The Hidden Struggle of Perfectionism in Autism & ADHD

 Welcome back to the podcast! Today we’re diving into a topic I see so often in neurodivergent kids—perfectionism. You might notice your child melting down when they make a small mistake, erasing their homework over and over, or refusing to try something new because they’re afraid of failing. For autistic and ADHD kiddos, perfectionism often shows up in unique ways—sometimes it’s about needing things to be just right, sometimes it’s about holding themselves to impossible standards, and sometimes it’s about fear of disappointing others. Today we’ll unpack why perfectionism shows up, what it’s really about, and how we as parents can gently help our kids release the pressure of being perfect.