaries for sure. Make sure I'm always like, you know, keep having some boundaries. No doom scrolling, comparison, comparisons, yeah, consumption versus creation. That that is huge. Yeah. I don't know though. Like I said, I mean, I think that when stuff starts to take me down a wrong rabbit hole, I just get off. That is when I get off it. I don't like to do that, so it doesn't bother me. Or we've talked about this previously. I am unfollowing. It's just for this podcast and for what we're doing, social media is a huge piece of that. But social media can be so ethn draining. Like it's toxic sometimes. It's it's like the news that never goes away, you know? Like some people have better like, oh god, I never watch the news because it's all negative. Like what's going wrong in the world? Um, and that's kind of how social media can feel. And especially with politics, like people are fighting, and it's like, if you don't, you can unfollow me if you don't believe in this, and finally I'm just I'm not unfollowing you because I'm on a different side. I'm unfollowing you because I'm sick of hearing your mouth. Yeah. Like, yep. It's just draining, draining, and it gets escalated into things that it shouldn't. And and to me, social media should just be something entertaining, fun. You know what I mean? That kind of thing. I don't know. I I think for me that I like um, I just like it if it's making me laugh. I will sometimes then sit on it for too long. Like if there's something you know what I mean that's costume scrolling that I really will stay on for too long. But the rest of it I I could I have no problem with. But I think to be honest with you, I wish I think I need to because you're confident and nice and perfect, asshole. Because I'm a nice person. But you know what I think a lot of times I also when I And I just think everything's great. I love social media. I'm bitter. I'm bitter. Okay, so I know the answer for this one from you. Overe-explaining yourself, burn it down. Burn it down. I used to be overexplaining, but also overthinking. Yeah. I would use two years before I would have told you burn it down, but nah, I'm I'm leaving. I'm good. I don't, I don't really feel the need to overexplain anymore. Plus, you know what I really learned, I think, when I was younger was the fact that, like, if I sat there and tried to justify and explain to you, the more you've tried to find holes in my story. You know what I mean? Not you personally, but you know what I mean? Like, I'd feel like they would be like, well, you know, she said this, but then you know what I mean? It was it's almost stirred more of a pot of gossip and BS than if you didn't say any of that shit, anyways, which is why I quit over-explaining. There you go. You know. So you're keeping it as is? I'm leaving it as it is. Your inner voice. Oh, I love my inner voice. I'm sure you sound nice. I'm burning it down because she's not, she's not nice. She's an asshole. We've established this. I'm a tree. My inner voice was better before we started this episode today. Sometimes, you know, have you ever told your kids, you know, maybe you should just sit and think about that now for a while? Yeah, no, I'm going to. Thank you so much. Rather not, but I'm going to. Hey, but now you know I'm trustworthy. I just told you the truth.

SPEAKER_00 30:46

Oh, Lord, have mercy.

SPEAKER_01 30:48

All right. Well, this has been fun. This has been fun. Rebuilding isn't about fixing everything, it's about deciding what still deserves your energy and what absolutely does not. We want to know what you would burn down. Let us know. Join us over on Facebook, the Anxiety Ridden Moms Club, the Village, where we talk about all of these things. You're allowed to rebuild loudly. Thanks for spending time with us. Take what you need, leave what you don't, and be gentle with yourself. And if you want to stay connected, follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok at the ARMC. And remember, you're not broken, you're becoming. We'll see you next time!