Breaking Chains: Empowering Women Through Adversity

🌟🎧 Episode 4 Alert! 🌟

Ladies, ever feel like you're stuck in a cycle of pain and self-doubt? 🤔 You're not alone. In this episode of the Positive Growth Doctor Podcast, we dive deep into how significant pain points can transform us and why we sometimes feel trapped in behaviors that don't serve us.

Discover two powerful ways to build resilience even on your darkest days. Let's break free from the chains of self-doubt and build a positive, empowering community together! 💪✨

Join the Empowerment Group on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewomensempowermentgroup

#PositiveGrowth #WomenEmpowerment #Resilience #BreakFree #PodcastEpisode #SelfDoubt #EmpowerWomen #CommunitySupport

Transcript

Welcome to the The Positive Growth Doctor Podcast®! I am your host, Dr. Christina Wilson. 

Have you ever experienced a loss that rocked you to your core? A pain like no other to the point that you weren’t sure if you were going to get back up? 

That was me 18 years ago. In fact the anniversary of my mothers death is this week. 

For you, it might be a different type of loss or a different reason for your painful experience all together. 

When we experience high level pain in our lives, the kind you fear you might not come back from, it changes us. 

In this episode, I dive into how those significant pain points in our lives change us and lead to feeling stuck in the pain and stuck in those thoughts and behaviors that don’t serve us as a result. Also, I offer two ways to achieve resiliency even in the darkest of days. 

Find the full transcript for this episode on your favorite podcast app. 

Please share the podcast with other women to help them grow on their journey through life. The more the merrier! 

You can also do this by leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. I appreciate you! 

How Women Get Stuck When They Experience Intense, Painful Life Events

Resiliency is the capacity to recover from difficulties or adjust to adversity. I have experienced a lot of challenges and adversity in my life, but the loss of my mother just left me breathless. 

She died at home in Hospice care, and unfortunately, they dropped the ball. She died a horrible death, and it didn’t have to be like that. 

Not only did I lose the person I loved most in the world, I experienced a lot of undue trauma in the process. 

I left my job months before to care for her. We lived by the grace of God. A couple of weeks before my moms passing, she suggested that I place her in a nursing home, which I had always promised I would not. 

She asked, “What will happen to you when I’m gone? You left your job to care for me.” I told her it would be okay because God always takes care of His Children.

I got a call a half hour before she passed from someone who heard about me and my work and wanted to interview me for a job. I told her my mom was passing and that I would need some time to get everything in order. She said she would wait for me as long as I needed. 

Fast forward two years, and several of us were laid off. As resilient as I had been most of my life, I worked for two years helping everyone else rather than recovering from a huge loss of my own. 

I tell you this because we make choices at times that seem to make sense, but we don’t see the forest for the trees because of all the heaviness we have endured. 

We do not heal by ignoring and staying busy. When we do that, we get stuck. In fact, a lot of perfectionism and self-doubt surfaced during this time. 

We heal when we put in the work as scary as it might seem because all that is good is on the other side. We often wait out of fear, but when we start now, we get there quicker. And then there is no turning back to that. 

Some Choices Prolong Pain in Women While Others Bring Them Closer to Resiliency

When I got laid off, I decided to go home to Charleston, a place where my mom and I had so many happy memories together. 

We had an amazing church family there. I thought this would be a perfect place to heal. However, many people had left the area and moved on. 

So, it was time to make some new friends. I got involved with a single ministry at the mega church I belonged to.  

One way to achieve resilience is through proximity. We don’t get to the other side of this alone. As human beings, we weren’t meant to. 

Proximity! Who we surround ourselves with matters. When we surround ourselves with people who get it or try to because we matter to them, we are able to heal and reach our goal. 

This group was mostly amazing. We would spend holidays together, events, and celebrate milestones. 

There was a small segment of this group that spent more time together that was surprisingly hindering and valued comparison and power. 

When you are healing or even if you are just trying to develop your best self and move past those inner conflicts that keep you stuck, your choice in your social circle can make or break your success. 

So, two big predictors of gaining resilience is to consider proximity or those you surround yourself with and your choices along the way. 

I often use the age-old tool of writing down the pros and cons when making decisions. It has always worked for me and doesn’t cost a thing. Also, ask yourself, “Does this serve me, or does it hinder me?” In fact, I dive deeper and ask myself, “Does this bring me closer to God?” Personally, if it doesn’t, it is not for me. 

I have created a Facebook group called The Women’s Empowerment Group. 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewomensempowermentgroup

For women to come together to learn and increase a healthy well-being and support one another along the way.

So, join this next level community of women today!

I hope this has helped.

Let's meet up again next week for another episode.