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Eileen Devine: Why Focusing on Skill Gaps Instead of Behaviors Changes Everything for Neurodivergent Kids

Brad Broyles & Nathan Palmer

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Listen as our guest, Eileen Devine discusses Brain First Parenting, focusing on supporting neurodivergent children by understanding their unique brain functions and nervous systems rather than just their behaviors. 

Key themes include:

  • Brain-First Approach: Emphasizes the importance of recognizing neurodiversity as a difference, not a defect, and the need for tailored accommodations.
  • Behavior as a Symptom: Behaviors are seen as signals of underlying skills gaps and environmental mismatches, not character flaws.
  • Cognitive and Relational Skills: Differentiates between cognitive skills (like executive function) and relational skills (like emotional regulation), both crucial for development.
  • Three Rs of Parenting: Regulate, relate, and reason are foundational for effective parenting, focusing on co-regulation and connection before reasoning.
  • Processing Pace: Highlights the need to adjust communication to match the child's processing speed.
  • Maturity Gap: Discusses the uneven development in children and the importance of responding to their developmental age.
  • Parent Well-being: Stresses the importance of parental self-care and community support to maintain resilience and effective parenting.

The episode provides practical guidance for parents, emphasizing skill-building, environmental adaptation, and the importance of community support.

Find more at https://www.eileendevine.com/

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