40: Why Cutting Toxic People Off Doesn't Work & Makes Things Worse

"Cut toxic people off.”
“Set stronger boundaries.”
“Protect your energy.”

This is the information I got from the therapy world, however, that never solved by problem, in fact, it made them worse.

In this episode, I’m diving into:

•  Why the same types of people keep showing up in your life 
•  Why cutting people off doesn’t create real change 
•  Why negative patterns don’t disappear, they just move into different areas of your life 
•  And what’s actually going on beneath it all 

This episode will give you a deeper understanding of why your life looks the way it does right now and how to finally break free from the cycles that keep repeating.

This is a life changing episode that will make you quantum leap, only if you use the information to your advantage!

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Hi everyone and welcome back to Intuitive Diaries with me, Emily Marie. And for this episode, I'm going to be talking about patterns in your life and why setting up boundaries, putting up boundaries, and cutting people out of your life, literally, I'm sorry to say, doesn't make a difference, it doesn't actually help, it actually hinders you because it means that you're not listening, you're not understanding what the pattern is, you're not shifting internally. So the pattern, even though maybe it disappears for a little while, it will come back and it will come back stronger, and it might come back in the same area of life or in a different area of life. So this is going to be a huge life change for somebody out there, and my intention is to bring clarity as to why repeating patterns keep happening in your life. So let's take a few examples. Let's say you've just joined a workplace and everything's good, everyone's really friendly, it all looks great, and then slowly, slowly, the work keeps coming in, keeps coming in, piling on, piling on, and the dynamics starts to maybe change, and people around you start to be more critical of you, more critical, more critical until the point that you reach burnout, and then maybe you okay, leave that job. You think fuck them, you go to another job, and the pattern repeats itself, or it gets worse, and then it happens again and again and again, or it could move into a different area of your life. For example, it doesn't happen in work anymore, but then your husband, your partner, your wife starts to become more critical to you, or your friendship group starts to become more critical to you. I am putting out these examples because these are my own struggles and obstacles, and I am here to literally just talk about my own stuff, put myself out there for you guys, so you can have examples, like real life examples of how these things happen, so you can literally take control of your life. So this episode is going to be literally life-changing. It is going to be more into how you can create your own reality, how you can take control of what is actually happening around you, and how cutting people out of your life, snip, snip, snip, guys. I have been there. Putting up boundaries actually doesn't do anything, it will probably only make your repeating patterns in your life worse. So I'm gonna take it back and I'm gonna talk about my own stuff so you can get a really good visual example of how these things might be happening in your own life. So if you have not listened to me before, I was in a really emotionally abusive relationship in the past, and these kind of dynamics just kept popping up all the time, all the time. And if you listen to previous episodes, I literally just talk about them, but I didn't have the conscious understanding of how I actually created them. I also talk about in previous podcasts about the law of reflections, and this is what I'm going to be talking about in depth today, but how it moves into other areas of your life if you don't look at the reflection. Just a small little recap everything that you see, everything in your reality, how situations are forming around you, how people are being towards you, is a reflection of your own energy. So, this is the law of reflections, and this law of the universe, a little bit like gravity, it is literally always in play, it is always happening, so we can be completely oblivious to it if we want, but it's still happening. Gravity is still happening. It's the same with the law of reflections. We can be completely oblivious and not want to look at it and not want to understand it, however, it is still in play and it is still running our lives, so we might as well deep dive, really understand this universal law so we can take control of our own lives and up-level our lives. Man, let's go out and create our reality the way that we want to create it, and let's stop these repeating patterns that come up in our life, how we perceive them as obstacles. Obstacles are there to help us grow and to help us reach new levels in our life. However, we can decrease those obstacles by understanding this law of reflections. So I'm gonna go back into my own life. And for those of you that know me, thank you so much for being there. I really see the statistics of the podcast, and there's a few people that keep coming back, keep coming back. I bloody love you guys. Thank you so much for sticking with me. So, you guys know, or maybe you don't know, that I had this repeating pattern in my life, and I was in such an emotionally abusive relationship for like over a decade. Where this guy was just critical every single day, being critical to me, critical to me. I couldn't do anything right. He would keep saying that I was doing something wrong, something wrong, something wrong. I remember he even told me that the way I made cheese on toast was wrong. Now it's funny now because I've deep dived and I've healed a lot of it because he was just reflecting my own energy, guys. In my head, in my head, I just kept telling myself that I was doing everything wrong. Now it's not like for like, so for example, this is the cheese on toast example, it's so funny, but it's not like I was making the cheese on toast and thinking this is wrong, this is wrong, and then he's like, Oh, that's wrong. It could be anything. So, for example, at that time, I did think that everything that I was doing, I had this like underlying repeating pattern in my brain that was like, You're doing this wrong, you're doing critical, critical, critical, but it could have been about anything, about work, about going to the grocery store, about not parking properly, about not washing up properly, like everything instead of looking at my life as a whole. For example, let's say I had a task in my life, a project at work, and I did it absolutely amazing. And there was like eight things in this project that I absolutely smashed. I would look at the one thing that I felt perceived that I didn't do well, and I focused on how I got that wrong for so long, it literally became in my electromagnetic field in my energy, I embedded that in my own energy. So my partner at the time reflected my own energy back to me, guys. I did not understand this at that time, I did not know what the hell was going on, and even though now I have this spiritual concept of it, it still happened to me, it was still an experience that I went through for over a decade, and I'm still a human being, so my nervous system was absolutely shocked. I still do nervous system work now for lots of different reasons. We all need to do nervous system work to help us adapt to the new reality that we are always updating and always living in. I had no idea that this was a reflection of my own energy. So, what happened? I cut him out of my life. Obviously, I actually cut him out of my life because I found out who's cheating. Completely other story. But afterwards, I deep dived into what I was feeling. I just had this huge spiritual awakening. I've got loads of other previous episodes about this, but what I want to communicate and to convey is that I just cut him out of my life without really understanding what the pattern was and how this pattern was formed, where this pattern was in my own head, in my own world. So I cut him out of my life, right? Put boundaries, cut him out, felt fucking amazing. Then I started going out with my friends, obviously, more and more, because I didn't have this guy in my life at that time. I had done what the therapy world tells you to do cut him out of your life. However, this repeating pattern, which I did not realize was a repeating pattern at that moment in time, of being critical, of nitpicking, of actually like screaming and shouting at me because I had lots of verbal abuse back then as well. This pattern slowly crept into my friendship area of life. How absolutely mad me with my understanding of the law of reflections now, it is very normal, like that's literally what would happen. It would move on to another area of life because I haven't understood, I haven't shifted my energy. It is still in my energy. This repeating pattern is still there. So even though I've cut someone out of my life that I felt was being awful, emotionally abusive, psychologically abusive, which he was. However, he was only mimicking my own reflection. So what is going to happen? If I cut someone out of my life, I've still got that energy within me. Slowly, slowly, I started to see the same types of situations pop up and the same things being like projected onto me from my friendship area of life. So I had a friend, and she was starting to be so critical of me, so nitpicking, she would just like snap at me for no reason. She in my head was being so weird, and in our world right now, the therapeutic world, which they are only doing what they feel is the best way to be, what they they feel that they are giving out the best information to help people, however, it's not helpful because we are taught to literally focus on the other person. Okay, maybe they've got other stuff going on at home, maybe this is happening, maybe that's happening, and yes, all of those things is relatable. Yes, those things might be happening, but we are forgetting about looking in in ourselves and where we have that energy, where we have that repeating pattern in our own lives, where we are doing that to someone else or to ourselves in our own head. Now, this kind of concept is so hard to get into our brains because our brains have been programmed since birth with a different concept, it has been programmed with looking at other people and okay, just life just happens to you. This person is being attracted to me, snip snip, snip. That person is putting too much work on me, write say no, put up boundaries. Yes, all of those things are relevant. However, if you don't look at the underlying core emotional root cause, it will still keep popping up in your life, and it will actually get worse. So I remember, and it's just to put out an example out there, so I snip snip snip my ex out of my life, felt amazing. I'd actually met someone new who is my amazing fiance, and he is so so amazing. And I was going out with this friendship group, and we went abroad on a Hindu. And guys, what do you do when you go aboard on a Hindu? You get absolutely slaughtered, don't you? Back then, this is the kind of person that I want. Now I don't I hardly drink, but back then it was like shots, let's get smashed, let's do this. Hey, I love that phase of my life. I'm not going to put shame or guilt on that. Like fucking party Emily lived, and she loved that phase of her life. It's that season. Well, I wouldn't even say season, I would say like bloody decades. She loved it, and uh, we partied really, really hard, like you would do. Best friends Hendo, a like a friendship group full of girls. We're out, we're having a good time, and my friend at that time that was starting to reflect this energy of being critical and also verbally abusive to me, she just dipped off. She just literally, in the middle of a night out, just went and completely disappeared. Now we are all absolutely smashed at this point. Oh, actually, no, at this point where we were only served beer, and guys, even though I've always been a really big, huge drinker, not anymore, but I was like, I don't even know, guys. Let's say like 20 years, 20 years of my life, such a big drinker. I have never drank beer. I have I wasn't the kind of person to order a beer. If there was a beer and just something else there, I would always take the something else. I was never a beer drinker, and we were in a club and they only served beer. And I was like, okay, I didn't drink, I was just, I can't even remember, maybe it was on water or something. I wasn't drinking because it's just not something that I enjoyed. Everybody else was absolutely smashing it and getting it down. Um fair play, ladies, let's go. And everybody was absolutely smashed. I and another woman who was kind of the same as me, didn't wasn't really a big beer drinker. We were on the level, we'd had a few drinks, but we were on the level. My other friend, keep up, guys, might be confusing. I don't want to talk about names here, but you'll get the gist of it anyway. My other friend who was starting to be critical to me, she just disappeared. She literally just disappeared on a night out abroad while we're all like having a good time, having party atmosphere. There's you know so many people in the streets, such a hot, warm night. I'm literally in the smallest, cutest clothes, I look good, I feel good, I feel amazing, and then she just dips off, and then she's on the group chat going, I'm lost, or I'm over here, where have all you guys gone? When we know full well, she just you know, she's either the lost a head, or I know that these are all reflections as well. Everything in life is a reflection, but at that time, this is what I perceived. She just lost a head, she just literally just left, or she was probably like just trying to chat to a guy because that's the kind of person that she was back then, and she just gone. Okay, guys, she just gone. I took it upon myself to go and find her, so I was like, send me your location, where do you feel that you are? Like, look around, give me a description, and I was like, right, girls, you know, I took control. I was like, right, girls, you stay here, I'm gonna go and get her, and then we'll come back. Me being me thinking that I'm the savior and feeling good, I look good, I feel good. It is so hot outside, and everybody's like got this party party atmosphere, everybody's loving life, and I was like a size six back then. Oh man, I look good. I was like in this like party Ibiza-esque little shorts and bikini set. We weren't in Ibiza, but one of those Spanish islands, and yeah, we just we were a girl gang, we were a girl gang, you know. We were like winning together, getting smashed for a friend who and I went boat and find her. And I'm like, what is wrong with you? I've got such a positive atmosphere, such a positive head on my shoulder. I'm like, come on, let's go, you know, and she just completely turns on me. Her face is just completely different, she just screams and shouts, going, Oh Emily, I don't even remember what she was what the argument was about, because there was nothing that I had actually done. Keep that in mind, there was nothing that I had actually done wrong, but she just turned on me and she was screaming and shouting in my face, calling me a bitch, like literally just unloading and projecting all this like really extreme, vile, verbal abuse, screaming and shouting in my face. Her face was so red and scrunched and so angry, so much anger being projected on me. I did not know what to do. I kind of shut down and was like, right, well, go and to the other girls. I got her to the other girls, and it happened again. And everybody else was like, What is going on? And I was the kind of person, and I still have this in me now, my natural go-to flight with flight response. Well, words, Emily, is uh very much freeze or fawn, so I would just could be completely silent and just take it all and just be so like, what is going on? Very confused. I had literally done nothing wrong. In fact, I had done everything right, I had saved her from being abducted, or like saved her from being fucking raped or something. Literally, she's smashed out of her face. She is not knowing what the hell is going on. Now, back then, we just kind of said, Oh, maybe she's obviously just had too much to drink. She then burst out crying and ran back to the apartment, it's too much. But I was like, But I've done nothing wrong, like what the hell is going on? And this type of pattern started creeping up and happened more and more and more and more until guess what happened? I snipped that person out of my life as well. I was like, I can't have this, and I did exactly what the therapeutic world tells you to do. I sat down, I had a conversation, I can confronted her about it. That's not what we should do, guys, because that person is only reflecting my own energy, and a confrontation, even if you do have resolution conflict, it's not how the world teaches us. The world does not teach us high-frequency communication skills or conflict resolution skills, and the things that are out there at this moment in time only hinder things because we are focusing and projecting too much on the person without looking at our own energy. Because at that time in my life, guys, I would do this to myself in my own head, I would try and suppress all my anger down, and I would want to be the most positive, perfect person. So when I perceived myself not perfect, when I had done the slightest thing wrong, where actually like I was just Doing and being the best that I could. So, for example, let's take that task situation again because work was such a big drive in my life, and it still is. If I did one tiny thing wrong at work, like literally, this could be the smallest, smallest thing. I'll give you two different examples. So, one example was I had this huge presentation at work, public speaking to children that I had never done this before. It was in a secondary school, and it was like a theatre kind of style situation where there was loads of different year groups. There were like hundreds of people in this hall, and I was like this, I've never done anything like this before, but I had been asked to do it in a networking event, and I was that type of person to be like, okay, I am gonna put myself out there, I'm gonna try something new, I'm gonna do this thing to help other people. So I put together a presentation for how like you can get into design as being like um a student, how you can do volunteer work, put yourself out there, all these kind of platforms, and I put my all into this presentation with the intention to change someone's life, and it was the most beautiful presentation ever. I had put so much thought behind it, I had did it all in like illustrate and in design, which, if you guys don't know, they are design industry standard programs. I had literally put about a week's worth of work in here, and I had practiced and practiced and practiced. I had no idea how many students were going to listen to me do it. And when all these people piled into this big lecture hall, and when I was given this kind of clicker and turned round, and the screen was like a fucking IMAX cinema, it was like absolutely huge, and I was like, Okay, get it get it together, Emily, get it together. But I smashed it, I smashed it, I did absolutely amazing. I did my best, I was actually really enjoying it, and I was putting out all my tools for free, you know. I in my head I wanted to really change a student's life out there, and I did all of this, and I got like an amazing applause afterwards, and all the teachers were so pleased, and it was great. But guys, there's a but I slipped and stuttered on one word, on one word that I'm pretty sure no one in the world even realized about it, and that was the thing that I had in my head even six months down the line. I'm not even joking. Like I had that memory of me slipping up on one word, and I would beat myself up constantly about it. I would literally just go back my day and have a beautiful day, and then be like, you're so stupid for messing up on that word, and I did not consciously know that I was doing this in my own head, but this was a pattern of my internal world. I would beat myself up all the time and criticize myself about the smallest, smallest things, so it didn't matter if I was being the most amazing best version of myself. I couldn't see that, I could only see the one small negative, and that is what was being picked up on with other people outside of me, and it was being reflected back. So when I snip, snip, snip this friend out of my life. Guess what happened? I felt amazing for a while, and it always does. When these kind of things happen, you feel free, you feel lighter, you set boundaries. I've been there so many times to cut these people out, and then the pattern happened, and again it repeated because I didn't look internally, because I didn't resolve the pattern that was in my energy, that was in my own head. And maybe we don't really realize that it is repeating because it moves into a different area of life, usually the area of life that you value the most because the universe knows that that is where you are going to pay attention. So, whatever you are really wanting and focusing on at this moment in time, we have eight different areas of life. We've got spiritual, mental, physical, we've got career, like vocation, we've got financial, we've got social, we've got relationships and family that comes under one. If you're dating, dating comes under social, if you're married, it comes under family, and then we've also got passion area hobby of life. So we've got all these different types of areas of our life that we need to be aware of and we need to be in balance. I had no idea, and guys, there is no shame, it is not my fault, and it's not your fault that we are not taught this. We don't live in a high-frequency world, we are not taught these high-frequency tools and information of how to take control of our own lives and how to actually create the reality that we want to create. So I don't want anyone to put shame or guilt on themselves because that's how I was before. I was, I can't believe I didn't realize this. You know, I can't believe that I have been paying for courses and paying for therapy sessions where they were giving me misinformation. It's not that's how I perceived it at that time. I needed to get all of these milestones, and you are given the right information that you need in your perfect time. So if you're listening to this right now, it is the perfect time for you to open your mind to this information. So just to go back to the memory and talk about okay, so I snipped this woman out of my life, but it moved into my business area of life, and I was just back then, I had no idea, I just thought that the world was fucking shit. And this is where we get belief systems from. Yeah, I had real trust issues with relationships, I had real trust issues with friends, and then after this business dynamic, I had real trust issues with people in general because I just thought that everybody was like against me, everybody was super critical of me. I had no idea that they were reflecting my own energy for my highest good. If that had not happened to me, I would have not been able to observe it and to resolve it and to shift my own energy. So I am glad that all of that happened, but I've had to do a lot of work on myself to get emotionally neutral to realize that all of this happened for a bigger purpose, so I can up-level my whole life. So to go back, it then moved into my business area of life where I had a business partner, and I have talked about this in previous episodes as well. And just to get like another example of how this happened, this was a weird business dynamic from the very start, which I have spoken about previously. But just to go back to mean focus about me, there was one project particularly where oh my life, I absolutely smashed it. I found the client, they wanted me to do this project for context. I set up a design marketing agency, and people would come to me for design projects before Chat GPT, and oh my life, I just literally did the whole business strategy. I absolutely smashed this design project. I did the logo design, the whole branding design, the concept, the underlying strategies for social and marketing, and this was going to be a million-pound business. This was absolutely huge. I had done this presentation in such a short amount of time, and I had really enjoyed it, and there was like little bits of illustration in there, however, it was still quite clean and minimalistic and timeless. It was really suitable for the niche, it was amazing for a startup business. They literally like they just knew that they wanted me to do this for them because I went over and I pitched the work for them. I went and did all the meetings, I showed them my portfolio, I spoke a little bit about how I would go about this project and in what style direction I would take it. I did all of that, I literally did all of that, and it was going to be about two grand for around two days' work, depending on your perception of money. I thought that that was a great deal, so we went and did it. We, I mean, me, and this was really a reflection about how I did not put myself first at all because I just did absolutely everything, and I split all the money with this woman that did fuck all. But let's not focus about the other person because this is what the therapy world does. I have been there, you know. I have been in sessions where people sit me down and they're like, Okay, talk about this other person, it's all about the other person. But what about you? What about where are you doing this to yourself or to somebody else? This is where high frequency understanding comes in. And this is the information that will change your life. Literally, this information has changed my life. The client also wanted to pay in cash. Uh, yes, please. Holy moly, two grand cash. Fucking amazing. And the business partner checked in with me, and I sent her all my work, and she was like, Man, that looks like really, really good. And I was like, Yes. And I was really astounded that she'd give me a compliment because she didn't normally do that. She would always give either like a compliment after criticism or criticism after a compliment. There was always something to be critical about, again, reflection of my own energy about how I was always critical to myself, and oh my life, this is just hilarious, thinking back because then she was like, Oh, she picked up on like, didn't you tell them that you would give them two logo designs? And I was like, Well, yes, I did, but I don't want to develop another logo design and idea that I have done because I know that this one is perfect for them. But she picked up on you know, the tiny, tiny, small thing, the small thing that I had overlooked because that is how I was in myself. So she took it upon herself. She was like, Okay, again, this is my perception, making me feel so bad, going right. I am going to take this on. I'm gonna quickly, even though I'm not meant to, because I'm working at this other place, I'm gonna quickly do another logo design because you've overpromised and you have told them that you were gonna give two logo designs, and she did this logo design, sent it over. I was like, okay, send them this as well. Her logo design obviously was not chosen, my was. There was no reason for her to do that, but at that time I was like, Oh, maybe you know, she wants to try and get involved, maybe she wants to, because I would always split the money with her, which in my my mindset back then, wow, I have come a long way. But I always and your ego will always try and justify what is going on to make you feel safe and to always put it on like other people. Your ego will never try to and ask where you are doing this to yourself, it's not how our brains have been programmed, anyway. Absolutely smashed it, went and got this two grand. I'd had another big meeting with them, I'd got loads more work from them. I you know, I'd driven over to them, which was about 40 minutes to an hour away from where I was, so that had taken up so much of my day. The next day I had got this two grand cash, and I was just overjoyed. I was like, Wow, you know, this project's gone so well. My logo design was chosen, we've got the money, I've pitched it, everything's happen, everything's good, everyone's happy. And my business partner was like, Okay, leave a grand for me in the fridge. Very funny, isn't it? But because she didn't actually like work where I was working, even though we shared a business, she works somewhere else. I left this grand in the fridge for her to come and pick up. I had been there since about half seven in the morning in the office, and I was just absolutely shattered, and also just so happy that I had got a grand cash for myself. You know, my ego was not letting me look at why I was giving another person a grand for doing about half an hour's work, but that can be a whole other kind of mindset work and episode. However, we'll just focus on what I want to communicate right now. And this person was like, my business partner was like, okay, I'm gonna come over after work. She finished at four o'clock, I'll pop over and I will come in and get the cash. And I'm like, okay, great. I it's getting towards the end of the day, it's about quarter to five. She hadn't turned up yet, and I am tired. I had been there since half seven. I had always put my all into work. I a lot of the time, I would say 90% of the time, never even had a lunch break. I would just work like an absolute machine robot to the bone where I just used to burnt out a lot and take my weekends as recovery. I just used to sleep all weekend, then go back to it on a Monday. Please, guys, don't do that. Do not do that. And anyway, I was like, right, I'm just going to, you know, I'm gonna call it a day, I'm gonna go home because I've deserved it and earned it. However, I was very feeling so guilty for leaving 10 minutes early, even though I had literally got there at the office at half seven. I had made two grand cash in two days on top of everything else that I was making. Like this was only two days' work, and it's absolutely mad that my brain would make myself feel guilty about leaving work five, ten minutes early. But this is the mindset, this is how I was being so critical to myself. So I left work. The office that I had was about seven minutes, guys. It was seven minutes' drive to my house. I absolutely loved it. Got back home, and then about five to five, I got a message from my business partner saying, 'I'm at the office. Why did you leave home early?' and I was just like, I'm gone. What the actual hell? I've just given you a grand. Like, she had come to pick up the grand from the mini fridge, and out of everything, it was she did not say thank you for the a thousand pounds that she had done nothing for, about half an hour's work for. She had not even said thank you for all your work. She didn't even ask me what time I had been there in the office from. She didn't say any kind of compliment, it was just a very short, sharp message. Why did you leave the office like five, ten minutes early? And I was absolutely fuming. I was like, How dare she? I'd done this, I'd done that, and this was the catalyst to me, snip, snip, snipping that person out of my life, and it was such a big thing for me because we had a business agreement. I actually, at that point in time, was a director on the business. There was just so many things going on in my mind. I did not realize that she was reflecting my own internal thoughts, and had I realized that, I would have perceived everything in my life differently, and also I would have felt empowerment and realized, huh, if I am creating this, I can change this, which is exactly what you can do. So cutting people out of your life, even though I do think that those memes out there, the snip snip snip memes, is hilarious. It's not the answer, it is about looking internally about how you are doing or being that to yourself, and it could be in different areas of your life, it could be in different ways. The way that I have been able to do this is intuitively because a lot of the time these patterns and these subconscious thoughts are exactly that, they are in our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind is something that we are not aware of, we are not tapped into, and it is running 95% of our lives, so it is running 95% of our actions, our thoughts, our ideas. We are not aware of 95% of what is actually going on internally. So I had no idea that this was all going on until I started to do subconscious work, until I started to look inside my subconscious brain and be like, actually, I was like that to myself. I want this to come across as a huge revelation, and again, I'm putting this out there for you guys. I'm putting all my shit and my struggles out there to give aha moments and to feel empowerment. Like right now in my life, I have shifted this only because I have resolved the pattern, I have resolved it within me, and now I have the most amazing supportive partner because I am supportive and amazing to myself. I have the most amazing and supportive friends who love my gifts. And guys, if you're out there, I know that you're listening. Liv and Becky bloody love you two. I have got that friendship group because I am now an energetic match to that friendship group because I have changed the energy inside. I am supportive to myself, so I have supportive friends. I have stopped being the inner critic. I have stopped being critical to myself, so I don't see it on the outside anymore. I have just manifested the most amazing job where there is no micromanaging, she just lets me get on with it, she fully trusts me because I fully trust myself, and everything that I am doing, she is so appreciative of. She absolutely loves it. There is no criticism because I have stopped the criticism within me. I now have completely different dynamics on my family area, my relationship area, my friendship area. And my vocation career area because I have stopped the repeating pattern within me. I want this to come across as so empowering. And also, there is no pressure to get this concept straight away. It has taken me a really long time. Our brains have been programmed with something different. Our brains have been programmed to really focus on the external world and to focus on other people. And why is that other person doing that to me? Like, why is that person being a bitch to me? Why is he just like shouting in my face? We have been programmed, and it is going to take a while to stop autopiloting to why this person is being a certain way to me. It takes a while to really integrate and to digest all of this information and for your brain to understand it. Like, guys, literally, I think it's taken me like a year to really understand this, and still now, still now, when I have a reflection, by the way, everything in our lives is a reflection of our own energy. But if I have a trigger that happens to me, sometimes I still do autopilot too, like, oh, she's being a bitch, or he's being a twat, and then it does take me a while. Well, it depends, it could take me five minutes, it could take me a day, it could be immediate. It depends on how emotional I am at that time. But now I have a different neural pathway to be like, okay, this is a trigger, this is a reflection of my own energy. How am I being this towards myself? So, just for today, I want you to go back into your memories and just think what is the repeating pattern in my life? Has it moved into different areas of my life or has it just stayed in the same area? We all have this, we all have life lessons, we all have obstacles and struggles that we need to overcome. And learning this universal law, the law of reflections, will help you overcome it quicker, faster, and with like less resistance to life. Like, I actually love reflections now. I'm like, okay, we got another one. Where have I just done that to myself? Man, it took me a while. It bloody took me a minute. But I want this to come across as so empowering. We create our own reality, we can change things, you can live a fucking peaceful life-ish. Reflections will always happen because we are souls that always want to grow, and we can only grow when obstacles happen. So we can only grow by moving through struggles in our life. So they will happen. Reflections and triggers will always happen, but it's how we move through them and how we understand them, and integrating this universal law in your life will decrease the obstacle. And in a few months' time, you could literally be just walking around and having a completely different life experience because you have shifted your own energy and overcome the reflection, overcome the repeating obstacle that keeps popping in your life. So, just for the minute, just for the time being, I don't want to put too much pressure on our brains, just have a think and have a look. What has been and what keeps popping up in my life? How are people being towards me? Is there kind of a pattern here? Can I link something up? Is it something that keeps happening? And if it is, how could I just open your mind up to the possibility that you might be doing this either to somebody else or to yourself in your own head? If you have really enjoyed this episode, please feel free to send it to someone who you might think might value it and might need to hear it at this moment in time. Please feel free to rate, review, and subscribe. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for your valuable time and energy. And I will see you all in the next one.