The McDonald's Drive-Thru Trick to Attracting the Right Relationship

If you've ever said “I just want a healthy relationship” but deep down you don’t actually know what that looks like for you — this episode is going to land hard (in the best way).

This one came off the back of something real: I had to cancel a live workshop because I was unwell. And the response I got absolutely blew me away. The kindness, the compassion — it reminded me of the exact thing I teach all the time… 👉 You attract what you're aligned with. 👉 You can’t get clarity in love if you’re vague with yourself. 👉 If you're saying you want kindness, respect, emotional safety… are you actually living in a way that aligns with that? In this short but powerful solo episode, I share what I call The McDonald's Drive-Thru Trick — a simple but powerful reframe that will help you finally start attracting the right relationship instead of repeating the same old patterns. ✨ What You’ll Learn: Why saying “I want a healthy relationship” isn’t enough How to get clear on what you actually want from love The nervous system link between what we say we want and who we actually choose A practical task to realign your energy, your boundaries, and your dating standards 🧠 Your Task: Pick one thing you want from a future partner. Now ask yourself: “Am I giving that to myself?” Because clarity isn’t just a mindset — it’s a signal. And once you’re clear, the wrong ones can’t hook you anymore. Get more from Sam Morris: Subscribe to the podcast Find out what healthy love looks like for you with my healthy love calculator - https://www.thesammorris.com/before-quiz Want to go deeper?

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Keywords

self-love, relationships, authenticity, personal growth, community support, healing, toxic relationships, self-respect, emotional well-being, personal development

Takeaways

I was feeling so bad and the sheer amount of kindness and understanding that I received just blew my mind.
If you are ever doubting yourself, just realize that you are not the problem.
Think about one thing that you want from a future partner.
How are you treating yourself kindly?
If you do not love yourself enough to say no to people, it's near impossible to find someone aligned with you.
What does a healthy relationship mean to you?
It's very easy to notice if people do not fit that alignment once you know what you want.
You can't fall into the same traps if you know what you want.
This is a short series with useful tips around nervous system regulation and dating.
I don't edit these videos so they are just me talking to you.

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Transcript

Hello! So, yesterday I actually posted, I was supposed to do a live workshop last night and I posted because yesterday I felt so ill, like so unbelievably ill. I had a headache, I had a sore throat, I felt sick and...

I actually am feeling a lot better today but I think I went and rested so I cancelled the life and I'm actually blown away.

by the responses. So in my video I did get a little bit emotional because I don't like cancelling anything ever. I feel like I'm letting people down and I know that there's a lot of people out there that are really struggling with kind of healing from toxic relationships and so I don't ever like to feel like I'm letting anyone down and yeah.

just honestly if you are watching this and you were one of the people that reached out to me I can't thank you enough because I was feeling so bad and the sheer amount of kindness and understanding that I received just just blew my mind and yeah if you if you're if you were one of those people and you're ever

doubting yourself, you're ever kind of, you know, feeling bad about yourself. Just realise that even, you know, if people have treated you badly that you are not the problem because you showed kindness to me. When you didn't have, you know, no one had to respond and I was inundated. I got the most amount of responses from one email that I have ever had.

Sam Morris (02:09.198)
So yeah, so thank you. Thank you for that and hopefully my random illness will stay at bay. I think part of it is because I have been doing a lot because I am actually taking some time off in a few weeks. Yeah, so anyway today I do want to kind of live

based on what I just said. I always say about people being authentic and people living in alignment with what they actually want and often I will find people will say, you know, I want someone who treats me nicely, treats me with respect, I want someone who cares about what I say and things like that.

but often aren't actually living in that themselves. So I will see a lot of people that will say, you know, I want someone who treats me kindly, who adores me, but then they don't adore themselves. And I know it's not something that's easy to do, but I want...

you guys to today and today like this this video is going to be a bit of a short one but I want you to think about one thing that you want from a future partner and then I want you to evaluate your life to see if you are living in that so if that is you want someone to be kind to you

What are you saying to yourself to be kind to yourself? If you want someone to treat you with respect, how are you respecting yourself? So all of you know that I kind of work off a...

Sam Morris (04:27.598)
a three step like method and it all starts with you how you treat yourself how much you love yourself because truly if you do not love yourself enough to say no to people love yourself enough to know exactly what you want from a partner

then it is near impossible for you to actually find someone that's aligned with you because you don't know what you want. So that is like me going to McDonald's drive-thru and saying, I want some food.

the person on the other end of the big speaker or AI, know some of them at McDonald's have been using AI, will be saying, but what food do want? Well I just want food.

Sam Morris (05:26.446)
It's not very explanatory right? Whereas if you are saying I want a Big Mac meal, that's quite easy. And that's the same with a relationship. If you're putting out into the universe I want a healthy relationship, okay, but what do you actually want from that? What does healthy relationship mean to you? And are you acting in a way that brings that back?

And that is pretty much the only way to notice if people do not fit that alignment because once you've worked out what you want, it's very easy to then be like, no, you're not for me. And then you can't fall into the same traps. So yes, your task for today, think about one thing.

that you want from someone, from a future partner and work out if you are living in that. Obviously this is the podcast last video, this is my really short series. Go back and watch the other ones because there's some really useful tips around like nervous system regulation and dating. And yeah, that's me, over and out.

I don't edit these videos so they are very, you know, just me talking to you. So have a lovely day and I will see you tomorrow.