
Whatever happened to Gentle Men
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Using research, theories and 11 years experience as a healthy relationships, sex and habit change coach, Sam Morris dives in. If you're looking for self improvement, self development, advice on love, how to heal from toxic relationships, advice on dating, advice on self love, advice on sex and advice on how to change your habits, uncover your mental blocks and your unconscious mind and try and live the best life.
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Whatever happened to Gentle Men
The illusion of perfection: in life and in Love - with Oli Cooke - Overcoming Fear and Anxiety: A Journey to Self-Discovery - ep 28
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In this episode, we dive deep into the world of fear, anxiety, and mindset with mindset and anxiety coach Oli Cooke.
Oli shares his personal journey of overcoming anxiety and the tools he uses to help high-achieving entrepreneurs break free from limiting beliefs and fears. We explore how perfectionism, judgment, and past experiences can hold us back, and how understanding and shifting our mindset can propel us forward toward a more fulfilling life.
Oli also shares his powerful "Rapid Root Level Shift" methodology, which helps clients identify the root causes of their fears and limiting beliefs, and how small shifts can create massive change in a short period. We also discuss how perfectionism, anxiety, and fear of judgment can impact not just business, but personal relationships as well.
If you’re someone who feels like you’ve been stuck in a cycle of fear and self-doubt, or if you’re looking to take action but feel paralyzed by perfectionism or fear of failure, this episode is a must-listen.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How anxiety and fear show up in our daily lives, often in ways we don’t recognize.
The role of perfectionism in business and relationships, and how it can be rooted in a fear of judgment.
Why perfection doesn’t exist and how to shift from trying to be perfect to simply being good enough.
The power of mindset work in overcoming fears and achieving goals with ease and fulfillment.
Real-life examples of how small shifts in belief can lead to massive personal and professional growth.
Oli’s approach to clearing subconscious fears and installing new beliefs with his "Rapid Root Level Shift" method.
Takeaways
Anxiety can manifest in various ways, often unnoticed.
What we present to the world may not reflect our true feelings.
Perfectionism is often rooted in fear of judgment.
Social media portrays a highlight reel, not reality.
Early influences can shape our beliefs and identity.
Fear can prevent us from pursuing relationships and opportunities.
Recognizing that perfection doesn't exist can relieve pressure.
Momentum is key to overcoming fear and achieving goals.
Coaching can provide clarity and help identify limiting beliefs.
Personal growth often occurs when we confront our fears.
Key Highlights:
05:30 – Oli shares his personal journey of hitting rock bottom during the pandemic and how it led him to become a mindset coach.
12:00 – How we often project other people’s successes as perfection and how to stop comparing ourselves to others.
20:15 – The impact of early life beliefs on our current decisions and behaviors.
32:10 – Why many people resist taking action, even when they say they want something, and how fear holds them back.
40:30 – Oli’s “Rapid Root Level Shift” method explained, and how it helps clients overcome their fears and take powerful
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