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048: Negotiating Limits: When to Hold the Line and When to Let Go

Matt Lo & Anne Gillaspie

In this episode, Matt and Anne dive deep into the often misunderstood dynamic of setting boundaries. While Anne advocates for boundaries as a critical tool for self-worth and ensuring others feel seen, Matt challenges the traditional view with a goal-oriented approach where unwavering directness is often just efficiency in disguise. From Matt’s six-week table tennis training blocks to Anne’s decision to break her own rules for a breakthrough client session, they explore the constant negotiation between time, energy, and the sacrifices required to truly hit your targets.

🚨 Stuff You’ll Want to Remember:

  • "If you don't hold solid boundaries at home, you won't at work and vice versa." — Anne 
  • "It's not just for my own interest, but it's for everyone else's interest... I just want to cut through really fast." — Matt 
  • "The sacrifice defines the boundary." — Matt 
  • "Boundaries are never rigid... because they have to move like a lot." — Matt 
  • "You need to actually make the decision of what this boundary is giving you. And do you want it? Do you choose it?" — Anne 

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