Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice
Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice — the podcast for women who are done waiting for “the one” and ready to become a parent on their own damn terms. We’re talking fertility, pregnancy, the emotional chaos, and the village it takes to raise a kid.
Sometimes you cry in the bathtub. Sometimes you're crying because your toddler bit you. And sometimes, you cry because you chose all of this.
Unfiltered conversations about solo motherhood—because doing it alone doesn't mean doing it quietly.
Choosing Chaos: Solo Motherhood by Choice
Jess’s Story: Navigating Egg Freezing, IVF & Immunology
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In this episode of Choosing Chaos, we sit down with Jess to talk about what it really looks like to pursue single motherhood by choice later in life.
Jess froze her eggs in her younger years, believing she was preserving an option for the future. But when she ultimately decided to conceive in her 40s, she learned those eggs were no longer usable — and she had to pivot. What followed were multiple rounds of IVF, each carrying emotional weight, physical demands, and significant financial considerations.
We also explore an important and often overlooked part of the fertility conversation: when transfers fail, it’s not always about the clinic, the protocol, or donor compatibility. Sometimes there are deeper-rooted health factors at play. Jess shares why exploring underlying issues — including reproductive immunology — and advocating for comprehensive testing may help uncover the “why” so many women are searching for.
The journey to motherhood isn’t always straightforward, and freezing your eggs isn’t a guarantee. While it can be helpful, embryo freezing often shows stronger success rates. This conversation is about informed choices, self-advocacy, resilience, and building the family you envision — even when the path isn’t linear.
Jess shares education and support for women considering this path on TikTok at @jessnuremberg.
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