Easter Reset For Anxious Moms Who Carry Too Much

Easter hits different when you’re an anxious mom who’s been carrying everything. We found ourselves thinking less about what needs to “rise” and more about what we’re finally ready to stop dragging into the next season: guilt, pressure, old survival mode habits, and the version of us that keeps the peace by staying quiet.

We talk about the lie that overwhelm equals worth, and why rest is not laziness. From “couch rot” to real recovery, we unpack what burnout looks like in motherhood and how anxiety gets louder when your body never comes down. Then we go straight into relationships: resentment, silent scorekeeping, and why communication has to happen before you’re already boiling. We also share small, realistic tools like taking a short walk together to create space for calmer words.

Boundaries come up in a big way, especially the need to stop overexplaining ourselves. If someone doesn’t get it, they don’t get it, and that doesn’t make your boundary wrong. We also dig into confidence and body image, including the reminder that life doesn’t start when you’re “fixed.” Social media makes it easy to believe everyone else has the perfect holiday photo and the perfect life, but we call that out and choose peace instead.

We even pivot into the weird, real fears of modern tech: kids growing up on screens, AI deepfakes, and how trust can feel harder when faces and voices can be faked. If you feel buried right now, you’re not done. Sometimes you’re planted. Subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review, then tell us: what are you not taking into your next season?

Transcript

Welcome And Progress Over Perfection

SPEAKER_00 0:01

You're listening to the Anxiety Ridden Moms Club, the podcast for moms who love their kids deeply and still feel anxious, exhausted, and overstimulated.

Easter As Release And Letting Go

SPEAKER_01 0:10

Here, we talk about the messy stuff, the thoughts we don't say out loud, the pressure to do it all, and the journey back to ourselves. Progress over perfection always. Let's go. Easter is about resurrection, about Jesus coming back to life. But this year, I've been thinking less about what's rising and more about what needs to stay buried.

SPEAKER_00 0:37

Because resurrection isn't just about revival, it's about release. And I don't think we talk enough about that part.

SPEAKER_01 0:43

We don't. We talk about becoming better, stronger, healthier, but we don't always talk about what we're finally ready to stop carrying.

SPEAKER_00 0:50

And as moms, we carry everything guilt, pressure, expectations, old versions of ourselves. So today we're talking about what we're not taking into this next season.

Survival Mode And Losing Your Voice

SPEAKER_01 1:02

Let's do it. You know, there was a version of me that operated completely in survival mode. If I wasn't overwhelmed, I thought I wasn't doing enough. If I wasn't stressed, I I felt lazy, you know? I don't know. There life is hard, right? Yeah. Work stress, life stress, relationship stress, money stress, stress, health stress, every stress, stress, stress, stress.

SPEAKER_00 1:29

There is a version of me that kept the peace at all costs, even if it cost me my voice, which that is a huge problem for me because I will avoid the hard conversations. I stuff my feelings.

SPEAKER_01 1:40

No, we're not doing that anymore, remember? Last week we talked about running into the pain. Right. And opening our mouth. So we're not gonna avoid the hard conversations anymore. You don't always have to be the strong one, Gina. I know, but it's hard.

SPEAKER_00 1:54

I always feel like I'm probably overfunctioning, but you know, it is what it is.

SPEAKER_01 1:58

Yeah. Some versions of us were necessary, but they weren't meant for survival seasons, not growth seasons. I'm not taking guilt for resting. Rest doesn't equal laziness. Healing requires recovery. You don't have to earn exhaustion. It's okay to couch rot every now and again. It's okay to relax. It's okay to get that massage. You know, I haven't gotten a massage in so long. I also have not gotten a pedicure, and I really need a pedicure. But I'm struggling lately finding time for myself.

Rest Without Guilt Or Resentment

SPEAKER_00 2:31

Yeah. I think it's always a struggle, especially as a mom. I think you just really struggle to have your own time. For sure. No stress, time to relax, take care of you.

SPEAKER_01 2:41

Okay, for me, I'm not taking resentment into my relationship. No more silent score keeping, keeping track of who did what. I'm choosing communication. Wait, you're really not gonna do that?

SPEAKER_00 2:51

I I'm wait, you really? Wait, okay. Did everyone hear this? Um is this thing on? Working on it. Okay. The silent scorekeeping is hard. It's extremely hard. Why do I do that? And who did what? I took took out the trash and I did the dishwasher. And you took out. I do think that that is I think that is very hard. But I think it's necessary. To be honest, I think it's very necessary. I think that um I can tell you that like uh early on in the relationship with Tom and I for sure. I mean, there was definitely tit for tat, you know what I mean, who did this and who did that, and who's doing more and who's doing less and who's sleeping too much and who's not sleeping enough and who's this, it was everything. It's hard to not do the scorekeeping or who did what. And having that communication where you sit down when you're not mad about it all and discuss it.

SPEAKER_01 3:49

Yeah, we've talked about this before. I have a really hard time articulating my feelings. I have a really hard time putting them into words, calm words, not screaming words.

SPEAKER_00 3:58

Well, and I know the weather hasn't been good, so I'm sure you have not been doing your walks. Remember walks. I need to be doing those 15, at least a 15-minute walk with your man so you can have some chat time and both get a little bit of walking in, and fresh air always feels good. So this weather changing, I think it's a great time. Unfortunately, I think this whole next week is supposed to like, you know, be on and off. Probably good weather, probably for the next couple months, let's be honest. I love spring. I do and I don't. Spring brings rain and rain's just annoying. April showers bring May May flowers. And then May flowers bring allergies. Who's negative Nancy today? Hey, just 10 out of 10 how it is. But seriously, the scorekeeping is hard. It's very hard and it takes a lot of communication for sure.

Boundaries Without Over-Explaining

SPEAKER_01 4:49

And I'm not taking the next thing I'm not taking into this next season. Oh, here we go. Over explaining my boundaries, overexplaining myself, period. If you think I'm a bitch, I don't care. I'm unbothered. It's not up for public vote. No, but for real, I'm not taking over-explaining my boundaries. I'm not trying to convince people to understand me. If you don't, you don't. And that's okay. And I'm okay if I'm not for everyone. But I'm done trying to prove that I'm a good mom, prove that I'm a good girlfriend, prove that I'm capable, prove that I belong in rooms that I earned, you know? Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 5:29

That's part about being uncomfortable this year. Yeah. Because you may enter a room that you don't think that you're, you know, I don't know, belong in a way. And we're gonna make sure we belong. Own that shit. Right. We're gonna walk in like, you know, you know who this bitch is that just walked in. Me. It's me, motherfuckers. It's me. Hello, I'm here. You know, hey, I like that. When you go into something that's uncomfortable, you have to remember, hello, I'm here. You know what? With some passion.

SPEAKER_01 5:55

Yeah. I'm gonna pull something up really passion. Somebody that I follow on social media that I adore. She makes me so happy. Her handle or her profile name is Applesauce and ADHD. Okay. And so a couple weeks ago, she posted a picture of herself. And I get so jealous of Jess because she she wears whatever she wants, whatever makes her feel good.

SPEAKER_00 6:22

Let me see the picture because I think I I know you've sent me something of her, so I know I know who she okay. I know who she's okay. Yes. Yes. She is all about who she is. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 6:30

Yes. And so a couple weeks ago she posted, Yep, still fat. Glad we got that out of the way. In case you didn't know, you don't have to wait until you're not fat to live your life. You can do the things you want to do as you are right now. You can fly across the country, you can take vacations, you can go to the beach, you can fall in love, you can chase your wildest dreams, all while fat. I know this because I have done it. And yep, still fat. If I waited to be thin to do all of the things I have done, I would still be waiting, probably forever, if I'm being honest. But life doesn't begin when you're thin. Life is happening right now, and you deserve to live, and you deserve to live it on your terms wherever you are in your journey. And truth. I am so envious of her and her confidence and her just she is who she is, and you like her or you don't, and a lot of people do because she's been, you know, on the New York Times bestseller for her her cookbook. And she's just unapologetically hers. And she's inspiring to me because she's living her best life, and if you don't like it, she doesn't give a shit. And that's part of my resurrection. I'm trying to be more like more like Jess. I really am. Like I wanna be healthy and I want to live a long life for my kids, but I know I'm not for everybody, and I want to be okay with that. And I've struggled. I've struggled with what people think, and I've struggled with being myself unapologetically. And that is what this season is for me is finding that person, finding that confidence. And I wanna, I wanna be like Jess.

SPEAKER_00 8:16

I think that she is exactly what you said. I think that she's happy with her life. I think it's a big part of finding your own people, is always finding people that are happy in their own life. That way they they don't bleed into your, into yours. Um, I also want to say too, I know that like even when she's saying that about um weight, and I I know that she's even spoken at times where, you know, people have been ignorant and made comments and things like that, which is just ignorant in general. But I think that and I think I shared this before about um that the there was a girl I knew who took those bourgeois pictures. And I think I've I think I might have even said this before in a past episode, but she had um had told me what did you just call them? I can't say it right. Boudoir. Yeah, I can never say it right. You did like a it's a bougie, it's a bougie picture. You did like a combination of bougie and boudoir. I always want to be saying it because I always say a bougie more than anything. Okay. No, anyways, don't judge me. Just because you misunderstood me is not your is not my problem.

SPEAKER_01 9:25

All of our episodes.

SPEAKER_00 9:26

Anyways, the bougie photographer. Um, she actually was talking about how, you know, it is very true. Whatever we are when we're young, we change, especially if you're having kids or anything else. But in general, with age, we change. Our bodies change, they form into different things that you don't like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And so I just think it's it's the truth of whatever it is that we look like at any phase of our lives. I think that we should be appreciating ourselves still no different and still living life no different and stop worrying about everybody. Everybody's going to, you could be have the best body, but somebody makes fun of your nose. I mean, like, seriously, it does not matter. You know what I mean? And there was a, there's also, you know that show. Oh my God, what's that show? The what's the actress she just passed away is so sad. She's like only was like 72 or 73 years old. What is that show that she's on? Oh my gosh. She was telling the girl in this episode, um, you know, she's like, listen, she said, take the pictures at every single stage of your life. She said, Take the pictures. And she's like, Because, you know, those little boobies that you got right now. She's like, when you're older and you look back, you're gonna be appreciate everything about how you looked. You're gonna see yourself so totally different. And it is true. Like, I've looked back at photos at me when I was like 28 years old, and I was like, Oh, that looks pretty good. 28 years old, I didn't think that. You know what I mean? Like you really appreciate the phases of your life and the pictures, like somebody will take a picture of me today, and I'll be like, You have got to be kidding me. Like, yeah, no. But I know that, you know, I'll look back on it in a couple of years and be like, oh, I mean, it's not as bad as I thought it was at the moment, you know. But I think it's and I think those are the things we need to think about to help us realize that do what you want to do, take life and and enjoy it. Be who you want to be. Yes, have fun and quit worrying about everybody else. So we're not bringing that into the next season. No, we're leaving it. That's 2025 shit.

Social Media Perfection And Holiday Pressure

SPEAKER_01 11:17

We're leaving the old news. What are you leaving? Because I feel like you already are unapologetically yourself. So what are you leaving? A couple of episodes ago, she told us she was perfect. So that's why I'm calling her out on this one to see if there's anything she wants to leave.

SPEAKER_00 11:30

Okay, I will say I need to use my voice more, how I feel. And that's my husband, I tell him what I feel all the time. I'll tell him whatever. That's not a problem. But like if I have other issues, I think I should be speaking about them. And I'm always too afraid um of hurting somebody's feelings, so I'll just keep it to myself. Or if I say it to them, they get they'll misunderstand it, not understand that I don't I don't mean anything from a negative manner, but like this is getting on my freaking nerves. But like you don't want to say that because then that person might not like that. You know what I mean? Like those kinds of things I want to like.

SPEAKER_01 12:02

Do you feel like the older people get, the more their filter goes away?

SPEAKER_00 12:04

I'll never like my grandma said some wild shit, like Yeah, because you don't care anymore. I think no matter what age brings you some of that because you live life, you go through cer situations, and then when you look back, you realize like I wasted so much energy on giving a shit. And I could have instead been enjoying my life, doing what I want to do, having fun, and instead of sitting around worrying about what you know Joe Wow down the street said.

SPEAKER_01 12:28

I think that social media exacerbates that. I do too. Exaggerates, exaggerate. I do what's what's the word I'm is it yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:37

I it yeah, I do, I believe that too.

SPEAKER_01 12:38

I think now your family has me so paranoid to choose my words correctly.

SPEAKER_00 12:46

They do notice.

SPEAKER_01 12:48

But our your whole life is on display or what you want people to see.

SPEAKER_00 12:53

And well, I think that's the one thing about though. I think it's why like we've talked about the ones people that we like a lot of times are the ones like her that they're who they are who they are. You genuinely get the person that they are. And um, there's many of people that I see on the internet. Um, and there is a particular person I see all the time on mine, and I always just sit and think, Your life's not that perfect. You're just your life is not that perfect. Like nobody's life is perfect. It does not matter who you are. You might have and and realistically, sometimes I think if it is that perfect, I mean it's kind of boring. I mean, like life should be good and fulfilling and fun and all these things, but I mean, sometimes like the the things that I've gone through that at the moment I didn't care for, um, kind of like made me change and look at things different and like it made me evolve and and grow. And I wouldn't trade any of that for some just perfect everyday, like as just the perfect coffee cup and the perfect outfit and the perfect car and the perfect dog and the perfect this and the perfect that. Your shit ain't that perfect. Like, why don't you show us when you're screaming and yelling at your husband? Like, I could enjoy a little bit of that once in a blue moon because like you're no.

SPEAKER_01 14:01

And I'm glad we're talking about this now, the week of Easter, because you know that social media will be flooded with the perfect Easter picture and the perfect Easter baskets and the perfect and I'm gonna be.

SPEAKER_00 14:15

And your children in the perfect little outfits, even though they screamed for the city. I don't even know what I'm gonna wear. But I'm gonna be honest with you, what I'm gonna be wearing is whatever the hell I feel like it because I'm I do not dress up for Easter and do all, I don't get in all the little I you probably are more like that. I don't do any of that crap.

SPEAKER_01 14:31

Well, like in my house church, we'll but you don't have to dress up. Not to call you out, but people wear like fucking bonnets and shit. Okay. So like I gotta, you know, something like that.

SPEAKER_00 14:43

You see, like at my house, I don't know. Like I even tell the uh I even talk to the kids and I always let them know when e when the bunny comes to our house, that bunny just drives me crazy because he poops eggs all over my house. And so like I just I don't know. I'm a very casual So you have the you have like Santa comes. Does the Easter bunny dress up and come? No. No Easter bunny just takes a crap all over my house and poops these eggs everywhere.

SPEAKER_01 15:06

And then the kids inside or out, or depending on the other. Depending on the weather.

SPEAKER_00 15:10

Yeah. I mean, if it's if it's a nice day, which honestly lately it's not been, so I've just done it inside. But um they have still fun, they come in and then and I was even just told by one of my grandsons, he told me he said he can't wait for Easter to have that body poop eggs everywhere.

Time Flying And Anxiety About Aging

SPEAKER_01 15:26

Oh, that's awesome. You know how I love to to pivot? And oh lord. I want to pivot because as I'm sitting here thinking, oh my god, it's Easter. Easter equals April. You just had, I just asked you about Christmas. Like the older I get, time goes by too freaking fast. Like it's April. We it was just Christmas.

SPEAKER_00 15:51

It was just Valentine's Day. It was just Christ, like, well, you wait to like as your as your kids, you know, every year as your kids get older, you always think, oh my God, like they're getting older. But sometimes I felt like with my kids, it went quick, but like, I don't know, some years were just faster than others. Now, like with my grandkids, I'm like, oh my God, my one grandson just turned four. Like, what? Like, he just turned four. Like, this is crazy to me. And I'm I just am like going this this time is now, especially the older you get, the faster it goes. I feel like morning comes and the nighttime's here, and like every day goes. And then I'm like thinking, oh my god, if birthday's coming up, I don't even wanna, I don't even want to think about my birthday. And I swear to God, that thing keeps coming. That bitch is like, I am here.

unknown 16:34

Hello.

SPEAKER_01 16:36

Hello, hello. No, I you know, when I back in my miserable season, like, not that the the years didn't fly because like I feel like my kids, Wyatt is, oh my God, gonna start high school. Um, so I'm not saying that time didn't fly, but now that I genuinely feel like I'm enjoying my life and the days, it it's going by so fast. And I feel like the anxiety in me is like calculating like how many years I have left to live. And like obviously I could drop dead before this episode airs. Like that's the reality, but like my God, it's flying by and I just want it to slow down. And I just want it to slow down. Like I'm genuinely in a place in my life where I'm enjoying the days and the weeks and the moments, and I just want it to slow down. So, like Easter being this week, it's like, my God, you're right. It's Easter, it's our birthdays for those of those for those of you that didn't know. My birthday is May 30th and Gina's is May 31st. She's way fucking older than me, but um, our birthdays are bald. So we're gonna have to do some sort of birthday celebration.

SPEAKER_00 17:48

So that was one thing I was thinking about actually just recently. So, like, you know, when we talk about being uncomfortable and all that kind of stuff, and then like you want me to get on video and blah, blah, blah. Well, like your age group is more into this shit. You know what I mean? Like you kind of you grew up with it more. We didn't, we didn't have any of that stuff. I mean, like, on one hand, just like even read a lot of people saying it's the truth. I'm very thankful there's not videos of me everywhere of what I was doing when I was a kid. Like, that doesn't really need to ever be like known. Um, and they didn't ever have to put up with some of the stuff that comes with it. On the other hand, there's some positive things to obviously social media. So as much as we can all down it, there's also some very good positive things to it. Um and I think that like I would I get I think there's people that are in my age group that would love to be doing different things, but a lot of times we just feel like we lack a lot more knowledge of it. You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_01 18:38

So, like you get me out of my comfort zone that I would have always wanted to be out of, but we have to learn to keep up with the times because like my kids can edit videos and like do some crazy shit.

AI Deepfakes And Trust In Relationships

SPEAKER_00 18:49

And like we I'm telling you when my daughter was like four, we were sitting at a house and this realtor had something on her phone and she couldn't figure it out, and my daughter took it and fixed it for her, and she immediately goes, Um, I don't know how you did that, but okay. It was like, I just think like they're born like with I don't know, swiping sound. Almost like insane exactly the truth. It's just strange to me. It's very strange to me.

SPEAKER_01 19:17

You sent me, do you remember? Because it's been a it's been a couple of weeks, but do you remember you sent me some crazy freaky um AI video about AI taking over the world and how we have to, what was that?

SPEAKER_00 19:27

What was that? Um he talked all about it's pretty scary because like AI can start like blackmailing people. So like if you're working and it it'll look over emails within your company, and if like you could it it notice that two people are having an affair, it'll blackmail them so that they lose their jobs. It talked about how if somebody in the company, let's say a CEO is talking to somebody else about we need to change to a different AI um to be able to use the one we have, we don't like, or something like that, that it'll recognize that and then like cause like problems and how it's like very as much as there's some positive things to AI, there's some very, very, very scary scary negative things to AI. Um I do think like as I as I and you know, and even my husband and I have talked about it too. It's like there's so many cool things about it, but people have to be more careful. So like even when we thought about too, like on that um show doc.

SPEAKER_01 20:20

I'm laughing. Hold on, keep your show dog in your head, but I'm laughing because I sent you, I took a headline. So my boyfriend is from Florida. And so I took some ridiculous, it was like this anything that says Florida Man makes me laugh because he has a shirt that says Florida Man and Nora makes fun of him like every single time he has it on. So it said like Florida man rides alligator through Wendy's drive-thru. And I took the guy's picture. And it says he was arrested. It said he was arrested. Yes. And so I took the guy's picture. I took the guy's picture and I put my boyfriend's face on it, and it looked so much like it. It looked exactly like it. I mean, like everything about it was like that's real. And she's like, Oh my god, oh my god. But it it just it's freaking scary because you can make anyone do or say anything and it made you a really good dancer.

SPEAKER_00 21:07

Yes. And I think that's the thing is on that show Doc, it talks about it, and it had where this guy um he manipulated the voice even. And so it was like a got her where it's her voice saying how she did all this. I mean, it's like seriously, like they could ruin your life. And so my husband and I even talked about it. I'm like, what would you do if you all of a sudden got this thing with my vo it's my voice, and had it sitting there saying, like, I'm having an affair with some person and I'm doing this and that, and blah, blah, blah, and whatever. I'm like, seriously, I could sit and deny it, but you'll be like, That's your voice. You know what I mean? Like, what did he say? He was that's when we start talking. He's like, AI is very scary. He's like, but with our relationship the way we are, he's like, I mean, for me to have an affair would be pretty hard. He's always around me. And for work, you gotta work, right? I mean, I mean, I have to work and I go do things. Things like that. But I mean, other than I mean, but even then, like, I mean, he's got a tracker on me. And there's plenty of times you'll say, Oh, I saw you went to. I'm like, Jesus, dude, get off the thing staring at me wherever I go. So I mean, he truly knows where I'm at at all times. But if I'm not working at the end of the day, I'm not bombing someone in the Panera, Panera Bread Parking Like, you want to meet up. We got to do it at one of my hospitals and we'll sit in the parking lot. I mean, I don't know. Like, it's kind of great. It would be quite difficult. But I mean, which we just have a really good relationship. So, like, I that luckily for us, I don't it wouldn't we wouldn't just immediately buy into it, but it would be hard. I mean, I even told you that's a good idea. It would be so hard to be hard, even though I know what he does, even knowing I know he does this every single day, where he's at, what's going on. I might be like that manipulation. There might be 30 minutes of a day though I don't know what he did. And that 30 minutes that could have happened. And then it's I'm like, oh my God.

SPEAKER_01 22:48

And we're just us, so like we can't run it through. Like on the show Doc, they brought in the FBI. Like, we can't, I couldn't call the FBI and be like, is Brad fucking around because like the FBI went to the biggest.

SPEAKER_00 23:00

Or they can say, Oh no, that's all fake. For us, we're just gonna say, I this sounds real. Or then if they showed a picture of you, like how you know people take pictures of I see them in the home, and there's the two people. Well, I mean, then you just slap your face on the person and there you go. I mean, it's just it's scary. Some of it's very scary, and some of it's super cool.

SPEAKER_01 23:17

So it is super school, cool. Super school, super cool. Um, but it is very, very scary. So just like you were talking about how kids are born, they come out of the womb swiping. Like they are gonna be able to make us do whatever virtually do whatever they want us to, and that is freaking scary. But then I get irritated too because a lot of like the schoolwork these is happening on computers, and like what happened to a good old pencil and a paper?

SPEAKER_00 23:50

Just we live in a tough world. Yeah, it's definitely it's it's different. I mean, that's the thing is I think it's it's on one hand, it's good. I mean, like, I'll ask my daughter, do you know how to do this or do that? Yeah, I mean, at least I have some knowledge of almost a little bit of everything, which I think is is good. You know what I mean? And luckily, she's not a a social media freak. Like, she's not like addicted to social media by any chance.

SPEAKER_01 24:11

I wanted to tell us too, but well, Wyatt went to his um, I said Wyatt, like he went by himself, but his dad, Wyatt and his dad went to his like a parent meeting for the high school and he brought back like courses that he can take. He can take a course on Adobe and Canva. I was like, Can I go? Please. Yes. I thought that was so cool. I was like, oh my god, I would freaking kill to have a high school class on Adobe because high school level, it would be like, you know, what I can comprehend. Oh, I'm so jealous. And he's like, I'm gonna do shop. And I'm like, you could do Photoshop and help your mom out. But I thought that was really cool. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 24:44

I would definitely love to learn a lot more about just I think it's a really, I mean, it it does do some really cool things. So as much as there's a scary portion of it and we all need to be conscious of that and pay attention and um I don't know, make sure in even relationships we have to be, I don't know, more in tune. I don't know. I feel sorry for I even sit and think that about that with my daughter's age and my grandkids' ages and stuff like that. I'm like, what is dating gonna be like? I I just think you're how do you trust people? Right, it's gonna be hard to trust people. Like I wasn't single for long, but I didn't like it.

SPEAKER_01 25:18

But between my divorce and brat.

SPEAKER_00 25:20

Yeah, I just would I don't know. It's definitely I I'm just thankful that too. I'm like, I'm just so glad I don't have to like they don't know how to have normal conversations. No. And then I think because everybody's so um paranoid about that people are up to stuff, they don't also like really enter real relationships. They enter into very superficial ones. That's why Tinder is so popular. I mean, let's just have a very superficial relationship. And I think that I don't know. I think it's because of all the social media AI and everything else is just making it more and more aware. One, it's attainable to do those things. And two, um, I don't know. You can just get away with more screw with people.

What Rises When Peace Wins

SPEAKER_01 25:58

Not all good. Definitely not all good. Not all good. Okay, I know I said we I wanted to pivot for a second. That was a long second, but anyway, back to it and back to what we're leaving this season.

SPEAKER_00 26:09

Yes. Okay, so what I'm gonna leave this season is well, I think I already really answered it. Was I basically I have to use my use my words. You know, you tell a two-year-old that now if you want that, you need to use your words. I can't understand you. So that's just I need to do that. That way people can understand me that much more. And it's honestly, it's more towards the people that are really close to me. It's not, I don't, I use my words, I feel like, especially the less I know you, the more I'll tell you things because I don't I have even less of a care. You know what I mean? Like, well, if it hurts your feelings, oh me, no, but it does. But if it's if you're very close to me and I worry, like, especially if it's somebody that's emotional and I think they could cry. Like me. There's no way I'm telling you anything negative. Whatever. You still tell me plenty of negative, but I don't believe you. But if I thought I was gonna tell you something and you're gonna be like start crying, I I just won't tell you. I'm not like a like a the um because then what am I supposed to really? Yeah, I'm not gonna. I thought you were kind of the person that would just tell me anyway. I for I would for the most part, unless I really thought it was gonna get you. I don't know. I'd have to like it would take me a little while. I'd I'd tell you in little brief little blips to like get to the full point. It might take a while to get there just so that you don't start crying. Don't cry. I can't take that shit. Something always said I'm like Only if it's that time of the month. If I say, you know, you really shouldn't do that because it really is bothering me, it upsets me, and I think that person's gonna start crying. I would just won't tell you that'd be like whatever. Just run my eyes, move away. I'm not good with all that. Because then you start crying, like, what am I supposed to do? Hug you and make you feel better. I just told you the truth. So let's just deal with what we just talked about.

SPEAKER_01 27:44

Fair. So if you're gonna leave behind not using your words, what gets to rise? So for me, what gets to rise?

SPEAKER_00 27:51

Hmm.

SPEAKER_01 27:52

What gets to rise?

SPEAKER_00 27:54

I'm not score keeping bumping my microphone here.

SPEAKER_01 27:58

I'm not score keeping, I'm not feeling guilty. About what? Wait, what are you not feeling guilty about? About asking me about what? Give an example. If I want to couch rot, I'm gonna couch rot. I don't have to explain myself to anyone. I'm not gonna feel guilty that I'm not doing enough or being enough or not checking everybody's boxes. And so my peace gets to rise. I am and and you can probably see in in social media posts, this year I am protecting my peace at all costs. At all costs. I don't, I'm not, I'm not, I'm gonna leave behind the bullshit arguments that don't matter, I'll never win, or the you know, yeah. You just yeah.

Buried Seeds And Closing Encouragement

SPEAKER_00 28:39

Well, and I think just like for me, if I'm if I speak, then what rises is honesty. Yeah. You get a more, you get more which see this is the thing about it. I think I'm a pretty darn honest person and I pretty much say everything. So like that if that's just what's kind of weird, I think, where my deal is. It's like I tell you, it's probably more of a situation of if you're really close to me and I'm gonna, it's gonna like hurt your feelings, and I then you're gonna get really like crying upset, then I have a harder time. I never wanna be where somebody thinks I'm doing anything and to hurt their feelings. I try to say everything in a very much more like, you know, nonchalant or smart ass way. Makes it a little easier for me. There you go. There you go. But I need to do it more because then yeah, you'll get an even more honest version. I don't know if you guys all want a more honest version, but you're getting it. There you go. If you feel buried right now, that doesn't mean you're done.

SPEAKER_01 29:25

Sometimes things are buried because they're being planted. You are not too far gone to rebuild. And you are allowed to outgrow versions of yourself that once kept you alive. If this episode resonated with you, send it to a friend who's ready to leave something behind. Tag us, message us, tell us what you're not taking into this next season. You don't have to become someone new, you just have to stop caring what no longer belongs to you. Happy Easter.

SPEAKER_00 29:54

Thanks for spending time with us.

SPEAKER_01 29:56

Take what you need, leave what you don't, and be gentle with yourself. And if you want to stay connected, follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok at the ARMC. And remember, you're not broken, you're becoming. We'll see you next time.