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If You Keep Dodging Discomfort, Anxiety Keeps Winning
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Pain sets me free. When we first heard that line, we had the same reaction most anxious moms would have: absolutely not. We’re built to avoid discomfort, keep the peace, and push through, especially when we’re exhausted, overstimulated, and trying to hold everything together. But that avoidance has a price. It quietly trains our brain to fear more, not less, and it can shrink our world down to the safest possible version of life.
We break down the “reversal of desire” idea from Shrinking on Apple TV and translate it into real-life anxiety tools for motherhood: how avoiding the hard conversation, the boundary, the budgeting, the gym, or the honest truth keeps anxiety in charge. We connect it to exposure therapy in a way that actually makes sense, including how small reps help kids (and us) build confidence, and why “eat the frog” can be a game changer for procrastination and overthinking. You’ll also hear a painfully funny story about presentation anxiety, why waiting makes fear louder, and what we wish we’d done instead.
We end with simple, actionable steps to tell the difference between dangerous and uncomfortable, choose healthy discomfort on purpose, and model resilience for our kids without pretending we’re never scared. If you’ve been playing small to stay safe, this conversation is your permission slip to expand again. Subscribe, share with a mom friend, and leave a review, then tell us what discomfort you’re choosing this week.
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The Line That Sparked It
SPEAKER_02Here, we talk about the messy stuff, the thoughts we don't say out loud, the pressure to do it all, and the journey back to ourselves. Progress over perfection always. Let's go. Okay, so we're watching shrinking on Apple TV. And Paul drops this line: Pain sets me free. And I was like, excuse me, sir. What do you mean pain sets you free? I actively avoid pain. I think we should all actively avoid pain.
SPEAKER_03Right. My whole personality is built around avoiding discomfort. Until the year 2023. Until 2026. And now I embrace it. I've actually probably been embracing it a little longer, actually, but I've decided I need to keep on my trend of becoming more uncomfortable because who doesn't like to be comfortable?
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02I was gonna say same, but I'm not the same. I don't like being uncomfortable. It's uncomfortable being uncomfortable. But it's necessary.
SPEAKER_00It's necessary.
SPEAKER_02Is it?
SPEAKER_00It is.
SPEAKER_02So in shrinking.
SPEAKER_03If you haven't watched it, watch it. You have to watch it seriously. Like honestly God, like this is one of those shows that you tell me to watch. And I was like, yeah, okay, but I was watching found, right? So I was like, okay, um, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll get to it. And we started watching it, and it is seriously like one of our favorites for me and Tom. He was like, This is such you just fall in love with every single character, every single one of them. I just love them. And it makes you laugh, it makes you cry, it makes you just warm inside. It's like such a good show. Everybody has to watch it. If you don't watch it, get on it. It's a little unhinged. It's so good. It's so good.
Reversal Of Desire Explained
SPEAKER_02Ugh, I just love it. So anyway, in shrinking. Paul talks about this tool called the reversal of desire. Instead of avoiding pain, you lean into it. You say, Bring it.
SPEAKER_03Which sounds unhinged, but also kind of powerful. Um our brains are wired to avoid discomfort. Obviously. Avoiding creates anxiety. Anxiety makes our world smaller. We start living in what they call a shrunken life. A shrunken life.
SPEAKER_02Avoiding the hard conversation, avoiding setting boundaries, avoiding the gym, avoiding checking your bank account. Yeah, I like to avoid that one. Avoiding starting the thing.
SPEAKER_03Avoiding saying how you actually feel. That's a hard one for me. I same. I can't put it into words how I feel. No. I can't either. I can't either. Or yeah, I don't know. Or especially if I know that I don't want to tell you how I feel. I do, but I don't, you know what I mean? Like I do in my head, but I don't want to say it out loud because I'm too concerned about how that'll come across or what people might think.
SPEAKER_02Or we've established that I'm the unhinged emotional one here. What? Probably in every relationship that I have. I feel all of the things, but I can't articulate all of those things. Like Brad genuinely cares like how I feel. And he wants me to be able to genuinely explain to him how I'm feeling. So sometimes he can help or make it better. But I really struggle with articulating how I'm feeling. Like I feel all of it all at the same time, all of the time. You know what I mean? But like actually turning that into words or a productive conversation are really freaking hard for me.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. I think feelings are hard to explain. Honestly. Um I was gonna look.
SPEAKER_02And I think for moms, avoiding pain looks like staying quiet so no one gets mad, avoiding again, avoiding that discomfort, right? Overfunctioning so no one is disappointed, pretending we're fine when in reality we're we're fucking drowning, or not pursuing something because we're scared to fail. You know, Gary Vee says, like, if you're something like if you're not failing, then you're you're not trying. Like any successful person has failed over and over and over and over again. And then you get to the cliche, like, it's not about how many times you fail, it's about how many times you stand back, gets whatever the spa. Yep.
Why Pain Can Fuel Growth
SPEAKER_03Yeah. Yep. Well, I think that's why that people even stay in situations that are comfortable, um, but that fulfilling. You know what I mean? It's like uh it's a lot easier to um avoidance is like it feels safe. You just feel safer by staying in that situation. Um but it slowly suffocates you for sure. You know the one thing is that that I when I actually thought about like when um this was all said, which actually I'm going to look at this. Um so that you guys know in shrinking season two, it was in episode two that Paul that Paul teaches the reversal of desire. So pain sets me free means actively embracing discomfort rather than avoiding it. It teaches that confronting rather than running from pain breaks the fear avoidance cycle, allowing you to move forward and stop living in a restricted, shrunken world. So the um when he actually was talking about this, the biggest reason why I even like kind of said something to you about this particular episode and this particular statement was it made me think about when I was um growing up, and I feel like even to this day, my dad will say it, but my dad would always say, you know, uh pain makes you feel that you're alive. Pain is good. You know, you should always, you know, take brain pain as like a like a positive thing. Younger me said, What? Like that doesn't make any sense to me. Who in the hell wants pain? Nobody wants pain. That doesn't feel good. And there's nothing positive or anything about that. Pain sucks. Yeah. And uh and pain can cause misery and pain can cause you to be uncomfortable and pain. There's just so many bad things when you think about pain. But my dad did always tell me, he was like, No, it's what makes you feel alive. So I realized as time goes on through years and growing and learning and being involved in situations, I've grown the most and become a better version of me through probably my most painful moments.
SPEAKER_02So, how do we embrace them? How do we hit them head on? How do you run towards something that makes you feel uncomfortable?
SPEAKER_03Well, okay, here's an analogy I thought I think it's kind of interesting. I this is one thing I envy about my husband. If somebody came in to attack, let's say somebody came in your house or somebody came up to you out in the street and they were coming at you, like all of a sudden you're staying there. Next thing you know, they're gonna lunge at you. What's your first reaction? Run. Right. My husband says to run at that person. Like seriously, like he would. I mean, if somebody lunging, he's lunging right back. He and he's always telling me, he's like, I don't care. He's like, if somebody had a gun, I'm rather gonna, I'm at least, if you're gonna kill me, I'm at least gonna get killed head on. Like to him, he's like, you go at it. And I'm always like, God, I wish I was like, man, I wish I was like that. Cause I'm like, oh, I go backwards. Somebody lunges at me, I'm lunging backwards. If somebody even comes up to me and like they get too close in general, I take a step back. Like, I I got personal space here, people like I I'm not a invade the space even kind of a person. So my natural reaction is always to move back. Where his is to always go head on at it. And I always think to myself, man, how do I I want to get, I want to do that even in a physical sense. But if somebody was really threatening me in a negative manner, I think you do better. The people who are more apt to say, oh, hell no, and they go at it, do better, even if you're fighting somebody because they're gonna they will fight to the death. You know what I mean? All the people who survive bad situations, because they went at that person and they survived through it, right? They had a chance, at least. I don't know about the gun situation. Well, no, but I mean a lot of the other situations, people come at you. You know what I mean? Yeah, you can win. For sure. If you even watch movies, you know, there's a guy with a gun and all of a sudden they're fighting and the gun show goes off and it's often to the to the left instead of it, your face, you know, right? You're you have a chance, right? So I guess it made me even think about that too, where I was just like, you know, pain in general, we should run at it because you have a chance to turn the pain around, to not have it be such a negative situation. Does that make sense? I feel like a lot of times we get on here and I'm always asking you, does that make sense? I don't it does. Or do you understand me? We did just have an episode about, you know, being misunderstood.
SPEAKER_02Um, I mean, yeah, no, it makes sense. It does. I'm still hesitant. I'm hesitant to run towards pain.
SPEAKER_03But have you ever had something in your life that was hard or painful and you and it not that it made you a better person, but that it made you like think about something different and maybe make a even if it's a small change, a change in your life. Maybe it made you appreciate something more. Maybe it made you start a new tradition in your family. Maybe it started, I don't know, you just did something different because that happened.
SPEAKER_00You ever had any of that? Well, I'm sure. I'm sure it happens all the time. Right? Well, yeah, but sometimes you have to be conscious of it.
Exposure Beats Avoidance Over Time
SPEAKER_03Okay, here's the thing. Here's I like to avoid. I like to avoid and not feel it. That's just the And you know, okay, so here's something with anxiety. If you take somebody that's got anxiety, like um, like we've we've talked in the past, even about my daughter. When she's had any anxiety and it was like she didn't want to go order food, if I were to say, don't ever order it, she's never gonna go over the anxiety of ordering food. But if I go ahead and say, Okay, today you're gonna order at least your drink, I'll order your meal, she starts coping with the reality of, oh, ordering a drink was no big deal. Oh, I threw in a burger to go with that, and it's not a big deal. You know what I mean? So, like eventually you get over the anxiety. But if I never ever let her go at that uncomfortable situation, as stupid as this sounds, like to me, I really in my mind didn't make sense. But obviously I know that there's people out there that struggle just to communicate and talking about, hey, could I get a burger and fries? Right. You know what I mean? But it's if I would have just kept telling her she can avoid it, or if you go into a building and that building makes you anxious and it's just being in that building, if you say, Then I'll never go back, then you'll never get over it and you'll never be able to enter that building. So you have to go at pain. You have to go at discomfort, or your anxiety actually gets worse.
SPEAKER_02Okay. So I hear my my boss in my head, he just said to me one of my bosses, he said, Have you ever heard the saying eat the frog?
SPEAKER_03Have you ever heard the saying eat the frog? No, I've heard something about a frog before, but I don't think I heard eat it. So yeah, what gone?
SPEAKER_02Eat the frog. Okay. Eat the frog means do the hardest. Mo I can't talk. Eat the frog means do the hardest, most important task first. First. First thing in your day. The phrase comes from the quote often attributed to Mark Twain. If it's your job to eat the frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. The frog, the task you're avoiding, the uncomfortable one, the one that makes you procrastinate. Your frog is usually the scary email, the hard conversation, the workout, the budgeting. And when you avoid it, the anxiety builds, everything feels heavier, you waste energy thinking about it. When you do it first, you get relief, momentum, confidence spike. The rest of your day feels easier. I think it kind of goes hand in hand. Like do the uncomfortable, do the hard, yes, kind of get it out of the way, which I am the worst at. And I, you know, talking even like procrastin procrastinating. I will procrastinate and procrastinate and procrastinate and think and overthink a situation that could potentially take 10 minutes to get done. But no, I'd rather think about it and overthink about it for a hundred years instead of just getting it done. So I think those two things kind of go hand in hand. Like pain sets you free. Yep. Eat the frog.
SPEAKER_03Okay. So like I think about it makes me think about two. Um, you know, when we you'd have to present in front of peers or anything or whatever. Like you go to work and they're like, put together a presentation and you're gonna get up and stand in front of everybody, do it. So um, I always would be the person to say, Yeah, I'm not going up the first, or second or third. Like, maybe throw me in the middle of the pack to like three fourths in. Like I like to go later down the road. And um, I worked with somebody that would always, he'd always tell me, Nope, we're going first. I'm like, Are you out of your freaking mind? We're not going first. Oh no, we're doing this first. Trust me, we're gonna do it first. Because then the rest of the time that we sit here, we are over it. We don't have to think about it anymore. We're relaxed. The whole meeting is so much easier. I'd be like, this guy has lost his damn mind. But okay. So we got up there first and I was like, this sucks. This toy sucks. We're the first ones doing this. And literally, he was so right. After we did it, I was like, God bless, this is so much better. The whole meeting was a better meeting for us because the rest of the time, everybody else had to go up. You got to make fun of everybody. I got to sit around and like go, look at them, you know, or whatever. But I I also used or I zone out if I wanted to, because it wasn't like the presentations were for us, you know what I mean? So it was like, but it made it to where I didn't sit around stressing for two and three and four different people's things. So it's true. It's like if you go get it done, whatever that may be, like that says, first in the morning or first in line for presentation, you do get rid of a lot of your anxiety and make it more comfortable.
The Pot Gummy Presentation Story
SPEAKER_02Yeah, like if I go, and I will say, like, if it is, if it is a not optional task, like I have to do it, period. End of story. I am 1000% on board, like, do it first, get it over with. Because I honest to God, if I go last, I honest, honestly could not recall uh one other fucking thing that was said from point A until my turn. Like it would, it consumes me. So I'm totally on board with going first if it's something that I absolutely cannot avoid. If I can avoid it, I will absolutely avoid it and not do it at all for three weeks. But if it is a task that I have to do or like a presentation like that, I will 1000% go first because I won't. Yeah, because then after that, you're like, Whew, it's over with. Yeah. One time at our old, old job, remember we used to have these leadership meetings where hundreds of us would go to Florida and I was so paralyzed in fear. And everybody was like, I got picked to do the presentation because yeah, we've already established that I'm the the one that never shut up, the loud, obnoxious one that fought for what I wanted. So, like, they're like, Oh, it'll be easy for you. But like internally, I was dying. And so I asked someone, um, was like, I'll give you a Xanax. And I was like, okay. And then we get to the meeting and they're like, I don't have a Xanax, but I have a pot gummy. Do you want it? And I was like, Will it calm me down? And they're like, Yeah. Well, when she handed it to me, I thought she said, I just gave you half. What she said was, just take half. And so, like halfway through the meeting, like through the presentations, whatever before my turn, I was sitting at the table and I was like, I was so fucking high. And I literally went to the bathroom and looked in the mirror, like hands on the hands on the sink, like, oh my God. And was like trying to say the ABC because I didn't know if like words would actually come out of my mouth.
SPEAKER_00Yeah.
SPEAKER_02And so I got up on stage in front of 500 people. It was, it's all recorded. There is a video of this somewhere. I remember my VP was like on the edge of a seat, like, I don't know what is gonna come, like what is wrong with her. I like pounded a I had cotton mouth, like a mofo, pounded like a bottle of water on stage. Everybody says it was a great presentation, and they couldn't tell that I was on a fucking different universe because I was so high. Um but yeah, I had to, I had to, what I I wanted a Xanax, and then I ended up taking just just like present. Like it would, like my anxiety can debilitate me at times. Yeah. Um we powered through. Everybody said it was great. I said that the equipment we were delivering was a piece of shit in front of all of the C-suites. There are some things that I shouldn't have said that I said. Um, but it's crazy because anxiety is just it can and like leading up, like I it's one of those instances. I wish I could have went first because I wouldn't have had to take a pot gummy and it probably would have went a hell of a lot smoother. But yeah, no, I mean I don't know.
SPEAKER_03I think avoiding definitely makes it harder, or just like those situations when you not don't get to just okay, let's buy turn, let's just go do it. You are waiting into the day to do it. It just can become overwhelming.
SPEAKER_02Overwhelming. And then you turn to substances to help, and then next thing you know, you're high as fuck on in front of 500 people. Right.
SPEAKER_03Not my proudest moment. Right. Exactly. And see, that's the thing is though, but if you look back, you learn something from it. Don't use substances to go to be in front of a group of people. That would be everyone's lesson out here for today.
SPEAKER_02Oh my God, it was awful. It was awful. And I was mortified for a very long time. But yeah, no, I never want to watch that video. I'm sure it's out there somewhere. I don't, I don't want to talk about it. Or I didn't want to talk about it at the time. Now I can laugh at it because fucking hilarious. But no, it was it was awful. But yes, we gotta run, we've got to run towards the pain. We can't let anxiety whist.
SPEAKER_03Yes. And that's hard. It is hard. And I think that it's always the first instinct is to run away from things.
SPEAKER_02But we're gonna start one, we're gonna go, we're gonna start lunging towards it, but we're gonna be sober when we do it. Yes.
Teaching Kids To Face Hard Stuff
SPEAKER_03Yes. And we're gonna look at it as it's we're gonna gain so much more out of it ultimately. Being uncomfortable, you learn a lot about yourself. How do we force our kids out of that comfort zone and to be uncomfortable? I think that just comes with encouragement, being with them and showing you yourself doing it. I think a lot of things that our kids learn from us is watching us do things. So if you're gotta teach our kids to eat the frog. Yes. So I think sometimes you can tell, share with them, like, oh my God, even like a presentation. I have a presentation to do. I'm a nervous wreck. Like, oh my God, I gotta do this. You know what I mean? And then say, I'm gonna go in there, I'm gonna go do it first. And you may think it's crazy, but this is why I do an explain. You know what I mean? And then after you're done, say, Oh, guess what? The meeting went great. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like you share those positives. Or I'm gonna go into the store that gives me anxiety. You know what I mean? Like I just think that there's, I think we have to show our kids us doing it. I think if we show our kids that we're anxious and we are debilitated, what do you think that they're gonna do? They'll become anxious and debilitated. But if we show them that, hey, I'll do it, watch me do it, I can do it. Now, sometimes people can say, I think there's times where, you know, because I have through the years been where I'm just, I'm just doing it. Like, I mean, it is what it is. I can sit here and stress over it and act crazy or whatever, but I'm just doing it, whatever. And some people will be like, well, that's just because that's just you. Well, no, I mean, realistically, I'm have a lot of the same exact feelings everybody else has had. I just started working on them. And that is truly the difference it's working on them. It's just like when they type go to therapy. Lots of people go to therapy, but do you do what the therapist tells you to do? Probably not. Hence the reason a lot of people.
SPEAKER_02Well, and a lot of people shy away from therapy because they don't want to do the they don't want to want to do hard work because it is hard work and it's uncomfortable.
SPEAKER_03And who in the hell, who the hell really wants to be uncomfortable?
SPEAKER_02I mean, yeah, to sign up to be uncomfortable, let alone to fucking pay to be uncomfortable.
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SPEAKER_02That's a whole other beast. Let me pay you$200 to sit here and fucking cry for an hour. This is great. Yes. This is so much fun. Exactly. But you do, you have to get down to the root cause. You have to figure out what's, you know, what's bothering you.
SPEAKER_03And a lot of people, if you ask, what makes you anxious? They don't really even know. You really have to start learning about yourself. And the only way to truly learn about yourself is to get into some uncomfortable situations and say, oh, light bulb moment when I'm in the, you know, people who have the problem with the rooms. If I'm not facing a door, it makes me anxious. If I face the door, I don't have a problem. If, you know, there's all sorts of things of examples that people have. You know, if you, if I talk to this person and I'm asking them these questions, it, you know, makes me uncomfortable. If I, you know what I'm saying? Like that is how you learn. You don't learn by sitting at home and not trying other things and so that you can help yourself. Because you have to ultimately, nobody else can take you out of your anxiety, but you. You 100% are the one to do it. Just like if we have kids that are anxious, they themselves have to do the work to get it to make it happen. For me, just because parents can extremely can be extremely helpful in showing them how to do it, doing it with them, you know what I mean? Encouraging them, letting them know that life's no different today or tomorrow. If something went wrong or somebody made fun of you or you did something and somebody thought you looked stupid, like who cares? Like, all it doesn't matter. So it's it's all about showing them, being a part of their life and showing up every day and teaching the lesson.
SPEAKER_00Run at that pain. Pain is good.
SPEAKER_03Pain makes you know you're alive. That's for my dad. Pain makes you know that you're alive. Although I have a lot of pains right now. So this is also for my dad. My shoulders hurt, my back hurts. I'm old. But it's a good thing. But it's great.
SPEAKER_01I'm out alive.
SPEAKER_03Yeah. Yeah. It's great. But yeah, I think it I think this is something that everybody can work on. We can all get better, just like I think that I think that when I watched this episode, it definitely resonated with me about growth um and about just some of the things that we need or can do.
Gym Avoidance And Real Life Excuses
SPEAKER_00Um just to make our lives better. Make our kids' lives better. Run at that pain.
SPEAKER_03So tell us what's something that you shy away from that you don't do. That you kinda wish you would do, but you don't.
SPEAKER_00Anything. I know I'm putting you on the spot, so there I mean. What do you avoid? Working out. I've been avoiding that too. Meal planning.
SPEAKER_03I haven't been avoiding. I've been doing pretty good about my meal plans. Me too. I mean, and I I will say this, I'm getting much better. I can't tell you I'm perfect, but I'm definitely much, much better.
SPEAKER_02Yeah, I mean, I'm lazy. Obviously, you know, trying to be on a health journey and I'm definitely consciously trying to make better decisions and live a healthier life. But it's it's hard. It's hard. Yep. Trying to run, embrace the pain, embrace the struggle.
SPEAKER_03Um it's uncomfortable. Well, I can say even like for me going to the gym lately, I'm just like, my husband tells me, Are you going with me tonight? Nope. You going with me tonight? Tell me when the ask I said I told him, tell me ask me when the weather warms up. So then one day it was a nice day. I think even yesterday he asked again, Well, it's nice outside. Weather's good. Yeah, nah, still not gonna go. And I'm like, I have got to go. Like, I can honestly tell you, even in aging, you gotta go to the gym. And I've been so bad about it through the holidays, just took it away. I got sick. No, well, no, I shouldn't say I didn't get sick, but my whole family was getting sick during the holidays. It was just kind of a whirlwind, and I just kind of wasn't even the best during the summer. Um, wasn't being consistent. And then we came to the winter, and then now here we are, and I'm still I haven't, and I've just decided to like, you know, once it got cold, really cold, I'm like, oh, that's been my excuse this whole time. I need to go. I probably wouldn't have such pains in my shoulders. If you ran towards the pain in the room. If I ran through and it's true, like I had I'll get hip pain and stuff like that. And if I go to the gym, it goes away. After like about a week or two of me working out, the pain goes away. So I know better than to do what I'm doing. I want to buy a tonal.
SPEAKER_02I don't think I will ever You want to buy a what? A it's like a tonal, I think is what it's called. Like a T-O-N-A-L. I don't, it's like a virtual gym. It's like a mirror that you hang on the wall.
SPEAKER_03Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I've seen those. I know what you're talking about. Yeah. Some are kind of cool. Just I think because some fake person, don't they sit and try to encourage you?
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SPEAKER_02I need someone to cheer me along along the way. Hey, I wish that we could.
SPEAKER_03We need to have an anxiety room mom's club one. And I'll sit there and tell everybody, get it, go, shirt. You are cool. You are amazing. Keep it going. I see that sweat coming down your head. That looks great.
SPEAKER_02I literally just saw TikTok and made me laugh. It's like, heads up, tits up, let's do this. Oh, yes. I would love it.
SPEAKER_03Everybody needs encouragement. Everyone needs everybody does. Exactly. Even the people who regularly go to the gym like they're supposed to still need encouragement. Prep their food perfectly, still need encouragement. Everything we all need encouragement. It doesn't matter who you are. I think I'm just lazy. I can tell you that's my been my problem over the last.
SPEAKER_02I will say, as far as like eating better, having a plan, prepping the plan, going to the grocery store, all very important steps. I just don't want to. I just want to sit on the couch and watch shrinking.
SPEAKER_03Well, that's my problem too. And then I want somebody else to cook all my food. I used to like really enjoy cooking when I had all the kids at home. And I still can tell you that depending on what's going on, I do enjoy it. Like if we're having a get together, people are coming over, especially when the kids come over. I'm all about cooking. I I like to do it because they enjoy it and it's great. But on my day-to-day, I've gotten really lazy and I don't wanna. I don't want I'm like, that's just time I could be, like you said, watching shrinking. I could be sick. Or like now I'm watching Night Agent, and it's really good. So like I seriously would rather sit down and watch that. Told you. Night Agent is good.
SPEAKER_02I just saw though, it was like, I'm not even gonna say numbers. I'm not even gonna say numbers, but it is, it is every season of Night Agent has drastically lost people. Wow. So it will probably be canceled soon. Yeah.
SPEAKER_03I I'll although I will tell you, so I'm in season two. The first season was so good, and the second season, I just started um and I'm kind of like the way they've started it, I'm like going, okay, and here's the only thing I think is dumb. A random chick is not finding you instead of the secret service. She's not finding you faster and better. She's very smart, Rose is very smart. Okay, she's smart. I understand that. I understand she's smart, but you're gonna tell me in them in six weeks they can't even have a clue where he's at. But yeah, she Rose finds him in five minutes, but where is she's like just everything's too perfect? That's probably what is gonna ruin it, I guess, in the end. But right now, I don't care. I to be honest with you, I'd still tell anybody watch a show, it's really good.
SPEAKER_02It is really good. Season one, fire. Season two, not so much. Season three, fire. I loved season three. Um it will never be as good as season one, but season they nailed it. Season three. Rose is not in this season. So a lot of people are like, it's probably because Rose isn't there. But I agree. I agree. The second season was meh.
SPEAKER_03It was just neat. It's it's just star, I mean, we were only a couple, I don't know, only a couple episodes in, but I'm already like kind of going uh right away, Tom says. Um, so I guess Rose just can, you know, find out the drama I had. I'm like, wow, Rose is pretty impressive.
SPEAKER_02Anyways, I'm trying to so when the new season was coming out, I went back and watched. So sometimes I get them all mixed up in my head. But yeah, no, season three is good. Okay. Season three is good, but I'll have to watch. Yeah. But yes, that that's what I'd rather be doing. Do you all kinds of shit then watch? Yes, because there's a lot of people. We're trying to promote eating the frog, running towards pain, and going to the gym, but we just keep giving you good shows to watch. And a reason to sit on the gouch. Shrinking is short. So shrinking out their episodes are like 30, 30, 35 minutes. Yes. And so you can watch an episode and then that's what I think what I like about that one.
Practical Steps To Choose Discomfort
SPEAKER_03Yes. Because I feel like you can you can get your butt up, have your dinner, you know, go to the gym, do all the things, and still feel like, oh, I got 35 minutes to just put a show in and then I'll go to bed. Yeah. I think it's a perfect one for especially for that during the week. I save the other ones for weekends. But okay, back to what we're really supposed to talk about. Yes. Um I don't see, I don't want to talk about pain.
SPEAKER_02I don't want to. I don't want to.
SPEAKER_03But I but you know what though, here's the thing. Uh even as we talk about this stuff, it's kind of like I I know I'm supposed to continue to get better. One, so I can probably give tips, tricks, and everything else to help anybody or give encouragement in any way I can. And so if I'm doing things, it kind of makes it a little easier to do that. Um, just like I made a taco bowl the other day, very proportioned size, very healthy with my turk ground turkey and everything. My husband loved it. We actually had it the next night too. Um, I gotta get back to finding my what I need to be having, but with good flavor, good taste, and all that kind of stuff, so I can get my butt to the gym because I'm hurting too much. And so I need to to do those things. And I have been avoiding, which is not good.
SPEAKER_02So how do we how do we stop? I feel like we need to give, I think we need to give some actionable items here to help run towards the pain, to feel uncomfortable. Like maybe when you feel resistance, pause. Is this dangerous or is it uncomfortable? Because you don't want to do anything dangerous like going to the gym. But then you gotta make the conscious decision. If it's just uncomfortable, then you've got to make the conscious decision to choose the discomfort.
SPEAKER_03Choose the discomfort for sure. Sure. I think you need to uh move toward it immediately. Send that text, have a talk, start the workout, post a video, apply for the thing. Posting a video is something that actually I'm okay. Here's the thing. Like this, we're talking about being uncomfortable and running towards the pain. Kylie always is trying to get me to get on camera somehow or another. And I can tell you guys, it's like it's not my thing. I feel so awkward. So I'm working on that. So that's my uncomfortable, my uncomfortable thing I'm gonna do.
SPEAKER_02I don't think I'll ever love pain. I don't think I'll ever love pain, but I think it's more about not letting the anxiety and the fear run our lives. Yes. I really do. I think that's what it comes down to. You don't have to love pain, but don't let it, don't let the anxious run your life.
SPEAKER_00I agree. Totally agree.
SPEAKER_02It's about healthy discomfort, growth discomfort, alignment discomfort. It's a big difference. So maybe pain doesn't set you free because it feels good. Maybe it sets you free because it breaks the cycle. Maybe the thing you're avoiding is the exact thing that would expand your life.
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