Anything can happen: Gratitude, Self-Worth & Manifesting the Life You Want

Are you stuck in the same cycles—dating the same toxic partners, doubting your worth, and wondering why “good things” seem to happen to everyone but you?

In this episode of Whatever Happened to the Gentle Men, I’m taking you on a journey from my lowest point:

a young single mum in toxic relationships, broke, and convinced my dreams were impossible. 

To standing in Disney World watching my children live the life I once thought I could never give them.

This isn’t just a story about holidays. It’s about healing your self-worth, breaking free from toxic patterns, and using gratitude to rewire your brain so you can finally create the life, and love, you deserve.

Inside this episode:

• 💔 The truth about toxic relationships and why they keep you stuck in low self-worth
• 💡 How the people you spend time with shape your beliefs about what’s possible
• 🌱 The surprising role gratitude plays in manifestation and confidence building
• 🧠 Why healing your nervous system is essential for attracting healthy, loving relationships
• 🔮 A short future visualisation exercise to connect you with your dream life (and the version of you who’s already living it)
• 🛠️ Two simple daily practices that instantly shift your energy and help you manifest love, joy, and abundance

If you’ve been feeling stuck, uninspired, or convinced that a healthy relationship “just isn’t in the cards” for you. 

This episode is your wake-up call. 

You can have more. You can be more. And it starts with how you see yourself today.

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Transcript

Sam Morris 

Are you one of those people that just thinks that you are stuck? I see it time and time again where people are like this is just my life now. I am just consistently sad, consistently anxious. I can't have what other people have and I'm just here to tell you it's not right. And today's whole episode is going to be all about how you
can get exactly what you want from life.


For those of you that don't know me, I am Sam Morris. I am the host of Whatever Happened to the Gentlemen podcast. The podcast for single men and women who have been going through the same relationship cycles and are tired of it. Now, let's get to the episode.

So I've been on holiday people, I have been away for a long long time it feels like. Yeah so we went to Florida and it was just magical and then we went over to Mexico as well and unfortunately I actually got ill in Mexico but it is what it is, I still had fun and but...

That trip is kind of what has prompted this episode today because I sat there watching my children interact at Disney World. Anyone that has ever been to Disney World knows that when they say it's the most magical place on earth, that is true.

And I watched my children and I thought, you know what, this is my dream. is, you know, literally dreams come true.

I talk a lot on this podcast about healthy relationships, healthy dating, self-love, self-worth. And I don't think I talk enough about kind of where I was at. So I'm gonna take you back, how far? Maybe 15 years, I'll take you back.
to a different version of me.

Most of you know I was severely overweight.

most of you know that I was overweight because I was eating as a comfort because of how sad and lonely and anxious I was and the thing was I had my daughter, I had my daughter really young, most of you know this and everyone else my age they weren't going out they were living their best life and

At that time I thought my life is never going to get any better than this.

I don't have any money because every minute that I work is paying for childcare essentially and bills and all of that. So I started my adult life way before the majority of people start their adult life. I don't regret it for a moment because it made me who I am.

back then sitting there thinking my life is never going to be any better than this I'm never going to be able to be going on these nice holidays and I remember a group of friends they went over to Ibiza and I'd have loved to have gone but the fact that I think at that time people were saying to me you know a bottle of water in Ibiza is six euros and I'm thinking

what could I buy for six euros for my child? It just wasn't feasible. so I remember sitting there and genuinely being like, how do I get out of this? How do I change this?

And I didn't know because everyone around me was the same.

all the people that I, you know, were around were all very similar, you know, little ambitions and they, you know, they went on holiday and there is, you know, this is not by any means trying to be offensive but they would only go on holiday in the UK and most of them didn't drive and that was the people that I was around.

Now this isn't an episode about, you know, you are kind of the consequence of the people that you are around. That was a separate episode. But I genuinely didn't think that anything would ever change and going to Disney World, taking my children to Disney World was something that was never going to happen. For me, personally.


And, you know, I was in a relationship that was very off and on and...

you know, not a pleasant relationship. I was very unhappy. And I didn't think that I deserved any better.


I didn't believe that there was anything better.


but as life develops, as you you learn more things.


things start to change and one of the biggest changes for me was moving workplace and being around other people that were way more disadvantaged than me and so I'm not telling anyone to go and move work but you know if you are kind of feeling like your life


is over or your life is mediocre.

going and being around people whose life is quite a bit worse tends to put things into a bit of perspective for you. That could be volunteering, that could be just going into your local city centre where you will see lots of homeless people.

But it did get me thinking and obviously when I then retrained and I started learning about human behaviour and why people behave the way that they behave...


it blew my mind that we are products of what is familiar. So my point earlier about the people that you're around.

if you are around people that are on the same level as you.

it's very very difficult for someone to then claw out of that and go to a higher level and I don't mean like classes of people I don't believe in any of that stuff what I mean is if you are around people that have no ambition they don't want to move forward they don't want to earn any more money they don't you know have healthy relationships they are constantly moaning about they can't get dates or you know

or the people that they date are toxic, that is feeding into who you are as well.


But I'm here to tell you that...

and time again I've seen this happen I've seen it with myself I've seen it with the people on probation that I've worked with that have put in the work and they've changed their viewpoints and they've changed their behavior and then I've seen it with my own coaching clients and it doesn't even take that long so

Today's episode really is about me saying to you, you don't have to stay stuck. You can create the life that you always wanted. If I can go from a girl that grew up on a really bad estate,


had a baby at 19 when everyone said that my life was over, that I'd never make anything of myself, be in several toxic relationships and you know get myself, I was in a financial mess at one point as well and if I can go from that to the life that I live now where I am with someone that just supports me

every step of the way I have wonderful children and live a great life.

I own a house. Never thought that would happen. If I can go from that when, you know, the odds, you look at statistics, the odds were stacked against me.


then you can too. And if you have people that are even in worse situations than I was in, that have been to prison, the odds are really stacked against them and they can change their life, then you can too. You can have whatever you want. You do need to get really clear on some of what that actually is.

People will talk about, I really really want a healthy relationship, I really really want a loving relationship, a lined relationship. But what does that actually look like for you?

What does that mean? Because my version of a healthy relationship might be very different to your version of a healthy relationship. For example, me and my sister, my sister, she were taught and we have this conversation. We are very different. She talks about these things called pink jobs and blue jobs. And that is essentially like male jobs within the household and female jobs within the household.

For her, that is okay. That isn't something that, you know, someone has put onto her. That is just her personal views. My personal views, and you know, we've obviously had debates about this, is that disgusts me. There is no such thing as male jobs and female jobs, but that is her relationship.


and mine is a mine relationship so each person's version of a healthy relationship may be slightly different you know if you are someone that wants to stay at home with your children when you have them that's okay as long as you are financially secure that's okay


we all have different versions so we need to realise what we want from that healthy relationship and make a plan. So we are in August now, we're in the eighth month of the year. Some of you listened to my podcast in January that was, we're gonna make this year the best year that we have ever had. And I know because...

there was a lot of people that listened to that episode that a lot of them have fallen off.

There's quite a lot of them that have removed themselves from my email list, which may be because they've actually sorted their life out and they don't need to be on my email list anymore, or it may just be that they have gone in different direction.


What I'm saying is, now is the time. If you have not made any changes and you were listening to that episode in January and you haven't made any changes to your life, nothing has changed in eight months, then now is the time to start to take action. Because if nothing has changed for you in eight months...


you're not taking enough action.


What I want to do is I want to take just a minute for you to start to figure out what this life looks like. What this perfect...

life looks like.


So

I want you to close your eyes.

and I want you to take a big deep breath in.


and then a big deep breath.


and I want you to do this three times.


I want you to start to picture yourself walking.


Walking fast.

timelines.


We're jumping to a year from now.


You're speeding, you're getting faster and faster going through the months August, September, October, November, December January, February, March, April, May, June, July all quickly gone past you

And now, as you come to a stop...


You see you.

in a year's time.


The you of a year's time is smiling.

the laughing.


And I just want you to sit for a moment and listen to what they have to tell you.


And once you've got all the information about what your life now looks like in a year's time.


I want you to start to rewind.


and come back to me.


backwards through the months July June May April March February January December November October September all the way back to this point in August


and I want you to take another big, deep breath in.


everything that you saw is possible.


because you've seen it and it's already happened for you. You are strong, you are wonderful and you can make this happen whatever you want in life. You can make that happen.


Now open your eyes.

and come back to me.


that very short exercise you will have seen something whatever it was you've seen it now you know that it can happen and so after this episode I want you to start planning out how that actually happens because that's what you truly want whatever you saw is what you want

If you didn't see anything, then do it again. Maybe sit for a little bit longer after this episode.

A couple of other things that I just want to give you just to help you get into the mindset of I can have whatever I want. I want you to start your day with gratitude. I know everyone talks about gratitude, gratitude, gratitude, but what does that actually mean? It means whatever you want it to mean.

When you wake up in the morning, the first thing you should say to yourself is, I am grateful for waking up.

put your feet down on the carpet, flooring, whatever, as you get out of bed, I am grateful for this floor. I am grateful for having a toothbrush. I am grateful for having running water. Basic things that you are grateful for and they will start to build on each other because once you think of one thing that you're grateful for, then something else will pop into your head. When people talk about...

gratitude and saying about what they're grateful for. A lot of people will really struggle if they're like, oh I'm grateful for my family.

You don't need to go so deep into it. Literally, I am grateful for being able to listen to a podcast. I am grateful for having the technology to be able to do that. Simple, simple things. But the more that you practice gratitude, the more you start to believe in yourself. It is a little bit magical.

The second thing that I want you to do, I advise you to do, and this is something that I do all the time because life isn't perfect, life is never going to be perfect and I would love to tell you that, you know, once you've healed your nervous system and you've attracted the love of your life, that your life is going to be perfect, but that's not true, things happen, life happens. Life keeps living, so...

On days when things aren't going well for you or when one little thing triggers you off, I want you to say just this one sentence. It's all working out for me in the way that it needs to.


It's all working out for me in the way that it needs to. I say this sentence to myself quite a lot. You know, life...

isn't always going to go to plan. can plan out as many things as you like but you know things happen like my dad's appendix burst.

That was fun. Not. If you can't tell that was sarcasm, I'm sorry.

No one planned for that. That is something that you cannot plan for.

And in the end, it worked out. He was okay. And it just kind of gave me some sort of realisation that these things can happen. You could get a flat tyre today.


what if you you're rushing you want to get to work and you get a flat tire and you're like oh my god can anything else go wrong for me and then later on you hear that the route that you were going to take to get to work there was a massive accident and you didn't you wasn't involved because you had a flat tire so everything is working out the way that it's supposed to work


It's just that sometimes we get so in our heads with negativity that it destroys any positive vibes that we could give out.

So yes, that is it for today. That was my whole point of the episode is that anything that you want, you can have. And I don't want anyone to come at me with, no Sam, you know, I really want a million pound house and that's never gonna happen. Why not?


I don't earn enough money and go make some more money then.

Well not as easy as that. I know. I know that. You know.

other than, you know, bringing people back from the dead.

Anything that you want can happen.


So go find out what it is that you want. Go start making plans to make that happen. I believe in you. My name is Sam Morris. I am the host of Whatever Happened to the Gentleman and I will speak to you very, very soon. Goodbye.