Escaping the Comparison Trap: A Woman’s Guide to Peace

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Transcript

Welcome to the The Positive Growth Doctor Podcast®! I am your host, Dr. Christina Wilson. 

When big things happen in life, we sometimes fall into what’s called the comparison trap. 

We feel uncomfortable and start to second guess ourselves when we see what others are doing or how they handled a similar situation.

Comparison can be healthy when we give ourselves grace and learn from others. But more often than not, we get stuck in our disappointment for how things unfolded. 

This might be because we set super high expectations and are focused on perfection. I’ve been there, and it isn’t pretty. 

Our heaviness creates a burden that offers a lot of confusion. This happens to everyone at some point in life. 

In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional and psychological landscapes that shape women's lives and tackle a pervasive issue that many women face: the comparison trap, especially when experiencing setbacks.

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Understanding the Comparison Trap Women Experience

The comparison trap is a cycle of measuring one's worth against the perceived successes of others. 

It's a mental game where we often feel we fall short, leading to diminished self-esteem and increased self-doubt. 

For women, societal pressures, social media, and cultural expectations can amplify this trap, making it a common hurdle in personal and professional growth.

Women are often socialized to seek validation from outside of themselves, which can make them more susceptible to comparing themselves with others. 

Whether it's career achievements, personal milestones, or physical appearance, the constant barrage of "perfect" images and stories can lead to feelings of inadequacy and frustration, especially during times of setbacks.

It might not even be a setback. I recall reading magazines as a teenager and falling for the airbrushed “perfection.” This is especially hard for young girls.

Fast forward 30-40 years later, we live in a time where it is hard to know what is real and what isn’t. 

Negative Impact on Women’s Well-Being When Faced with Comparison

The comparison trap can have profound effects on emotional health, leading to anxiety, depression, and a sense of unworthiness. 

It can stifle creativity, hinder progress, and create a cycle of negative self-talk and negative thought-loops that impacts overall well-being.

God has a purpose for every single one of us, and inadequacy, pride, and envy don’t have a place in our lives. He doesn’t want that for us. It’s not part of His plan.

Galatians 5:26 says “Let us not become conceited, or provoke one another, or be jealous of one another.”

Galatians 6:4 goes on to remind us “Pay attention to your own work, for then you will get satisfaction for a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else.”

Effective Strategies to Identify and Overcome the Comparison Trap

It’s never easy when life throws you a curve ball. The important thing to remember is that when you catch it, reflect on it, and realize what is happening, you can move forward and create a space for yourself where you can acknowledge that this is one moment in time, and it does not define you. 

Here is a breakdown of strategies to help to move forward rather than getting stuck in comparison and negative thinking.

1. Self-Awareness: Recognize the signs of falling into the comparison trap. Are you feeling envious or inadequate after scrolling through social media? Understanding your triggers is the first step to breaking free. A great way to track these triggers is through journaling. It helps with identifying and noticing potential trends in your thinking.

2. Shift Your Mindset: Reframe setbacks as growth opportunities. Ask yourself, "What can I learn from this situation?" and "How can this experience contribute to my personal development?" 

It’s natural to have an adverse reaction to what is happening at the time. Shift gears and focus on what is on the other side. 

Let that guide you through the difficulty associated with the struggle of comparison and what led you down that dark path in the first place. 

3. Practice Gratitude: Focus on your achievements and the unique qualities that make you who you are. Gratitude journaling can help shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. 

Another way to practice gratitude is to set a couple of alarms on your phone each day for a gratitude check. 

Or you can start your day with one and ask yourself, “What can I be thankful for yesterday?” Your next step would be to set your intention for the current day. 

4. Limit Social Media Exposure: Curate your social media feeds to include positive, inspiring content that uplifts rather than diminishes your self-worth. 

There is some negative stuff that comes up on my feed that I did not ask for but for some reason, they think I might want to see. Makes zero sense. They are trying to gage my interests. I hide it and request to not see things like that. 

If you have some negative friends that get sucked into the deep dark vortex of politics and world chaos, you can still be friends but set it so it doesn’t engulf your feed. 

Remember, you are in control of most these things. Garbage in garbage out. Feed yourself a healthy diet of what you experience throughout the day. You deserve peace!

5. Seek Support: Surround yourself with a supportive community that encourages growth and celebrates your successes, no matter how small. 

We are called to get rid of jealousy and comparison for a reason. Instead, focus on building one another up and celebrate our unique talents that God blessed us with. That is where true peace lies.

I invite you to join the Women’s Empowerment Group from the Positive Growth Doctor on Facebook. I included the link in the transcript. 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/thewomensempowermentgroup

I hope this helps! I am thankful you are here to pour into yourself and know that you are loved!

Let's meet up again next week for another episode.