Rejection Redefined: Women Finding Freedom in Christ

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Rejection can feel like a heavy chain holding us back, but it doesn't have to be that way. This week, we're diving deep into how rejection creates bondage in women's lives and how you can break free. Discover 4 empowering mind shifts that will help you embrace the abundance God has given us. 🙌

🎧 Tune in now to learn how to:

Change how you think about rejection

Take action and release these burdens

Understand that you are not defined by rejection

Embrace your true identity in Christ

Don't let rejection define you. Step into the freedom and abundance that awaits! 🌈

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Transcript

Welcome to the The Positive Growth Doctor Podcast®! I am your host, Dr. Christina Wilson. 

I have a question for you. Have you ever experienced rejection whether it is from the job you really wanted, a friendship, or from someone you love? 

Of course you have. All human beings have. I have experienced it from all of those things  more than once. Yikes! All of the above. I will say that you might look at others and think they have not experienced it, but they certainly have!

It’s not fun, especially when it cuts deep, especially when you had really high hopes for that job or that relationship. Perhaps others warned you that someone wasn’t safe or reliable. Or it could be that you didn’t see it coming. It was a shock or surprise.

The younger you are when these experiences occur, the harder it is to understand it and move on from it. Oftentimes, it spills over into other areas of our lives.

My parents divorced one another twice, when I was four and again when I was five. 

I will never forget traveling with my mom from Florida to Southern Illinois to live with my grandfather because my dad was an addict. I can still remember what I was wearing and the smells of the Greyhound bus. 

She was so ashamed because she gave him a second chance, married him again, and it just wasn’t working. 

She would sell the furniture so she could get us a ticket to leave, and he would find the money and buy drugs instead. She had to call my grandpa to let him know what was happening. 

He bought our tickets and invited us to stay with him. I can only imagine how heavy and burdensome that must have felt for her. 

When you’re 5, you don’t understand. You wonder why you weren’t enough for your dad to want to change… why he would threaten to shoot your mother in front of you at the age of 3 simply because he wanted to break plans and she didn’t. 

My mother had great integrity. If she said she would do something, she would. It was the 70’s and divorce was much rarer then.

In John, Jesus reminds us that he came so that we would have an abundant life. But when we experience rejection, it often results in spiritual bondage rather than abundance. 

In this episode, expect to gain insights into how rejection can hold women in bondage and the steps needed to break free. 

You'll learn about four transformative mind shifts that will empower you to change your perspective on rejection and help you embrace your true identity in Christ. 

This episode is about finding freedom and stepping into the abundance God has promised.

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The Impact of Rejection on Women and the Promises of Jesus

Women feel shaken by rejection. It changes us on some level, and not usually for the good. 

It makes it difficult to experience the freedom and abundance that Jesus spoke of or what he intended for us.

It fuels Satan's lies and conjures up self-doubt, fear of future rejection, anxiety, worry, and depression. 

It is no surprise that I have experienced depression since I was a child. I always thought it was just genetic because my mother had anxiety and depression. 

The anxiety came after I had my son later in life with hormonal changes. So yes, there was a biological component to it. But much of this was a combination of trauma, rejection, and made it seem like I really wasn’t enough. 

As a psychologist, others expect for me to be problem free and have my ducks perfectly lined up in a row. I lied to myself for the longest time that I had overcome my childhood. 

The truth is that I made bad choices that didn’t bring glory to God that originated from past experiences that led to self-doubt, anxiety, and not feeling enough. Societal expectations helped me maintain those lies.

In fact, many women in ministry, doctors, mothers, women in leadership positions, who seem to have it all together, experience these things and do not feel whole. 

It is a process. It takes time to truly heal. In the meantime, we can appear all together and happy. Behind the scenes we are living in pain and bondage. 

We don’t have to. We can grow from it and learn. We can embrace fully what God has for us. 

This is why we see so much perfectionism in women. This is often the culprit. As women, we try to control what feels so out of control, and that is usually through worry and perfectionism. 

Mindset Shifts for Moving Forward and Releasing Bondage

We need to change how we think about rejection. Every single human who ever lived has been rejected at one time or another. 

I felt rejected by my dad very early on. I have experienced social rejection from peers and bullying growing up and in adulthood because I am different and neurodivergent. 

In my mind, I had overcome it, but it wasn’t until much later that I healed. I think on some level that healing is a lifelong process. 

I know that isn’t what you want to hear, but that doesn’t mean you cannot get to a good place and break the chains you are bonded by. You absolutely can!

1. Change the way you think about rejection. It feels sad and like you did something wrong. If you were a better person, God would not have allowed that to happen. Have you heard that before?

Actually, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Bad things are going to happen in life. We were never promised a perfect life. Ask yourself, “Am I really being rejected? Or am I being protected? 

Let that sit for a minute. God uses these things to help you shift your focus, and your focus should be on Him and not the world. You might want one thing, but God knows how it will turn out in the end. When it doesn’t work out, there is a reason. He is protecting you.

2. Take action! If Jesus lifted your burdens, then why are you still hanging on to them and carrying them. Going back to John, He literally gave us the gift of abundance when He came. We have to choose whether to accept it or not. When we do, we accept Him. He is our savior!

3. Shift your mindset about yourself and rejection. Someone’s rejection of you does not define you. I was dating someone older than me for a few years before I met my husband. We met at church. He was established and appeared to be a good catch at first. He had never been married and financially stable. 

He broke up with me several times over those three years. He was terrified of commitment. Going back to the original rejection from my dad, I thought I was doing something wrong. 

Eventually, I remembered that my identity is in Christ. It had nothing to do with this man or my dad, but it had everything to do with my Heavenly Father. Had I stayed in bondage of rejection, I would not have met my husband, who was well worth the wait. 

4. Remember, you are the daughter of a King! Keeping your eyes set on Him will help guide you through the evil of this world. You are worthy of love, support, joy, and happiness. 

Let’s meet up again next week for another episode. Be blessed!