39: This Is Preventing You From Living Your Dream Life

You’re Not Lazy, You’re Blocked

Do you feel like you should be further along by now?

Like you have all the plans… but you’re not actually taking action towards it?

You might have a limiting belief that’s preventing you from taking action and ultimately, preventing you from living your dream life.

This episode is perfect for you if you’re experiencing:

• Knowing exactly what you want… but not acting on it
• Constantly putting your goals to the bottom of your list
• Overthinking, procrastinating, or avoiding taking action
• Feeling stuck in the same daily patterns, no matter how much you try

I share my personal experience of uncovering a childhood memory that was shaping my actions and how my subconscious mind was holding me back.  

Your dream life isn’t as far away as it feels.

But it does require a new way of thinking.

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Hi everyone and welcome back to Intuitive Diaries with me, Emily Marie. And my intention for this episode is to give someone out there a life change. I'm going to be talking about beliefs, how beliefs are formed and why, like they are literally in our subconscious mind, and how they can be running our lives. As always, I'm going to put myself out there for you guys, and I'm going to talk about a belief that I had that I had no idea, like guys, no idea at all was living in my subconscious, and how this belief that was running in the background of my mind, how it was controlling my life. And my intention is for people to really understand how our brain works and why it creates our reality through our thoughts. Through we only take actions in our life if our brain says that it is safe. So if you have a belief running in the background that you have no idea is there that is telling you that this action is not safe, it doesn't matter what you do, how much plans you put out there, how much force you do to put out this action. And when I'm talking about action, in my terms, I was talking about putting myself out on social media, but in other people's terms, it could be going out in the dating world, it could be asking for a promotion, it could be something that you really want in this life. This is going to help give clarity to people as to why you can't take the actions for something that you actually really, really want to do, is because there is a belief in your subconscious mind that you have no idea what it is, you have no idea that it is there, and it is preventing you from getting to your goals, it is preventing you from basically living your dream life. So this episode is going to be more neuroscience-y. I'm going to be talking about my subconscious mind, a belief system, a belief that I pulled from my subconscious mind. I had no idea that it was there, and how it was basically running my life slash ruining my life. And again, what I really want to put out there is I had no idea, and my brain works exactly like other people's. Like it will work in the same way. What I'm trying to communicate is your brain will work in this way as well. Everybody in the whole world has subconscious beliefs that they don't know are there, and it is preventing them from taking the actions that they want to do, or it is preventing them from having the mindset or being the person that they need to be to up-level their lives, to get onto their soul path, to have that goal, that thing that they are really wanting and searching for in this lifetime. It's all about mindset, it's all about thoughts and belief systems, it's all about our subconscious mind. So I absolutely love this podcast, guys. I absolutely bloody love it. My background is marketing, so I'm like, uh hell yeah, I'm gonna market this podcast. I'm on Instagram, I'm on TikTok, I'm on YouTube, I'm on all the things. Am I posting? Hell no, I am not posting on there. I am just sitting on my couch and I'm doing podcasts because now that I have done this for so long, it's formed a habit in my brain and it is gone past the point of uncertainty. So my brain has said, okay, we are signalling that this is safe for you. So now this is my new comfort zone, this is my new capacity level, my new level of safety, which means my brain is fine with me doing this. But it's so weird how I do socials for other people, and when it comes to me and actually getting high-frequency information out there that I know deep down is life-changing. I know that this stuff needs to get out into the world. For some reason, I am not taking the action that I want to be taking, and guys, every day I'm writing it on my job list, put out a social, do a YouTube. I've got all the videos there, and I'm not putting them out on YouTube. Uh, what does that even mean? Why am I not doing that? It's so simple. I've got all this content, all this book content of me talking on this podcast. I filmed like the majority of them, and I am not using snippets on social media. Why am I not doing that? Like, hello. This is something that is going to be beneficial for me. It is going to be beneficial for not only me but the world. It's going to help people with their problems, with their mindset, it's going to change people's lives, and I am not putting myself out there. That is a huge indication that I have a subconscious belief running in the background of my mind, and I am obviously not aware of it. I am doing all the things that I think that I am doing. I'm putting it on my job list. I'm saying I'm going to definitely do that today. And then other things pop up, and for some reason that is not priority, it goes down to the bottom of the job list, or other things pop up. You know, this pops up. I have a phone call here, I've got a meeting here, I need to do this. Oh, actually, I really need to clean the house. Oh, my dog needs to go out for a walk. Oh, I forgot that I need to call my mum. And then lo and behold, it gets to about 9 p.m. And I'm like, oh, I didn't put that social out. It's fine, I'll do it tomorrow. I'll do it in the morning, and the same things repeat. I do a job list, and on the top in the morning, it's like put out a social, and then this pops up, and then I have an email here. I forget, forget that I need to do this over here. I need to do this, I need to do that. It's not that other things are popping up in my life, preventing me from putting out a social. It's me preventing me. That's what it is. It's my brain that is searching for other things to do on purpose, preventing me from putting out things, videos, content myself out on social, because somewhere in there it has a limiting belief, a belief that is limiting my actions, a belief that is literally limiting my life, and I have no idea what it is. At this moment in time, if you are following my journey, I am on an intuition course, and I am learning how to tap into my intuition. It has just been the most fascinating, interesting growth experience of my whole life. I have absolutely loved training, my gift, and a gift that all humans have out there. It just needs to be trained and tapped into. So I was like, okay, let's use this gift. I actually had help from another intuitive for this. So I asked another intuitive, would she be able to help? Oh, actually, she put herself out there. She was like, I am feeling called to help other people with their beliefs. Let me know. And I was like, hello, thank you, universe. This is the perfect opportunity. Yes, I will say yes to this person. And we had a session together. This girl's absolutely amazing. And she intuitively looked into my subconscious and found a belief that was running in the background of my mind that was now. This is going to sound quite weird if you haven't done this kind of work before, but there was a subconscious belief that was running saying, I don't know how I'll figure it out. I don't know how I'll figure it out. There's always like multiple beliefs, limiting beliefs, and there's always going to be an experience that pinpoints how and why that belief was created. This was really a belief that had a bigger belief underneath it, which was it is unsafe for me to be seen and heard. It is not safe to be seen and heard. Okay, I wasn't quite sure where this belief had come from. And to me, I had never heard myself say that before. I didn't associate myself with I don't know how I'll figure it out. I actually believe that I'm a very capable person. I have done so many things in my lifetime that I'm so proud of. I have run businesses, I have like got a mortgage, I provide for myself. I feel like I'm a really capable person, a very self-sufficient person. I feel that I've got my head on my shoulders, and I'm like, I don't know. It doesn't really resonate with me, to be honest. However, intuition is not wrong. Your intuition is always right. It's just that whatever is in the background of your mind hasn't come to your conscious brain yet. So you're you're not aware of it. This is what your subconscious is. Your subconscious means that you are not aware of this. So me not really relating and thinking that doesn't really resonate. It's because I'm not consciously aware of it, it's because it's something that has been in my subconscious brain. Your subconscious brain makes up 95%, 95% of your actions, your thoughts, and how you live your day. Like 95% of your reality, 95% of my daily actions come from beliefs that I have no idea there. Well, that's fucking shit, isn't it? Like, oh my life, what the actual hell? And remember, guys, if you've heard me talk in previous episodes, our actions and our thoughts, our ideas, our beliefs are in our electromagnetic field. They are in what I like to call the creator field, and this literally pulls in your reality, which means that 95%, 95% of what's in my creator field, what's in my electromagnetic field, I have no idea what's in there, which means I am not running the show. My reality is just kind of happening, and I'm just like, oh, okay, you know, that's just like life kind of thing. No, it's not just life. I am creating life, and I'm creating it because of my thoughts. And the more that we can become consciously aware, self-aware of what is in our subconscious mind, the more we can consciously create our reality and reach the goals that we want to reach in this lifetime. So I'm like, okay, let's give it a shot. You know, let's look in. So I looked into my subconscious mind with this beautiful other intuitive. She led the session and led me through, and we uncovered a childhood memory of how this belief was created. And guys, most beliefs come from a childhood experience. It is true that it can kind of come from any experience, but I would say most of it forms in childhood, which again is why we're not really consciously aware of these things, they're just kind of like shoved in the back of our brains, and it was so fascinating. She got me to embody the childhood memory, and she asked me questions, and I found myself back in this place, and I embodied how I felt back in this memory of when this belief of I don't know how I will figure it out was formed, and I felt very hunched. I was also three years old, crazy, and I was hunched because I was not wanting to be seen by the world. My posture was hunched, I was very much putting my face down, wanting to not be seen, talking down, eyes down, and I had and felt very frantic energy in my body, even though I was three years old. And I would felt myself and visualized myself going back and forth to my parents, back and forth, back and forth, and I was talking to my mom frantically, and there was like an energy of uncertainty and not knowing, and then talking to my dad, an energy of uncertainty and not knowing, and I also felt other people, maybe family members, and I was very much uncertain about my words, and when I was talking, I was like felt uncertain, frantic energy, nervous energy. Am I getting this right energy? I had no recollection of this memory. I'm like, wow, this is absolutely fascinating. So I'm going through this process, I'm going through this memory, and I'm like, did this even happen? I'm three years old. How do I even remember this? This is crazy, but also super interesting, really fascinating. More feelings, emotions come up, and it's the feeling of like not understanding, not understanding, and I'm like, whoa! So I go deeper into this memory, deeper, deeper, deeper. I allow myself to really fully embody this three-year-old version of me, and I really saw what was actually happening, and it was crazy. For those that don't know me properly, I am half French, and I was going to my mom talking in French to her, and then going to my dad and talking to my dad in English. However, this is a memory that I have been told. I have been told time and time and time again that when I was little, I used to walk over to my mom, talk to her in French, walk to my dad and talk to him in English. That was the memory that was told to me. In this memory, it was very different. I had such an energy of not understanding, and I didn't understand why other people were confused of my words, and it was because I was going to other family members and to my dad and talking to him in French. I was going to other family members in France and talking to them in English. My language, my communication skills were not fully formed, and no one knows what this is crazy. No one ever told me, no one ever sat me down, probably because I'm only three years old, and they're probably thinking, okay, she doesn't really understand anyway. Fair enough. My parents, I will always big them up. They are the most amazing people ever. They always did the best for me, always had my best intentions at heart. However, no one sat me down and was like, Emily, you are half French. This language is French. This language is English. People around you, you live in England, and everybody here speaks English. Your mum is French, and not a lot of people have French mums. I needed that. I needed that three-year-old to hear that. No, that was not explained to me. So I had this frantic energy of like, oh, is this a French word? Is this an English word? Talking in mixed languages to people, being very confused as to why people are not understanding me. It was a language barrier, communication barrier, not understanding why the world around me doesn't speak French. That was not communicated to me. Probably because I was a very high-frequency old soul in a three-year-old body, and nobody thought to tell me these things. Nobody told my parents to tell me these things. You know what I mean? This is just all programming that is being repeated and repeated and repeated, and I am going to be the family breaker. I am going to be the one that breaks this pattern. And I think that it's amazing and hilarious that if you haven't listened to the very first episode of this podcast, please do, where I get an intuitive read. And the intuitive, who is amazing, says that that one of my gifts is communication, and it's something that I really want my soul when my soul wants me to explore, experience, and uncover in this lifetime. So no wonder I was put in a situation where communication and language was an obstacle and struggle for me. I also had a stutter when I was young, and sometimes it still comes out now, which I think is very cute. In my recent previous episode to this one, I spoke about how if you really want to understand something, you need to understand the opposite, which is why failure is so amazing. For example, in my previous episode, I was talking about how I am here to empower people, and I can only feel empowered if I have felt unempowered, disempowered beforehand, and got all the angles of feeling that, and then broke through that obstacle to feel empowered. This is very much the same thing. My soul was like, okay, Emily, in this lifetime, I want you to really understand communication. I want you to understand it from all angles. I want you to get all the experience. I want you to become amazing at it. For you to become amazing at it, you need to be quite a shit at it at the start. How amazing for my soul to choose a body where I have language barriers, where I need to understand and experience a different language, where I have a stutter. So I have a lot of communication problems, struggles. I just think what an absolute amazing gift to go through. However, yes, it's an amazing gift, but for this moment in time, for my human that is 37 years old, I don't need that belief system running in the background because what it was doing, it was feeding back to my conscious brain that I don't really get things, that I don't understand how to make things happen, that I don't understand how to figure things out, that I get confused about like language, that people don't understand me, and also that people like there's an element there of being laughed at or scorned, or again, the whole belief system that is underneath this one, it's not safe for me to be seen or heard because what was happening is when I would stutter, or when I would talk in a different language to somebody who didn't understand that language. The majority of communication is all about our tone of voice, our facial features, our mannerisms. So even though that person maybe didn't laugh at me, or maybe you know, you wouldn't obviously say something to a three-year-old, but their energy and their confusion in their face said it all. So it implanted a belief system in my beautiful childlike brain that I don't know how to figure things out. Like what is going on here? I don't understand. I don't understand, and I can really look back in my life and see how this belief popped up and see why it was preventing me from taking the actions that I wanted to take in my lifetime. Now that I am consciously aware of this belief, I can now shift it. You can only shift something and work on something that you're actually aware of. And what an amazing memory to uncover. And I am sharing this experience with you because I want people to understand. We have no idea what is living in our subconscious minds unless you have done self-development work. And now I have worked on shifting this belief system. You better see me on those socials, guys. I'm gonna be back on there. I'm gonna have new energy. I'm not going to have my subconscious brain preventing me from taking the actions preventing me from having this energy of putting myself out there. It's going to be completely different. Einstein said that you cannot solve a problem from the same frequency that it was created in, which is so true. I'm just gonna say that again. Einstein said that you cannot solve a problem from the frequency that it was created in. So if you have a struggle, an obstacle at this moment in time, if you stay the exact same, if you have the same actions, if you don't look into your subconscious mind and shift whatever is in your subconscious mind, that's how you shift your frequency, you will have the same outcome. You can't solve problems if you have the same electromagnetic field. Like if you have a goal in your life and you're not doing self-development work, it is unlikely that you're going to get there because the problems and the struggles and the obstacles that are coming up are in the same frequency. You need to shift your frequency, you need to elevate your electromagnetic field, you need to change something to attract and to reach that goal that you want to have in your life, whatever that might be. The dream relationship, the dream career, the dream house, the dream friendship group, the dream bank account with the fucking figures in there. I'm feeling you, I'm fucking feeling you. We can only create our dream lives if we change our frequency, and we do that by looking inside our subconscious mind, guys. Intuitively, there's like I would only trust an intuitive from guided light healing to do this, and also I would only trust me to do this now. I know how to do this to myself. I wouldn't trust another intuitive who hasn't gone through guided light healing programs to do this for me. Like, honestly, the way that we train our intuition is just next level. I have never known a program like it that's absolutely mind-blowing, and I just wanted to put this out there that we can only create our dream lives from looking into our subconscious mind, from doing self-development work, from thinking differently, from finding those beliefs intuitively. I had no idea that that was in my mind. I was literally mind blown. We actually recorded the session. I might like put out the recording or something. Like I'm there doing it, going, what the like, what the hell? How I had no idea, and again, I'm putting myself out there to really show to other people that you have no idea what's inside your subconscious brain either, and whatever is in there is preventing you from reaching the next level. There are so many tools, so many processes, so many techniques to pull limiting beliefs from your subconscious mind and to shift them, guys. Like we can do this, we are the creators of our own lives. We can create anything in this lifetime if it is a true soul desire. I will always say that because of my past experiences. Check out my previous podcast episodes if you haven't already. I know that this is going to reach someone that it's meant to reach. I know that someone's gonna have the click, the aha moment that they need to have. And honestly, I cannot like talk about this enough. It's just absolutely fascinating. I think it's magical, guys. I think it's absolutely magical. Like, we have a tool to create our own lives, and we can do this intuitively. We can like what pick out these little fucking shitty beliefs that have been there for ages and flick them off, flick them off, flick them off. We have the ability as humans to do that and create our own lives. Yes, we fucking do. If I'm doing it right now, you can fucking do it too. Anyone can if they have the mindset of like, okay, I'm fucking doing this, I am taking the leap, I am telling my brain, I know it's uncertain, but I'm going to do this, I'm gonna do self-development work, I'm gonna look at my belief systems. If you don't have trained intuition and if you have literally like no idea of where to start, what I used to do before I had trained intuition was I used to look at my outside life. I used to kind of do it backwards. So I used to look at my outside life and think of the struggle that's happening at the moment. Think, okay, what do I want? So in this context, it'd be I really want to put myself out in socials. I really, really want to put myself out in socials. Okay, I'm not doing it, I'm not doing it, and I have been trying for months, and I'm sorry, but it's it's not because I'm busy every day, it is my subconscious mind preventing me from doing that. Okay, so what could a belief be? It's not safe to be seen, guys. We are all intuitive beings, just talk yourself through, do your own process, what you feel is the right process for you, what feels good in your body, whether that's talking it out loud, whether that's maybe meditation, whether that's journaling, there's different ways, and then just ask yourself okay, what could be the belief system? Right, is there a memory? Like, do a little meditation, go on Spotify, put on binaural beats, do a little meditation. It can only be like 10 minutes, it just doesn't have to be a huge thing, and then go back and think, okay, let's go back through my memories, let's ground myself, take some deep breaths, go back through my memories. What could a memory, a past memory, be attached to this limiting belief, which is preventing me from living my dream life at this moment in time? Once you start getting in the mindset of doing things like that and journaling it out, you can come to the conclusion yourselves. I would always advocate for trained intuition to do it faster, easier, and know that you're picking out the right belief system that you need to work on at that moment in time. But you can do it yourself, guys. You can fucking do anything in this world if you put your mind to it. Just start the process in your own way that feels good and right for you. Feel free to get in touch with me. Honestly, if you want any tips or advice, feel free to get in touch. Feel free to send this episode to someone who might need to hear it. Please, guys, if you haven't already, rate review and subscribe. At the moment, I'm working on content to put on my website so I can have like a free library. I don't even know what I'm gonna call it yet, guys, but something that is designed for you. Whatever it is, I haven't thought well, I have thought about it, but haven't done it yet, I haven't manifested it yet. So I'm not gonna tell you too much about it. But whatever it is, it's going to be amazing. And the intention behind it is to help people, is to help change lives. And again, I'm saying this intuitively because I know in a few weeks it will be there because this is what I'm working on now. I'm shifting my belief systems, I'm putting myself out there, I am getting to where I need to be in life, and I know that this is going to help so many people, it's going to help change people's lives. That is my intention. That is literally what I'm on planet Earth to do. Thank you so much, guys, for your valuable time, your valuable energy, and I will see you all in the next one.