Being a Brave Kid with Alexandra and Luciana Holm

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In this episode, we talk about confidence the way it actually shows up, not as loud perfection but as small brave choices made while you’re still nervous. We hear from my daughters, Alexandra (11) and Luciana (9), as they explain what helps them feel brave, what makes confidence drop, and how being yourself can be enough. 

• defining confidence as being different without shrinking 
• feeling confident through friends, family, and true belonging 
• how anxiety shows up as butterflies and shaky nerves 
• “fly in formation” as a simple way to steady yourself 
• theater, singing, jiu-jitsu, and finding what fits your brain and body 
• the three building blocks of confidence: trying, recovering, acceptance 
• pre-stage self-talk and what we’re really afraid of 
• singing on air as a practice of bravery 
• validating fear while still encouraging action 
• the brave step tool for everyday courage 
• my own confidence struggles with running speed and finishing strong 
• what I worry about as a parent and how I cope by teaching skills 

Transcript

Welcome And Show Mission

Speaker 2 0:00

Welcome to Couch Time with Cat, your safe place for real conversation and a gentle check-in. KWVH presents Couch Time with Cats. Hi friends, and welcome to CouchTime with Cat, mental wellness with a friendly voice. I'm Cat, therapist, bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and endurance athlete. But most of all, I'm a wife, mama, and someone who deeply believes that people are good and healing is possible. Here in the Hill Country of Wimberley, Texas, I've built my life and practice around one purpose to make mental wellness feel accessible, compassionate, and real. This show is for those moments when life feels heavy, when you're craving clarity, or when you just need to hear, you're not alone. Each week we'll explore the terrain of mental wellness through stories, reflections, research, and tools you can bring into everyday life. Think of it as a conversation between friends, rooted in science, guided by heart, and grounded in the belief that healing does not have to feel clinical. It can feel like sitting on a couch with someone who gets it. So whether you're driving, walking, cooking, or simply catching your breath, you're welcome here. This is your space to feel seen, supported, and reminded of your own strength. I'm so glad you're here. Let's dive in. What does confidence actually look like? Is it standing on a stage, being the loudest in the room, or is it something quieter? Today on Couchtime with Cat, I'm talking with two young ladies who might understand confidence a little better than most. They're honest, they're funny, and they have absolutely no problem telling me when I'm wrong. They also happen to be my daughters. Today we're talking about confidence, courage, and what it means to be yourself when you're nine, when you're 11, and when you're still figuring it out as an adult. There's something about watching your children grow that sneaks up on you. One day they're learning to walk, wobbling across the living room like little tiny explorers. And the next day they're navigating friendships, school, big feelings, and the complicated question of who they are in the world. Confidence is one of those words adults use all the time. We say things like, just believe in yourself, be confident, stand tall. But if we're honest, confidence is rarely that simple. For many of us, confidence came with years of trial and error, awkward middle school moments, the fear of being different, the quiet hope that maybe, just maybe, we were enough exactly as we were. Today's episode is a little different. Instead of interviewing a therapist or an expert, I'm sitting down with two of my favorite people. My girls. Because sometimes the most honest conversations about life come from the youngest voices. And if we listen carefully, kids have a way of reminding us it's something we adults often forget. You don't have to be perfect to be confident. Sometimes confidence simply means being brave enough to be yourself. I'd like to bring in our two guests today. I have Alexandra and Luciana, and I'm gonna ask them each to introduce themselves. Alexandra.

Speaker 3:38

Hi, my name is Alexandra. Uh I'm 11 years old, and this is the voice you're hearing.

Speaker 2 3:44

And here we have Luciana.

Speaker 1 3:46

Hi, my name is Luciana, and I'm nine I am nine years old and I am the and I am in the third grade.

Speaker 2 3:54

Hi, babies.

Speaker 3:55

Oh, I'm in fifth grade.

Speaker 1 3:56

I don't know if you want to do that.

Speaker 2 3:58

I am so glad you're here with me. Let's just do a little check-in. How does it feel to be in a podcast in a radio studio?

Speaker 1 4:06

I am so excited. I'm also very grateful that my mother, um, got the cat, um, invited me to this show. I am very, very happy.

Speaker 4:18

I'm also so honored to be here because I feel like my I feel like this person, the cat, Miss Cat, she does so much good in the world and she can teach everyone every day so many things.

Speaker 2 4:31

Thank you, baby. That's very, very sweet.

Speaker 4:34

I called you Miss Cat. I've never called you that before. Yeah, Miss Cat. I know.

Speaker 2 4:38

I think maybe it's the nerves.

Speaker 4:39

Mom. Maybe yeah. Yeah. This is my this is mom, guys. This is my mom. Yeah. She's a mom to everybody.

Speaker 2 4:46

Yeah, well, I have two I have two babies, and I can love other people, but I don't love anybody like I love my babies. How's that?

Speaker 4:53

Yeah, because we're special.

Speaker 2 4:54

That's right.

Speaker 4:54

We're baby stress.

Speaker 2 4:56

That's right. Okay, I'm gonna start by asking you all a question. Okay. Let's start.

Speaker 1 5:01

Yeah, go ahead.

Speaker 2 5:02

Okay, great. I'd like to start with Alexandra first. Alexandra, what does the word confidence mean to you?

Speaker 5:08

To me, confidence means having the gut to be different or to do something different. Because confidence can be so hard for everybody, and especially for kids, I feel like. Cause it's so hard to know that you're gonna be different. To so hard to know that you're gonna be an outsider, that you're gonna not look the same or be the same if you have like different abilities or like you're in a wheelchair or something. But I think confidence is just that, and I think if you can do that, you can influence so many people to be so amazing.

Speaker 2 5:45

Lucy, what does confidence mean to you?

Speaker 1 5:48

Confidence means to me, like Alexander said, being an outsider, but don't worry about what other people think of you. Just be yourself, let it out. It's good to be different, and if you really have true friends, they won't mind your difference. Okay.

Speaker 2 6:05

I like that. I like both of those. Good definitions.

When Confidence Drops And Why

Speaker 6:09

Thanks, mom. This sounds so weird. God.

Speaker 2 6:12

Luciana, when do you feel the most confident? I or where are some times you feel confident?

Speaker 1 6:18

I feel confident when my friends, if I did a wrong decision, my friends will help me through it. Like when I get in trouble or something, they'll say, or pretend there's this thing where I I don't know. But and I had to write a note, like a walking going home note, one of my what someone might say, Oh, I'll print one out for you, and I'll do it with you.

Speaker 2 6:47

So you feel confident when somebody is helping you through a difficult time.

Speaker 1 6:51

Yeah.

Speaker 2 6:52

I like that.

Speaker 1 6:53

And when I'm with my family.

Speaker 2 6:54

And when you're with your family, feel the most yourself.

Speaker 6:57

Yeah. I love that, Lucy. That's so that's such a good quote. Someone should put that in a book. Yeah.

Speaker 2 7:03

Ale, when do you feel the most confident?

Speaker 7:06

Okay. Uh I don't know if you all know, but I love to do theater and I love singing. And for me, I feel the most confident probably whenever I'm on stage or whenever I'm rolling.

Speaker 2 7:18

So I Ooh, what does rolling mean? What's that?

Speaker 7:22

I do Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and I love it, and it's so fun and really great for my sensory, because I'm not super great with um certain feelings and certain textures and stuff. And I actually have autism. So what that is, if you don't know, is just it's a different way your brain works, kind of a little bit like dyslexia, but it's just so good for me to get sensory feeling. Um, and it just makes me so happy.

Speaker 2 7:50

I'm so proud of you for finding something that's really good for you. So you like theater, you like performing, and you like jujitsu.

Speaker 7:59

That's when I feel most confident. Most confident whenever I'm with my friends or I have a crowd and I please them. Yeah.

Speaker 2 8:06

Yeah, I think a lot of people can relate to that, that's for sure.

Speaker 8:10

Or if you're on like a work business trip and you please like your manager or something, and they're like, move up.

Speaker 2 8:17

Like you do well.

Speaker 8:18

You do well, you perform well. You perform well.

Speaker 2 8:20

Yeah, I get that. Lucy, did you want to add to it?

Speaker 1 8:23

Like, you make the crowd happy, and the crowd makes you happy. Oh, thanks, Lucy. That's so sweet.

Speaker 2 8:30

Yeah, that's a good perspective. So she's getting, it's like an energy exchange. She gives and they give her.

Speaker 8:36

Yeah. Yeah.

Speaker 2 8:37

Yeah.

Speaker 8:37

Wait, oh my gosh, wait, did we just jinx? That's so cool. Jinxing on radio.

Speaker 2 8:43

Lucy, is there a time that you want to share, or you can pass if you want? Is there a time that you feel less confident?

Speaker 1 8:50

In life, I feel less confident. Trying new things, being around boys, kind of.

Speaker 2 8:58

Sure, being around boys. I get that. You're only really around one boy, your dad.

Speaker 1 9:02

But that doesn't count. But in school.

Speaker 2 9:05

In school?

Speaker 1 9:06

Okay.

Speaker 2 9:06

I like that. Thank you for being honest.

Speaker 1 9:09

Actually? No, I feel very confident around boys. Okay.

Speaker 2 9:13

Kind of mixed feelings. Maybe some mixed feelings.

Speaker 1 9:15

Yeah, mixed feelings.

Speaker 9:16

Okay.

Speaker 2 9:17

I think that that's That's totally fair. Super relatable. Great. Alexandra, when do you feel less confident?

Speaker 9:25

Um, I feel less confident right now, actually. Okay. Um I get this certain feeling in my stomach, kind of like butterflies. And I'm like, I don't you can't see, but I'm shaking right now. You're a little nervous. I'm a little nervous. But um a year, I think like a year ago, we went on a skiing trip. Yes. And our ski instructor, we got a private instructor for like two days or something, and he said, whenever you get butterflies, tell them fly in formation.

unknown 9:53

Yes.

Speaker 9:53

And so right now I'm like repeating that quote over and over in my head. Um, I also get really con less confident whenever I'm on stage too, right?

Speaker 2 10:04

Really?

Speaker 10:05

So I love being on stage and I love it. It's so fun, it's so great. I love when I it when it makes other people happy, but I feel less confident whenever before, because I think it's just that my anxiety gets in my head, and I think, oh, what if I slip? Oh, what if I fall? What if I like pee my pants or something? And I just get less confident. So so mainly those two things.

Speaker 2 10:27

Kind of like that movie Inside Out where the anxiety character is like really freaking out. Lucy, do you have something else to add?

Speaker 1 10:36

Yeah. Sometimes I get less confident in my dreams. In your dreams?

Speaker 2 10:41

Oh my gosh.

Speaker 1 10:41

That's so cool.

Speaker 2 10:42

Tell me about it.

Speaker 1 10:43

In dreams. Like sometimes I get less confident in the night, like what's gonna happen. Like if I have this run dream, and then I wake up and like it's morning and I have to go to school, ugh. And and then I wake up I wake up and I say, what's gonna happen to me? So what's gonna happen to me? Right.

Speaker 2 11:06

Oh, that's interesting. So the part about being a little bit unsure, that kind of gets with your confidence.

Speaker 11:14

Yeah.

Speaker 2 11:15

Do you know that there's a place in life where you can be, you cannot know what's gonna happen and still be confident?

Speaker 1 11:24

When's that place? Yeah, that's a good question.

Speaker 2 11:27

Yeah. So when you learn to trust yourself and trust your skills and know that you can figure it out, that no matter what happens, that's hard, you'll be able to handle it.

Speaker 11:39

That's so cool.

Speaker 2 11:40

How many times does mommy say you can handle it at home?

Speaker 11:44

Like, I would say twenty two hundred times a day, but genuinely probably like 54 at least.

Speaker 2 11:51

So mommy says you can handle it a lot, right?

Speaker 1 11:53

But she also says champions finish strong and you ski blues, because in our skiing trip we got to the blues, which is like really high.

Speaker 2 12:03

So when I say you ski blues blues, what am I trying to remind you of?

Speaker 12:07

That you to remind us that we can work hard and we can do it even if we don't want to. And we're very lazy, we're just like lazy.

Speaker 2 12:15

Okay, exactly. So mommy is always saying encouraging things, yeah.

Speaker 12:19

Yeah, encouraging things, definitely.

How Confidence Builds In The Brain

Speaker 2 12:21

Perfect. You're listening to Couch Time with Cat, and today we're talking to two very special guests, Alexandra Grace and Luciana Elizabeth. Hi. Hey. They are my daughters, and we are talking about being confident and being yourself. Before we keep going, I want to share something interesting from psychology. Confidence actually starts developing really early in life, and research shows that kids build confident through three things. Number one, trying new things, number two, making mistakes and recovering. Number three, feeling accepted for who they are.

Speaker 13:03

That's so true. That's so good.

Trying New Things With Support

Speaker 2 13:06

And here's the really important part confidence doesn't come from being perfect, it comes from learning that even when things don't go perfectly, you're still okay. Your brain actually learns courage through experience. Every time a child tries something new, whether it's raising their hand in class, trying a new sport, or speaking up for a friend, the brain builds new pathways that say, I can do hard things. And honestly, that lesson doesn't stop when we grow up. Adults are still learning confidence too. So, girls, let me ask you a question. I'll start with Ale.

Speaker 13:45

Okay.

Speaker 2 13:45

Ale, what helps you feel brave enough to try something new?

Speaker 13:50

Mainly my friends, if they really are passionate about it and are like, oh my gosh, you would fit this category perfectly. And my teachers, I'm in such a safe school and it's so nice and so fun. And my family. Those three things, if they're telling me to do it, m then like they think I'd really be passionate with it. Most likely I will.

Speaker 2 14:14

Wow, lovely. Luciana, what helps you feel brave enough to try something new?

Speaker 1 14:18

Definitely when my friends suggest it because they know me. They know me, then they've seen me cry, they've helped me in very hard situations, my friends, my family, and me, actually.

Speaker 2 14:34

You? So what about you? What do you tell you?

Speaker 1 14:37

Yeah. I have a little voice inside of me. And it says, you can do it, you can do it. It's okay to do it. You're allowed to do this.

Speaker 2 14:47

Ooh, you're allowed to.

Speaker 1 14:49

That's so cool. There's like restrictions on my body. Yeah.

Speaker 2 14:52

Restrictions in your body? What do you mean?

Speaker 1 14:55

Like, sometimes my body's like, no, you're not allowed to do this. I have this gut feeling where you're gonna get hurt or you're gonna leave. Not in time, like.

Speaker 2 15:06

Okay.

Speaker 1 15:06

Like leave late.

Speaker 2 15:08

Do you can you give me an example of when the little voice inside said do it and you're like, alright.

Speaker 1 15:14

Um, when I went ziplining. When you went ziplining. So there was no bathrooms. Ooh. Ouch. Yeah. And I drank lots of water. Uh-oh. Yeah. But my body was like, you can do it, you can do it. Just hold it for a few more minutes. But I was distracted. I was distracted by I was in Colorado. Me and my dad were having a date daddy-daughter trip, and I was not focused on how my body was reacting. Yeah. And just how I had a big smile on my face. Oh. I was so excited. And I didn't we first did the first training and then we went on it. There was lots of hiking, which was nice. Um, because I got to get my stepson, and my sister actually went to New York with my father.

Speaker 2 16:10

Yes, but we're let's focus on the zip lining. Yeah. Right. So your body said.

Speaker 1 16:16

My my body said you got it, you can do this. You're you're a good person. You got this. My body was giving out um positive energy.

Speaker 2 16:28

Oh, I like that.

Speaker 1 16:30

Pos very positive energy, and I can do things. Okay. All right.

Talent Show Nerves And Self Talk

Speaker 2 16:35

Well, thank you for sharing about that time. So, girls, you all recently had a talent show.

Speaker 1 16:42

Oh, yes. Okay.

Speaker 2 16:45

So you all each were so brave, I think, and you walked out on stage and you sang a little something. Thank you. So, right before you went on stage, I'll I'll start with Alex. What were you thinking?

Speaker 17:01

What me? Yeah. Oh god. Um, what was I what I was thinking is probably that I was either going to mess up or pee.

Speaker 2 17:14

And what made you go out there and try anyway?

Speaker 17:17

I think it was my friends because they were telling me that I was gonna do great and that I was gonna do amazing.

Speaker 2 17:25

So a little positive reinforcement.

Speaker 17:26

Yeah, positive energy and stuff. And my friends are just so kind and I love them so much. Okay.

Speaker 2 17:32

Lucy, what were you telling yourself? How were you feeling right before you went on stage?

Speaker 1 17:38

I was telling myself, is your hair good? Like, are you gonna sing good? Do you need vocal warm-ups? Like, what checking all the little things? Like checking every single little detail. Then I oh I closed my eyes, I heard everyone cheer, and that made me really happy. Oh that's so cool. I did it. I did it for my friends, my family, my grandma was there. Yeah, that's true. Diana was there, and my body was telling me, You got this, you can do it.

Singing On Air As Brave Practice

Speaker 2 18:16

Do you girls want to try something brave? Do you want to sing like a line or two?

Speaker 18:22

We get in trouble for copyrighted?

Speaker 2 18:24

I don't think so.

Speaker 18:25

You don't think so?

Speaker 2 18:26

Just a line or two.

Speaker 18:27

Okay.

Speaker 2 18:28

Um, do you want to start? Sure. Okay, so listeners. Alexandra sang Beautiful Things by Benson Boone, and Luciana sang.

Speaker 1 18:39

I sang July by Noah Cyrus.

Speaker 2 18:42

That's right. So, in a practice of confidence and bravery, we're doing it right now.

Speaker 18:48

Oh my gosh, this is crazy.

Speaker 2 18:49

You can say no if you want.

Speaker 18:51

I want to, I want to. Okay.

Speaker 2 18:53

So let's start with um, let's start with Ale. Do you want to maybe do like a fur the minute or a f a few lines of that song? Sure. Okay.

Speaker 19:05

Um wait, how does it again? Okay, yeah. For while there it was rough, but lately I've been doing better. Then the last four cold December's our call. And I see my family every month. I found a girl my parents love. She'll come and stay the night and God might have it all. And I thank God every day. For the girl is sent my way. But I know the things it gives me he can take away. And I hope you ever knock. And that's a feeling I want to get used to. But there's no man with terrified. There's a man with sense too.

Speaker 2 20:09

Very nice, Alice. That's so lovely. Thanks for being so brave. Oh yeah. Sharing your voice with us. Lucy, do you want to? You don't have to. Of course. You do? I really want.

Speaker 1 20:24

Okay. So this is by Noah Cyrus, Miley Cyrus' sister. I've been told I'm my birth of encounters over something oo said. I've been on back to him back, chairs on the morning bed. You know, I'm afraid of change. And guess that's why we stay the same. So time to leave, I'll pack my bags, get on the road. Find someone that loves you better than I do, don't I know? Cause you run on me every day. I'm not in love, but I still stay.

Speaker 2 21:13

Beautiful, Lucy. Thank you for sharing with us.

Speaker 21:17

Of course, that was so good. I really loved it. I love to find some bandwagon. Oh, thank you. The song is so good.

Speaker 2 21:23

Pretty brave. So, girls, can I ask you a few more questions?

Speaker 21:28

Oh, yeah, totally. I love being here. This is so fun.

Small Scary Moments That Changed Us

Speaker 2 21:31

Okay, good, good, good. Lucy's tummy is rumbling, so she's ready for pizza. But let's do a few more questions. Alexandra, can you remember a time that you tried something other than maybe it was something small, so not a big thing, but something that felt really scary to you. And you decided to do it anyway? Like something that was not obvious. Maybe it's scary to you, but not other people.

Speaker 21:57

I don't know. Well, actually, I do know. So I love the ocean, and something that scared me a lot was actually going I was swimming with my dad, and my dad was like, Oh my gosh, we should swim really far. And I thought that's a little bit scary, and he was like, It's okay, you'll be fine. I was like, Okay. But it really scared me how I knew there were sharks and jellyfish, and personally, I do not want to get into their touch. Um, but that really scared me, but I was fine. But personally that scared me, and I think other people didn't really know. No one really knew.

Speaker 2 22:35

But you tried it anyway.

Speaker 22:36

But I tried it anyway, because I I love my dad and I have I love the ocean, and if anything went wrong, I mean I would probably survive. I would survive.

Speaker 2 22:44

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. What would you say to another kiddo who may be there in one of those moments and they're scared to try something new, but but that you know that they're gonna be safe. How would you encourage them?

Speaker 22:57

Okay, I know that m some parents would be like, Oh, you got this, just go do it. Personally, I would be like, that's that's a little bit scary, but I mean, you do it. You're brave. You got this.

Speaker 2 23:08

So you would validate their feelings.

Speaker 23:10

Validate their fear feelings instead of just trying to like put a cake layer, like whenever you put frosting on a cake, instead of just cover up the hole that was in the cake, instead of just covering it up, I would be like, Yeah, there's a hole in the cake, and then just wrap around it and be like, but you've got this hole or that's beautiful. Thank you. Thanks, Salad. I'm kinda hungry too.

Speaker 2 23:32

Thus the cake metaphor.

Speaker 23:34

Yeah.

Speaker 2 23:34

Yeah. Okay, Lucy, can you remember a time that was something like that? It was scary. Um, but maybe it wasn't obviously scary to anybody else.

Speaker 1 23:45

When we first got our pool, I was I was very scared to go in the deep end because I just had my swimming lessons. My teacher actually didn't let me wear goggles.

Speaker 2 23:57

Oh, when we were doing swim lessons when you were very young. That was you were you were you were four or five, you were super young.

Speaker 1 24:04

I was very young, but I remember thinking, gosh, this is a pretty place, I like it. And there was a lot of older kids. I saw someone from the At the swim lesson, yeah. I saw someone from school and I was like, Oh, someone's younger than me, and they're doing it. Like I should be a good role model.

Speaker 2 24:26

Oh, okay. So you wanted to kind of step up and be a good example.

Speaker 1 24:30

Yeah. And then when I got home, I was like, I've got to do this for people.

Speaker 2 24:39

Oh, okay.

Speaker 1 24:39

So a little bit of that's a good one.

Speaker 2 24:41

You wanted to be an example, but you also wanted to do it for you.

Speaker 1 24:44

Yeah, yeah. Because I need to trust myself to go in the deep end. Yeah, and if I never risk it, I'll never have that opportunity.

Speaker 24:55

Yeah, I also think that's so brave of you at such a young age. I think that's really cool that you just like kinda Yeah, you recognize that at so young. You recognize it and you felt you were like, yes, this is scary. Yes, I'm still gonna do it, you know? Yeah.

Speaker 1 25:11

Like that's really hard for like. I'm still kinda like that, but I can I'm s uh I'm just gonna tell everyone this I'm still kind of scared of sharks and going. But my dad's game. My dad told me they're more scared of us than we are of them. Yeah, okay.

Speaker 2 25:28

Daddy knows what's up.

Speaker 1 25:29

Dad knows what's up.

Speaker 2 25:30

Can we say hi, Dad?

Speaker 1 25:32

Hey Daddy, love you.

The Brave Step Tool

Kids Interview Mom On Confidence

Speaker 2 25:33

Hi, Papa. Little shout out, shout out woman. Shout out to Anthony. Yep. Here's a simple confidence tool listeners that I talk about. It's called the brave step. Instead of trying to be fearless, we just do like Alla and Lucy, we take one small brave step. So it doesn't have to be huge, not 10 steps, not perfection, just one. Confidence grows in small moments. You're listening to Couch Time with Cat. I'm Cat, and today we're talking about confidence and being yourself. And my guests are Alexandra and Luciana. They are very cool girls, and they also happen to be my daughters. So, girls, before we go get food, do you want to ask me a question? Do you want to interview me about compliments?

Speaker 1 26:25

Oh, yes. Oh, yes.

Speaker 2 26:28

Listener, I do not know what they're gonna ask me. So let's start with Luciana. I'm ready for you. Luciana, do you have a question for me about confidence?

Speaker 1 26:38

What's a time that you have not been confident as you thought you were gonna be?

Speaker 2 26:45

Great question. Every single time I go running.

Speaker 1 26:48

Really? That's so interesting. You love running, though. You think you're gonna be more confident than you actually are?

Speaker 2 26:56

Yes.

Speaker 1 26:57

Oh. How does that work in your body?

Speaker 2 26:59

Well, I sometimes I get very sad because I'm a slow runner. I'm not very fast.

Speaker 1 27:05

But she's a good one. She's a one. Maybe you're slow in actual running, but you're really fast in your heart.

Speaker 2 27:12

Yeah. Yeah. That's exactly right. I'm fast in my heart, but I'm slow in real time. So I'm not very confident when I run in terms of my speed, but I'm very, very confident in terms of my ability to work hard and finish. And so that is a time where I think some people think I'm very confident, but I'm not.

Speaker 1 27:34

I try to be, but my insight. You want to look confident, but you're not. Yeah.

Speaker 2 27:40

I wanna I don't want to fake it. I want to get there. I'm trying to get confident as I run.

Speaker 1 27:47

Yeah.

Speaker 27:47

Well, let's pass it over to Ale. Okay. Um Alex, sorry. So, no, you're good, you're good. I actually love Ale too. Um, so being a parent, I do not know what it is like. Um, but what are some of the things that you worry about every day? Not necessarily chores, but like one of the main things that other parents can like relate to.

Speaker 2 28:11

I worry about if the world is gonna be nice to my children.

Speaker 28:15

Really? Really? That's what you worry about? Like the number one?

Speaker 2 28:18

Number one.

Speaker 1 28:19

Always?

Speaker 2 28:20

Every single day.

Speaker 1 28:21

Always every time you wake up.

Speaker 2 28:23

Every single day, no matter what.

Speaker 1 28:24

Wow.

Speaker 2 28:26

I worry about um their friendships. I worry about the way um people treat you. And I I just really want the world to be nice to you, and I want you to have good experiences.

Speaker 28:43

How do you deal with that worry?

Closing Takeaways And Ways To Connect

Speaker 2 28:45

That's a great question, Ali. Thank you. I deal with the worry by equipping you all as much as I possibly can. So trying to help you learn really good skills for the world, whether that's how to cross the street, how to make a business, how to be nice to a person, how to pray, how to um make pizza, how to, I want you to have as many skills as possible so that the you can have a good experience in the world. Thank you, girls, for being with me here today on Couch Time with Cat. That was what a good conversation. You all did great. Thank you. And I hope the best, mom. I hope you feel this is your radio show. Well, thank you, baby. But I hope you feel really proud of yourselves. What a great experience. And you tried something new.

Speaker 29:37

This is also such a cool and lucky experience. And this kind of goes with a little bit what we were talking about. If you I've never been on a radio show, and this is so cool. But if you ever have the chance to do something different or something new that you might be scared of, I was really scared at the beginning and now I'm like finally sitting down. But this was so cool, mom. Thanks so much.

Speaker 2 29:57

You're welcome, baby. I'm so proud of you. Thank you for sharing your heart with me here.

Speaker 1 30:01

It's really a big opportunity. You might only have one time in your life to be different, so take that opportunity.

Speaker 2 30:10

Beautiful. Good job, Lu. I love that. Confidence is a funny thing, it doesn't arrive all at once, it grows slowly through small, brave moments, laughter, mistakes, and learning that being yourself is actually enough. And if today's conversation reminded us of anything, it's this kids don't need to be perfect to be confident. They need to feel seen, they need space to try, and they need the freedom to be exactly who they are becoming. Girls, thank you for being here today. Thank you so much. Yeah.

Speaker 1 30:44

Do you want to say so fun.

Speaker 2 30:46

Good, baby. Do you want to say bye to the listeners?

Speaker 30:48

Bye, y'all. Bye, guys. Thanks for listening. Yeah, I hope you all have a beautiful, wonderful day.

Speaker 2 30:54

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