She's back after falling off the wagon

I'm sorry that I went MIA for 4 weeks. But in this episode I explain why and why allowing yourself time off of a business activity is OK!

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She's back. I just want to do a public apology, a public service announcement, really, to say I have fallen off the podcast wagon and I am so sorry. I have done so much in my business, and sometimes things just get fallen at the wayside, and unfortunately, it's been the podcast, which has really bloody annoyed me because I absolutely love recording them. So huge apology that there has been about a four-week gap, but I'm back. I am batch recording. Actually, I'm not gonna batch record, and I always say that every time I'm like, oh, I'm gonna batch record, but actually I'm not going to because I love to record them weekly so that you can kind of like find out what's going in my world and I like things to be real time. Um but I'm back, and I just wanted to really say I'm so sorry that I have yeah, not been around for the last four weeks, but so much has been happening in my business, and I'm super duper duper excited to be sharing it with you. But anyway, today I actually just wanted to talk about and give you a little bit of validation about falling off the wagon. When we are in our business and we are doing all the things, and I mean podcasts, clients, events, networking, content, the lot. Like there are times when it just gets too much, and we push through because we're women, that's what we do. We don't stop, we keep pushing through, we keep pushing through all of the stuff we've got to do. And what I have found personally is that I have become quite disconnected from myself. So I don't know if you maybe would have seen, but I actually decided to take a break this week from work. I completely stepped away, and there's a few reasons for that. So I went to Disney with the girls last weekend, and it was just absolutely epic. And I didn't touch my laptop, I didn't even bring my laptop, I didn't look at my emails, didn't check my phone, and it was so nice to switch up and be present with them and just to be present with my husband as well, like just to talk to him again, like have a laugh together and and just be with the children and do all these fun things. And I think off of the back of that, I came back and I felt flatter than a pancake. I suddenly felt very withdrawn, very disconnected from the business, and like my motivation had completely dipped. Completely dipped. So I decided that I needed to take some time away. Now, the old version of me would have gone, but you can't. You've got to go out there and you've got to make some money, bitch. You've got to go out and get those clients, you've got to be in people's DMs, you've got to be absolutely everywhere. And I tell you what, you can't do that if you are feeling numb, like a zombie. And I was so proud of myself that I took that time away because I have woken up this morning and I feel like I am pretty much back. I think I'm fighting off like a hormonal thing. I think perimenopause is hitting me like a biatch. But it was also the um, yeah, I think I was just running on adrenaline for such a long time and my body got hit with dopamine for four days, and then it was like, what the fuck's going on? Um, but yeah, I'm so proud of me for actually taking that time away because uh the old version of me would have thought about how much she had to work because of the money that she had lost since she'd been away, the money that she was gonna lose if she wasn't working, the clients that could be available that she isn't taking advantage of trying to connect with or work with, and I just said no. And that is a huge what's the word that that shows how much money mindset work I have done on myself because I would have never done that in the past. I I physically would have pushed myself through, but knowing that feeling positive and trusting that I know that clients and money are gonna come to me, feeling fully rooted into knowing that my business is gonna work out how I want it to, having that self-trust in myself and having that self-trust in the process is what allowed me to take this guilt-free time off. I had a two-hour nap yesterday, guys. Like, I don't even know the last time I napped, but my body needed it. I really honored and listened to my body, and I want you to have a think about what's going on for you at the moment, like, where are you pushing yourself in your life that you know that you need to hold back, or maybe just put the brakes on for a little while, or maybe you need to just drop it. Sometimes there are parts of our business that we feel that we should be doing. So I'm gonna take this podcast as an example. You know, there were points where I loved doing the podcast, there were points where I didn't, and I think the reason it fell off the last few weeks is because I wasn't enjoying it, I was finding it more of a task, and I didn't put myself under any pressure to go back to it until today. I was like, Do you know what? I'm actually feeling the urge and the call to plug my microphone in and come and speak to you. And again, it's okay, you know, business is not perfect, we're not perfect, you know. Even the fucking dons of the entrepreneurial world, like they don't do things perfectly in their business, and if they do, that's because they're not running it on their own, like we are. They have other people doing it for them anyway. So you really need to give yourself that grace. If something isn't feeling right and is misaligned, and if you're not enjoying it and it feels like a slog, then I want you to just think about is this fitting in with me and is this fitting in with my business right now? And if it's not, then it is okay to stop. I'm giving you permission to put that on hold because the energy that you are going to be using that is uh that you use sorry, the energy that you are using to do that task, to do that thing, could be used elsewhere in something that you enjoy. You know, there's a lady that I've worked with, um, and she is fantastic, she's amazing. She's got six children, she homeschools two or three of them, she's got a hugely successful business, she has a premises, um, she hosts events, she's just wild. But one thing she says to me is she says, I don't organise my day, I don't have one of these planners where I highlight this in pink and that in green, and that I do this on that on that day and this on that day. She said, I wake up in the morning and I ask myself, What does my business need from me? What do I feel like doing? And I just do that. Sometimes she'll podcast, sometimes she'll create an offer, sometimes she will have a conversation with somebody, sometimes she will plan an event. But what I have seen from her is her success is huge because she just goes with her intuition, she goes with her gut. So that's something really for us to really take from. Is yes, obviously, having these depth times when we organise our day, but actually deciding what is working for us and what isn't is one thing, but also deciding how we want to show up in that day and what we want to do on that day, I think is something we can all really, all really use and something we should all maybe try. So I'm gonna give that a go. My VA's probably gonna be like, What are you doing? I need organization. You know, sometimes, especially if you are around the age of uh 40 or so and you are feeling a little bit on the perimenopausal side, like I think I am. Can't believe I'm gonna say that. I just makes me feel a bit old. We need to go without our bodies, and even working with our menstrual cycle as well. I think I've spoken about this in the past, is something that's highlighted to me now that I need to start doing. So there's that week before my period, and when I have my period where I'm just like everything is so difficult, so overwhelming. I mean yesterday I was like, I need to do food, I need to go food shopping, I need to order it online. I cannot tell you how stressed I felt just by thinking about going on and doing a Tesco shop. Honestly, I didn't do it because I was like, I just can't, I just cannot decide what washing powder to buy today, so I'm just gonna leave it. So now we have no food in the house. Um, but yeah, working your business around your cycle is something that I'm actually gonna do a whole episode on because I know about it and it's something that I don't practice, but I feel that now it I'm getting to this point in my life. My middle age, oh my god, can I just say I'm middle-aged Christ? I don't feel it, that's the problem. I feel like I can just go and party with the 20-year-olds, but probably couldn't. Um, but yeah, I need to kind of work around my cycle, so yeah, I would love to know if that's something that you do as well because I know people are doing a lot more of that. Um, but yes, so I just wanted to really just come here and just say, I'm back. I'm sorry I left you for so long, but sometimes we've just got to do what we've got to do, and you know what? I didn't just rest in the time that I was off, I've ramped up my nervous system work as well because part of this feeling came off the back of my launch, and my launch not going, I'm gonna be honest with you, the way that I want it to go. I didn't hit the income goal that I wanted to hit, and that's absolutely fine. But you know something that I did? I attached my self-worth to the result of that launch, and it's something that I teach women not to do, but I did it myself, and that's fine. You know, we sometimes we know these things, but we still do these things, and that's that's just how life is. But I know how to work through it, and I really did attach my self-worth to it more than I thought, and I think then going away for four days allowed me to stop, and that's when everything just hit me like a um a brick wall. So, yeah, I'm back, I'm here. I've got some amazing so um guests episodes lined up for you, some incredible women hearing their stories, talking about all different things, but also aligning with the same kind of topic about working through limited beliefs and coming out the other side. You know, we touched on that and I touched on that in all of my guest podcasts actually. Um, so there's more of these bits coming out, but just wanted to say, I'm sorry I left you. I'm here, I was overwhelmed, but you know what? It's okay, it is absolutely okay. One thing that I say to myself very often, and probably maybe on a daily basis, when it gets a little bit too much, or I feel that I am not where I want to be, or things are not turning out the way that I wanted that I want them to turn out, I remind myself, Kirsty, you have got twenty six years left of working. 26 years so it doesn't matter if you take four days out because you're having a bad time, you're stressed, you're having a wobble, your hormones are everywhere. It's okay if you miss four weeks of your podcast. Like nobody's fucking died. Do you know what I mean? I mean, I know you guys have missed me, I know it. But nobody's died, and we've really put so much bloody pressure on ourselves all the time to be like, I need to do this, I need to have this consistency, I need to, you know, I've said I'm gonna do this and I and I have to do it now, and I'm gonna add this other thing to my plate. We don't, we absolutely don't. So I want you to have a think about now, really, where you are putting too much on your plate, what is no longer aligning with you in your business anymore, that you're like, you know what? Actually, I wanna I wanna drop it, or not necessarily drop it, just stop, you know, put it on pause for a little while, see what happens. You might put it on pause, and then you think, you know, I really miss doing this, I'm gonna go back to it. But sometimes we need that break to to realise how much we miss something. So this is a little bit of a gobbledygoopity kind of um episode, but it was just more of like a reintroduction, really, back into it, um, and just to say that yeah, I've missed you guys so much. I'm so glad to be back here, and I cannot wait to start pumping out some absolutely amazing episodes. So, I will speak to you later. Bye.