Whatever happened to Gentle Men
Welcome to whatever happened to the Gentle Men podcast, where we talk about all things dating, healing from toxic relationships, self love, healthy relationships, healthy sex and loving yourself to help single people attract the person who is right for them.
Using research, theories and 11 years experience as a healthy relationships, sex and habit change coach, Sam Morris dives in. If you're looking for self improvement, self development, advice on love, how to heal from toxic relationships, advice on dating, advice on self love, advice on sex and advice on how to change your habits, uncover your mental blocks and your unconscious mind and try and live the best life.
Then this is your place.
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Whatever happened to Gentle Men
The 1-Minute Nervous System Hack to Change how you attract people
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Still stuck in the same patterns with emotionally unavailable or toxic partners — even when you know better?
It’s not a mindset issue.
It’s not that you’re weak.
It’s your nervous system.
In this quick episode, Sam explains how nervous system dysregulation is often the real reason you keep ending up in the same kinds of painful relationships.
You’ll also get a ridiculously simple, science-backed tool to start your healing today.
✨ Here’s what you’ll learn:
Why your body might be confusing pain with love
The connection between trauma, beliefs, and attraction
A quick vagus nerve technique (yes, it’s gargling) to help you re-regulate and feel calmer in your body Why healing takes small, daily steps — not giant overnight leaps
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Sam Morris (00:04.686)
Hi, I'm back. These are actually becoming quite fun. yeah, anyway, I'm super quick today because I have a meeting with a potential new client in approximately eight minutes. So yeah, super quick with you today. Today I want to talk to you about nervous system regulation.
So many people get into patterns of going into the same sort of relationships with the same sort of people and it is simply because of their nervous system. And most people don't realise that. They tend to start believing that the problem is them. When bad things happen to us, we start to create beliefs about ourselves. It's kind of the natural...
way of doing things but actually it's just a nervous system dysregulation problem. So I've done a whole really long podcast episode on this which is out where it talks to you, well it's me not it, I talk to you about the signs of nervous system dysregulation in day 10.
So go and check out the long episode and see if you're in that state. But what I wanted to do today was just jump on really quickly and talk to you about a simple kind of first step, different things I want to give you a tip because if you go and listen to that episode and you're like, yeah, I am in nervous system dysregulation, here is.
one very simple, non-expensive, non-difficult tip of how to start re-regulating your nervous system if you are in that state and it is as simple as doing something to activate the vagus nerve. So, if you're feeling sad, for example, if you're feeling...
Sam Morris (02:30.574)
kind of angry about a situation.
Very, very simple activation technique.
Goggling. Yeah, I'm serious. So it works in the same way as you you'll have people that tell you to go and it's the vibrations and those vibrations going through your body actually start to re-regulate your nervous system. So this one, if you today you're feeling a bit out of sorts, get your glass of water.
Thank you.
Sam Morris (03:17.688)
keep doing it for about five minutes you'll feel better. That's it. Super simple. Starting with the first steps because when you realize that you've got a nervous system dysregulation problem in dating it is small steps. It took a long time for you to kind of start feeling this way. It took a lot of her and build up.
and you have got to start breaking those barriers down and it's not an instant thing and I wish it was but simple simple daily things that you can just incorporate a minute of doing gargling it'll also make you drink more water which also helps with all kinds of mental health things makes you feel happier, makes your body better go and do some gargling today that is my simple tip for the day
And that is all folks. I'll see you tomorrow. Go and listen to that podcast episode to work out whether the nervous system is the reason that you keep going through these same relationship patterns and getting hurt. It's really useful. Speak to you soon.
