Ep.10: The Mindbody connection between trauma and chronic pain- with Adriana Bucci

This is the episode for anyone who has suffered, or is suffering from chronic pain. Wowza. Adriana shares her story of growing up with a narcissistic mom, to dating various narcissistic men (so common, as your body goes with what it knows), to suffering debilitating chronic pain attacks, in rapid fire. From this, to building a life she loves. It's a power half an hour full of tips and tools to help you navigate this with far more clarity and confidence, and also, hopefully, help you regain your own personal power. 

A little bit about Adriana in her own words:

After nearly 3 decades of enduring narcissistic abuse and 4 years of dealing with severe chronic pain - I had to make the choice to embark on my own healing journey.

Doing my inner work not only helped me heal from the physical pain I went through, but it also helped me heal from the narcissistic abuse I endured from being raised by a narcissistic mother, other close relationships, and even colleagues/toxic workplaces (they were everywhere!).

My own healing journey inspired me to become a life coach so I could help other people. My certifications include:

• Certified Professional Life Coach
• Certified Mind Body Fitness Coach
• Certified Stress Management coach
• Certified SafeSpace Trauma Informed Facilitator

My goal is to empower survivors of narcissistic abuse to heal, set boundaries, and live life on their own terms! 

You can find Adriana on IG: @letsgetyourshifttogether

By email: letsgetyourshifttogether@gmail.com

Visit: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com to learn how to work with me.

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Transcript

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Welcome to The Survivors Playbook. This is the podcast for every survivor of abuse. If abusers can have a playbook, then why can't survivors also have a playbook? I'm your host, Chantel Contini, and today I am so excited to have the amazing Adriana Bucci on of let's get your shift together. I'm sure so many of you already know who she is, but just in case you don't, she has a really large platform on Instagram she's also Canadian, which I love. She's on the opposite coast of me. She is helping so many survivors of narcissistic abuse navigate life after, during, and before. So without further ado, Adriana, can you tell us how you got into this space? Hey Chantelle, so excited to be here. Thanks so much for having me. And believe it or not, it's gonna sound so random. I got into this space because of chronic pain, and there is a correlation, right? Yes. There's a correlation. Absolutely. So what was your correlation between chronic pain and how you got here? Yeah, totally. Basically in like 2019, I was in severe chronic pain for the last four years. So it all started in 2015. I got my wisdom teeth removed, and then I ended up with TMJ dysfunction, migraines. I got carpal tunnel, I had surgery on one hand I was supposed to get surgery on the other hand. Yep, it was like one thing after another. Oh yeah, that's that's not even the half of it. It gets so much worse. My, oh my gosh. Your poor body, right? For all. Yeah. Your body was obviously holding onto stuff. Oh God, yeah. Absolutely. And so then in 2018, at the ripe old age of 30, gosh, I get shingles in my mouth. What? Yeah. You literally can't make this shit up. And so like you must have been, I can't even imagine like one after the other. All these things, you're just trying to live your life. You just go in to get your wisdom teeth and then everything just is like dominoes, like one thing after, and you're not even 30. Exactly. As it started years before that. Yeah. So how was your mental state? Not great. Yeah, I can only imagine. Absolutely not great. I was like really just like chasing pain relief. Like my life was literally, I would go to work and then I'd go to like physio or the chiropractor or acupuncture or the pain doctor and get nerve block injections and things like that. So it was just a total nightmare. And then one day, like a full-time job, like a fulltime job? And I already had a full-time job, so it was like I was working a double shift. It was insane. One day in January of 2019, back to my mental state. I literally, like from the shingles in my mouth, I ended up with something called trigeminal neuralgia. And so it's basically the nerve on the side of your face and it's inflamed. It's nicknamed the suicide disease. Anything to do with your nerves is just, brutal. Shingles is brutal in itself. It was horrifying. Oh my gosh. Yeah. And I literally told my husband like, I'm gonna try to give you another 10 years before you have to call yourself a widower, because if 30 is this painful, I am terrified of what aging is gonna have in store for me. And so in January of 2019, I. Miraculously, this was like before the algorithm got super creepy. I got an ad for this app called Curable, and I would recommend it to anybody who has chronic pain. They do not pay me to sing its praises. This is literally what saved my life. It was basically marketed for people with chronic pain and I was like, I don't know how Facebook knows I have chronic pain, but sure. Let me buy a one year subscription to this. Just totally like at this point you're just trying anything, right? Yeah. This is the thing when you are like it's. Just insurmountable and it's thing after thing and issue after issue. You're desperate for relief. Exactly. And so I download the app and I got super offended by it because it basically, it's on, it's based on the work of the late Dr. John Sarno who grandfathered this work. And it's based on the theory that anybody who has physical, chronic pain. That has persisted for more than six months, and you've gone to the doctor, you've done the tests, you're not dying. There's no recent fractures. You don't have a cancerous tumor or whatever. It's actually because of repressed emotions from childhood trauma. And so of course I was like. I don't have emotions at all, so I can't have repressed emotions. Of course. When you're confronted with something that you're not ready to confront, the easiest way to deal with that is to get upset. To get angry. Exactly. Exactly. And to blame the messenger and not the actual message and take that in a hundred percent. And so 24 hours later, I'm obviously still in pain and I'm figuring, okay, I don't think you get refunds when you buy a subscription on an app. So humor me. Lemme try it out. I literally tried it out and in the first two weeks I noticed a 10% reduction in my pain. And I had my first five minutes of no pain at all. I actually, I thought I was dead. I can't even, I can't even imagine five minutes like that. To me it's five minutes of pain would be five minutes of no pain. I know, but for me, five minutes of pain would be excruciating. That was amazing. That's how much pain you must have been in that a five minute reprieve was something to, it was actually noteworthy. I literally thought I was deceased i'll never forget I was in the kitchen with my husband. I was like, is my body on the floor? Did I die because I don't understand this right now. I have zero pain. And I was like, this is crazy. This is how normal people feel every day. And sure enough, the pain came back, but as I kept doing the work, like within four weeks. 20% reduction. I stopped doing. That's incredible treatment. Yeah, it was wild. Four months completely pain-free. And then I was like, I need to become a coach. So I actually started off as a pain coach and then the more I started sharing my story of being raised by a narcissistic mother and you know how that caused there go the root of your trauma. Luckily, here we are. I already knew your story. I didn't know the pain portion of it. But when you started talking about, chronic pain, I was like, ta-da. So many people go through life with chronic pain and they have no idea why. And they take medication to try to alleviate the symptoms, but not actually. They're not ever able to actually address the root cause. Exactly. And I firmly believe that abuse, it's just prolonged stress. And our bodies are not meant to endure prolonged stress. Stress is supposed to be like a survival thing, right? There's immediate danger and we run and our bodies, get flooded with endorphins and all that sort of stuff, and we survive. But it's not supposed to be your entire life, especially not your childhood. Exactly. And that is how you cured your chronic pain. And that is amazing. But you also, I'm assuming, had to also do the work to uncover Oh yeah. Did you have suspicions prior to this about your mom? Oh yeah. Oh, absolutely. I knew she was a narcissist. I actually found out after. The very last narcissist I would ever date Yeah. Broke up with me the day after Valentine's Day. That's how they operate. Yep. And, I started googling his behavior because it was like. A short relationship, but it was so confusing. And I had been through other very similar relationships as well with other narcissistic men, but I never put two and two together because they were longer. And I was, it was like easier for me to blame myself for the destruction of the relationship and it was always my fault. So everything's always our fault. Exactly. But this one I was just like so confused and it was like 2014, I started Googling, went down this rabbit hole, and then. I figured it out about like narcissistic men and relationships and all that. And then I find this article of 10 signs, your Mother's a Narcissist or something along those lines. And it just all made sense. But I didn't view that as trauma at the time.'cause when you think of trauma, you think of like physical abuse or like car accident or growing up in a war zone, seeing people die, things like that. And I hadn't experienced anything like that. I just experienced the emotional and narcissistic abuse from my mother and friends and relationships, bosses, all the people in my life. And, I never connected the dots that, that's actually trauma until the chronic pain was so bad that I started doing the work. And I had what they say is the gift of desperation to be outta pain. Yeah. And so that's what helped me figure out that oh, that was traumatic. That was actually abuse. And I've literally been in survival mode for my entire life. That is what society still doesn't really understand is you never have to even raise your voice and you never have to raise your hand for it to be abuse. Ergo stress, ergo trauma. And that is why narcissistic abuse, especially when they're not yelling. But it's the constant micro cuts on a day-to-day basis. And it's the belittling and the passive aggressive digs and the jokes at your expense and the control. When you add that up on a day-to-day basis, it's a death, not even by a million paper cuts, but like a billion paper cuts. Yeah. And it's at the most critical stages in your life when it's childhood abuse. When it's abuse by a parent, a caregiver, somebody, especially a mom. Society really puts moms on pedestals and assumes that if you are a mom, you're maternal, you love your children, and then to not have that reality, that's actually not your reality. It's the furthest thing from the truth. How did you deal with that? Like the coming to terms with the fact that the person who was supposed to protect you was the person who was actually inflicting continuous pain and trauma upon a child? I think my initial reaction was denial and then anger. Yeah.'cause it's like it's the ultimate, in my opinion, that's the ultimate betrayal. It is. Yeah. It's like this is the person, this is your mother. And like you said, society, pedestals, mothers, they're all perfect angels who could never do no wrong. And you grow up believing that. And it's okay, like just because someone can procreate, it doesn't mean that their child changes them for the better. There's horrible people all over the world who have kids. Which, was a realization I had and I was like, wow. Yeah, this makes total sense. Like not everyone who's a parent deserves that title or should have even bothered having that title, absolutely. So yeah, it was just like the ultimate betrayal.'cause this is the person who's supposed to literally protect you and teach you about the world, but then you're. Learning about like the poison in their mind basically. And they are your first bully. Exactly. And you're being bullied at home. Exactly. Outside of the home, it was really just like when the doors were closed. Yeah. She was this sweet little Italian lady. Everyone loved her. Yeah. And so that's where like the cognitive dissonance really be comes in because you're hearing all these great things about your parent. You're seeing how they treat other people, but they're not showing you that same affection. Yeah. And especially as a child, you're constantly looking for that. So you're trying to shift and acquiesce and Please and, pretzel and contort. Trying to get them to look at you and treat you the same way that they're treating people outside of your house. Yeah. And it, you're always falling short no matter what you do. You could be a straight A student. You could be on the honor roll, you could have a 4.2 GPA. You could be, star athlete, go to the Olympics. You could be, a member of Mensa and it would be, why didn't you do it better? Why didn't you score five goals and not just four? Why didn't you get 4.3 GPA? So your childhood was obviously very traumatic, which led you to a early adulthood. When you're supposed to be in your prime and living your best life, your body was falling apart. Why? Because, as you said, suppressed, emotions when we suppress our emotions. When you're dealing with any type of narcissist in your life, be it your partner or your parent. You have to suppress who you are, your beliefs, your opinions, your desires, your wants, your needs to constantly try to acquiesce to their every request. And they're constantly changing. It's one thing on Monday and something totally different on Tuesday morning, and so you never know. They love to keep you, totally insecure in every part of your life, and that causes massive stress on your body. So you've healed your chronic pain. Yeah. You're no longer, see, that in itself, in and of itself is incredible. Yeah. And I think that is hope for people because I have so many clients, friends even that I know have had trauma, but they're not really ready yet to admit, that are living with chronic pain. And chronic pain is so debilitating because people can't see. That you are in pain. And I have dear friends who live in daily pain, they wake up and they go to bed and their whole day has been, and you would never be able to tell, they smile right through it. And I just think, how could you live like this? So since you, healed your inner and your out. So you become this, like your, this is like your new life, like 2.0. Yeah. Your first part of your life was really hard, but you've created this new life outside of trauma and pain. Can you tell us a little bit about that? Yeah. I've still experienced trauma and pain. Yeah. Since if as long as you're alive, life's gonna life at you it is what it is. I actually recently had another mind body connection issue. I had psoriasis all over my limbs. It was insane. Oh my gosh. Yeah. But I ended up MINDBODY connecting my way out of it, and totally unrelated to my mother trauma. I had a dog that kept attacking me and I got PTSD from that. Yeah, so it was just totally wild. Oh my gosh. I know you like literally can't make this stuff up. I know. Like it's insane. It is absolutely insane. Like he messed up my hand, my face, like I do my makeup well, but like my face is disfigured. Like it was, are you kidding me? Yeah, no, I swear to God. Was he your dog? It was my dog. He, it turned out he was inbred and like his parents were full brother and sister.'cause like we had him in training, medication, behaviorist, all the things. And like he just kept getting worse and worse. Like this weird like rage syndrome or whatever. I was the main target. And then he started attacking my husband and my father-in-law. And it was just, some, someone from a farm took him in and then they had to put him to sleep anyways'cause he started attacking I don't even know. Sorry. Gosh, what happened? My gosh. Yeah. But ended up getting PTSD from that yeah. And I was like, it wasn't until a month into the psoriasis where I realized, wait a minute, this has so many inklings of the mind body connection because I'm literally altering my life. To avoid the symptom. And so as soon as I stopped doing that, within two weeks, the psoriasis has, it has not come back. And it was completely gone. And this was like in August. See, that's incredible. See, these are great tools and tips for people because there's so much that you can do outside of masking things and it's hard going through even doing the app. Meant that you actually had to start to face the reality of your life, right? Oh, yeah. And that's hard, which is why a lot of people avoid that. And they would much rather mask, and they would much rather pretend that they didn't have trauma. Who wants to do that work? It's hard. It's vulnerable. You're having to relive things that were traumatic for you that try to suppress to survive and move forward and move on, but it keeps attacking you. Exactly. That's the thing. When you don't do the work, it doesn't go away. It just delays the inevitable at some point. Exactly. You're going to have to pay the piper. You're going to actually have to stop and say, if you won't stop to do it, your body's gonna stop you and say, okay, now we're done. Now you actually have to face stuff. Yep. A hundred percent. And it's like you have to keep doing it. Yeah, whether you like it or not, which is part because healing is a journey. It's not a destination. So exactly. Like we're not saying that you're gonna be healed after a year and you're gonna be able to move on and life, but you can. But you've created a beautiful life outside of this. Yes. That is what we're talking about. If you are married or were married to a narcissist and you have children together, they're not gonna change. They're not gonna go away. You're, but you are gonna have to learn how to create a life that you love. Despite what they do or don't do and take back control over how heal your own healing. And that's what's so important is to focus on what you can control. And the only thing in life that you can control is yourself. You can't control your husband, your girlfriend, your dog. You can't even. That is honestly so scary. Yeah. I loved, I love dogs, but I think I'd be turned off dogs if I had a dog that was attacking me. Yeah. I had a chameleon that like hissed at me once, and I, and this thing was tiny. It was like four inches long and I had to use like other mitts to transport. I was so scared of it. That is terrifying. I can't even imagine a dog. Yeah. And I was such a dog lover. My dog before this insane one was in a wheelchair. I built him a wheelchair. Oh my God. I would've taken a bullet for him. He had his own Instagram. He was the best. And then, unfortunately he died. He was 13 and a half. Dogs don't live long enough. Yeah. And then I get I always joke, this was my mother reincarnated. It really sounds like it was your mother reincarnated coming back no, you're not done with me yet. Yeah, you might think that you're healing your trauma, but here you go. Yep. So what are you doing now for those who don't, for whatever reason, don't know who you are and what you do? What is it that you do? Now, this is because I started following you years ago, and I always love your content. Because it's really real and you do it in a way that's also funny. So it's tongue in cheek, which I love because humor for me has been therapy. It's a balm.'Cause you could either cry all the time or you could laugh away through the shit. And I prefer to laugh Exactly. Cry and laugh at the same time. Yeah. If I didn't have humor when I was going through. Everything. I don't think I'd be alive anymore. It's such a heavy topic that like, you know what, let me make it funny so people can see how absurd narcissists are, and that actually, in my opinion, I think it helps them take the crap the narcissist says way less seriously, because it is the absurd. And like when you actually look at it from the outside, not when you're in it.'cause when you're in, it's like the forest for the trees, you just can't see it. But when you look at it from the outside, which is why people don't believe that it's really that we're, they always think that we're exaggerating, we're being dramatic. We're just doing it for likes and follows and trying to, promote ourselves. But you literally can't make the shit up. What they do is such. It is craziness. There's no other word for it. Even though they are not crazy,'cause that would mean that they didn't know what they were doing. And I firmly believe they actually do know what they're doing, which is why they have one personality behind closed doors when nobody's there but you, and one for, the adoring masses out in public. They know what they're doing, they know that it's not okay. But they still don't care. Exactly. So you're here and you are coaching. Yes. And so how do you help people? Yeah, so I do one-on-one coaching. I have a community coaching thing as well that's a lot more affordable than the one-on-one. And then I also have a group coaching program called Bulletproof. And it just depends where people are at on their journey and, it just one baby step at a time. I like to do it with. Talking about the emotions first and foremost. Like firstly understanding the abuse and the dynamics and how that makes you repress your emotions and,'cause most of my clients have chronic pain anyways, so it's like we're killing two birds with one stone. Yeah. So it's perfect. And this is perfect. This is, this is really true. So many people experience chronic pain and don't know why. Exactly, because we don't talk about this, we don't talk about that connection between the mind and the body. And as a society, doctors don't understand that. There are some, not all, but there are a few and far in between actually understand that connection. And so they treat the symptoms, not the underlying issues that are creating those symptoms. Your symptoms are just telling you something's wrong. Exactly. A hundred percent. Yeah, it's I think that's the most important part of the healing work, and that's something that I see like a lot of other narcissistic abuse recovery coaches don't delve into at all. And I feel like that just, if you don't master your own emotions and figure out what your emotions are and what they're telling you, you're still gonna be a target for manipulation. So not only do you get to heal from the abuse. And heal from physical, chronic pain, which most people have it anyways. You also get to become like the human bullshit detector in a way because you know what emotions are. You can recognize, oh, this person's trying to trigger me with the emotion of shame or guilt or fear. And I always tell my clients, those are the three musketeers. Because anybody in those emotional states is easier to control. So the more you become aware of your own emotional states and recognize oh, this is guilt. I didn't murder anybody. I didn't commit some kind of heinous crime. That I should be in jail for. Therefore I shouldn't be feeling guilty. Therefore, this has to be manipulation. Yeah. And this is the thing, like it's you becoming your own. Everything. Yes. When you rely more on yourself and less on other people to save you, does it mean you don't have support? Obviously coaching in various forms of support, but you learn to become your own best advocate, your own best bullshit detector. Then you really start to empower yourself and you then you become, as you just said, completely bulletproof. You no longer. Feel beholden to other people or require other people to guide you. It doesn't mean you don't have support, you don't have a therapist, you don't have a coach. But it means that you become less reliant on others and more reliant on yourself. And that's really healing as well because so much of abuse is gaslighting. And you start to really doubt everything about yourself, your opinions, your beliefs, your values, your memory of events. And so learning to actually become reliant on yourself doesn't mean that you're not wanting connections with other people. That's human nature, but it just means that you don't need other people to tell you what you already know. And your body's telling you, when we pay attention to our bodies can tell when somebody's not good for us. We just push that down and go, oh, but he's so handsome, or, she's so pretty. And this feels really exciting, right? Yep. I tell my clients all the time, the bigger the spark, the bigger the narc, right? I love that. Now do you have any last minute tips or tools or, you've already given people so much in terms of the mind body connection, which I think is a huge piece for so many people that, as you said, is not really talked about enough. And I think is a huge part of healing both mentally as well as physically because the physical. Pain of chronic pain really also wrecks havoc on your emotional, your mental and your psychological state. Absolutely. Yeah. The biggest advice is become your own best friend, honestly, because you are you relationship with yourself. Is the most important one you will ever have in your life. You're there from the moment you're born till the moment you die, and nobody's coming to save you at the end of the day, like you have to save yourself. Like it's so important to just reconnect with yourself, learn about yourself, understand yourself, and especially your emotions. And that's like the key to, freedom. It's the key to everything. And you're gonna start trusting yourself even more and trusting your intuition because like you said before, your body knows when someone's not good for you, but we're so inundated with chemistry and whatever. And I really think Disney movies are responsible for a lot of, what we assume is love, the fast moving, full body tingle, but that's not real love. That's not sustainable. Exactly. That's chemistry. That's your body, but also your body is also, giving you cues that this is not a good person. You just choose to suppress them for whatever reason, based on your ideals, based on society. For a lot of women, even though I help men and women, but for a lot of women, especially. We have this biological clock, we have to be married by a certain age and have children by a certain age. We have an expiration date. And I don't believe that obviously, but that's what society has ingrained in us, right? That if we're not married by a certain age and we don't have kids by a certain age, we're like, we are useless. And scarily enough that's coming back into mainstream with all this shift across the world. I think you really just have to take your time. When it comes to relationships, time is your best friend and their worst enemy. Narcissists can't maintain their facade. They can't maintain how kind they pretend to be. The mask always slips off and like they, they pray on people who are in a rush, right? Yeah. Like the whole biological clock thing, like I. At the end of the day, if you need to have children freeze your eggs or something. Don't get into a relationship with just the one guy that shows you attention because you need to have a child, because that's gonna be a whole shit show if, it ends up going through the court system and all that kind of stuff.'cause narcissists use children as pawns every day. And so yeah. So you don't wanna bring someone into that? No. As a pawn myself. Yeah. I was born as a pawn. It's just, it's. You're literally think about the child, yeah. Don't think about your clock. And it's so true. And they also, like A year is a good amount of time before you even move in with a person. And ask the questions, meet their friends, meet their family. Listen to how they talk about people. Watch them when they're stressed, when things don't go their way, how they respond and or react and are they always the victim? Or are they, are they able to take ownership and accountability for how they treat people and how things unfold and the ramifications of their actions or inactions? Yeah, and like you said, be your own best advocate. That means, and stay single. If you have just gotten out of a narcissistic relationship, stay single for six months to a year. Yeah. And just focus on you. Like you were raised by a mom, and then you alluded earlier on to the fact that you didn't have this one boyfriend, but you had several who were of the same variety. And if you're raised by a narcissist, your body goes with what it knows. So even if your mind is this doesn't feel good. It feels safe to your body. This feels normal. And if you've been led to believe that what you experienced as a child was actually love, this is what love feels like. It feels, unpredictable. It feels like highs and lows. It feels like one day he's nice to me and the next day she's mean to me. Education is key. Time is your best friend. Like nothing is gonna happen if this person's meant to be. They're still gonna be around in three years. But you haven't moved in, you haven't bought a house, you haven't had a child, you haven't bought a business. I had one guest on who had nothing in common. They didn't have children, they didn't have shared assets. They were married for 11 months and it took her four years to get divorced. 11 months, not even a year. And they had nothing to share. Like she owned her house, they didn't have assets together. There was no debt. Four years. So even that, right? If you have four years to waste, by all means giddy up. Go for it. And this is also, I think we look at society and we look at, celebrities and they're getting married and divorced. Like they change their underwear in their shoes. And it makes it look so easy. Yeah. And they have the money for it. And they have the legal teams behind who just do all the work for them. And they have so much money. It doesn't matter if they lose 10 million exactly when you marry the wrong person. It can drastically reduce the quality of your life. Yeah. And that's even if you don't have children together. If you have children together. Yeah. Sorry to say. Yeah. You're like your and your children. That is the reality. So you can listen to us. We have learned, that you just need to take your time. Don't make any commitments. Don't become tethered to them in a way that's going to be really hard to untether yourself. They love, they're like octopus and they love to get their tentacles in and around you. Yeah. And then make it really hard for you to get out of that. Exactly. That's the trap. and if it sounds too good to be true it's too good to be true. Yeah. And if they wanna move the relationship fast, if they're like proposing within like months, like run for the hills, do not look back. Yep. That's not your soulmate. Do not pass. Go. Do not collect$200 like abort, abort the mission. They might feel like your soulmate, but you are gonna be paying the price for that. Lack of discernment on your part and being swept up in the dream that they're trying to create. Feelings are not fact. No. Oh my gosh. They so are not. Okay. This has been amazing. I love to be able to pack in a lot and a little bit of time so people can bake or cook or drive or do whatever they're doing. And there are so many nuggets in this episode for people who are listening. So thank you so much, Adriana, for coming, for taking the time out of your full life, for connecting with me. I've been following you for a long time, so this feels amazing. Thank you so very much. Amazing. Thanks so much for having me. Thank you for listening to the Survivor's Playbook. 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